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Friend with Benefits ....
July 05 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
To me the word Friend implies that they're, well, friends. I've had a couple of Fuckbuddies (whom I always get on really well with, too) become actual friends over time and we do things together that don't involve sex. I'm quite confident these friendships will remain even if we stop sleeping together.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Friends first and foremost, someone I can go out with, stay in with, talk to and laugh with, sex is a bonus when it happens. And yes, still friends after I hope! Why not?
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Missb4u
9 years ago
the terms get blurred in here and both mean the same thing to many.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
is a prelude to a FWB in my book You can go from FB to FWB but you dont go from FWB to FB.And you can go from FWB to a Friend without Benefits. It's called marriage.......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Always. Sometimes, the friendships don't last after the sex stops, due to any number of reasons. But I'd like to think any FWB I've had, the relationships have always been about more than just the sex...and that sentiment has been reciprocated...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' And you can go from FWB to a Friend without Benefits. It's called marriage....... Haha so true. But it's not just a laughing matter, I know of such people in such marriages... I have heard of the following phrase from a woman: "I'd love a relationship, but I like sex too much". Back to topic, I think even a fuck-buddy will be friends to some degree, as I need to be able to get along with them in general, as I often spend a fair amount of time chatting before, and after, playing. Maybe not friends per se, but certainly friendly and communicative.
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inspirit
9 years ago
I prefer to fuck them first then sort out the logistics of friendship later. I say this, as I see no need for new friends if they are not, what I desire in the sack. I have enough friends. In thought though, I think I can honestly say I don't do friends with benefits too well. I prefer to call them FC's. (Fuck Colleagues) Bit like work Colleagues - you know enough about them to like them, though you don't want to be involved in their personal lives. So I guess to answer your question - It is all about the SEX! Of course you have be somewhat interested in other facets of the person - sometimes.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A FB is hey you free tonight for a fuck ? dont see or chat until the next time FWB whats that ???? most guys are to tight to take you out to wine and dine you with the build up of a fun night ahead , so i only have FB 's which doesn't happen often enough men always have excuses rant over
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RHP User
9 years ago
FWB is an insult to my friends that I don't have sex with. All my friends have benefits, that is the nature of friends. They provided joy, company, support, and more. I don't need to have sex with them to consider that they have benefits. Nor do I think there is a need to separate out those that I have sex with. Most people I know that use the term use it as a boastful expression, "My friend with benefits blah blah blah..." why cant it just be "My friend..." is there really a need to express the fact you have sex with them, or is it just a way to say, "I am having sex but am free to have sex with others." Why would there be a need to say that? Because I want to fuck you as well? Why not a friend that I fuck. Oh but that becomes the fuck buddy, the one I only fuck but is not a friend. Oh please that is even worse. Who cares, I don't have any FWB's or FB's but I have friends that from time to time fuck. I will not demean them with crass memes. The only term I regrettably have to use is Randoms, they are nameless, unknowns, never to be meet again. We met to fuck, it was neither good nor bad, but there is no desire to return, there is no chance of friendship.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Friends is very important and it is nice when u have someone to. Socialize with and sex would even be the best addition to it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
FWB whats that ???? most guys are to tight to take you out to wine and dine you with the build up of a fun night ahead I have a question for the women here. In reply to this post, and while it's still mostly on topic - In a purely Friends With Benefits situation, do you expect to be wined and dined, in the same way as if you were dating someone, or in a bit more of a serious relationship? I mean, if we're to break this down, generally if you're out to dinner with just friends, you wouldn't expect them to pay for everything...it would be kept relatively even...right? Does this change if you're going to be going home with the guy? And if so, why? Because on paper, if you change and use that logic, isn't that a form of prostitution...?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sometimes I pay, sometimes a pays and it all kind of evens out. That's with friends I see every week. Other more casual FWB - which I don't have ATM - it's pay your own way.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry. That should say. Sometimes I pay, and sometimes he pays.
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RHP User
9 years ago
and my take on it is that people are just fb's if the only reason you see them is for sex. (and Dr. p, my answer is no) you might have a couple of drinks, discuss random shit then fuck. If you get along well enough with them, sex becomes a bit more regular and you get to know more about them then this is when fwb's comes in. You might have bbq's, meet a few of their friends, do muggle stuff! sex is no longer the only reason, it's a benefit! sadly not everyone can do fwb's as emotions can come in to play. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'unicorn99' and my take on it is that people are just fb's if the only reason you see them is for sex. (and Dr. p, my answer is no) you might have a couple of drinks, discuss random shit then fuck. If you get along well enough with them, sex becomes a bit more regular and you get to know more about them then this is when fwb's comes in. You might have bbq's, meet a few of their friends, do muggle stuff! sex is no longer the only reason, it's a benefit! sadly not everyone can do fwb's as emotions can come in to play. - Posted from rhpmobile Pretty much the same consideration here, although Friends with Benefits don't always need to wait a long time before switching from Fuck Buddies to FWB... It's a matter of affinity and relationship objectives: If you feel you have connections enough to have respect and loyalty towards the person you are flirting with, you may consider her as a Friend With Benefit, for you will share more activites than sex. On the other hand a Fuck Buddy would be one you find attractive physically but not interesting enough to keep by your side outside of bedroom shaking.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, you are right. Usually when I go out with my FWBs we split the bill unless its a special occasion and they insist on paying. But in the end it all evens out because I will end up doing the same for them. LG
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'DoctorPercival' I have a question for the women here. In reply to this post, and while it's still mostly on topic - In a purely Friends With Benefits situation, do you expect to be wined and dined, in the same way as if you were dating someone, or in a bit more of a serious relationship? It must be because my people invented "going Dutch" (well, probably just because I'm a feminist), but that question makes me shake my head. Whether friends with or in a relationship with a guy, I'd never expect him to wine and dine me and I much prefer to keep things "relatively even", to use your words.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Love your definition, that's exactly how I see it too :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who the heck are you hanging out with?..Do women still expect that men will pay for dinners ,drinks blah blah?...and if they do,what does that say about their character and their attitude towards their friends xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love the term FC (Fuck Colleagues) MrsSAF
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RHP User
9 years ago
I always pay for my meals , drinks etc and I like to shout and buy drinks knowing I'm not a tight arse , but yes I like to be wined and dinned plus it's a night out instead of meeting just for a fuck , I like to be treated like a lady that I am Sally - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't treat my friends with sexual benefits any differently to my friends with non-sexual benefits with regards to who pays what... we keep it even, and that doesn't change if he's coming home with me or vice versa. It's a friendship regardless of what the benefits are :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
It is an interesting question actually. How often have I pushed a situation into friendship mode by insisting on paying my way when the guy may have wanted to take things into a more traditional dating situation and maybe even something a little more?
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RHP User
9 years ago
So that's why I've never been married! Rats.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...the words weren't my own. I just highlighted a phrase from a previous post, and it got me curious. Personally, I've always been very fortunate (or just have impeccable taste!), and any FWB's I've had previously have been exactly that....friends. With no extra conditions. But I know when some people see white, others see black, and everything inbetween, so I thought I'd ask the question... (with maybe a cheeky comment added for effect. I am a horses arse...) I can see there is a clear general consensus on the topic. Apologies Leo_Girl for using your thread for my own thought fodder...
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