T63
Flirts - Like em, Hate em. Improve them?
April 20 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just designed to shame guests to become members, the rest are just crass. Flirts need a serious rework if they are to be taken the least bit seriously. Not good enough.
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RHP User
10 years ago
They are a bit of fun. I wish there was one that just said Thank you. Or ".My, that's a nice package you have there!"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sometimes the flirts just generate themselves,go a little berserk after the initial one xxFreya
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sweetgem
10 years ago
1) Paid members who can send messages, but do not do so. Too lazy to compose a message perhaps? 2) Couples (as I've asked not to do so in my profile). I am not an unicorn, so please have some respect! It could be the male part of a couple that sent me the flirts, but still, I won't buy into it either! 3) Members who ignore the past history of flirts or messages sent! I will always check the history section before I contact a member. If I had contacted them before and they had said no, it's unlikely that they would say yes the second or third time round. At least I wouldn't change my mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Mmmmm.......you got caught up in the excitement of the chase and before you realised, pushed the send button with repeated nervous haste.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find them interesting, but some major rework is indeed necessary. For example: *Different flirts for males, females and couples (eg. Couples: 'We' just wanted to say 'we' loved your profile) or the package suggestion by kokoflamingo. It would add some dynamics to it, as we all flirt differently based on gender and number. In groups it should be 'Our whole gang wanted to say we all loved your profile. Gangbang?' Or 'Three questions, when, where and how many?' :p *Not having that beautiful heart poping up when it's a negative reply. It is soul crushing :p Maybe a sad face instead :( or a broken heart would be more appropriate. *Those 'sexy' ones need another label because they are anything but sexy :/ *An option not to receive them if you are a paid member and choose not to. I guess that would help many people here that hate it. *Maybe an option to block automatically on the third flirt if no answer was received? *Some new and more useful ones. Like, "I'm getting us wine. Which one do you prefer?" Haha ok I have no idea, but you get the point. Meh, I think I like them but maybe because I rarely get a flirt or a message. I can see that it might be annoying if you get 500 a day. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Already posted a comment about this on the venting thread that was going off and I presume why A.Whichway moved it to somewhere all those interested will be able to see. So the epitome of laziness is to copy and paste those thoughts . Before I became a paid up member I used two flirts that people don't seem to like just to see if there was any interest and because I could not write to anyone. These were I love your profile and I've got some free time. As a guest I see these two as the only way to try to connect but as a paid member just plain lazy and cheap. I still sometimes use the I loved your profile but only because I just wish to send a compliment and I can only send 5 messages a day and yes I did use these up fairly quickly to begin with. A free set of flirts purely for compliments would be nice to see.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I never send flirts. There's obviously no point. But they're pretty much the only way women make contact with me if they're initiating, so I have a soft spot for them. Like Sweetgem I also get flirts from people who don't really have any reason to think I'd be interested, but that doesn't bother me. They're hardly invasive.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Multiple flirts from the same guy/girl/couple. It states in my profile that I don't respond to them. And flirts from paid members just leaves me thinking "yeah, right, if you're so keen, why don't you send me a message?".
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like some of maybenow's ideas. Maybe RHP can start a 'your ideas for flirts' competition. The top 10 best voted (by members) get their flirt added to the list and some sort of (reward/prize) from RHP. 🏆
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just mass delete them - If i want your attention I will message you , I expect the same :) feel free to say no , not reply, whatever but a flirt says you are too cheap and too passive to catch my eye . - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
Oh jeezes - bit like the "Block" scenario. Never gonna happen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jaycee67' I like some of maybenow's ideas. Maybe RHP can start a 'your ideas for flirts' competition. The top 10 best voted (by members) get their flirt added to the list and some sort of (reward/prize) from RHP. 🏆 I think that's how the original flirts were chosen years ago? C'mon RHP!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no idea how they were chosen, Meander, but that is interesting and maybe time they did it again?
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inspirit
10 years ago
You should be able to write your own - 20 words or less. Something like that anyway. Make it for paid members only. Something has too give - right?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Correct me if I'm wrong, but Quoting 'Jaycee67' I like some of maybenow's ideas. Maybe RHP can start a 'your ideas for flirts' competition. The top 10 best voted (by members) get their flirt added to the list and some sort of (reward/prize) from RHP. 🏆 I think that's how the original flirts were chosen years ago? C'mon RHP! The flirts we have now are not the original flirts... But yes... The one's we have now were the result of a RHP comp in 2009, and the winners were posted only 3 days off 6 years ago. . http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/The-RHP-Flirt-contest-23616 . http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/FLIRT-CONTEST-WINNERS-23797
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RHP User
10 years ago
No, it happens with messages too..it's just a glitch...as for what the flirt actually says,I have care factor zero..sometimes I respond,it depends on the profile xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
and I really dislike receiving them from paid up members. If you have the ability to message me and choose not to, what does that say about your level of interest? I'm a paid member and if I want to get in touch with someone I send a message. If I'm out of messages I wait till the following day. It's not that hard. I rarely respond to messages from guest members. I used to have a hard and fast rule but now I'm being a little more flexible. Based on my results so far however..... I'm thinking I should have stuck to my guns...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' No, it happens with messages too..it's just a glitch...as for what the flirt actually says,I have care factor zero..sometimes I respond,it depends on the profile xxFreya Sometimes it takes a long time for the "flirt sent successfully" message to show, so it's easy to think the flirt didn't go through and click on it again... and... again. I saw someone do just that once and had to tell them to stop!
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On_Safari
10 years ago
It'd be nice if there was a "Thanks but NO thanks" one
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
what messages are available, it's still up to the person behind the keyboard to select something that's appropriate.For example, "...........what do you think of me" one where you're looking at a grey ghost with a lot of ask me's......And you don't want to waste a message just to tell them what you do think of them.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Freya79' No, it happens with messages too..it's just a glitch...as for what the flirt actually says,I have care factor zero..sometimes I respond,it depends on the profile xxFreya Sometimes it takes a long time for the "flirt sent successfully" message to show, so it's easy to think the flirt didn't go through and click on it again... and... again. Wish I'd been able to duplicate that when Meeka suggested one time (at band camp) that we swamp a certain OP with 50 flirts each. Took a loooong time....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' You should be able to write your own - 20 words or less. Something like that anyway. Make it for paid members only. Something has too give - right? A lot of messages dont run 20 words...Hi want a root ? Flirts will never be free form they will have to be selected content.
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
can we have just a simple "Thanks" The 'Thanks, flattery will get you everywhere' creates more problems than its worth at times. Also the response to Chat....there is no actual NO, just vague promises. A No thanks, dont want to chat would go down well I think.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' can we have just a simple "Thanks" The 'Thanks, flattery will get you everywhere' creates more problems than its worth at times. Also the response to Chat....there is no actual NO, just vague promises. A No thanks, dont want to chat would go down well I think. I keep getting chat requests from the same guys because I have no ability to say "I don't want to chat with you"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do you know how long it takes to type up a message to a hot girl who's profile I've almost read? One handed? At least 2 minutes! How about simplifying the task for us. Here's a few to get started: HiHi, are you DTF?Want some cock? Mine is ready!You look hot, wanna fuck?RU up 4 it?I've got nothing better to do tonight, you should come over and blow me. We all know every woman here gets 500 flirts a day. The time savings could transform the nation! Or at least let us use both hands on far more important tasks.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me they are simply a first point of contact (like a smile in the real world) but there is one that comes to mind that could be added ? Something like your hot you should do photo in amateur section... It could be directed at either males or females
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RHP User
10 years ago
I noticed that you can either send a flirt or message back. Tell me why bother putting the message one there as it is not free. Make that free and you could just say no thanks, yes please or whatever Max. 10 words. Would much prefer to put my own words to it
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
As Simon Says, simply put, we could reduce down to-: 1. (No) "Fuck off, not interested" 2. (Maybe) "I think i could talk myself up enough to make you think we have a connection and get into your pants that way" 3. (Yes) "I'm up for a root" 4. (All the way) "I'm ready to book the wedding" Maybe different wording for male and female applications......
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
But 10 words would surely be more than the normal amount of words i receive in a normal message. 10 words would equate to a short story for some guys in here......
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Sorry I'm just here for the forums"
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd reply with ten digits. 04........
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On_Safari
10 years ago
That's the best flirt response suggestion EVER!!! or another one perhaps "Sorry but I don't respond to flirts they wreak of fakery" oh and "Grey Ghosts please do not apply"
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RHP User
10 years ago
I find the flirt system a mess. And my own experience, I find it easier not to respond, because there is nothing suitable. . . But, a few suggestions: You’re popular on tinyeye. No this isn’t a cock pun. If you messaged me, it would end up in my unmatched folder. Enough said. Don’t make me say it, omg, you’re making me say it ...again, No attached people You’re a zillion miles away. Last time I had a pen pal I wore a bubble skirt and listened to Prince on tape. Either you’re not what I’m looking for, or I’m not what you’re looking for. Take your pick Easy tiger. I’m just viewing your profile, not hitting on you. <insert template rejection>
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RHP User
10 years ago
Love it!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Awesome suggestions HennaJay :D - Posted from rhpmobile RHP Editor - What makes you think we don't read the Forums? Suggestions should be made via our Support Centre though :D
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'RHP editor' RHP Editor - What makes you think we don't read the Forums? Suggestions should be made via our Support Centre though :D Well played.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Here's the link for suggestions for the site: http://redhotpie.com.au/Support/SubmitTicket.aspx Lets give RHP Ed what she asked for!
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RHP User
10 years ago
The mod who responded to my message is kicking the requests for a "Thank you" flirt and a new competition to come up with new ones to management.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
will be keeping things close to their chest hence forth, ready for the competition.............................
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RHP User
10 years ago
It doesn't matter if your a member or not tried that it all depends on the person you flirt with if they want to respond most don't so not much point becoming a member the response is still the same very little but they do need work - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I actually like the flirt lines here on RHP...they are smartly written :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wish I'd been able to duplicate that when Meeka suggested one time (at band camp) that we swamp a certain OP with 50 flirts each. Took a loooong time.... Ummmmm Yes and I still like flirts but they are a little cheesy. Having said that if everyone thinks they are cheesy then they are received with that consideration as Freya says. As for paid up members not sending messages....flirts are a method of starting the ball rolling, why upset yourself with such an approach ? Maybe I am totally unique but I see everyone as being a potentially interesting person to meet, they might not agree just by checking out my profile which is fine. - Limit flirts to 10 a day for guests - A couple of rejection ones (polite but no) - The simple 'if you are interested I will write back' is really all thats required
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RHP User
10 years ago
Don't mind them as an initial point of contact (as guests we don't have any other method of registering our interest in another profile). The selections are a little limited. Also, as guest members getting flirts from other guest members is entirely pointless.
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you want to talk to me, send me a message! They are a waste of time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
it does not matter what format they are, as in most sites like this so many of them do not get read or replied to just like messages
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RHP User
10 years ago
17 of the same flirt ... Impatient much! Messages are soooo much sexier
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hate them coz they need updating amd i hate that you never know if they have been sent properly which is why i get 5 of the same one from someone in a row!! Which is why i dont send them because i never know if it actually sent. Love them coz i can ignore them easier and i can just send a quick message rather than a full msg. Altho im not a paid member. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh how shallow I've become. I used to politely respond to all messages and flirts once upon a time, but nowadays, if a man sends me a flirt I just think 'oh you're married and don't want your wife seeing your RHP membership on the credit card statement'. So I don't even bother replying, most of the time. They're either too attached or too cheap for my liking - that's why my favourite response was 'sorry babe, if you can't afford a membership, you can't afford me.'
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RHP User
10 years ago
"I see that you have looked at our profile about 1000 times now, NO, we still are not interested in you". Why do single guys continually look at our profile when we have blocked them? Do they think that we are suddenly going to have a change of heart and unblock them?? MrsSAF (feeling just a trifle irked at the moment)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It really isn't that expensive to sign up for membership, if you cant afford that, than you probably can't afford the petrol to go and meet up, anyways I wouldn't bother sending a flirt, it just seems cheap to me.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I see your reasoning of I'm getting no action as a guest so i won't bother becoming a member. A flirt is generic and therefore wont portray anything personal to the recipient. However, as a member you can write a message that portrays something of you that well may catch their interest And therefore get a response. A small investment in success really. Plenty of threads in here that will back that up and give you ways to write that special message. Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'eatyou1969' It doesn't matter if your a member or not tried that it all depends on the person you flirt with if they want to respond most don't so not much point becoming a member the response is still the same very little but they do need work I hear that a lot. I've heard many guys say they tried being members, but go no more responses to their messages than their flirts. What some of them failed to see though (imo) was that what they wrote themselves was no more inspiring than any of the flirts. Messages like "Hey how r u" and "hows your day going" are in my view not going to increase a guy's chances, member or not.
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boots_69
10 years ago
As a paid male member you only get so many initial messages and the response ratio has been done to death in other forums . I use them to gauge a response and I oft use if I send you a message would you reply? The flirt answers could be better and perhaps a 'flirt' response for messages could be an option.
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abcplus1
10 years ago
...... messages also get very little response from the ladies here, and at other similar Web sites. They get bombarded with messages and flirts and both wanted and unwanted attention, so it is understandable, but no less annoying. Worse again we suppose are the ones that actually reply with interest, then either disappear or cease messaging mid conversation. A change in flirts will not change that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm sorry but so little effort is required to send a flirt that I don't even read them. :-( M x - Posted from rhpmobile
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Way of contacting yo see if tbey are interested. . Otherwise theres no point in sending a message especially if none of you ever reply. .. sometimes they dont work so you tap send again and they end up being sent a few times. And there's no reason in upgrading to the highest account just to only send messages becuase none of you like flirts. . Its arrogant..Especially when none of you even meet up or reply to the messages either. A polite response is ok.. why ignore?? Its rude.... sounds like just a ploy to spend more money to get nowhere really. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Genuinely curious. Why does not liking flirts make women arrogant? When a woman doesn't respond to a guy winking to her from across the room or wolf-whistling in the street, does that make her arrogant too? Is it arrogant to want at least a "Hello, my name is..."? p.s. There are plenty of us who always respond to messages, myself included, as long as they are respectful.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
with Meander. Used flirts when i first joined and got mixed responses But now I dont actively pursue guys. no need. And i dont often pursue women but i think every time i have messaged a woman, i have always got an answer. I find it strange that all these guys that have impressive pictures in their page cant lever any response from the ladies. Here i am, an old tranny and no trouble. So surely theres an issue of approach and content.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
The inspiration behind this thread came from a flirt from a male platinum member who having in his disposal 20 messages a day, thought that i was not worthy of one his 20 messages. At some point over the weeks since he got no response, he must have fallen short on who to message so i finally received one. A simple thing, the usual hi, nice profile etc, stretching no more than one line. I did a polite response. By the 3rd message i got back it was reduced to half a line, "can i come over and suck ya cock" 4th message consisted of " do you wanna suck mine?" So further in answer to Letusfrolic, yes you are perhaps right. Spending money on the top memberships may well be a waste of money ........for some. Some guys seem to be successful by being guests and using the flirts creatively and appropriately. Others can spend heaps and still miss the point of human interaction and communication. Its not whats in your wallet or in your pants. Its what between your ears.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is slightly off topic. But I'd love a message re-call button... The number of times I've hit send on a message then realised that I should have added something, fixed a spelling error or just changed things......
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RHP User
10 years ago
If your messages are of the "hey how r u" variety you really can't expect a better response than to a flirt. And yes, flirts from paid members are the worst for me. If I'm not good enough for you to spend a few minutes on, you're not good enough for me. You reap what you sow, simples.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What's worse than not getting a response or having the other person go AWOL mid conversation? Planning to meet them and either being stood up or discovering during (or even worse: after) your date what their true character is. Be grateful you avoided all that by finding out early. That goes for both men and women.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
recieve a very nice message that gets your interest. Send a very nice considered reply perhaps suggesting a direction toward a meet...... And it sits unopened in their inbox for 2 weeks..... Their interest is overwhelming. ....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
In one day, i get 2 flirts. One sent by a hunky guy that i had exchanged messages several months ago but never got a chance to meet. Another by a couple that i had a few messages with a few months ago but they went into radio silence suddenly. Sent both my standard nice template reply so they could message me and tell me what they were thinking. Both opened the message. Both hit my profile and i wait. And i wait..........and wait. Zilch. Neither responded. Surely they couldnt have cracked the shits because i sent a template. Perhaps they were expecting a more personal message?? But their flirts were impersonal. Sensitive fckers........
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