RHP

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First time performing with men around

March 19 2014

Interested to know from straight men - how was your first time performing in front of other men? We're considering meeting a couple for the first time and while I think this will be okay, it's certainly something I would be nervous about. Did you end up (maybe not the first time, but eventually) experimenting with guys? Asking about male-male because our woman hasn't had any issues with bi play, and I think that's usually the way.All experiences welcome.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Or looked over the edge even though you have a bungee cord around your ankles. Until it's happening you really don't know. Hopefully in hindsight there won't be that memorable phrase "communication breakdown" uttered. To answer yes I did / have. All comes down to the game plan, and by rights all team members should be aware of the plan before the whistle blows

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The whistle only blow at the end of the game,not the beginning :-) :-) xx Q only ever posting from the bleachers

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    If you're a bit nervous the first time, just make boundaries of what you are and what you're not willing/comfortable doing, relax and enjoy the moment........💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Never even thought about playing with the other guy but have been around footy showers long enough to feel comfortable around naked fellas haha. Prob found guys want to push limits in the shower (for akward fun of course) then in the bed room

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The whistle blows at kick-off too. Game on!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You all make fair points, though I'd still like to hear the experiences *other* guys have had.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm pretty new to the MMF thing so I remember my first time really well. I'd been fantasizing about it for a long time but I had no idea what would happen until it actually started. I was actually, slightly surprisingly, more nervous meeting the male partner for coffee beforehand than I was meeting the couple for a threesome. Once it started I was so into the lady and how excited she was that I sort of lost track of what else was happening with the other guy.Once I was hard (which took all of 30 seconds) my exhibitionist streak took over and we just did whatever felt natural. The guy is very strident about how straight he is so we all know the boundaries. If he wasn't so convinced I could see things getting a bit more experimental. My guess is (and it's only a guess based on me) if you get excited thinking about it you will get excited when you're experiencing it?

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    The OP has asked a question and whistles and teams, has anything to do with the profile pic looking like a footy tackle. Pre game nerves, let it flow and have a good play lovebirds. he he Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hopefully someone will come along and actually give you some useful advice. I will say though that it sounds like you are saying that all men that participat in group sex will eventually start playing with other men. Is that right? Because that isn't true. Totally straight guys will not suddenly feel like sucking cock just because they have watched lots of women do it, etc. I would say if you are asking this question it is because deep down you are interested in experimenting with men? Just a thought........

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Hopefully someone will come along and actually give you some useful advice. I will say though that it sounds like you are saying that all men that participat in group sex will eventually start playing with other men. Is that right? Because that isn't true. Totally straight guys will not suddenly feel like sucking cock just because they have watched lots of women do it, etc. I would say if you are asking this question it is because deep down you are interested in experimenting with men? Just a thought........ It's what gets you out of bed each morning, bahahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The thought has occurred to me, but I'm just not sure. I guess I'll find out at the time! Not too worried about that. I was reading in some other forum threads that guys often have performance issues the first time at a swinger's club so the main topic came from that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes I have been in threesomes and group situations with men who are new to the group scene and performance issues are a common problem. It's no big deal, if you half expect that you may have some issues the first time or two but figure out other ways of pleasing people it doesn't have to be a big problem. I am not a bloke so I don't know... But I think if you are open about it and discuss it being your first time you probably won't feel as much pressure to perform and if you do, bonus, & if you don't you can show off your oral skills. ;-) I think it's more of an issue when a man just can't relax once he realises his willy isn't coming along for the ride, sometimes they are so uncomfortable or embarrassed it changes the whole experience from a fun one into a tense one for everybody.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Men are very focussed on getting their cock in and ejaculating. If that isn't going to happen, then yes it's a good idea to set expectations, and have ideas of what other fun can be got up to so the mood isn't ruined. My oral skills? I'm Irish so could try and talk them into an orgasm ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    This is kinda my mantra in this lifestyle, naturalnaughty. Mr is straight and has no issues being naked with other guys; sometimes, when there's 4 naked bodies on a bed, skin touches skin whether you plan it to or not. And Mr IAT is fine with that. But he's not attracted to men in the slightest so even if the most beautiful willy was in his face, he wouldn't just say 'what the hell, I'll give it a suck' because he likes what he likes! We know a few other couples where the bloke has said just that! So I guess my comment is that you won't know till you try. You will like what you like and my advice is that whatever that turns out to be, embrace it! Kisses, J (Mrs) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hey you guys are from Sydney. Okay here is the plan of attach Mr N. I suggest you go to the next Angel and Demons night at Couples Club in Surry Hills. (google couples club surry hills) Or any other Friday or Saturday night for that matter. Then dress up in your sexy gear, head on over and just watch everyone.... and maybe you and the lovely wife can play with each other. That way you can get a little experience in being in group situations without actually feeling the pressure to perform with anyone in particular or just to get used to other people watching you. Or you don't have to play at all you can just walk around as just watching is perfectly okay as well. This way you can see how other people interact in groups before meeting a couple just on your own.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes a lot of guys do have performance issues in groups!! Seen it happen many times with newbies...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Thanks for your input Mrs J! Your idea about swingers clubs is a good one Meeka. Like the ability to just watch at first and play if/when comfortable. We're honestly not sure about doing it at the moment given the Mrs is 7.5 months pregnant but would certainly like to at some point. If we can find a suitable couple or lady then we might give things a try, otherwise waiting until after the birth might work out for the best :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We wanted to add other people to our play, but started with couples. My my personal view, I never had an issue that there was another guy there instead quite enjoying the wife swap that was happening. This progressed to more group play and I viewed the other mans body as just another element in the tangle of bodies. This is where things might go differently. My wife organised a night with two bi guys for me to assess my comfort levels around men. Now it all comes back to ensuring there is consent between all parties but if all are happy then all is fair game. I view things as enjoying the moment and what it brings. My personal choice is to ignore the preset social taboos, but if you don't want it, all you should have to do is say so.

  • FunandLoving124

    FunandLoving124

    11 years ago

    Meet a guy For MMF fun first and find one that is happy to go totally at your pace or even that is just happy with just receiving oral. Best way to ease yourself into it, meeting a couple is more full on as your more separated from your partner..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'FunandLoving124' Meet a guy For MMF fun first and find one that is happy to go totally at your pace or even that is just happy with just receiving oral. Best way to ease yourself into it, meeting a couple is more full on as your more separated from your partner.. Start with a relaxed and understanding male in MMF - go at your pace, see what you like and don't like. Wont be any problems for the other M, after all there is three of you.