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First dates I'd love
April 14 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Guilty as charged.Coffee is my meet n greet.How inventive am I?That's a rhetorical question friends...no need for a reply.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
For a first date, coffee is enough for me..If I am stuck with someone after 15mins and I don't like...then I'm in bloody trouble. Awkward - not going to put myself in that situation. I need an escape door. Maybe a third or forth time yeah... all the above sounds all little romantic for me for a first date. Sorry OP, I don't do romance stuff on first dates. I've had dinners on first dates, but not really comfortable eating my food in a hurry if it's awkward. If I like them, dessert MAY be on the menu......another time. Foxy
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I don't do the typical meet, whether here or in the real world.... although, I'm not 'scared' to do the typical meet-for-a-drink.... unless I feel like a drink anyway. In more traditional dating type activities..... one of the best in my memory was that I told her to meet me outside a cafe beside Coles. We then went grocery shopping and at the check out I told her we should cook together. And we did.... mostly :)..... I keep things fun, unpredictable, interesting.... because that's how I live and who I am DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And Foxxy, I'm assuming the first date is after I've already chatted to someone a fair bit and I'm confident we click, even if it's just as friends. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
nope still can't do it. I chatted to someone for months and months, phone calls etc, met them, had dinner and was the worst situation. I lost friends over it. A huge lesson learnt! So I am sticking to coffee or a drink...that's it - sorry. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm happy to go for dinner and drinks and I try to pick somewhere that I haven't been to before, but I usually get a girlfriend to call me about half an hour after the agreed meet time, that way I can always say I need to leave. I also feel more secure if someone knows where I am. On one memorable date my friend called me and I said everything was fine and about 10 minutes later my dates friend showed up out of the blue. He stayed for one drink and left. Apparently this wasn't planned but my guess is that men get nervous too. I did arrange to meet someone at a nightclub once, but that was because I was already going.
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you really know that you click until you meet in person? I've had some bad first meets after copious messages and phone calls, where the person in person is nothing like their profile or pics, which kinda ruins any friendship that has built up leading up to the first meet.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
night club.....yeah I've done that with a group of girlfriends recently. However I FELT safe.. Come to think of it.... was an memorable night and the next day and the next day too! Foxy OP do you mean first dates as in ROMANTIC dates???
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with Foxy on this one. Second date, yes, but never a first one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
are not meet and greets to me. To me, a date is what happens after you have met and think that is someone I would like to get to know further. I don't want to do that with most people I have met and I don't want to invest a lot of time or money on someone I have no idea if I really click with until I meet them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I absolutely agree,that has happened to me a few times.....and once after months of phone contact,emails....now I think it best to meet locals and only after a short period of time....otherwise the assumptions that you make about the person can be totally wrong xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just thinking about a related scenario I.e. agree on a safe, low risk, non-awkward first meet, with no expectations and you click, and don't want to part company, maybe want to do something more romantic or maybe something playful. I think it's a good question to consider before a first meet. Can we roll onto lunch if the coffee goes well? or grab dinner if the drink goes well? Or go straight from lunch to dinner? Is there a private spot nearby for making out? somewhere to stay the night if it feels right? or even just a game of pool can be fun, yes, all that bending over, strip pool even, that's heaps of fun (at the right venue of course). I'd prefer to expect a dull coffee or drink first meet, then find a spark in some chemistry that in the moment turns the time into a creative, exciting and memorable date, that's the best, and can happen if you consider and plan for the possibilities but just take it as it comes. Like DG's cafe near Coles meet, which turns into let's cook dinner together if it feels right in person. I'd much rather approach a first meet this way than commit to something more elaborate knowing there is a risk that you turn up expecting something so wonderful after all the pics and messages and then one or both of you think 'nah, not feeling it, how and when can I get outta here?'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I've only had that happen once and my gut told me it was likely before I met him. I perhaps shouldn't have :) The willingness for a more adventurous first meet also automatically makes someone more interesting to me. One question though Tex ... surely after phone calls and messages their profile is a bit moot? You'd know a lot more about them after talking than you'd ever learn from their profile. In terms of pics, I tend to ask for and share ugly pics before agreeing to meet. I figure if you see the ugly pics and are still happy to meet, there's enough in it to make a new friend at least.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some of my actual RHP first meets, just as an example ... 1 - I flew interstate and we went on a four-day road-trip, staying at B&Bs, touring vineyards etc2 - We met at my house and went skinny dipping then wandered the beach at night3 - We spent nearly the whole day at the beach4 - I flew interstate and stayed the weekend at his house5 - We met at his house, had drinks and movies, and the next day he helped me paint my house6 - Drinks and dinner7 - A day at a local fair/music festival followed by dinner All of these few dates were wonderful in their own way, with truly great guys, who I'd chatted to for some time before we met. Some ended in sex. One in a relationship. Some just friends. I've had a few coffee meets too, but they're nowhere near as much fun or as memorable for me.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Seriously, I don't think I would make it passed 5 dates with someone, let alone 50. I'd don't think they would cope very well...just sayin!! I'd like to challenge any man to that! LOL Foxy
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erotictouch4u
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' First dates... are not meet and greets to me. To me, a date is what happens after you have met and think that is someone I would like to get to know further. I don't want to do that with most people I have met and I don't want to invest a lot of time or money on someone I have no idea if I really click with until I meet them. I prefer meet & greets at lunch.Easy to keep the time fixed incase things are not as good as I'd like and it is something I would be doing anyway.Besides, it makes it more interesting than eating on your own even if you are not attracted to them because it is always good to chat with a new person where you can learn something or open your mind to different viewpoints on current topics.ET xox
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree meeting over coffee and a drink is boring and I sometimes find that just as awkward to get out of. I like to meet in a nice place...usually by the water go for a walk and talk, its out in the open comfortable and you can stop and sit or take in the view as well. (if you dont like them the view is good and distracting) I had one such meet we had coffee and walked and talked and had drinks and walked some more and had dinner it was a very nice day/night. When I dont feel any connection or interest I make my goodbyes. I must admit though men are hopeless at suggesting anything...ANYTHING. Often they say about meeting up but never put forth any suggestions and I get a bit over my ideas.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Listed skydiving as a 1st date in my profile....no ones taken me up on it yet lol :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Free fall or static line? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a guy were to be travelling to a woman's locale to engage in dinner, here's a bit of a way to bling up the date. Before I go on though it's assumed that these two people have been talking for a while before agreeing to go on a date. I will acknowledge it does set the bar remarkably high, and may NOT be suitable for ALL first meets, but fuck it I'll push forward anyway - as I do!! ;) A way a guy could show an active interest is doing a little research into her area, and plan a somewhat of a treasure hunt type date. An SMS with a slightly cryptic twist, to give the lady a destination. Once arrived at the first checkpoint she finds a package and another clue to a second checkpoint. Inside the package is an item/s that she would need specific to the date. It could be an outfit, or something similar. This goes on until the last checkpoint which is the date itself. You could vary the romance level of each date, clue, etc. depending on the wow factor required. As I said it may not be suitable for a first meet, but fucking great idea in my mind. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Still to this day.... We had it all planned to go for a walk through botanical gardens, he fell sick, ended up in hospital. So rather than cancelling, I donned a red cape, packed a picnic basket and we had a great three hour picnic in his hospital room.... Got to show my love of food and quirky sense of humour, also got to see whether he appreciated it or not............. Show some of your likes through your first dates!!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Someone's been watching a little bit too much of "The Bachelor"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'RubenesqueRed' Listed skydiving as a 1st date in my profile....no ones taken me up on it yet lol :) Maybe because the version of skydiving in this country is... how do I NOT put this delicately... a little bit gay? Who would want to go on a date with a girl and instead spend it being strapped ass-to-crotch to some dude? I'd love to jump off a plane together on the first date, there are very few situations where you get to see the real person's character like you do when skydiving. But with the instructor laying on my back? Nope... I'd rather go bird watching, thanks. How about this for the first date: both pack a day bag, meet at the domestic airport, roll a dice to pick the destination and fly there for the weekend? I'd be up for that sort of thing )
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are heaps of female instructors....my ex housemate is one....she has been jumping since she was fourteen....and as for the homophobic comment...you are a dill ....xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Man get nervous as well ! Throw in a single father into the dating arena and watch him suffer :(( There is a strong degree of expectations on the first date/meet not sex either ? More a degree of how normal is this person can they be considered trustworthy (yes I'm a Parent) but at the end of the day we can only try n try to see through those nerves... I missed out on meeting a hot sexy mumma last year because nerves n silly pride kicked in and now I feel she has lost interest :(( anyway I'll keep cracking away at it but I ain't changing my self just to get laid :))
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RHP User
11 years ago
not willing to have gay sex = homophobic "because we can!" (c)
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' If a guy were to be travelling to a woman's locale to engage in dinner, here's a bit of a way to bling up the date. Before I go on though it's assumed that these two people have been talking for a while before agreeing to go on a date. I will acknowledge it does set the bar remarkably high, and may NOT be suitable for ALL first meets, but fuck it I'll push forward anyway - as I do!! ;) A way a guy could show an active interest is doing a little research into her area, and plan a somewhat of a treasure hunt type date. An SMS with a slightly cryptic twist, to give the lady a destination. Once arrived at the first checkpoint she finds a package and another clue to a second checkpoint. Inside the package is an item/s that she would need specific to the date. It could be an outfit, or something similar. This goes on until the last checkpoint which is the date itself. You could vary the romance level of each date, clue, etc. depending on the wow factor required. As I said it may not be suitable for a first meet, but fucking great idea in my mind. :) - Posted from rhpmobile or... a great fucking idea in my mind... first or any date
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its always a coffee or a drink when its a man from here. But when I'm looking to be romantically involved it's always an activity date, I hate the awkward staring. I've done quirky galleries, soccer games, museums, park walks etc. A good date is when the sun starts going down and you don't notice because your having so much fun, and it leads to dinner and a very late night. I had one date here go from drink to dinner and another lunch and a beach walk and both of those were unexpectedly lovely, buy the men were high quality. - Posted from rhpmobile
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