M43
First impressions
October 25 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
be yourself,because you can't really be anyone else.Relax and enjoyx R
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RHP User
12 years ago
Shave, shower, dress clean and tidy and for the occassion ------ not like the guy who turned up dirty in work clothes and in bad need of a haricut.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For first meets, I would suggest somewhere public like a bar, pub, cafe which is comfortable and where you can find a nice corner, booth or nook to chat without being overheard too easily. If it's your pick, choose somewhere where you will be relaxed. Wear something that you feel good in because the more confident you feel, the greater your sex appeal. Definitely do not try to be something you are not. And most of all, enjoy it! I love those pre-date nerves - makes me feel alive!!Go get 'em XXX
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is this a trick question??
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RHP User
12 years ago
you shot me down with that word AFTER Presentable Damn it!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Would do the trick ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hardtruckin in pink lace panties....now I would pay to see thatx R
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RHP User
12 years ago
...but I have been told that you shouldn't put the condom on before arriving.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Brave__heart, you never said when I had to wear those. HT, no trick question. Like I said, just want to make a good impression. Mischievouslad, thanks for the compliment:) but I still feel like a giddy school boy when I meet very beautiful people...always feel like I'm punching above my weight. I had thought maybe a picnic? Waterbabes thanks for the ideas :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
DG was trying to say "just man up and do it". I think :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ah yes. Thanks brave, thanks dg
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you serious?? WE all do that! Just don't take rejection to heart mate, why settle for anything less then what you seek??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Above all, wear a smile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It honestly depends on what you're hoping to get out of the meets. Coffee seems common - check each other out, see if you want to head somewhere for some nudie fun :) But if you want to connect as friends, maybe explore something longer term, I'd suggest a meet with a bit more substance than coffee. A little bit of originality is always nice, but don't overplan or overdo, because you might find out quickly that you don't hit it off and you don't want to be stuck there for hours. Perhaps a picnic is better for a second date. What to wear - again, it depends on the occasion. Jeans are always great for something relaxed - a nice t-shirt for daytime, a nice shirt for evening. I always like to meet at the beach first. I like to wander along the water, chat, sit somewhere for a cool drink if the mood takes us. I probably really prefer the beach because I'm most comfortable in shorts and a tank top. I'm not sure what you mean by beautiful people. Beautiful inside or outside? Either way, be a beautiful person yourself and the rest will fall into place.All the best xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
ok, so i have thought about this a lot during the day, and I realised these few things...I'm nervous as hell, cause I'm putting myself out there, for the first time in a very long time....but more so, because I would like the people I meet to feel comfortable. As far as what I'm trying to get out of it? call me old fashioned but I'd rather meet a person or people a few times, and have a connection/friendship with them rather than a one night stand. I've done the one night thing a couple of times and it left me feeling...hollow? I had only met the person for a few hours, knew nothing about then, and jumped into the sack. regardless of how good the sex was, it felt a little trivial. I'd rather have a partner(s) that I can share some time with, have a laugh and play with. Guess thats why i'm asking the question.Oh and by beautiful, i mean genuine ppl. does any of that make sense? I just hope that any person I meet, likes me enough to want to see me again
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi AJN, I must admit your question surprised me a little. Your profile is intelligent and alluring, and you look totally hot (Having been priviliged enough to have seen your PG, may I say "Phoaaarrr!"). If you are meeting for lunch, dress how you normally do during the day. If at night, you really can't go wrong with jeans and a nice shirt. And for a beach date or picnic in the sun I think shorts and a t-shirt are completely acceptable. Maybe don't turn up in a Speedo though. Then again.... did I say you're totally hot? If this "beautiful" woman you're meeting is in her right mind, upon seeing you she'll think one thing and one thing only: "Your strap-on or mine?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Happened to my post?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just be yourself ..it's that simple. As waterbabes said, wear something your comfortable in so you can relax. Also, there's no need to over think the situation dude (there's that word again) and do your own head in, there shouldn't really be any pressure or expectation ...after all, it's only a meet. We meet people all the time don't we? ..it's not hard, it's only talking. People only add to the pressure because potentially, their thought is, there might be some fucking involved later down the track. Maybe get nervous about that ~grins~ As for the first meet ...just roll with it and enjoy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When you dress for a job interview as a computer salesman. Do you dress in a pair of stubby shorts, blue singlet?? Or do you wear attire that is giving the professional appearance of a knowledgable person?? Learn to own your own style, that's as individual as you. Now would you like me to have sex with your partners too?? :p. kidding about the having sex btw. Just in case your frontal lobe had taken a back seat :p again!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
The line up starts over there. *points somewhere random*...
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RHP User
12 years ago
but I've been amazed to hear about ladies turning up to dates with lads dressed in sweaty work gear, stained shirts, unkempt hair etc., as Beneath BlueEyes mentioned. Hobo chic really is a difficult look to pull off well, and... well, more likely you'll just be pulling off again. So personal grooming is a basic and obvious step. Try and smell nice. Yes, I have heard that some special gals actually do have a thing for Lynx Africa, but consider that more like a fetish in the same way some enjoy having electrodes hooked up to their nipples with a light current pulsing through. It's a thing, sure, but it's not really for everyone, and you really should ask/set a safe word before you subject them to it. On the first date instead wear a light spray of a nice cologne (don't overdo it) and save the electricity play/chemical showers for the follow-up.Go to a relaxed venue where you're not locked into anything (dinners - nah. Picnics? Only if it's peanuts coated in chocolate) and have an appropriate escape plan - "That was my phone - I'm a doctor/hostage negotiator/ice sculptor and I have to perform an emergency appendectomy/ransom exchange/swan carving" etc. Modify as necessary.What's often funny is that people act like they're walking in blind and get all nervous because they're meeting someone for the first time face to face, but of course they're not. If you've been chatting and emailing this person then you already have a connection and a history, so really, meeting them is just an extension of the conversation you've already been having. It's not like you're starting from scratch with a completely new person. It might help to think of it that way. Have some light conversation topics ready - I always like to canvas my dates for their solution to the Israel/Palestine conflict. Australia's on the UN Security Council now, so even if the date goes poorly there's a chance it could help spread world peace?Remember, you met on an 'adult dating site' where people list their preferences, genital sizes and fetishes. I mention this not to suggest you skip the greeting peck on the cheek and go straight to an introductory fisting, but because as much as meetings can feel like regular dates, there are some pretty significant differences. You actually already have highly intimate knowledge about them for one, and you're brought together by attitudes to sex that aren't necessarily shared (or at the very least acted on) by most people. This means you can kind of skip some of that coy nervousness and when it comes to it talk about sex openly like adults. Whenever I've met someone from here I've always found it fascinating learning why they joined RHP, what their experiences have been like, if it's met their expectations etc. And then the fisting.At the very least, don't just let the date fizzle out without some idea of where you stand/what happens next. Make plans for a follow-up if there's going to be one, or, you know, take her out to the back alley and fuck amongst the bin juice and cat piss (especially if she's told you she's into Lynx Africa.)I could tell you all my tips and tricks (zebra print suit, anyone?), but I don't want to give away all my trade secrets. I guess above all be true to yourself, space cadet; don't believe anything you read on the internet, and most importantly, make sure you come back here and tell us all the juicy details!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' you shot me down with that word AFTER Presentable Damn it!!! Ohh shaggy sexy beast, its just primal man there sugar. only a few can get away with it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart'DG was trying to say "just man up and do it". I think :) To man UP, including the girls I must get some balls from someplace? any volunteers
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RHP User
12 years ago
.... :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just seperated, found this RHP site, got chatting to a lady and we agreed to meet for coffee.. I dont think I had ever been so nervous in all my life - so I get where the OP is coming from... no idea what to wear, what the 'protocol' was or anything. Was Married for 15 years so felt like I was a teen again! The lady could see I was as nervous as anything and she thankfully took me under her wing - got me back in the saddle and off I went, lovely lady i owe a lot to her. Just love the meets now - even if its a rejection i usually get something oit of it, meet someone new, good coffee!! Think someone mentioned it already - be yourself, dont fear rejection and be confident. If they say no then she not the one for you :):)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for all the help people.Neptune, I'll remember to leave the lynx africa at home Absolute, I know exactly what you mean about feeling like a teenager. Miss M, thank you for the compliments, and making me blush I've never been called hot before. Think i've lost the nerves now, and am just super excited.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Waterbabes' For first meets, I would suggest somewhere public like a bar, pub, cafe which is comfortable and where you can find a nice corner, booth or nook to chat without being overheard too easily. If it's your pick, choose somewhere where you will be relaxed. Wear something that you feel good in because the more confident you feel, the greater your sex appeal. Definitely do not try to be something you are not. And most of all, enjoy it! I love those pre-date nerves - makes me feel alive!!Go get 'em XXXAgree with this entire post - Go get 'em tiger!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sweetthing :) I can't add to what has been already said because I agree with them. But I'd save the pink Panties as surprise roll play later he!he! .. Just remember the Women who are meant to cross your Path will at the right time for whatever reason.They too are meeting a virtual stranger for the 1st time and are as Nervous as you.If not then that will put you at your ease anyway so don't over think the Negative focus on the Positives You're sharing tine with someone you feel is very Interesting over a meal or coffee instead of doing that alone..She looks better than you do in Womens clothing. you get to know more about others.have a great time doing it..a win-win right there.. If she leans into you as she speaks ,looks into your eyes, smiles, chats, flicks her hair or head..and definitely if she slides her fingers up the mug or glass you're certainly in with a chance he!he! So Go Get em Tiger!! have an awesome time because you can..Enjoy Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift'but I've been amazed to hear about ladies turning up to dates with lads dressed in sweaty work gear, stained shirts, unkempt hair etc., as Beneath BlueEyes mentioned. Hobo chic really is a difficult look to pull off well, and... well, more likely you'll just be pulling off again. So personal grooming is a basic and obvious step. Try and smell nice. Yes, I have heard that some special gals actually do have a thing for Lynx Africa, but consider that more like a fetish in the same way some enjoy having electrodes hooked up to their nipples with a light current pulsing through. It's a thing, sure, but it's not really for everyone, and you really should ask/set a safe word before you subject them to it. On the first date instead wear a light spray of a nice cologne (don't overdo it) and save the electricity play/chemical showers for the follow-up. Go to a relaxed venue where you're not locked into anything (dinners - nah. Picnics? Only if it's peanuts coated in chocolate) and have an appropriate escape plan - "That was my phone - I'm a doctor/hostage negotiator/ice sculptor and I have to perform an emergency appendectomy/ransom exchange/swan carving" etc. Modify as necessary. What's often funny is that people act like they're walking in blind and get all nervous because they're meeting someone for the first time face to face, but of course they're not. If you've been chatting and emailing this person then you already have a connection and a history, so really, meeting them is just an extension of the conversation you've already been having. It's not like you're starting from scratch with a completely new person. It might help to think of it that way. Have some light conversation topics ready - I always like to canvas my dates for their solution to the Israel/Palestine conflict. Australia's on the UN Security Council now, so even if the date goes poorly there's a chance it could help spread world peace? Remember, you met on an 'adult dating site' where people list their preferences, genital sizes and fetishes. I mention this not to suggest you skip the greeting peck on the cheek and go straight to an introductory fisting, but because as much as meetings can feel like regular dates, there are some pretty significant differences. You actually already have highly intimate knowledge about them for one, and you're brought together by attitudes to sex that aren't necessarily shared (or at the very least acted on) by most people. This means you can kind of skip some of that coy nervousness and when it comes to it talk about sex openly like adults. Whenever I've met someone from here I've always found it fascinating learning why they joined RHP, what their experiences have been like, if it's met their expectations etc. And then the fisting. At the very least, don't just let the date fizzle out without some idea of where you stand/what happens next. Make plans for a follow-up if there's going to be one, or, you know, take her out to the back alley and fuck amongst the bin juice and cat piss (especially if she's told you she's into Lynx Africa.) I could tell you all my tips and tricks (zebra print suit, anyone?), but I don't want to give away all my trade secrets. I guess above all be true to yourself, space cadet; don't believe anything you read on the internet, and most importantly, make sure you come back here and tell us all the juicy details! Oh Neptune, you never fail to give us forum peeps a good laugh! I especially laughed out loud (a lot) to the fisting paragraph. Nice reference to Lynx... anyone over the age of 15 should not wear it. Ever. I'm still giggling from this entire post! Hehe, OP take note. Neptune is very experienced and his post has some very valid points you should consider!
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RHP User
12 years ago
So, will you be wearing that lime green onesie or not?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with the massive nerves as you start out. I was in a relationship/married for nearly 11 years, have only recently got to the point where I feel ok "dating" again, I use the term dating loosely because we met in high school so it wasn't exactly dating. Anyway, I think the most important thing for the op, and other newbies(myself included) is to be yourself, no one will fall for or want to shag a fake. Just think of your expectations and flip them over to what might be expected of you
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' So, will you be wearing that lime green onesie or not? Lime green onesie, leopard print suit, pirate hat, wizard's robe - don't worry, I have all sorts of gimmicks I wear on dates to help distract from my total lack of personality. Wait until you see my collection of hilariously sexist and demeaning t-shirts!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' I'm still giggling from this entire post! Hehe, OP take note. Neptune is very experienced and his post has some very valid points you should consider!*sigh* - unfortunately I haven't quite mastered the 'hi... let's fuck' introduction yet. Okay, maybe once, but I'm still not entirely sure how that happened!
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RHP User
12 years ago
So I wanted to say thank you to everyone that posted on this thread. I got to meet a fantastic lady yesterday. We had an amazing time. No nerves, just laughs and fun. I'm definatly looking forward to seeing her again. Any
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RHP User
12 years ago
When you click, all previous thoughts and insecurities just disappear instantly. Glad to hear you had a great time!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' When you click, all previous thoughts and insecurities just disappear instantly. Glad to hear you had a great time!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'anythingjustnow'So I wanted to say thank you to everyone that posted on this thread. I got to meet a fantastic lady yesterday. We had an amazing time. No nerves, just laughs and fun. I'm definatly looking forward to seeing her again. Any Enjoy xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Google it..~broken~ Quoting 'DeviousMissM' Happened to my post?
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RHP User
12 years ago
This dyslexia (or just plain dumb typos) thing is grating on me.. ~sheesh~
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm going to the ABC shop to find your book..And I'm making a pledge to not post so messily. You know? Read the whole forum thread before bashing the keys.. So you don't have 63 random two line posts in a row and all..~sorry every one~
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RHP User
12 years ago
Which is why i'll be buried under a stone Pyramid..
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RHP User
12 years ago
The Mrs of the couple speaking I love nice fitted jeans and you have a nice body so a fitted T- shirt a new pair of jocks. Simple easy and it let's you stand out rather than your clothes overwhelming you. Good luck on your meet and I hope your nerves fade and allow you to enjoy yourself :-D
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