Friends

December 09 2013

Hello all! Would like your thoughts comments about people wanting to be "friends"....To me, my friends are people I know well, love and laugh with..They come to my house, eat and drink with me etc..... On the w/end, I had a meet and greet with a nice guy......he wasn't obviously "into" me, which is not a drama....But - why did he get so antsy when I knocked back his offer to be "friends"?So many people you meet and don't click - I do not want to be friends with them allbecause I know (and they know) that we will not get in touch anymore (or less)!!!Is it just me???? or are there others out there that think like I do? Hope you all having a good day!

Comments

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Agreed Had a lovely looking female send me a friend request two weeks ago.(Well... the profile had a females photo in it anyway). Now... the interesting thing is this person had never communicated with me in any way, and... lived 3500kms away. I asked her if she was coming for a visit.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    yep, I can't see the point of offering to be friends if you didn't click. I think its done to cover embarrassment. I had one guy communicate with me for a number of weeks, then the communication dropped off so I eventually asked what was going on and he replied he'd "clicked" with someone else and was going to be spending time with them when he was in town, but if I wanted to be remain friends he'd welcome that. WTF? We'd been communicating around meeting up. To me it wasn't an invitation to a lifelong friendship.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    noone has the exact same interests and likes and dislike- maybe perhaps bit more empathy for the other person as all friends are different - bit harsh to not be friendly - friends take time

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'precious142' To me, my friends are people I know well, love and laugh with..They come to my house, eat and drink with me etc..... I will only add people as Facebook friends who I would let sleep on my couch for a month without a second thought. That's well under 50.And on here I will only add people I've met in person and who I feel are the same person in real life as they portray on RHP.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Geez mes, I thought I was a failure here too... hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... While stocks last... 😎

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    After some years of entertaining myself on here, i still only have a handful of friends on my profile . Reason is' unless I feel you are deserving of me or me of you. It won't happen. It takes more than just words and a request to be a friend if we never meet before. Having a thousand pictures of ppl you don't know , makes no sense to me. Besides' nearly all the ppl I meet here is face to face.. If we become friends its because you impressed me . By then , we don't need pics anyway ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That usually means I have met them several times, hp.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    To validate that I'm still a failure ? hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... While stocks last... 😎

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    With anyone that I haven't met, or have not made a connection with. Friendship is made... Only then it is declared on pie or stalkbook... hp xo 💌 In Melbourne for Xmas... wingman and playmate required... While stocks last... 😎

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Do you think the guy could have been asking to be "friends" as a polite way to overcome any feelings of rejection on either side because you didn't click? That's what I tend to see someone wanting to remain friends as. You both know you aren't going to talk again but it's better than saying "I find you unattractive and do not wish to have sex with you".

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'precious142' To me, my friends are people I know well, love and laugh with..They come to my house, eat and drink with me etc..... I will only add people as Facebook friends who I would let sleep on my couch for a month without a second thought. That's well under 50.And on here I will only add people I've met in person and who I feel are the same person in real life as they portray on RHP.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have meet some really nice people here that I call friends n yes meet some I'd hope never to see again (one lady only spoke about her c death sad thing is his still alive :( I've chatted via private phone numbers with a couple lady's n one I'd call a friend even tho I've not yet met her (hope to @ Sydney meet) is that wrong to build up a friendship via txt ??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have precious few friends, and those few are precious.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    I deleted everyone as I found out SOME people were using it to find out info about me. (WA is really just a small country town at times) Other friends you speak off. Nope, nudder, forget it. I have enough friends and it takes me years too catch up with them as it is.

  • precious142

    precious142

    11 years ago

    I know where you are coming from.....I have trouble keeping up with friends birthday and Xmas presents as it is......Friends and acquaintances and RHP men are all in a different category.....Appreciate everyones comments - glad to see I'm not alone on this!!

  • precious142

    precious142

    11 years ago

    methinks you are not understanding the post....While I consider myself a friendly person I don't want to make "friends" with every guy I meet on RHP or other sites, especially the ones who have no "connection" (for want of another word) - even more so the ones who have deleted me from their contacts!Gr8white - You both know you aren't going to talk again but it's better than saying "I find you unattractive and do not wish to have sex with you". I would prefer to say - thanks for the drink and good luck! - no need for people to bull**it to each other.....I'm not that thin- skinned that I cant handle rejection! (and a benefit of having broad shoulders......)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The more friends you have,the more fridges and couches you have to move on the weekend! Bwhaha Its a hard question to answer ,when you meet people on line they say they want to be friends but not to many really are ,seems to be a lot of " false advertisement" that goes on, on line... The amount of people i have taken out to dinner here who have said they wanted to be friends ,i have never heard from them again. SHAME on yous!!! bwhaha Must be the vibe i give out hahaha Dont worry OP i know where your coming from ! Dont try to understand them, or study there actions, just move along and place your energy somewhere else ! I am a pretty lucky guy ,my true mates/friends who i have met in the real world have always been there for me no matter what.Have know them since i was between the age of 5-10 and they are my "trooper mates" We still catch up regularly !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Ones who I have connected with on some level or other... I really wouldn't give a damn if someone was miffed that I wouldn't be friends with... why just today I received a friend request from a cute 24yo in Brisbane... not sure why though...? Maybe it's a she... S'nP

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Am I on your friends list? Lol. Um the friends I have here are people I enjoy, some I've met, some I've yet to meet. I know everyone on my FB friends list personally and IRL, and yes wgat is this shit where people accept random unknown persons as friends who they'll never meet. Haven't those people hears of Nigerian scammer's? Oh and people with excessively high numbers of friends in "Pie World".....whilst networking is a great skill; WTF really it just smacks of either desperation or rankness......NEXT! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    You often mention your footy years, so that just says to me that it was a time you enjoy looking back to. Do you still have your footy mates around, to tell a few stories back to those times? Mado

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I have precious few friends, and those few are precious. I agree with you Peachy.....why fill the bag with nothingness.....xknots

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'knots' Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' I have precious few friends, and those few are precious. I agree with you Peachy.....why fill the bag with nothingness.....xknots Even less than nothing sometimes xKnots...