First Swingers Party

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  My partner and I are new to this scene and never been to a swingers party, my assumption was that if you attended we were expected to play, we enjoy MMF and not sure if this happens or is it purely male and female swapping partners, your input would be great as my assumptions are probably incorrect and I'm very nieve to this whole scene and cannot find anyone that will share experiences or advice with us. TIA :)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Have been invited to a couple, in most cases the timing is off but to be honest, I'm still enjoying the greedy fun that MFM's have to offer, dipping our toes in at a club next month for an event, which I've heard are the best times to attend. Have heard negatives and positives, as with everything, Grateful you shared your positive, it sounds like it was a lot of fun, hope it just keeps getting better and better for you Xo

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ever!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Good to read your experience was positive . I'm sure lots of couples and singles will benefit from what you had to say.. Dipping the toe for the first time seems a biggy for quite a lot of people' so feedback such as yours feeds the curiosity. It's a must do for me this year. Just need to find a lady wanting to share the same experience..

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi shyfirst_timer , I try to live by never Assuming, very hard sometimes in here lol, however every time I have guessed one thing I have been proven wrong , whether is was my preconceived idea from society or the wrong information handed down or my own mind making up wild imaginative scenes. First rule I found out. You DO NOT have to play , no means no , permission needs to be given and silence doesn't mean yes. There are all kinds of swingers , swingers who watch , play, etc. I'm no expert after one party but my eyes are partially open compared to what they were. I had a friend who I trusted completely , who had been on the scene before. He then found the group mye_Place which had recently started and advertised it was a good place for new people. Snd it was. I went to a couple of meet and greets social first , chatted to many people and tried to learn as much as I could before taking this step. Wish yiu were here I'd take you !!!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Why on earth would you think otherwise? Who would go to a swingers club if they had to play with anyone who asked? No means No?Well of course it does. Sorry, but that attitude just annoys the bejesus out of me. There has been lots and lot of threads on here about swingers events and what you can expect, and what you should wear., etc,. etc So I wont repeat anyone of it. have fun.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hi, thanks Sasha_007 it's only what I have heard, unfortunately I don't have any swinger friends to help guide us and not alot happens over here in SA so haven't found someone that hosts swingers parties. I met a couple on this site who swing and host at their home but they will only play as a couple with other couples and felt quite intimidated by them and the warning bells started to go off so decided to part ways, my partner and I only want to play with another man (MFM) and as I said wasn't sure if we could at a swingers event but by the looks of things maybe we could. I would love to go to a swingers event and hopefully get the chance to one day, pity we don't live in the same state or I would take you up on the offer I would love to have gone with you. Once again thanks for sharing, have fun playing :)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'm only new to this site Meeka100, you mentioned there's lots of threads on here about swingers events is that in the adult forums, I'm only just finding my way around the site so don't know it too well but your advice would be grateful and I know no means no (of course it does), I had a friend who was a swinger in Tassie and when they went to these events they were expected to play that's why I asked the question because if that was the case here and I attended one I would just leave the event

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I've never been to one. Not because I don't want to, but because my previous partners didn't, & now that I'm a 'Single Male' & thus free of such restrictions, it seems that I'm ineligible to go to one. The concept has always appealed to me, simply because it seems like a far more effective & efficient way to meet people with similar interests, free of judgements etc. & in a safe, secure environment. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  From your comments ? Meeka100? I'll take it you just waltzed in read everything , followed all the threads , took it all on board as gosple , trusted it was all above board and jumped straight in then.. Awesome I'm happy for you. Sorry but that attitude annoys me , when people forget what it's like to be a new person coming in. We are all different and all need different kinds of reassurances.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Yes I jumped straight in, I didn't read up On it, but I am not a timid person. As for thinking that if you go somewhere you will have to do something you don't want to do... As in play with people when you don't want to.... That thought never even entered my head and I can not understand why anyone would even think it. Why would you ever do something you are not comfortable doing in any part of your life?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'ShyFirst_Timers' I'm only new to this site Meeka100, you mentioned there's lots of threads on here about swingers events is that in the adult forums, I'm only just finding my way around the site so don't know it too well but your advice would be grateful and I know no means no (of course it does), I had a friend who was a swinger in Tassie and when they went to these events they were expected to play that's why I asked the question because if that was the case here and I attended one I would just leave the event I have never heard of a party, event or swingers club were you are expected to play. I am sure not many people would go to it. Seems there are no events or swingers clubs in Sth Australia from what I have read so you will have to rely on private parties. People will have different rules and expectations so best to ring them up first and ask what the party rules are. Some parties will have only couples and others will also have single people in attendance. Lots of parties do not allow single men - so best to ask. Not all parties are straight couples swapping... there are loads and loads of variations. Some like a bit of BDSM, spanking and something kinky which are options for people if they want, some will have crossdressers, some will have lots of bi-sexual play and some will be very straight with straight swaps. Some organisers will try and encourage people to play as they do not want people just chatting all night, so they may have a rule that at a certain time everyone has to dress down into sexy lingerie/underwear. I go to a party, it is hardcore though, were everyone is expected to get nude at the start of the party - and 99% ofpeople do - apart from the male crossdresers. :P Again there is absolutely no expectation for you to play as some people are just voyeurs. You can find topics on swingers clubs and events in the Couples Section and the Newbie section of this adult forum. PS: All parties and clubs are different. Some will be awful and give you a yuck vibe and others will be great. The only way to know is to go yourself and see what it is like and if it is your thing. Don't be put off if you come across a few that are not to your taste as all parties are different.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Loved your last message Sasha_007 to be a newbie is extremely hard and it seems that people are so secretive about this whole scene and don't want to share any information and considering we're on a dating site I thought there would be heaps that would want to share but once again that's my assumption, I'm not asking for personal information just how things have gone for them, have things worked out for them, have they met some good people on this site, my partner and I have been mucked around a little bit which annoys the crap out of me and was wondering if others have the same issues. I'm also wondering what the expectations of the other guy who joins us, some of the guys I've met on here seem to want all their fantasies filled, it's not about having fun as a threesome it's all about them. So as you said as a newbie it's nice to have reassurances and it's annoying the hell out of me that people that have been doing this for a long time think that newbies should know it all then pisses them off because I ask basic questions, so once again thanks :)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'ShyFirst_Timers' I'm only new to this site Meeka100, you mentioned there's lots of threads on here about swingers events is that in the adult forums, I'm only just finding my way around the site so don't know it too well but your advice would be grateful and I know no means no (of course it does), I had a friend who was a swinger in Tassie and when they went to these events they were expected to play that's why I asked the question because if that was the case here and I attended one I would just leave the event I have never heard of a party, event or swingers club were you are expected to play. I am sure not many people would go to it. Seems there are no events or swingers clubs in Sth Australia from what I have read so you will have to rely on private parties. People will have different rules and expectations so best to ring them up first and ask what the party rules are. Some parties will have only couples and others will also have single people in attendance. Lots of parties do not allow single men - so best to ask. Not all parties are straight couples swapping... there are loads and loads of variations. Some like a bit of BDSM, spanking and something kinky which are options for people if they want, some will have crossdressers, some will have lots of bi-sexual play and some will be very straight with straight swaps. Some organisers will try and encourage people to play as they do not want people just chatting all night, so they may have a rule that at a certain time everyone has to dress down into sexy lingerie/underwear. I go to a party, it is hardcore though, were everyone is expected to get nude at the start of the party - and 99% ofpeople do - apart from the male crossdresers. :P Again there is absolutely no expectation for you to play as some people are just voyeurs. You can find topics on swingers clubs and events in the Couples Section and the Newbie section of this adult forum. PS: All parties and clubs are different. Some will be awful and give you a yuck vibe and others will be great. The only way to know is to go yourself and see what it is like and if it is your thing. Don't be put off if you come across a few that are not to your taste as all parties are different. Thank you Meeka100 I will have a look and read up on it and as you said there isn't much here in SA, I'm finding alot who contact me are from interstate and the swingers events are very secret here, not sure why but obviously there is a reason. Didn't realise that people had to dress down to their sexy lingerie either, thanks for that tip, I'm a very shy person and nervous as this is all new to me but having fun exploring so the more I know and the more I read the better educated I will be in regards to this scene. I'm starting to wonder why men think as sexy lingerie these days, I have some beautiful lingerie but not quite sure exactly what men want these days, I know what my partner loves but not other men so that's all new to me as well, maybe I will have a good look at the forums and see what's being said. Once again thanks for the info and for sharing :)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Mostly of the parties / clubs I have been to have had an open door policy. Which people are free to watch you play if they wish. Another question to ask Shy.

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  ReyandJean

  9 years ago

  As first timers we went to an open night first. Luckily being (nearly, in this case) naked is not one of our hang ups, but testosterone balance wasn't right for us. Hard to relax when gangs of men follow you about the place. Swore off venues where single guys are admitted. Went to a couples only evening planning to watch. Ended up naked in a room with 6 or 7 other couples all playing on mattresses on the floor. Just played with each other. Chatted to some other couples who made us comfortable without getting a subtext of "have sex with us" - it was all very sociable. Went home and discussed how we felt about the evening. Went back at the same party next month and swapped and enjoyed it immensely and haven't looked back. But we have met first time couples where one or the other partner got too uncomfortable in the swap and begged off. You won't know how you'll react to seeing your partner being ravaged until it happens. But if the idea of it turns you on then there's a good chance you'll like it.

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  JohnAnn2227

  9 years ago

  We started swinging with friends and loved it but our first time at a swingers party was bac in the 90s and was at Couples Clun when it was located on South Dowling Street. We were blown away with the whole experience and loved it! We chatted with couples who were all very friendly and went for a spa with two couples who invited us to join them. We girls began kissing and stroking each other and the we al swapped partners. We eventually went upstairs and joined a group room where we had full-swap sex amongst the group. I had my first MFM threesome without John being involved and I loved it. After that experience we were total converts to swinging and went there regularly. Some nights were great some nights we didn't swap with anyone. We went from having about 5 sexual partners each before swinging to about 30 for me and 20 for John after our first year of swinging. We just loved the variety of sex and partners swinging offered us.Good luck!

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