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Friend... or faux?
July 07 2015
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Not the topic but what section to answer........ Light bulb. I'll answer both. As a chick-:(br> No longer accept friend requests from strangers. Feel rude for saying no? Not really. I'm over the P's and Q's in here if you haven't noticed. Most of my friends are forum peoples who i have privately chatted and some i have met. So there's gotta be a connection of some sorts to get on my list. Not so inclined to put a fuck buddy on unless there is that same connection where you can converse. That eliminates 95% of guys right there. They cant string a personal message together to get a root in a brothel. Bless them..... As a bloke-: Surprise. Same reasons! l think i could work out a fake female just by the message But I think as long as they dont mind adding a faux chick, why should i.!! Annie
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RHP User
9 years ago
...sent a friend request. I'm getting about 10 a week at the moment from all sorts, but I'll only accept someone that I actually speak to regularly. Someone whom I would class as a 'friend' on here... In saying this, personally I couldn't really care for the friend system. For me it's almost like the validations...thrown about, and used as bragging rights for a lot of people. It kinda cheapens it, and therefore, the only thing I care less about than my own friends list (or validations), is everyone elses...
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Meander..... you know that guy mentioned in your topic...... sent a friend request to someone I know.When she asked him what he gets from collecting so many friends.... & why he does it, he replied...... (paraphrase)... .... "i don't.... they send them to me!" lol Of course they do.
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RHP User
9 years ago
... based on the majority of random friend requests that I've seen (particularly from male guests). If there is a phone number and/or email address written into the profile, it's being used more as a means of drawing attention to the senders profile to initiate further contact (should there be any interest), rather than having been sent with an expectation of having it accepted as such.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Have friends that I have either met or who I chat with ... But I do sometimes judge rope by their friends...eek you can't seriously be friends with him or her .Quelle domage ,Mon dieu!!! 😱😱😱xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
Meant people 😁
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Single_Guy4U
9 years ago
Ooopps, side tracked. Umm, ah yes. I agree with DP, don't send out friend requests unless I am actuall chatting to an RHP friend, and don't accept them (not that I have had too many, and mostly only from fakes) unless I am actually chatting to them and are at least semi friens even if haven't met.
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aussian43
9 years ago
I only send friend requests to ladies I have talked with. I don't see any point in spamming requests to strangers I will never interact with. The list probably gets perceived as a list of people who have screwed. Not really the sort of information I want to broadcast.
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ElleWould
9 years ago
Like most single women I've been sent lots of friend requests. I tend to decline them all unless I've met the person and do actually consider them a friend. I'll admit I do look at who is on the friends list of people I'm looking at. Partly it's to see if they're 'ok'. Partly it's because there might be someone on there who I'd like meeting myself and partly it's because I find the connections in social webs really interesting. I find enormously long friends lists improbable and therefore off putting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' ... based on the majority of random friend requests that I've seen (particularly from male guests). If there is a phone number and/or email address written into the profile, it's being used more as a means of drawing attention to the senders profile to initiate further contact (should there be any interest), rather than having been sent with an expectation of having it accepted as such. I'm also wondering about why people would accept these requests though. Looking back my OP wasn't worded great. There have been many forums on why people send friend requests, I'm wondering about why people accept them. I should have stuck with that in my OP.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Now where was I? Friends? Our friends have made a connection with us. I'm proud of my friends, just like I'm proud of my friends who aren't on rhp. MrsSAF xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
is quite long, I suppose. Its made up of people Ive chatted to, here in Perth and interstate, and people Ive met and remained good friends with. I dont care what other people think, if I like someones profile and they have no friends or 300 friends, that wont put me up nor down. The whole friends list/validations thing is a bit of fun , and being in Perth, a small city, most of us tend to have the same friends on our lists. If having 1000 friends makes Mr Whatsisname happy, who are we to begrudge him some happiness? Life is too serious at times. The friends Ive met off RHP are fabulous people, Im so glad I joined up,
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' he replied...... (paraphrase)... .... "i don't.... they send them to me!" I recently realised that a fair few fake profiles I came across had the same couple of male friends. It's quite possible the people behind these profiles send out friend requests, as a friends list may help them appear genuine. Which made me wonder: Guys, how often do you receive friend requests from women you've never spoken to? Now the reason I'm only asking guys this question: It's often been said here that men need all the help they can get and women can get laid with a template unverified profile and without so much as a photo (yes, huge generalisation to illustrate a point). So, do you ever wonder about their motivation for sending you a random request?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm FatCat....and fatcat's got friends!!!!! Fuck ya 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' If having 1000 friends makes Mr Whatsisname happy, who are we to begrudge him some happiness? No criticism whatsoever, and if anything good for him.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When someone sends a friends request that I dont know personally or otherwise is just leave them pending. I used to reject them then they would send another. I kind of do the same thing in the chat room when someone sends a private chat request i dont deny I leave it pending. Friends requests or validations are only worth accepting if you know the person well. Each to there own how they deal with these and I dont find it off putting to see what everyone else has unless its excessive I suppose. However I can say if Ive met someone I didnt like and I see them on a friends list of someone that is chatting to me well, I tend to steer clear.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'xKiwiBredx' ... based on the majority of random friend requests that I've seen (particularly from male guests). If there is a phone number and/or email address written into the profile, it's being used more as a means of drawing attention to the senders profile to initiate further contact (should there be any interest), rather than having been sent with an expectation of having it accepted as such. I'm also wondering about why people would accept these requests though. Looking back my OP wasn't worded great. There have been many forums on why people send friend requests, I'm wondering about why people accept them. I should have stuck with that in my OP. Rest assured, there was nothing wrong with your OP at all. I wasn't able to offer any insight to those questions as I don't send or accept them. I do, however, receive an awful lot and was interested to see if anyone would confirm my suspicion, that's where that came from.
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RHP User
9 years ago
we haven't met personally but we have talked to them on numerous occassions in the chatroom. We'd like to think our paths will cross sooner rather than later with them (yes I'm looking at you lilyorchid), but the rest are people we have actually met and we'd like to keep it that way. Much the same as Silk rather than reject them outright we leave some pending on the chance we might run into them in a social situation and they become our friends :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
1. ...cant say that I have ever received a friend request from someone whom I have never encountered in some way ..2. ... its sometimes hard to say ..... niet .... without feeling that you may offend someone that you have been talking to 3. .... it's a little like being 7 again ... ' will you be my friend' ? .... and that didn't go so well as I recall ... the longer your here the less you feel the need .... well, unless your friends !
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RHP User
9 years ago
accept or send full stop - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'Guys, how often do you receive friend requests from women you've never spoken to? So, do you ever wonder about their motivation for sending you a random request? I have only ever received a single friend request on this site in the last 6 months, and that was from a lady I was chatting with. The scammers seemed to rely on flirts to start communicating with their targets. A flirt would be more likely to encourage a response so they can start enticing you to their scam sites. But yes, women have all the advantages on these sites. They don't need to go hunting, the game comes to them. I always treat random contacts with some suspicion. Sometimes they are genuine, most often not. I find it pretty easy to identify the scammers, they all seem to use very similar scripts.
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inspirit
9 years ago
I have loads and accept loads because I like to think I am special. Hey it's great for my ego. We all know I have one and I do nurture it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I will only accept friend request from people I have met or conversed with at length. I'm also not a lover of Validations, I don't need the entire RHP site to know if I'm good at certain things, I know what I can do and so do my friends and that's all that matters to me. Each to their own, I don't judge who has xyz as a friend, I couldn't care less to be honest. Whatever floats your boat. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just got flirted by a guy with eight female friends, one of whom a swimsuit model (who lives in LA). So I just sent him a message telling him about this forum and asking if he would share which of them sent the friend request, and why he decided to add her. See if he responds.
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RHP User
9 years ago
He said: To be honest I think "she" did. I certainly have never met her. I actually haven't met anyone on my friends list yet! haha! I've suspected '(...)' was a fake for a while... Same as one of the others whose name escapes me. I did write to both & haven't had replies. As for why he added her: Why did I accept? I suppose I expected that they were initiating contact... Kind of like "bookmarking" for later reference I guess. I'd then forget about it & leave them on the list! Thanks!
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RHP User
9 years ago
...and the only one I've accepted so far( out of not many ;) was because we've chatted, met and I consider her a friend. This isn't Facebook, where the site bombards me with the online life, likes and dislikes of A Friend. I don't really understand the benefit of friend collecting here. Or does it behave like Fb...and inundate you with pics of this mornings eggs florentine on turkish bread and the like...?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Really? you serious? Of course not. Puerile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I only accept people I have either met or am speaking to. On here I have numerous requests sitting in pending purely because they haven't even made the effort to talk to me. I'm on another website and it states you must send me a message prior to sending a friend request .
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Insomnian
9 years ago
Most of you have seen me around. I've been on this site for a fair time, and usually like to keep to myself. This topic I find highly amusing ( Thanks Meander ) simply because I've perused many a profile, male and female, and seeing some of the friends lists, just makes me laugh. I've seen friends lists totally 1500 / 2000 etc etc etc and you just know it's complete and utter BS. Each to their own, I suppose, but why bother ? Seriously, IMO and that's all it is, my opinion, it doesn't do a decent profile any justice. Far as my friends list, I leave that to Facebook or my mobile phone.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Friend whores.... Ours consist of a simple 'to do list' some have been and some to do.... We don't accept friend requests, but we do send them....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I only send and accept requests with people I have actually met in real life.
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
I've given up looking at them, honestly I delete them when I could be bothered, but mostly I just forget about them. I accept friends request from people I've met in person, from someone I've spoken to extensively and a connection has been formed in one way or another, or from someone that I enjoy chatting too, who I want to meet, but haven't had the opportunity to meet yet, I do not accept requests from someone who I have had no contact or who I don't feel I know well enough....💋
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
These days, on social media sites, one is judged (it seems) by the number of "friends" one has, even if one has never met them nor had a telephone conversation with them. If one has a large friend list, one is seen as being popular and well connected. A positive attribute in a cyber world. We get dozens of friend requests , on here, from people we have never met. We also get friend requests from people who have not even messaged us before. We don't accept requests from people that we have not met. We generally don't even accept requests from people we have met. For some it's like the proverbial notches on the bed post - an advert of whom they have slept with. And we don't feel guilty for not accepting friend requests ..... Why should anyone feel guilty for saying no ? Currently we have 1 couple on our friend list. A couple we have met a few times but not played with. They sent us a request purely so that they can remember our profile name and as a means of contact re inviting us to a party. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Many friend requests come from newbies. Most think its the done thing as soon as they join. Flirts and friend requests. Learning curve for them. And i understand as its daunting when you start on here. Different for both sexes and those like me. Women are nervous and shy. Probably a little damaged. Men are wondering who they are going to fuck first on their extensive campaign. Me. Like a kid in a chocy shop Either way, we all start here alone and why not have some friends to start? So........ Send friend request Send friend request Send friend request And the experienced campaigners show little mercy.. Deny Deny Deny Gee.... she looks nice.....accept. message.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Reasons: When I first joined RHP I sent through a handful friend requests. Yourself included lol. I think my thought process was it would help integrate quickly into the RHP and would help develop dialogue. It's also a familiar feature that is usually the beginning of any social app/site. Anyway, no-one accepted my friend requests (forever alone) and as I stayed on RHP longer - I started to realise having a friends list on RHP doesn't add any value. It can also be a bit of a deterrent. Having a lot of users on your RHP friends list gives off a bit of a player vibe... OR, indicates too much time is spent spamming friend requests to new users. Criteria: I have accepted requests from users in the past, I would strictly only add people I had met and would delete people I hadn't seen online for a while. I think most people are like this. Right now, I am not adding anyone.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Gee if you had of sent me a friend request, i would have checked out your cock size.......and after i accepted said request, sent you a message....... Shallow Annie xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have sent mabey half a dozen to people that are friends in my real life. I accept requests from people I have met but also people I consider friends in the chat room(and what is interesting about that is that they tend to become friends in real life!). Like Ms Silk, if I get sent a request from people I have been messaging and may meet, I will leave them pending until I do. I don't accept anyone else, the list would be ridiculous. I think they work rather well, as many people have asked me for my opinion of someone on my list. I will answer honestly without going into detail, such as "they are fun" or "he's a stalker" or "best fuck ever!"
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RHP User
9 years ago
I LOVE the heading!.I've gone through several evolutions re: friends requests, since I was here on RHP when they were first introduced, lol..At one point, I simply accepted them all, then I began culling to people I was actually in contact with. Then I went without a friend's list at all for ages. .Now, I have a mix of people who matter to me more than others mixed with some random requests. .I am a bit picky about forumites in particular because their posts show up in my feed and it's the first thing I see when I sign in. I must remember not to follow links to posts titled Chev. It gets me off to a grumpy start for the day. :-Peachy
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inspirit
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Kind of like "bookmarking" for later reference , Bookmarking!!! Best I have ever heard! <<Goes off bookmarking. Now who would like to be on my bookmark list? Post your Comment
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Bookmark me. If you can handle me.....
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inspirit
9 years ago
Careful what you wish for. I do have self confessed lovers who errrrrrm ....................come back. Bless them
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You can confess all you like to whatever god you want to scream too. Ill give you 40 hail Mary's if you can handle it. I'm not an amusement ride.........
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RHP User
9 years ago
I never send a friend request until i start talking to someone and the conversation is starting. Then i ask if i can send a friend request - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think some people are confusing the friends lists with validations. If i had bonked everyone on my friends list Id be walking like John Wayne for the rest of my days. I havent met a lot of my "friends" because they are interstate, But I have some great cyber conversations with them, why wouldnt I add them as a friend? Everything gets taken so seriously these days.
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RHP User
9 years ago
annie, you crack me up!
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RHP User
9 years ago
annie, you crack me up!
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Seachange
9 years ago
nowadays I only accept friend invite if I have a connection with them personally or via chat ir msg. Random friend invites, which happens in daily basis mainly from couples and single men i have not spoken to, will be declined. Most of the people on my friend's list I have personally met. Some have become good friends and confidants, great friends. Not even sexual in nature and although they are interstate we are in touch in a weekly basis. I like well balanced people that happy and see the world in a positive note.. I had some friends I had to cull as realized they are not what they seem via further discussion. I have completely ignored them if they get aggressive. But not all my friends are in my friend's list. If they offer an invite am ok with that but rarely will I extend an invite. I know where they stand and no dramas. Earlier on in rhp I did send out a few invites Whuch i now regret. Lol. I am putting it down to newbie enthusiasm.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I try to come up with clever titles.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Most new profiles are fake - no verification or upgrade. So friend requests would really just build a faux network. I used the friend function initially but found no advantage. People I meet on here are limited so I know them and don't need to create a friend list to remember them. This isn't facebook. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' we haven't met personally but we have talked to them on numerous occassions in the chatroom. We'd like to think our paths will cross sooner rather than later with them (yes I'm looking at you lilyorchid), but the rest are people we have actually met and we'd like to keep it that way. Much the same as Silk rather than reject them outright we leave some pending on the chance we might run into them in a social situation and they become our friends :) PRESSURE!!! LOL. See you in Oct Perth meet and greet then... I better book my flights, pronto!!! Lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' Gee if you had of sent me a friend request, i would have checked out your cock size.......and after i accepted said request, sent you a message....... Shallow Annie xx Lol, Annie. I must have forgotten to tick the too fuckinig hot to trot option on the search filter.
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RHP User
9 years ago
We only 'friend' people we've actually met (and usually played with). There are a couple of exceptions on the 'played with' rule, but these are with couples we consider actual friends. We do receive requests from people we've never met, but we never accept them. Why is this? I guess it is a 'virtual personal space' thing. We don't want to let people we don't know into our personal space. Country Cpl xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' I'm not an amusement ride......... .........and you love it
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ajaussie
9 years ago
Good to talk and see how it develops.... But can be friends later on...so need to start talking and then friends
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RHP User
9 years ago
I recently joined rhp and just haven't gotten around to verifying my profile and I'm still trying to make up my mind whether to pay a subscription. I was a member a while ago but left to have a bit of a break. Off topic I know but I have added some friends from before and a couple of newbies. When you first join you get quite a lot of friend requests... I didn't accept very many. I personally like to meet the person. There I finally answered the question. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'uncut8thick' Most new profiles are fake - no verification or upgrade. How do you know most unverified guest profiles are fake? There are many people here on the forums with profiles like that, and I've met dozens of them at social meets. p.s. Welcome back, Smallmercies!
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'uncut8thick' Most new profiles are fake - no verification or upgrade. How do you know most unverified guest profiles are fake? There are many people here on the forums with profiles like that, and I've met dozens of them at social meets. p.s. Welcome back, Smallmercies! It took me a while to get my verification. I cared little about it, just didn't see how it would make a difference and lack of time. I got tons of friends requests from virtual strangers when I was not verified (rarely accepted). To test its validity, I got myself verified. I still get pretty much the same number of requests. Lol. As I said, I now only accept requests from people I have met via meets or socially, and chatted in the chat room.
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tylannister
9 years ago
On another site I have an account on, I was regularly barraged with contacts from obviously fake accounts. Maybe the scammers on RHP are better, but I think RHP's security is better. I haven't had contact with a profile here that I had reason to believe was fake. Seen a couple that were hinky, yes - but been contacted by them? No.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have re-joined after an absence and I know that men don't get the volume of requests that women do... This suggests to me that it's a way of getting that persons attention and hoping they'll notice. I had about a dozen or so friends and some did come TO me from ladies, but the majority were outgoing to ladies I had met a a meet and greet or had had interaction with on the site, for one reason or another, I think the answers are different for men and women...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I inadvertently sent one yesterday scrolling down an ipad! Oh the shame of it LoL Don't suppose we can cancel them from our end?
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