Friends

March 19 2017

Question. I often get people asking to be my friend as a first contact which I find a little odd. As a guest is there any purpose/benefit to adding people as friends? For eg. Does it make chatting easier etc? Not sure what the point is and don't want to accept a friend request to find out? Ideas? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    In terms of function I believe it let's people know your bday and activity, such as forum comments, events you've signed up for, people you've rated as hot, if they're online or not, and maybe datefinder? People use the profile friends very differently. Some people friend collect, some people use it as an initial point of contact, some use it as a bookmark, for some it's people they've met and considered as friends or acquaintances

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I get friend requests from men as a first contact and I instantly delete them, not interested in collecting friends and I think it's weird if I don't know them, do they use a long list of friends like a brag book? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lively

    Lively

    8 years ago

    I often get requests too...wait, I don't...ever. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I am 56.. as my profile suggests..I have been on here since I was 50 :)been a fully paid up member since then.. AND when I was on here as someone else PRIOR..I had ONE friend for a month, and deleted that..I do not see any value in friendships here.. but, some of those whom I chat to regularly, are on my FB friends list.. IT is absolutely no one else's business on here who I choose as a friend... in RL OR on RHP

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Op friends are personal and one's that you usually know and who you can count on one hand or two if lucky.🖐 🖐 It's true people will promote friend's in different ways, be it Facebook, rhp or other. Am of the same feeling that the one's who are close to me or have my details and know how to contact me if Intrested. 😎😊 Personally I don't add any friends on rhp for there privacy and wouldn't even if I met them. 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hi OP If you want to keep tabs on what people do on here, you can add them to either hotlist or shortlist. You will see when the log in and any posts on forums they comment on/like as well as datefinder entry will show up on your screen. As far as I know, Friends work the same way as the lists with the added bonus of you knowing that person's friends, and perhaps based on your level of trust, makes approaching someone easier. Perhaps the idea is that it is safer to approach a friend's friend than a total stranger. Shrugs. I usually ask first before adding anyone as a friend. Some have said yes, some said no.

  • Eiliethiya

    Eiliethiya

    8 years ago

    The only people on my friends list here are people I've actually met in person. Not complete strangers.And despite my profile saying something along the lines of:"I won't accept 'friend' requests from someone I've never spoken to or exchanged messages with, let alone met" ... I still get friend requests from time to time from random strangers I've never messaged with or spoken to.I don't think there's a specific point to adding friends, or having friends here on RHP. But it can possibly act as a verification to others that you ARE a real person.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    As Pepper said, people use 'friends' on here in different ways. No right or wrong way, find what works for you. All of the friends on my profile are people I know in real life, and are real friends who I communicate with outside of Pie. I say in my profile that I wont accept requests from people I don't know, and still receive several friend requests a week from complete strangers. Depending on my mood, I either delete or block Welcome, hope you enjoy the ride :)

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    But one does not want to appear "friendless" around here nor appear to be a newbie. Most of mine l have met. There are a couple of peeps l haven't but l notice I'm their no 1 friend and don't want to desert them. I'm too soft.... 42 friends. Hope l don't appear to be a little "loose".....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I have mine so I have a one stop shop to the hottest pics on Pie Kidding. 'cause I love 'em

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    My friends are simply like minded people I have "met" through the forums, we chat privately to have sensible conversations or pursue an interest without the white noise generated by the forums.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...the "Friends" function is of far less importance than it is in Facebook, for instance. I have one friend here because she requested it, and i see it as a harmless request. I've never requested "Friends" in my 3 odd years here but I HAVE friends...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' But one does not want to appear "friendless" around here nor appear to be a newbie. Most of mine l have met. There are a couple of peeps l haven't but l notice I'm their no 1 friend and don't want to desert them. I'm too soft.... 42 friends. Hope l don't appear to be a little "loose"..... You're my kinda loose

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    8 years ago

    You're a helpful bunch. Will resume my quest for real life friends

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    8 years ago

    then posts come up with Tara on our mower in the stream, real time, think i put her on our hotlist too. Mado Mado Tara xx

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    I put myself on my hot list, so l can see what I've been doing. Attention span of a goldfish.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    That's a brilliant idea! *rushes off to add self to hot list*

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    i only add those i actually know . It means i get notified when they comment on topics etc.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Works a treat. Problem though when you start stalking yourself.....

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    8 years ago

    I know everyone on my friend list, yes get random unsolicited ones and I think that's inappropriate; I mean you don't go classing complete strangers in real life as friends do you? I think some people will vet your friends list to see who, if anyone; you have in common. Some people may decide to contact you based on that OR avoid you like the plague. People are strange...... Unlike Annie I'm not quite so loose, pelvic floor Annie; be good to your pelvic floor!! 😘 ~ Indy

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    8 years ago

    Sydney Meet & Greets are awesome for "coming out of the closet" and making your debut. Brissy, Melbourne and Perth also have forum member organised ones 👍🏽 then you can add friends who are actually people you've met and spent time with 😎 ~ Indy

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'On_Safari' I know everyone on my friend list, yes get random unsolicited ones and I think that's inappropriate; I mean you don't go classing complete strangers in real life as friends do you? I think some people will vet your friends list to see who, if anyone; you have in common. Some people may decide to contact you based on that OR avoid you like the plague. People are strange...... Unlike Annie I'm not quite so loose, pelvic floor Annie; be good to your pelvic floor!! 😘 ~ Indy Assure you l have an arse that matches the goldfish attention span. Tight as.... Problem at times

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    8 years ago

    You would be assured of a good time :) Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Works a treat. Problem though when you start stalking yourself.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Hi, I wouldn't contemplate sending a friend request out without a lot of conversion via messaging or meeting up and getting along ... That said, not all the good friends I have met through the site are actually listed as friends Have an awesome day - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I hot listed myself after Mado mentioned it, but mine ws years ago. Thanks Mado for being the mad genius you are. Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I think people think it is the thing go do, I know I used to when it first came in. Some people seem to like to friend collect, more power to them. We all get off on different things. Some might want to give an appearance that they are more popular than they Are? Some people might want to make a first contact that seems more positive than a flirt. I dunno, it's the done thing on facebook and I think that beginning attitude set the scene for how I viewed it after friend requests were introduced on our profiles here. I know a lot of people at the time of the 2009 RHP update thought it was very facebookish. Cheers, Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I think that "Friends" are largely irrelevant in this place because most, if not all of us, are hiding our true identities, our real lives, our families, our day to day, all of it. On Fb, for example, our "Friends" are a huge part of what makes up our daily news feed. The algorithm, the Program must be very clever by now. We see their lives, some more than necessary, we see their likes and dislikes, their families, we get an idea of what sort of sense of humour they have...everything they choose to represent them. Whether that's their "real life" is irrelevant i think, but that speaks about them, too. And they see those snippets of me that I choose to reveal. It's fascinating. This is...primitive. 😊

  • PurePeony

    PurePeony

    8 years ago

    I'm with Koolgrey on this. Facebook, to me, is very "official" and "political". I have my family, ex-schoolmates, ex-coursemates, colleagues and friends from different social and professional circles there. I am just coming to terms with my sexual libido and inclinations and because of that, plus my profession, my culture, my social circles, I have to keep the RHP aspect very separate and very covert. It's hard to totally discard a lifetime's worth of social conditioning and such. The beast still lurks behind closed doors and dungeons and hasn't quite ventured out into the backyard yet. I have made friends from RHP but most of them do not appear on my Friends list, and I prefer to keep it that way. It's a secret support network of sorts that I value and keep close to my heart. There's no need to disclose everything here. Besides, I love covert stuff, get thrilled by conspiracy theories and my eyes light up with all manner of Secret Squirrel Business! PS. If you are single, male, taller, intelligent, emotionally available and you are skillful in wielding your preferably large truncheon, I might just consider accepting your friend request. We may not be friends IRL but Pussy and Penis might just become Bosom Buddies, who knows! Penis might want to get all the way inside Pussy to unravel her hot, steamy mystery whilst Pussy might wanna hug Penis real tight and persuade him to trust her and surrender every drop of his sweet nectar. Good friends on RHP can cum help to extinguish the raging fires on Horny Hills. It might take a while for the fire hose to extend long enough but the pressure from the fire hydrant soon unleashes a gush that floods the surrounds and puts out the fires, making it all very hot and steamy! OK... I should stop and go distract myself on YouPorn. Sorry, OP... I kinda got dis-sex-ted there!

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    8 years ago

    It got pretty poetic and epic by the end LOL. Hope you find lots of friends OK... I should stop and go distract myself on YouPorn. Sorry, OP... I kinda got dis-sex-ted there!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I just wonder and ponder as I like to do, it's all supposition about the whys and wherefors of people sending friend requests to complete strangers. I wonder at the mind set that encourages something that seems to happen a lot. Thassall, Peachy