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Flirts - Do you reply if you're not interested
November 25 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm the same, if i send one i figure they'll reply if interested, if not, all good. When i get them, i don't reply if not interested to either flirts or messages. I once received a flirt back from a guy i'd flirted with, got all excited, pussy has built in radar so got all excited as well, then realised it was a thanks but no thanks, but i don't always take any notice of what the flirt says, but how stupid to 'flirt' to decline interest? And it can confuse new users so i think best to not respond. The messages are different, but off topic so won't discuss that. I will add i have a lot of fun with the flirts, being a guest, other guests and i sometimes have extended time periods where the sexual tension builds lol kills me sometimes - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If the profile is outside of what I am looking for I usually won't even look at the profile and I do not respond in any way. And I am like you Wicca. If I send a flirt or message I don't hang out for a response. I just keep going with whatever I want to do. I usually forget that I sent it and then when I do get a response I have to go back and check what I have done/said before. I don't take it personally if I don't get a response. This is just an online dating/hook up site and until you meet someone in person you have no idea what they are really like so why let it get to you. I also ignore Friend requests. ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I always reply and if it's number 10+, I may block them while I'm at it. ;-) I would prefer to receive a response myself too, though personally I always send messages instead of flirts as I think they're completely uninspired.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If it is a straight away "no I am not interested" then I reply straight away sometimes I have to think about it - not here to waste anyone's time so I suspend decision making for a while
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
If a paid member flirts me, they can get stuffed. If a grey ghost flirts me with no piccy, they can get stuffed too. If an interstater flirts me, they can get stuffed. If someone flirts that i am not vaguely interested in, yeah you guessed it, get stuffed. Any one else flirts i usually message if i have any left. Rarely send a flirt as a reply to a flirt. That could change if there was a flirt that said " get stuffed"
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RHP User
9 years ago
There was a flirt that simply said "Thank you".
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Insomnian
9 years ago
A fair while ago. Most people ( mostly guests I think it was ) stated they don't read or respond to flirts. Personally I think the choice of flirts could be improved, and half the time, if it's a flirt, it's usually from a fake profile.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do reply to those rare flirts but would prefer to reply in person but an upgrade isn't worth the time for me as I discovered when a member for several months. I really wish they had some nice replies to choose from or better still a minimum of a ten word reply. I realise inundation of flirts and messages can stop many from replying but in my opinion I just see it as common courtesy, just the same as recognising a strangers greeting on the street.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I'm not interested i wont reply to flirt...no reply is an answer. Particularly to a template icebreaker that isn't a question. If I'm interested...sure, I'll reply with a brief thankyou, etc message...allowing a reply to my own if they're a guest. It's like giving food to wild animals...if I don't want to encourage them, I don't feed them 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
The only flirts I don't reply to are the "I love your profile" ones, as I think there is no appropriate response for them. (Thanks, but flattery will not get you everywhere).
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indulge_you
9 years ago
I rarely send them and never expect a reply. Sometimes I get the "message me I am keen" type flirt. I send a message then no replay. That annoys me. I then just move on.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Since the new formatting I forget they are even there...xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
is a bit rude. Online interactions doesnt excuse poor etiquette in my view. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I usually send a flirt back when I get a flirt either to say 'no thanks or Yes I am interested. But being a guest when I get a guy who is only a guest flirt with me it gets very frustrating because we both cant message each other lol.So we can look but not play.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think most of them are well written - funny, cheeky :) in a good way :) I just had to send one to a member who commented on this topic I hope he likes it :)
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MysteryMr
9 years ago
Due to the volume of flirts I get being a single guy I reply to all of them. Even if it is a sorry I'm not interested. If I am interested I will always send a message back to get things moving. I don't mind getting a flirt back saying they are not interested. This doesn't happen often as I rarely flirt, I prefer to send a message as it shows you really are interested and have read their profile.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The only flirt that gets a reply from me is, "If I send you a message, would you reply?" I'll take the rest as a compliment, smile and move on. I used to reply to every flirt but found it to be a task after a while. If they're really interested they can message me and I will always reply, when I get around to it 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A reply back does not warrant an interest. Thought I'd better add it in before guys start flooding my inbox... Yeah, how I wish! 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Being new I found out not many reply and that is ok But as someone above said its nice to get a reply and doesn't take too much effort so I always reply.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'summer1616' Being new I found out not many reply and that is ok But as someone above said its nice to get a reply and doesn't take too much effort so I always reply. Being new, you may not realise that women get inundated with messages.Some can get up to 50 messages and 50 flirts a day.No one has the time to reply to them all.If they did there would be no time for meets and sex.It's not that they are rude, it just a practicality.Don't take the lack of response the wrong way and you will not be discouraged.Good luck for your experience in here.Annie
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MrPlayful
9 years ago
For me if a person can't be bothered reading my profile to see if I may be interested in them then no reply, unless I feel like asking them if they can read or if they have read my profile. Lol at one time I replied asking that and got a reply of, "Whoops, sorry 'bout that". If I am interested but their profile says they arent looking for a smoker (or are looking for something I cannot or choose not to provide) then I will politely let them know in case they missed that bit, just saves everyone's time. If they have read my profile then they will always get a reply whether that be a no thanks or otherwise. As others have said I find it common courtesy.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Treat em mean, keep em keen lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
I used to reply to all flirts when I first joined and soemtimes it gets very tiring and a big turn-off. I used to get tons of them everyday and in the end, just ignored them. I believe that if the guy is really interested in me and have read my profile, they will message me. I view flirts as a fishing expedition, and like anything free, it is open to abuse and no real value is put on them by the sender nor the recipient. IMO. What is even perplexing are PLATINUM members sending flirts!! Lol. I dont like meeting up with idiots so that itself is indicative of them. And to make it plain to all, I have written on my profile for people " NOT to send flirts" as I do not read nor reply to them.... And the couples, single men and women still send me... obviously they did not even bother reading my profile.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'indulge_you' I rarely send them and never expect a reply. Sometimes I get the "message me I am keen" type flirt. I send a message then no replay. That annoys me. I then just move on. Hi. just to clue you in that a while ago, i responded to flirts and the messages sent to me was just either 'Hi' or 'How are you' or the other type 'Wat u wearing' or 'How'd you like to be fucked'"? The first two, as much as it is boring as hell, i would reply politely giving them the benefit of the doubt they are shy. The last two types of messages do not deserve any replies. So what I am saying is that it really depends on the message you follow up with. The response to your flirt is an opening you need to capitalize on in capturing their attention and retaining it. It is up to you to close the deal. But of course there will always be some time-wasters everywhere, single men, women and couples. Good luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If we can be bothered to pay the money and make a bit of an effort now and again, others can too. Flirts suggest a lack of effort to me. Just because I'm a man here and not a hot commodity doesn't mean I deserve any less.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...I'm a man in the real world too, incidentally 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
It wouldn't surprise me if those were fake profiles set up by people (men?) hoping you'll add access to your private galleries when you reply. Quite a few pic collectors here I suspect.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I understand why some females find the flirts a pain but when I first joined and was not a member I used these things I felt as they were intended, to initiate contact and to see if there was interest. Once I became a member I did not utilise them unless for a bit of fun with someone I already knew. You know I sometimes wonder about the statistics presumed here that males must be lazy to use flirts or not worthwhile. My paying for membership and writing messages (and not the hi how are you type) didn't get me much farther than the flirt sending did. Odds are just not that good here. I believe the flirts have some credibility but are abused way too often for them to be taken mildly seriously.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Always reply to flirts and messages, except for the flirt that says "I just want to say that I loved your profile". There is no appropriate flirt to return for that particular one, so I just leave it as it is, unless the sender has a really good profile that catches my interest. Other than that flirt message, the rest I always give a reply back to let the sender know that I am not interested. And because I always reply, I too expect the same treatment in return from other people. Mind you, I hate those dominant flirt messages that say "you're exactly what I'm looking for, please message me I'm keen"........well, sorry but I'm not keen at all! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' Mind you, I hate those dominant flirt messages that say "you're exactly what I'm looking for, please message me I'm keen"........well, sorry but I'm not keen at all! The one that gets my goat is "I have some free time, contact me if you would like to meet". 100% Arrogance in my view. I suspect it may be the one sent by a certain innie-loving gent.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...and I have a 2450% reply rate for flirts. Not bad huh...? 😉 In about 2 years, that's 2 sent...must've been in the early days, when I was young and naive😁...and 49 received. Shows what I think of sending Flirts...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I often hear complaints from guys that their flirts and messages get ignored and I find if I don't reply, it's usually because they clearly don't match what I have listed I'm looking for in my profile (mainly the age bracket). The other complaint I often hear from guys is, when they do get a flirt that indicates "no thanks", they don't understand why. So maybe a message is better than a flirt.
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RHP User
9 years ago
So do we all need to bombard admin with requests for a "Get stuffed" flirt for Whateverway?
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RHP User
9 years ago
When you get flirts from another guest that you're interested in, maybe you should pop into the chat rooms and, if they're in there, chat to them there?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Welcome to our playground and thanks for the heads up that you're new in here. Some of us will try to be gentle with you at first, but I can't speak for everyone lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know there's a "sorry, that's a no from me" flirts, but I'd really love a flirt to say something like "Thanks, but you don't match what I'm looking for, good luck in your search". I do find it a little irritating when I get that flirt indicating I'm exactly what the sender is looking for, but the the sender looked at my profile, he/she would cleaerly realise that he or she is definitely not what I'm looking for.
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