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First meeting after msging
April 27 2017
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Is RHP any different to "other" online dating sites? Unless you and the person you're meeting have specifically planned to meet in a hotel room or something equally intimate straight up, why can't you treat it like a regular date? You know..where you check each other out, flirt with each other, be respectful...like they're an actual oerson and more than just the genitals you're hoping to f*!#......? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
*person - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't assume all men are DTF straight up. That would be presumptuous. OP I hope you don't assume this of the women you meet?
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
If you go in with a dtf attitude for a first meeting , I thinks your going back home alone and sadly disappointed very quickly Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
8 years ago
I think that was what he was asking Eilithiya - do people try to get to know each other first and that sexual attraction needs to be established. And yes, I think RHP is different to other dating sites (or ''traditional'' dating sites) in that the other traditional models are based around establishing a ''romanctic'' LTR, whereas this one is not. Does not mean that RHP is like Grindr though (i.e. let's just meet up and fuck). And yes, before anyone starts in, I have used Grindr and that is exactly what it is about.
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RHP User
8 years ago
if its meet first play later. I personally make another time so the first meet is really like any other date, talk about interests ,hobbies , how their week was etc.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
The person you are meeting is dtf. Check their profile...the "Participation" selection will give you an idea. Lots of women will select "meet first, play later", and you would be wanting to approach meeting those women with that firmly implanted in the big brain....and the little one. As you say, meet to establish if there is a sexual attraction - but I would add that meetings also establish if there is any connection. Some will take if further straight away, some won't. Time will tell.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Of course attraction has to be there, the start of that is on here and comes in different forms or different stages for me, starting with physical and the profile/stats/about me etc. Then the conversation starts which is not dissimilar to RL with flirting and getting to know each other. This is the bit where things don't always go well for me, I look for signs, red flags or just signs that we're not compatible. But if all goes well with communication, I then do my own verification to make sure they are the person in the pictures/same age/same sex lol/no jail cell bars in the background haha Then it's moving off here to phone or kik, can still go wrong there lol but all going well, arrange a first meet. My first meets are straight in 😛 which I like, I have been out a few times but generally prefer to get straight down to it. Of course both need to understand that attraction and/or chemistry might not be there when you do meet, all good, most on here understand that and each can walk away with respect if that happens. It is rare in my experience, but has happened a few times. But if all good at that point, happy days 😊
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RHP User
8 years ago
To answer your question about what first meets are like, some are meh 😏 some are off the scale unbelievable, they're the ones I stash under my bed 😊
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
Is just that, "a first meet", I would always only just meet for coffee or something very casual like that, usually during the day time. So there wasn't a DTF attitude, it was a no expectations, then there's no disappointments kinda thing. 💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
In someone's profile and then by their messaging that they will do anyone, it appears to me poor form to think your DTF without having met and established a connection. Perhaps if that is what you seek you may be better off trying the personnal section of your local newspaper. Otherwise, do what most do and organise a meet with no pressure to play, then say hi, maybe have a bite to eat, drink and chat then you can establish if there's something to work with or you go your seperate ways. Good luck 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I prefer to meet for a coffee or a drink - no expectations - to see if there is a spark or connection. This is usually after messaging back and forth to see if we are on the same page. Then it's a meeting to see if there is a spark. There has to be an attraction of the mind as well as that indefinable physical attraction for me. Sometimes it is an instant yes or no - sometimes not. However, if it's a 'I need to think about it' then the final answer is generally 'no'. We are grown ups and I would hope all parties would accept the other's decision. There has to be a meeting for me though and always no strings and no expectations. Others here may have a different way of doing things as that is their preference. The joy of people is that we all differ - it would be boring if we were all the same. Open communication and respect are key. KH
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol Gasp, you're being judged for wanting sex 😱 I've had plenty of that same judgment, double it if you like immediate play 😇 Kay, shocking I know but better than prehistoric
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RHP User
8 years ago
if this offends anyone, but if I have to read another judgment, I think I'll puke. Heaven forbid the guy wants sex on rhp 😱 getting plastered on a date and not knowing if you're sexually attracted until the next day when you're sober, apparently makes you classier and what a perfect way to find quality guys👍 the reason most people drink on first dates, women in particular, is because they lack self confidence, poor body self image, that kind of thing, dutch courage. Here's a little tip, actually 2 tips 😉 don't drink, that way you won't need to go out on 50 first dates, not remembering each one 😇 my other tip of the day is sexual chemistry, if it's not there when you first meet, it's not going to be there, but you also don't need every partner to take your knees out from under you either, some of my best, I would have passed in the street, the chemistry can explode once you start intimate proceedings hmm that's very formal for me 😯 I definitely don't go ahead if there's no attraction, but I'm very very happy I fucked those guys on the first meeting 😛😜 and second and third....... But drinking and dating heaps before sex, then thinking that's classier, no it's not, it's insecurity. I can have perfect, intimate, passionate encounters with guys I randomly meet in public, they aren't scanks and neither am I, but that's the brush the insecure would like to paint us with, the low quality lol Anyway, I'm happy and will carry on fucking on first dates. Kevin Bloody Wilson (Kev's courting song) summed it up perfectly 😀 Do you fuck on first dates? Does your Dad own a brewery?" My dad doesn't own a brewery 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Do Ya Fuck On First Dates Kev's Courting Song Blown too much of me time Buyin' Dinner and Wine And me money on flowers and lollies Only to find That what's on me mind Isn't on hers and she's sorry So I've made up some lines That save wastin' time And keep me from blowin' me brass I'm ever so cool I just prop on me stool Right next to hers and I ask Do you fuck on first dates Does you Dad own a brewery Could I feel Your tits Or would you show 'em to me Cause you've got a nice head And you look pretty honest So me face'll be leavin' in quart of an hour I'd like you to be on it You know how it feels when you first meet a sheila And the bullshit you gotta go through Like callin' her up An' tellin' her you love her When all that you'd love is just a screw But she wants to hold hands And meet her old man And sit around for hours and talk But me new method is, you just cut through the shit And get down to the goodies straight off Do you fuck on first dates Does you Dad own a brewery Could I feel Your tits Or would you show 'em to me Do you sleep in the nip Do you give head very often If we can decide your place or mine We can fuck off then So the next time you see a good looking sheila An you'd give a weeks pay to hold her Don't sit actin' dumb Just front her full on and drop a few lines that I told ya This new method of mine Might not work every time, but then again no method will I've been spat at and slapped and kneed in the nackers But then I've got a few fucks as well Do you fuck on first dates Does you Dad own a brewery Could I feel Your tits Or would you show 'em to me If the answer is no to me questions above Then be a good sport and give me the name Of a girlfriend who does 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it's about communication. Unlike the others Im happy to fuck straight up on first meeting, and that intention is always established via messaging prior to meeting. Im not here to make friends, Im here to find a fuck. When people know that it makes it a very straightforward process. Find a time you're both available and go for it. However as you can see there are others here who like to meet first to establish a connection. Point is you'll almost always know what you're getting into as boundaries or expectations should be discussed up front. The beauty of this site is you can get straight to the point without offending.
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RHP User
8 years ago
First meet outcomes would very much depend on the two people meeting ,and what they seek from that meeting, and how that meet pans out. Personally, I've found very little difference between meeting people from this site, than regular sites. Though, for sheer numbers, I've definitely had sex as an outcome with more people that I've met from vanilla sites, than from this and similar sites. Yes, I have had sex on the first meet. Yes, I've even had sex with someone with half an hour of meeting them. Yes, I've had drinks only, then had sex the next meeting. Yes, I've had several meets, then had sex. And, I've had plenty of meets that went nowhere. The variables that lead to those differences in those meets, had nothing to do with the medium used to meet those people. Expect little, and be prepared for anything :)
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Love the anticipation and endorphins , hate the nerves. Try to minimise the nerves by chatting for a while before the meet to get to know them well, have good communication and don't set up massive expectations. Then go for it ...if it feels right. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
8 years ago
Generally meet and play if the attraction was there.
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Well I've never done the "meet first play later" scenario..... from this site or any other. My intentions are clear here, sadly alot are not, and I tend to follow the beat of my own drum. My attention is drawn in via a message, we exchange a handful here then move to kik then will do more general getting to know you stuff including expectations for playmates etc, then we will proceed to organising a meet. At which time I hand over my address and they knock and the rest is usually really awesome. I may be in a different scenario then most here though being in an open marriage so I am uncomfortable with any public socialising let alone a "date and romancing". So I usually cut through the pretense and jump right into what we're all actually here for (oh No, perish the thought.... a sex site being used for its intended purpose lol). Good luck OP and enjoy xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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OkeyDoke45
8 years ago
Good to see others (including women) stepping up and confessing to the apparently hideous sin of shagging on a first meet. Whilst I certainly do not expect for a meet'n'greet to go anywhere beyond just that, I have had them end up with the two of us going home together - and what exactly is wrong with that? I agree with you ITM2, the moral tut-tutting, brow beating and finger wagging that goes on in this and other forums, usually from the same pure souls (who seem to miss the irony of being so pure on a sex dating site) does make the bile rise oftentimes. And finally, to see others acknowledge that this is a sex dating site, and therefore it is not unreasonable for people using this site to desire sex as some sort of outcome of their endeavours - well, I'm in bliss this morning. Myself and others that have aired such in the past on here have been savaged.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, but it's still a bit foolish to assume that all people you meet on here are DTF straight up. Some people don't do a lot of screening online and prefer to meet earlier to see if their is a sexual attraction when they are face to face with a person. So often that may mean that, for a woman anyway, that you may not be attracted. To the down to fuckers 😋 Isn't looking into someone's eyes and their smell important before deciding to fuck someone? I've bonked men before with only a swipe to the right and it doesn't always lead to great sex. In fact it often can be pretty mundane and mechanical. That's why most fuckers want to meet the fuckee first to assess the situation. It's not because they aren't DTF, it's just that they want their fuck to be good and that is their way of ensuring that. Of course many down to fuckers view any sex, even bad sex, as a good thing so they fuck anything and everyone. And that's cool. Not everyone wants to do that though. But good luck to you both, hopefully you there a good fucks amongst the many. 🙂
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you read the OP post again he is also stating that presumably you meet first and fuck later. So everyone is in in agreeance with him.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That sounds like too much hard work to me. Endless messaging and establishing boundaries and likes and dislikes on line. Zzzzzz I'd rather meet straight up first to establish all that. Saves time and is much hotter if there is a sexual connection. All the flirtation and "innoncent" touching across the table. But I also don't want to put myself in an awkward situation so I would also meet people with no DTF expectations in play. Easier that way to remove yourself if you aren't into it. That's just my way of doing things. You can put us down all you want, I'm not bothered. Shame that you seem to feel your way is the only way??
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sex is the outcome I always hope for, it usually goes to plan 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
That is if I get past the messaging stage. I've been a bit precious lately about small things. Must remember to keep my eye on the prize 😛
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RHP User
8 years ago
That everyone has a freedom to make their own decisions and based on their opinion vs someone else's does not mean either is wrong, part of forming an opinion is judging. Just saying. This is also advertised as a social networking site. Shocking and oh so prehistoric that people may actually use it for that. I never saw a box I had to tick that made me promise to fuck someone if I signed up? Funny that as a sex site it also has the option of looking for a relationship??? Just crazy that someone may actually crave a connection. I'm sure the founders of this site are disgusted with the people that won't fuck on first dates and take their time to find someone they want to fuck instead of just fucking anyone they meet. But to those that do...., that is your decision and you are free to do as u like. But Shame on the purists! 😂 Good luck OP, as a previous poster stated, as a attached and playing without permission seeker you don't present a great package. May want to chat to your wife about your feelings if you wish to try your luck elsewhere but like I said above. Only my opinion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Delete last paragraph 🙄😬 oops Keep the rest 👍🏻 My apologies OP, last paragraph I had jumbled thinking about another post at the same time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Some people don't do a lot of screening online and prefer to meet earlier to see if their is a sexual attraction when they are face to face with a person. So often that may mean that, for a woman anyway, that you may not be attracted. It doesn't matter how many messages I exchange with someone or how many photos I see of them, I will never know if I want to fuck them until I actually meet them. That's why now I barely even flirt in the messages I exchange before meeting, and I prefer to meet sooner rather than later. A few times I've met up with guys for the coffee / drink thing and have had zero attraction to them in person. Just recently I met up with one guy and it took all I had just to sit there for half an hour with him before I told him the attraction just wasn't there for me and left. No way was I going to fuck him, yet from his profile and pics he had seemed like someone I'd be at least reasonably attracted to. If some are happy to arrange to have sex with someone without having met them first then good on them. It pisses me off though, when those people judge others for having different needs and different approaches (I have consistently found on here that it's the 'this is a sex site you should be DTF straight away' people who are the most judgmental of others, whereas others are usually just 'yeah do whatever suits you').
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RHP User
8 years ago
Never thot of it that way. All the down to fuckers who have to establish a connection online which takes so much time... and then they pull the plug if they decide they aren't feeling it from an online persona?? So, are DTFuckers actually time wasters? Interesting thought.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It makes no difference what is on someone's profile, sex should never be expected. They could be more than happy with sex the minute you meet, but change their mind once they actually meet you. They could also specify no sex on first meet and then decide they want to fuck right then and there. It's all about respect and accepting that nothing is guaranteed. As others have said, just treat the first meet like a first date and just go with the flow.
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