First time three sum

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think a threesome is a very big decision. For some, it's an easy one but for others it's not. I think it also depends on what you are nervous about? If it's insecurity, then I wouldn't go through with it. If it's not, then I'd just wait till you find the right match and don't jump in till it feels right.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  that no you're not ready....as I believe - based on your post - that you're doing it for all the wrong reasons and few of the right ones.... And the fact you're questioning it stands as reinforcement for me..... But..... It's your choice.....just remember that. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Hottie1

  9 years ago

  To a couple of couples, I believe you need to be confident in yourself and your relationship so this experience is a good one for everyone. In my experience it is the lady of the primary relationship who makes or breaks the experience. My beautiful female playmates are sassy, funny, confident, sexy women. At no stage does any level of insecurity present itself in our playtime. I don't go into that experience with a view to breaking up a couple, I go there to enhance a sexual experience for all of us, all participants are equal co-contributors. Firstly, discuss all likely scenarios with your partner , it's 'unsexy' but necessary. What can and can't be done or said, what do you both want our of the experience and make sure you are both doing it for the right reasons. If there is still uncertainty, then you still need some time to consider this. I'm incredibly lucky, I've not had a bad experience, but I have beautiful friends who have, and it's not a nice experience to be the third and feel like you are not welcome. Good luck Mary xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  thankyou all for your comments I will take all of this into consideration. my partner and I have spoken about this rather thoroughly and yes as I understand where you are coming from with someone you connect with having a great time all together . :-)

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  MsJonesy

  9 years ago

  Umm... hello! Of course you are nervous! It's something entirely new and nerves are to be expected. It doesn't mean that it is the wrong thing to do, but perhaps not quite ready for it yet. Have you visited a swingers club; they can be a good way to get used to being around relative strangers and feeling more comfortable with your partner talking and flirting with women even if nothing else occurs. Mary is 100% right ; if you haven't already, you need to discuss together what you are willing to have happen on the night, what your rules are and what you would do if these rules were tested. If you're not clear on that sort of thing then it can go pear shaped. Also, please ponder on who is the driving force in your relationship in finding a woman to play with. Who is going to do the online chat, who is going to be the instigator for meeting and perhaps playing? If the answer to those questions is one or other of you, and not BOTH of you, then you need to assess why this has all come about. Good luck and I hope it all is a lot of fun!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  OP you never will be ready,it's not for everyone xxFreya

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  We had a guy on his way to our place for a threesome, same same but different. Tara was so nervous darting around the house in her knickers, a work in progress let's say and she fell into a half packed cardboard box in the lounge room. Arse and legs kicking about, it was hilarious. Mado Tara xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  we started with a three someanother guywe were all nervouswould he be comfortable sharing you with another guy????

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think you have enough doubts about him leaving you to say that you probably are not ready. But, from my experience on RHP finding women to join couples is really difficult so I wouldn't worry too much about it until it looks as if it may happen. Because it may never happen! You can also see how you feel when your hubby is looking at their profile pictures and when he is sexy emailing them or chatting to them on the phone.... does that make you jealous or unsure, etc.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  at this stage we are only starting out with women and possibly couples down the track. one day we might try two men .

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  then clearly there is something in this relationship that you are not secure about. I hate to sound negative, but he could leave you whether you have a threesome or not and a guy (or woman) that is going to cheat or leave will find a way to do so. So if you do have a threesome and he does leave you, then it simply means that he was always going to do it. Trust in yourself and the decision you made to be in a relationship with this guy.........if not, then clearly he's not the guy for you.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  You have got so far as to have a profile and started looking. Spending to much time thinking about something will give you more and more reason to not do it. You want it or you would not be here, if you procrastinate it will never happen. If you don't like it you don't have to do it again, but if you do like it then you are missing out, and time sure does fly. Just do it and don't think about it, then you can say its done and you do not need to stress over it. You either are or are not swingers, right now you just don't know.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Thankyou for all comments we are just going to take the plunge then see if we want more afterwards mm - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  well make sure you come back and give us an update on it all. We will be waiting..............

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  Worrying about something that has not happened can bring on stress and that's the last thing you want. We just work in together and it becomes a true threesome, no one get's left out, it can be an awesome adventure. If something is not right just say so because if you are not enjoying it, there is something not right. We just took the plunge and it was a real fuck up the first time. I did not leave, Tara did not leave, but he did.

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  Sounds like another case of the guy driving the agenda...... and the woman trails along.

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  QLDtwo4fun

  9 years ago

  There needs to be something in it for every one. Just pleasing your partner probably isn't enough, ask your self will it please you? Generally there is a shortage of single women for threesomes, so they can pick and choose, so why would they pick a couple who are not both really into it.

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