M41
First Message
June 24 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
From a single guy - originality, stand out,,,, not that that takes much. From a couple - something in common From a single girl - "Hi" will do lol. Urrrm something interesting
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RHP User
12 years ago
shows depth, intelligence and class. Something that reveals a little about him and shows he 'gets' something about me, from my profile. Not too many words, a paragraph or two is enough. Long, rambling, verbose messages cause me to roll my eyes. Equally, "0425xxxxxx call me, let's f*ck" tends not to work ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'swinging4fun' From a single guy - originality, stand out,,,, not that that takes much. From a couple - something in common From a single girl - "Hi" will do lol. Urrrm something interestingSpot on. (I must learn to be more succinct!!) LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
Intelligence, literacy and a bit of spunk.If a guy uses text talk I'm so turned off. I find the use of LOL anywhere cringeworthy.No template messages.Make sure you've read the profile and are what she/they're looking for.Can't tell you how many times I've asked someone "Why have you messaged me?"They party hard and all night - smoke, are married, in another state and want casual sex with multiple partners.... Why have you messaged me?Maybe drop the Peeps in a message... Not cool.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like, thoughtful well constructed messages that show the person has read my profile and has an interest in me. I dislike,template messages,grunting on the page ,for example...wots happening..what are you doing...what are you into or most recently...so stroke me...or I will be in Brisbane next week,want to meet? It is the first message that captures the attention ,so it is the most importantx Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its hard to try and think what a lady whats to know.....some profiles send a message that the girls are looking for a quick sex fix..(which isnt a bad thing i spose:))....but to chat first and ask a few simple ??? does make it hell of a lot easier!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't want to sound rude or harsh here, and I understand where you are coming from when you are asking for originality, and intelligence in a message. But my point I want make here is that we feel pressured into paying money we don't have by those statements. And...I am not having a go at you, and I am trying to write this in the nicest possible way too. If I could message first I would as I put all my heart and soul into what I have to write when I am wanting to meet someone or when I am stating an opinion. But as a guest profile level we can't do that. We are limited to a small generic selection of flirts which are completely unoriginal and are what we are forced to rely on. In sending these flirts we hope that we would get a message back and then be able to start chatting and hopefully arrange to meet that said person.But when we send a flirt it gets looked at or is ignored as most girls would prefer a message instead. So all in all I feel that if you are disliking flirts or template messages which could be counting as flirts too, you are forcing us into a situation where we aren't able to get something from someone unless the message first.Finally, I will sum it up which is what the topic sentence says. And hope this makes sense, I am not having a go at anyone. It is just hard when flirts is all we have to rely on or the info in our profile to stand out and be original and get somewhere when we can't afford to pay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Apollo, even a profile written in text speak from someone over 40 just screams of either laziness or someone trying to be 'hip' - and failing bad! For me, the first message depends on why I am sending it. It might be a compliment to a particular forum post I have seen, it might be to say thank you to someone who was polite in the chat room. It might even be, back in the days when I thought I had a chance of meeting someone from here, a nice, polite, introductory message telling her something about myself and commenting on her profile (just to prove I actually read it and didn't look at the pretty pictures). The few I have received, well some didn't deserve a reply although they got one, some were informative, and even one or two intrigued me enough to form a friendship,
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RHP User
12 years ago
keyboards never do thoughts and expression justice,written words never portray the intention enough and 2 paragraphs is never long enough.Honest and inquisitive,thats what i like and thats what i try to be,trying to worry about much else and cover 2 many angles initially will more than likely spoil it in my humble opinion.
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RHP User
12 years ago
great advice.. very helpful
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh, and for God's sake don't call her "hun". You don't know her - don't presume to.Any guy that messages me with "hun" get's a no thanks - it shows disrespect.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just replied to a message with a long rambling, verbose, TMI response!!FUCK!! FUCK!! FUCK!!Damn you typing fingers, you are shit!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Words like "peeps" = big turn off, ditto for text type, bad, bad, bad.How about, read the profile "No single guys" means...... no single guys, so don't waste everyone's time.Fake profiles are spotted from a mile away - you know the ones, guys acting as women or couples - very dumb.Otherwise, be respectful. Even a simple "hello" will do.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
But we agree text speak is for phones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I totally agree with the text talk, we're not 12 year old's, surely everyone learned enough vocabulary in school to string a sentence together. It's not rocket science, it's just lazy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Even with correct punctuation and spelling. Go figure.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Articulated and Funny with a side serve of an open PG.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You should say hey babe how r u ? i need a fuck cum on ovr so i can fuck u stupid That is what you should send everytime
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' Even with correct punctuation and spelling. Go figure. They work perfectly when sent to me !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' You should say hey babe how r u ? i need a fuck cum on ovr so i can fuck u stupid That is what you should send everytime Oh yeah... that always gets me.. especially when they're interstate...
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is getting troubling... First the OP wants his profile written for him.Next he wants his messages written for him.Next he will be asking someone to bed his dates for him too!Dude - you've gotta start manning up and making some decisions for yourself!You're nearly 30! You should really know how to approach a woman by now - and you should be able to string enough words together to not insult her.Consider this some tough love...
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' This is getting troubling... First the OP wants his profile written for him.Next he wants his messages written for him.Next he will be asking someone to bed his dates for him too!Dude - you've gotta start manning up and making some decisions for yourself!You're nearly 30! You should really know how to approach a woman by now - and you should be able to string enough words together to not insult her.Consider this some tough love... Spanks my own ass for being silly lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' I agree with Apollo, even a profile written in text speak from someone over 40 just screams of either laziness or someone trying to be 'hip' - and failing bad! For me, the first message depends on why I am sending it. It might be a compliment to a particular forum post I have seen, it might be to say thank you to someone who was polite in the chat room. It might even be, back in the days when I thought I had a chance of meeting someone from here, a nice, polite, introductory message telling her something about myself and commenting on her profile (just to prove I actually read it and didn't look at the pretty pictures). The few I have received, well some didn't deserve a reply although they got one, some were informative, and even one or two intrigued me enough to form a friendship, Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' Oh, and for God's sake don't call her "hun". You don't know her - don't presume to.Any guy that messages me with "hun" get's a no thanks - it shows disrespect. Read the profile carefully and quote from it to show you have read it. Be respectful. But above all - have patience.
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Wanna fuck tonight" to which I couldn't resist replying in their dialect..."Na."I like polite, open about intentions/interest, funny, creative, imaginative, thoughtful, displays that they have read my profile.Cass xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'choppyme'Its hard to try and think what a lady whats to know.....some profiles send a message that the girls are looking for a quick sex fix..(which isnt a bad thing i spose:))....but to chat first and ask a few simple ??? does make it hell of a lot easier!!! Think that is error 1We don't want to know what people think we want to know. We want to know what THEY think. If you're sat at the keyboard with writers block, that's a good thing because it means your not as presumptuous as you're trying to be, just take the time to think what YOU want to say not what you think THEY want to hear. It will all come much easier. The recipient gets to see who you are and the 'relationship' starts on an honest footing. Why pretend?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'multiples_xxx' "Wanna fuck tonight" to which I couldn't resist replying in their dialect..."Na." (chukles)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'irish44you' Quoting 'multiples_xxx' "Wanna fuck tonight" to which I couldn't resist replying in their dialect..."Na." (chukles) Clearly something stuck in throat''Chuckles''
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Dont make reference to how they look in photos..... even if they are so damn sexy they make you want to do unspeakable things to them. They chose the pics.s... they already know!So true!! I have not thought about this until now but the guys we have met up with (and played with) have not mentioned our photos (at least not in their first couple of messages anyway). Hmmm, interesting....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im now part of the cool crew with a payed membership ....so there ...lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Dont make reference to how they look in photos..... even if they are so damn sexy they make you want to do unspeakable things to them. They chose the pics.s... they already know!Yep, exactly :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'northernsubscpl' Words like "peeps" = big turn off, ditto for text type, bad, bad, bad. Awww, man. I love saying 'peeps'! Maybe not for an introductory message, sure, but in a relaxed social environment, let loose! I am also prone to greet with the occasional "Wassup, home-slice?" Just trying to keep it real, yo.Of course, I appreciate that not everyone is a man-child with arrested development or an extra on The Wire, but hey, we can't all be winners.Text-speak or lack of paragraphing is an automatic scroll-down. But ebonics? We're tight, holmes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'imported' great advice.. very helpful So when you score from your first letter, would you like to invite us all to the bedroom and show you how to pleasure her.You can take notes while she squeals with delight.
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RHP User
12 years ago
:D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Be civilized is the key, I think. Message them as you would if this is facebook.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mischeviouslad - Have you been peeking at my inbox (double entendre much?)? I swear to fucking god that's what it looks like.0zboy - DTF gets me everytime ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ordinarily, I'd agree with most people about the messages being original/based on profile/says something about the person/shows off sense of humour etc. However I remember that Mr Otori's first ever message to me (on another site) consisted of about two words: "You're smokin!" His profile was interesting which hooked me in. So I'd say it probably doesn't matter to us too much whether the message is long or short, just make sure your profile says more than "Cupple Looking 4 othas 4 hot times". I pretty much check every profile that messages us and if the profile is interesting, I'll pursue it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Home slice?...I am rather partial to a lovely vanilla slice Mr .Drift...and a cup of Irish breakfast for afternoon tea,....an antidote to the yo yo ebonic plague of messaging perchance?x Hugs Lady H
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Stuart89' I don't want to sound rude or harsh here, and I understand where you are coming from when you are asking for originality, and intelligence in a message. But my point I want make here is that we feel pressured into paying money we don't have by those statements. And...I am not having a go at you, and I am trying to write this in the nicest possible way too. If I could message first I would as I put all my heart and soul into what I have to write when I am wanting to meet someone or when I am stating an opinion. But as a guest profile level we can't do that. We are limited to a small generic selection of flirts which are completely unoriginal and are what we are forced to rely on. In sending these flirts we hope that we would get a message back and then be able to start chatting and hopefully arrange to meet that said person.But when we send a flirt it gets looked at or is ignored as most girls would prefer a message instead. So all in all I feel that if you are disliking flirts or template messages which could be counting as flirts too, you are forcing us into a situation where we aren't able to get something from someone unless the message first.Finally, I will sum it up which is what the topic sentence says. And hope this makes sense, I am not having a go at anyone. It is just hard when flirts is all we have to rely on or the info in our profile to stand out and be original and get somewhere when we can't afford to pay. Its hard to get your message across when you are only limited to the few flirts available and when you cant send new mail is always a pain. Sometimes it means losing complete interest from the person(s) you are interested in..generally happens most of the time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Vanilla slice... Gets my attention everytime....lolCheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can't respond to this post, the advice given just makes my blood boil with confusion to say the least.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'This is getting troubling... First the OP wants his profile written for him. Next he wants his messages written for him. Next he will be asking someone to bed his dates for him too! Dude - you've gotta start manning up and making some decisions for yourself! You're nearly 30! You should really know how to approach a woman by now - and you should be able to string enough words together to not insult her. Consider this some tough love...
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RogueGeek
12 years ago
Up to you what your priorities are and how other people view you as a result.Cheers,MS Quoting 'Stuart89' Sometimes it is a bit hard to be original, all that, and stand out when you can't afford to pay at this point in time.I don't want to sound rude or harsh here, and I understand where you are coming from when you are asking for originality, and intelligence in a message. But my point I want make here is that we feel pressured into paying money we don't have by those statements. And...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I thought of that as well, but in Younghungs case I was cutting him some slack.Who knows, he could be just a 1st year apprentice, andyour average 1st year doesn't even make survival dosh.In the case of your average Joe Blow, yeah I don't know what theyhope to achieve with a guest membership, other than dissapointment.Cheers Felonius
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Hawt1
12 years ago
I cant believe this is out. Sigh.For a message yeagh understood, makes no sense, unless your conversing with a group.I use it in forum because its shorter than "you lot".I hope LOL is still ok and XXX OOORight then.. talk later PeoplesMikle - mildly amused at what ticks people off.
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inspirit
12 years ago
hi lookig for a girl that would fuck me with a strap on wile im dressed up as a girl! will be willing to do anything for u in return! pleas help me! hope to hear back soon! xxoowould also love to be pissed on!Haven't respnded yet. Not sure of what size strap on to use
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'hi lookig for a girl that would fuck me with a strap on wile im dressed up as a girl! will be willing to do anything for u in return! pleas help me! hope to hear back soon! xxoowould also love to be pissed on!Haven't respnded yet. Not sure of what size strap on to use That is just disturbing.........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you wanting the opinions of men or women on here? Neither will know the answer. You need to write what YOU THINK you should write. Anything else is pointless. Taking some of the (obvious) advice from the females who have responded is probably a good idea. But it's not like every woman is the same. Plus it's far too easy (and common) to pander to what you think the women want just because they have an inbalance of power on this website. Don't make the mistake of thinking because she has a few nice photos and has boobs and a vagina that you will bond perfectly and the sex will be amazing. ie....you don't have as much to lose as you think !Essentially....relax, take everything with a grain of salt.Real the profile and decide if you have something in common. If you do I'd recommend to address it in the first post.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Back for more sultanas'? Cheers Nev
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RHP User
12 years ago
Takes all kinds, you be gentle now ;) God sake don't give him to Meeks or Krissy...lolCheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I see i got absolutely ripped to shreds on a couple of comments.Which I take on the chin.But I think its better to ask if you don't know than think you know everything. :-).
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RHP User
12 years ago
Written words do convey alot, sometimes more than a photo- I suppose it depends what gets you going ! Love your common sense attitude and intellect Mischevious Lad - VERY SEXY ! Fellas take note - more of that PLEEEASE !
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inspirit
12 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' Takes all kinds, you be gentle now ;) God sake don't give him to Meeks or Krissy...lolCheers Felonius l know you wanna lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G' Mrs Waterbabes has me cuffed to her bed and is giving me what I should be doing to Mr First Message Man And I'll let you go xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your messages are literate,sensible and interesting.You could give lessonsx Hugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
bahahahahaha....not if I get wound up they will be just acid :p
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Hawt1
12 years ago
Great to see you mate, your wit.. hahaha love your work.Forgive my ignorance, if its not literal then...Umm whats a sultana?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Might have to reply lol :) To each their own- I just had an issue with the I'll do anything in return... it sure got my mind ticking!Cass xxxQuoting 'inspirit' hi lookig for a girl that would fuck me with a strap on wile im dressed up as a girl! will be willing to do anything for u in return! pleas help me! hope to hear back soon! xxoowould also love to be pissed on!Haven't respnded yet. Not sure of what size strap on to use
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was in a TV commercial for Kellogs Sultana Bran. and it was so good they were always going back for more sultanas....lolMehh...you had to be there! lolGood to see you back bud....Hows everything going?Cheers Felonius
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Hawt1
12 years ago
Ahhh Hahahaa HA!!The way that reads with the title its like I was in the advertisement.. mmm.I wouldn't mind that.I'm well, gradually sorting out my life and getting uncomplicated.. actually have some savings.. shock!Definitely happier in my own company.Thinking about a sea change seriously, maybe somewhere with a population so I can have fun complicating my life again.HahahaI read your profile, seems your pretty busy lately.I love your idea of farm fun.:D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just got this one..... " iam pullin my cock over you right now an lookin at your pics love u" ...... Block and delete...... (example of what not to send ).....
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RHP User
12 years ago
DG, hope the guys really take your comments on board.
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