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First time swinging for a single lady
January 03 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
You say you've been single for less than a month which, in combination with your questions, makes me wonder if you are ready for this. You've never been to a swingers party and appear to not have a clear idea of what it entails. May I suggest going to a Club instead? The Couples Club in Surry Hills is not far from you, and it's a safe and much more relaxed way to get into the "swing" of things. You can just watch if you like and only play when you feel completely at ease. And if someone does not interest you, you can politely say "no" and move on. I'll be going myself on Saturday with a few ladies from here. Feel free to ask any questions, or send me a flirt, and I'll reply. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree I had a choice of a club or a party ....I chose the party and wish I hadnt although there were some other new people to talk with I found that the majority of people were regulars who had already formed friendships and tended to stick together and not very social.So next time its a club for me too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
HEY SHOT ME DOWN IF YOU WANT, BUT YOU SAY YOUR MORE ATRACTED TO WOMEN THEN MEN AND YOU SAY YOU MIGHT FEEL OUT AS YOU GET HIT ON BY MEN AND BE NOCKING THEM BACK , MY SUGESTION IS MAKE YOURSELF COMFITABLE AND FEELINGS NONE STRIAGHT UP BY GOING STRIAGHT TO A FEW WOMEN IF YOUR BY YOURSELF AND HANG WITH THEM, IF A BLOKE IS TO FORWARD AND REAPEATINGLY HIT ON YOU AND WANT TAKE NO FOR A ANSWER LET SECURITY BE AWARE, NOW IM NOT BEING RUDE AS THIS IS A TRUE STAEMENT , WE HAVE SOMETHING IN COMMON AND IM SURE YOU NO WHAT IT IS PUSSY I LOVE IT TO AND BI WOMEN NO ITS NOT A COME ON ITS A STATEMENT, ANYWAY YOU STAY SAFE ,...DAS
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seeing we're neighbours, we could go in together.. Not hitting on you by the way.. just curious to experiment like you... We both like girls so theres no problem there.. lol..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not all parties are like that, but yes you will probably find people that attend regularly so they have formed friendships with other attendees. It's always best going with friends first! :)
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On_Safari
12 years ago
.....I'd do the club thing first....relaxed atmosphere etc, etc and a few acquaintances from here offered the same support as Miss Devious. Walking into either of those situations can be daunting BUT going with others who can ease you into it....priceless!! Still to attend Couples International but will be in Brissy a bit towards the end of the month and hoping someone will hold my hand. Miss Indigo, youth and beauty; hell yer you're fresh meat!!! Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Speaking from experience as one who has on occasion used the freely-available alcohol a little too readily to feel comfortable in a new and scary environment: I would suggest saying "no thankyou" to the proffered glasses of bubbly, at least on your first time.I don't mean to suggest for a second that someone might maliciously try to "get you drunk" to convince you to go along with something you wouldn't normally be comfortable doing. It's just that there's going to be bottles popped and it's part of our culture when talking with someone in any situation like that, "Can I get you a drink?" Over the course of an evening, being introduced to various couples and singles, those could add up.I suggest BYO-ing a 6 pack of those fancy soft drinks that come in bottles, like Jones Sodas from IGAs. They look like premixed alcoholic drinks, so if you nurse one constantly people will think you already have a drink and will be less likely to offer you one, putting you in the situation of feeling rude by declining or accepting and starting to get "Netherlands valiance". In regards to the lady-play, though I haven't been to a swingers party, I know enough about men to know that in any given crowd there will be at least one who will be happy to "look but not touch" when his partner and a nice young lady play. There may even be one or two who will be happy to have their partners go off with a lady while they sit on the couch having a chat to other folks and a beer. A friend of mine who went to a swinger's club told me about a mind-blowing experience of seven women pleasing each other while their seven male counterparts sat on the balcony, not sure whether to feel really proud or like they were missing out on the jackpot. I'm led to believe that women-only play does happen quite a bit, so if that's only what you want, you could quite likely find it.But that's enough out of me, I'd better let the ladies, and especially those with the experience you're after, get back to their more credible and helpful advice-giving!I hope it's a great experience for you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did you cum on your keyboard and the caps lock stuck?? Anyways.....to the OP, I'm with MissD on this....I would seriously think about you're ready for this so soon....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey slippery. Some of these couples go all the time so watching girl on girl is not that fascinating anymore. Besides they know they can watch it another time so it isn't that extraordinary. Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I thought you were married. Isn't JustJuice your couples profile? Anyway that's what I heard on the grapevine. Besides the lovely girl is 23 and I am sure has lots of offers from young spunky dudes.
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wannabyummymummy
12 years ago
As others have mentioned you might want to consider if you are actually ready for this so soon after a break up but only you can be the judge of that, if the answer is yes and you really are ready to give this a try then my advice is this:If it is a private party (which i assume it is) then speak with hosts of the party in advance, make sure they know it is a first for you, and tell them your preference for playing with the ladies, they will know best the other guests that are attending and if they are good hosts they will give thier other guests a bit of a heads up (depending on the size of the party of course).To answer your question, yes you will be 'fresh meat' as you put it but the wonderful thing about swinging (in this country anyway) is that the women have all the power by that I mean that you get to say who you will play with and who you wont and no means no, nobody is going to get thier knickers in a twist about it and if they do they are likely to not get repeat party invites so you really shouldnt be too concerned about that. I generally attend parties with my hubby but i do know from expereince that because single ladies are such a rare comodity at parties they are generally looked after VERY well.My best advise really is just to be sure that this is what you want to do, communicate with the hosts as much as you can beforehand and just be honest and upfront with people at the party itself if you are keen to play wiith someone then go and spark up a chat with them and ask them, if you are 'hit up' by someone that doesnt tickle your fancy then a simple 'thanks but no' is all you need, no reasons required.Parties can be a lot of fun and once you have been to a couple you will wonder what you were ever worried about.Have fun
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RHP User
12 years ago
A few things to reply to. - as far as the break up with my ex, I know it's kinda soon but we split in October and got back together and THEN broke up again so it's been boring and up shit creek for a long time. Also he did very wrong by me, so I'm not heart broken just glad to live again and be free. After thinking more about the swinging thing, it sounds more complicated with the dynamics than something I could be bothered with right now. It's complicated for me as I am a RHP parent so I need to make time to do these kind of explorations and there is no way I would meet someone on here and go to there home or have them here. NMS. I am just hoping to have the opportunity to go to an event where it is fun, casual and no pressure. Maybe a club is a good idea.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There is never any pressure to play. Someone people just go to watch because that' their thing. If there is pressure just leave. I find that often when you go with a guy, even if its supposed to be as friends they often have the expectation that you will sleep with them. I have seen men siting on the side lines all frowns, angry and sad while they watch their "date" being bonked by other people. Funny!
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RHP User
12 years ago
There is some good advice being given in this thread worth considering... My 2c. 1. Research the party you are going to before you get there. Put a list of questions together and cover them off with the host on the phone before you make a booking. 2. Choose a party that is suitable for newbies. 'Players' parties are great but might be a bit much if you haven't been to one before. 3. You will always find a clicky group of regulars at the parties. Introduce yourself. It's hard NOT to be clicky if you are a familiar at a party and most regulars will always do their best to try to 'include' newbies and look after them. 4. If you decide to play it will probably be in a room where others are already playing. Playing in front of others is the norm and not the exception. If you object to voyeurs or prefer private rooms then swingers parties are probably not the venue for you. 5. No ALWAYS means NO. Full stop.. no exceptions. I get a few no's each time I go to a party and I don't take it to heart. 6. Word will go around pretty quick that your a newbie amongst the regulars and they should look out for you and keep the pressure off. 7. From my experience around half the newbies at their first party DO NOT PLAY. They watch and take in the atmosphere. (It can take some absorbing first time round!) ... Not Playing is perfectly FINE!8. Swingers for the most part are NORMAL PEOPLE who dress down. ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Suggesting teaming up with indigo was a spur of the moment thing because she is very local , stipulated she likes girls only and I had a free saturday night.. nothing more. In hindsight, and after I posted it ' if I could have retracted it I would . If RHP had a way of deleting it, it would not have seen the light of day...But about your reference regarding me and the JJs... For the record' I know the JJ s very well, and I see them often..and mix in the same circles.. Im peeved that you pulled them into this in this way.. You were very happy to make such a public statement ' so I have no doubt you would also be happy to expose the source that made this claim.. ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Should clarify not suggesting that you would expect that Jay. Hope it didn't sound like that, but girls have to be weary of these offers in my experience. Sometimes guys say that don't expect anything, then you get there and they insist on paying which leads to them assuming that you owe them something in return. Great misconception. Just because I am at a sex club or party does not mean I will sleep with everyone or just anyone, regardless of whether we went in together or not. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ms_Devious' suggestion of a club rather than a party is a great idea. And if you find you're not ready for it, relax and enjoy the show.I can also vouch for Ms_Devious. You couldn't be in better company, just don't let her lead you astray. We did and it took the best surgeons two hours just to get the smile off our faces. ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Settle down mate. I asked a question. All you had so was say no. It's not an accusation, I wasn't saying anything bad, I didn't mention anyone's real names or addresses or sexual preferences did I? It was a simple question. Gee sorry JJ didn't realise this was pulling you up? Or was harmful to you in someway. It's obviously a rumour going around. How it started I have no idea. Christ you are a fiesty one aren't you Jay? Not everyone is out to get you you know. :-/
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have heard you are a prickly bastard Jay. Source: Meeka100
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
I thought you were Mr JJ too..seeings as both your profiles are exactly the same and your pic did look familiar when you came in as Jay_Me! The only difference is 3 years in the age section! Meh, I liked the JJ's and miss them posting...but I swear it was you! No harm, no foul by Meeka or anyone else with the same thought I am sure! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' You say you've been single for less than a month which, in combination with your questions, makes me wonder if you are ready for this. You've never been to a swingers party and appear to not have a clear idea of what it entails. May I suggest going to a Club instead? The Couples Club in Surry Hills is not far from you, and it's a safe and much more relaxed way to get into the "swing" of things. You can just watch if you like and only play when you feel completely at ease. And if someone does not interest you, you can politely say "no" and move on. I'll be going myself on Saturday with a few ladies from here. Feel free to ask any questions, or send me a flirt, and I'll reply. Good luck! Ms Devious thanks for your kind offer.I'm busy for the next few weeks but if I have a child free weekend, should be soon I will send you a flirt and see if you and some others are going.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I find that often when you go with a guy, even if its supposed to be as friends they often have the expectation that you will sleep with them. I have seen men siting on the side lines all frowns, angry and sad while they watch their "date" being bonked by other people. Funny! Never again will I go to a club with a guy whom I have no intention of sleeping with. This particular guy ended up very angry, in a worrying kind of way. When you take a man with you it is also expected you stay together during the night. If he ventures out on his own, he is likely to be told off by management.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who wouldnt be fiesty after a week like this... Counting this thread, Ive now had 5 females in 5 different threads have a side swipe then come back later with a apology ? not including you Meeks... Talk about a roller coaster week.. Sheee..Meeka, cmon now, your post was damning and untrue.. Thankfully ' I just had a private message from a person who's judgement I trust saying she thought my offer to indigo was thoughtful ? go figure' .. Just goes to show how differently you females can think...Meeks ' If we ever get to meet face to face, Im sure you wont find the fiesty person you imagine me to be.. but I'll leave that up to you... otherwise you might think I have evil intentions.. PS.. you still didnt say who spread the rumour ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you Peachy ... your comment made my day...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I asked you a question. How is that damning or untrue? I think you completely over reacted. Lots of people have a single profile and a couple profile. I am really not sure why you became so angry over a simple question. Or are you referring to my comments about men's expectations? Somehow I think I would know more about that then you and I never meant for that to sound like I was talking about you because I wasn't. I don't know you after all, I was making a general comment. So, you can stick your accusations up your clacker. And sorry, but if a 51 year old man was making that sort of offer to my 23 year old daughter I wouldn't be thrilled about it and neither would you. Thoughtful my ass. LOL. Absolutely hilarious. If 5 women have had a go at you I suggest you are the one at fault. Seems a reasonably assumption to make.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Men, they always want NO strings attached sex and fun yet everything they offer comes with strings. :-/ My apologizes for abducting your thread Indigo.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'indigoblack' Ms Devious thanks for your kind offer. I'm busy for the next few weeks but if I have a child free weekend, should be soon I will send you a flirt and see if you and some others are going. Sounds good to me!
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RHP User
12 years ago
hIf it was'nt for your age phobia, we wouldnt even be talking about this.. If you decided on the day, to go the other way and not look for a problem, there would be none.. lm sure you must of heard the ' jaws ' theme when you read my post. My intentions, and your perception were 2 differnt things. I would have thought that seeing we are both regular posters, you would have a reasonable feel for the person l am. But this proves that wrong. The angry person l see here, is not the person l come to know and feel comfortable with. Am l sorry l posted the indigo thing ? you betcha. As l said my intentions and your perception were 2 totally differnt things. Dont matter who it is... If someone wants to undermine my integrity, you have to expect something back...
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is totally off topic but JJ unsure why you would have a go at Meeka and deny you are one and the same as Ive seen your pics in both profiles. Either you are one and the same and why on earth you would deny it is beyond me or Id have a word with "that" couple. Simple.We had seperate profile for Mr Sat no biggie. We always made it clear though he was part of a couple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Saturn, is this directed at JJ or me ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP I should answer your question too. Assuming you are talking about a private swingers party(? ) I'd probably try and go with a GF that I have befriended off here is she was interested to go ( safety in numbers) OR I'd have a "plan b" exit strategy (AKA Excuse) I would use if once I got there the crowd wasn't what I expected it to be. If its a private kind of party ask the host who else is attending. Have only ever been to one private party had known of the hosts quite well through forums chat room etc - had total faith that they knew like minded couples/ singles etc and had a fantastic time.Also and this is a biggie.. You need not play at "no pressure" parties ( They usually advertise it as such) and as a newbie that would be the kind I would dip my toe into. Any one who tries it on you that you do not like should respect that..or bugger off!!!!Good Luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
All I originally said was that she probably gets offers from young men. And that's all I said.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Calling 5 disagreements in 5 different threads with about 100 + different posters a balance of views.. ? Think again... that equates to 1 disagreement per thread ? and the fact they offered a apology, tells the story anyway..Interesting to note ' all 5 were over 40 and seemingly ready to man bash... so if a problem arises from now on ' I would expect it will come from this age group.. mind you' there are some lovely 40s + on here.. thankfully.. Indigo. I dont know you and have never spoken to you as you know. My post was not meant to be anything but what I wrote.. You may remember, I did mention not hitting on you and was aware of the fact that your interest lay with females.. It should have ended there.. It was a passing comment that had I known the repercussions, would not have even been mentioned it.. Im truly sorry your post was high-jacked and apologise for any inconveinience , but thats what happens when you dont think carefully about what you write.. as you can see... I have since read your other posts and can see you have enough on your plate.. so you really dont need any of this... Good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay: Knock. It. Off! Meeka: Enough! Devious: That goes for you too! You don't have to respond to every thing that is said about you, nor react to every dig you think has been made. Might I suggest paying for a membership if you like the arguments, so it can be done offline? *Deep breath*
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've never been to one either, but would like to. I check the Events pages, but does anyone have experience with regular parties in Sydney? Are there any with a good reputation?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Jay I thought you were the JJs too.I remember you once posting that you were on their computer...nothing wrong with being the JJs.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can spank me later. ;-) as for private parties I have gone to a few organised parties which & I they can be real hit and miss affairs. Only way is go see for yourself.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oops... Meant to say that parties can be real hit & miss affairs. Some are great and some will have you running out of the room screaming. Think of a room full of Mr Shoe & Socks. Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not repeating myself ... so ' lifted FROM PAGE 1... post 16: For the record' I know the JJ s very well, I see them often..and mix in the same circles.. What part of this is too hard to understand.. ? The fact that everyone who jumped on the bandwagon are acquaintances might have something to do with it...Birds of a feather... ?
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RHP User
12 years ago
.....i'd luv to find a cute,happy, fit healthy little fiend to have fun with at clubs in case I look like your style of relaxed fun....i am single and very easy to get on with. Please yell xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine'Some people would be offended. Cool people just go "What ever".Actually, that was yesterday. I think I have a new favourite word.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I thought you were married. Isn't JustJuice your couples profile? Anyway that's what I heard on the grapevine. Besides the lovely girl is 23 and I am sure has lots of offers from young spunky dudes. This is forum gold BahahahahahahaBrae
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RHP User
12 years ago
As Meeka stated parties can be a hit or miss affair. I would think about either teaming up with someone (male or female) who can "watch your back" and at the same time allow you to test the waters. I had a female that took me to my first party and she was quite surprised how easy I got into it... Generally at a party, no one is forcing you to participate, you can probably more as a woman than a man just watch and if you see someone that interest you then you can go for it. Explain that this is your first party and the host will introduce you to the others and most of the time everyone will go out their way to make you feel comfortable. If this is a small party say 4 couples you'll be ok, a larger one can be pretty frightening the first time.Bottom line do what you want to do and do not be forced into something you do not want to do. Take your own drinks and watch it if you put it down. If you feel uneasy about the whole experience go into another room and think it through before you leave. It's not easy to get into unless yo have an adventurous nature about yourself. Also age is not a factor, went to a party not long ago and the age ranged from 18 to 60 and everyone got along great.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Omg... A face book group formed as an off shoot of a site??...as if that hasn't been done before.... I think it's called self moderation and what's insightful I'm sure is- people talk about all sorts of things that are not necessarily contained within the forums.. (p.s peach .there's a bigger world out there then just these forums..maybe you should check it out!) Oh and only person I've heard Bleet on about being thought of as a moderater is you ...your like the bloody school moderater on here checking hall passes... But you enjoy that so cudo to you. Back to jay me ..I'm sorry but I have seen your exact profile pic in the just juice private pics ages ago..you even msg me a while back and I stated pretty much the same..why it's an issue I have no idea. Ok I'm going back to lurking as these are exactly the type of forum reads that usually got blown up before I had a chance to read!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
join the FB group... seems im missing out on soooo much!
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear'Meeka and her (u r still admin M?) fb group (running 14 mths now) have a history of paranoia about who might be who in the forums. None of the many guesses I've seen in the forum have been right yet LOL and can't say any of the people being 'accused' felt too good about it either. I've never thought you were Mr JJ, Jay. Don't believe it now either, it's going a bit far suggesting you are a liar about your age and relationship status based on the grapevine and expecting you not to be offended imo. I know how I felt when so many people in the forum kept insisting I must be a moderator and the one that told me it was common knowledge. Seriously funny! My apologies to the OP. Mrs P :-) I doubt it is paranoia as I quite like the JJ's and have always gotten on well with them! No skin of my nose if he is MrJJ or not....I was just making a statement on what I thought not on anyone else's thoughts! I actually thought the first time Jay_Me posted that he was indeed Mr JJ but on a singles profile as many couples do! . I actually came in to read this Thread in the first place to see the answers to the OP's questions as I was thinking of attending a Club/Private Party myself! . I do believe the only one who is paranoid is yourself MrsP...You were once part of the "FB page" but you left of your own accord (about a 1001 times on my last count) and returned 1000 times. You could not control the group as you were not admin and didn't like that fact at all! You always bring up the "FB page" but yet you have no idea who has left and who has joined since you departed! You were very heavy into talking about others on there so please do not act all innocent! As Saturn said...you are the one that makes everyone believe you are Moderator on here and you did it to me the first time I joined the Forums as well! . We may be on a FB page but we all have our own minds and from what I can see not one person has put Jay_Me down at all .. just asked a simple question! Now, please MrsP allow these Forums to get back to the fun they used to be and stop thinking that you do indeed own the Forums! Passive Agressive is really not your colour! xFunlovingx
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
MrsP you left the group about a year ago...shouldn't you be over it by now? Shouldn't you now have moved on instead of following us from Forum Topic to Forum Topic? You only seem to get angry when the ones you "think" are still on the FB page post on here and that is just stalking! Now I am sorry MrsP..but although your attention is very flattering...I am straight! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was a newbie a couple of months ago. I have been a few times now. I would definately choose the party over a club. Every time I have been I found it relaxed and had a great time. There was no pressure at all and the motto is NO means NO. They always cater their parties with what people want, so yes let the hosts know what u r looking for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cmon girls ... enough is enough... the subject is now closed and its time we all go back to our own little comfort zones...Its just not worth all this crap... Peace to all.. big hugz for Peachy and Meeka....The case is now CLOSED Amen...
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RHP User
12 years ago
The Club was a lot of fun last night?
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I'd steer clear of private parties and clubs even and opt instead for something fun and flirty like Prima or Red Heaven. You'll be bound to pick up. Second choice for first time would be a reputable club with a friend.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' The Club was a lot of fun last night? What did you doooo???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I have heard you are a prickly bastard Jay. Source: Meeka100
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RHP User
12 years ago
I second that. The club was fun. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' Quoting 'Ms_Devious' The Club was a lot of fun last night? What did you doooo??? Devious things... And gentlemen, please stop emailing me asking to come with me next time. (5 emails so far this weekend). If I'm not already having sex with you I'm not interested in going as a couple. The answer is, and will always be, no.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think a party would probably be best for me, or a club. Maybe i should just grab a local guy and go check things out that way. Loose my concerns and let people get to know me and vice versa. But Caloundra is a fairly dead spot, as far as I know. I actually used to help organise parties out in Diamond Valley, But was much younger and just not ready to attend.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I'm new looking to for fill fantacies but seems that if you don't message or email there not interested in waisting your time lucky I'm no rush for it to happen - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
..... big smiley face here .....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey all id like say is if a person asks for some advice , geeting a little personal with each other , as fun intended as it may be does not fill new posters with confidence to ask questions such as this one , if they feel it results in a few barbs being fired. Think my issue is RELEVANCE to the original question. Hve never posted before and hope this will not be takin wrong way by any one but put your self in the position of someone asking a question and YOU started RHPWW3, WOULD U EVER ASK FOR ADVICE AGAIN. darren
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree DP. I feel as if we embarrassed ourselves in front of a new member. Again apologies Indigoblock we are not always like this. Honest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why is the female 113?? You are not going to come up in anyone's searches and my immediate thought, without looking at your profile, is that you are a fake couple. >_>
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brenbob_68
12 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' Cmon girls ... enough is enough... the subject is now closed and its time we all go back to our own little comfort zones...Its just not worth all this crap... Peace to all.. big hugz for Peachy and Meeka....The case is now CLOSED Amen... we love the way you call a halt to proceedings in the school principal manner jay.............i guess if you gonna have your pants pulled down ........rhp is the best place for it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks... I didnt see it that way... but every one to their own...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Helpful hints,have had a few 3sums, trying my 1st 4sum soon and who nows where that may go. I am very curious to see what goes on at a swingers party. Quoting 'fun4us2011'There is some good advice being given in this thread worth considering... My 2c. 1. Research the party you are going to before you get there. Put a list of questions together and cover them off with the host on the phone before you make a booking. 2. Choose a party that is suitable for newbies. 'Players' parties are great but might be a bit much if you haven't been to one before. 3. You will always find a clicky group of regulars at the parties. Introduce yourself. It's hard NOT to be clicky if you are a familiar at a party and most regulars will always do their best to try to 'include' newbies and look after them. 4. If you decide to play it will probably be in a room where others are already playing. Playing in front of others is the norm and not the exception. If you object to voyeurs or prefer private rooms then swingers parties are probably not the venue for you. 5. No ALWAYS means NO. Full stop.. no exceptions. I get a few no's each time I go to a party and I don't take it to heart. 6. Word will go around pretty quick that your a newbie amongst the regulars and they should look out for you and keep the pressure off. 7. From my experience around half the newbies at their first party DO NOT PLAY. They watch and take in the atmosphere. (It can take some absorbing first time round!) ... Not Playing is perfectly FINE! 8. Swingers for the most part are NORMAL PEOPLE who dress down. ;-)
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