Friends son, friends daughter - off limits?

April 30 2015

Following on from the recent thread of younger men seeking older women, I want to throw it out there, the topic that an Australian movie called "Adore" was based around. In the movie, 2 life long long female friends in their 40's find themselves having a secret affair with their friend's son who are both in their early 20's. So i ask the question, has anyone had a relationship with a friends son or daughter?And what was the aftermath and fallout if it was exposed?Other peoples views on that arrangement? I am wondering if people here will swing a single or double edged sword?With that I mean will it be more acceptable for a son to be considered more fair game than a friends daughter which maybe could be viewed more predatory? And let's really ramp it up by throwing in same sex relations with a friends offspring or is that off the scale?

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    She had a wide circle of friends who spent much of their free time at my place. Not one but 3 different males friends of hers offered to show me a good time ... pppfff. Personally the thought of fulfilling someone's MILF fantasy turns me stone cold, especially when my daughter had previously dated one of them. He had a mother/daughter thing going on in his head and that's where it stayed. LG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    We used to have a mother and daughter duo who were both very active on the forum and both had very strong opinions. It was strange to me to see them comment on some things, for example discussing cocks and cocks size and how they like it. Not something I would discuss with my Morther! I know they would consult each iter about the men they were talking too... Just in case there was a double up! ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If there's grass on the pitch, let's play!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I had grass on the pitch when I was 9 years old.... Mind you I always had older men trying to pick me. Loved seeing their horrified faces when I told them I was 10 years old. Mwoahahaha. I was a bit naughty then. :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Pick me up that should say **

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When an old dude would come and chat me up, at the each for instance, I would take great delight in telling them my age... After awhile. I didn't actually do anything with any of them!!!

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    That statement is ...........well i dont have to say. Id better get some popcorn organised.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think you may have started a dangerous topic here . I did enjoy the film Adore. But for me I just couldn't go there. My friends kids are like little brothers and sisters to me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I was being facetious

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I was in my mid thirties I lived with a man who was twenty -one..it was a small country town and his family were horrified...but his mother and I became good friends..when I left to pursue a job in another town his parents wanted him to come with me but we both realised that it just wasn't working.xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Although it's flattering to be voted The MILF by my kids uni mates the age gap alone keeps them off limits. It would be worse if they were a friend's offspring...almost incestuous.

  • nattyocean

    nattyocean

    10 years ago

    I had a relationship for about 18 months in my mid 20s with one of my mothers friends who was her age. Wasn't someone who had known me growing up though, and when we met it was like two moths to the flame and still ten yrs on I think fondly to that time as I learnt so much about myself during that time. I recall my mother stalling us meeting cause I suspect she had an inkling there might be a spark oddly enough. But it's certainly not for everyone and I certainly don't have a thing for older guys, just that one - was a mind connection more than anything. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A DOW like me has limits. Friends kids.......almost incestuous. My pref age is 35 upwards, although I have deviated, and I actually have a friend who has a 35 year son. No, no, not at all!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ..... reckon that this could lead to trouble in paradise .... I have have a house full of late teens and early 20's ... and live in lovers ... hormone cocktail ... which is very heady sometimes ...... (also empty fridge/ beer fridge/ no fuel in the car ..lol) ..... but I think that it would rapidly dissolve to tears if one was to take them up on their flirting ...... the 'young' of every species 'practices' grown up behaviour .. flirting etc .... but it doesn't make them 'ready' .... and in a familial context ...explosive ..... but hey guys ... isn't it flattering !! .... having said that ..... I have done a revisit to friends mom several years later ..... unfinished business ;) U42

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    An Australian fashion designer had a relationship with Danton Hughes,the son of art critic Robert Highes..she was a close friend of Hughes and had known Danton from when he was a baby...sadly Danton committed suicide .xxDanton

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    In Australia it is legal to marry your aunt or uncle but not your step siblings if you have grown up with them..even though you're not blood relatives,xxFreya

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    10 years ago

    Let me put it this way.......if I had a daughter and one of my male friends hooked up with her, I would unfriend that friend instantly and stopped all communication with his family too, when their affair exposed! I would not cut my daughter harshly because, that would not help to solve the situation!........that's my view on the arrangement of friend's son or friend's daughter. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    they always try and and be a mate with their kids, or a friend of sorts. Your not a mate / friend. Your their parent!! Silly post, and no surprise - the responses are as you'd expect. Like sands through that hourglass,. What a little circle this clique represents.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Leo_girl' She had a wide circle of friends who spent much of their free time at my place. Not one but 3 different males friends of hers offered to show me a good time ... pppfff. Personally the thought of fulfilling someone's MILF fantasy turns me stone cold, especially when my daughter had previously dated one of them. He had a mother/daughter thing going on in his head and that's where it stayed. LG

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    This may rattle a few. When i was 21ish, i was starting a new life as a male, recovering from life as a TS. Met and was friended by a couple in their early thirties. They had children, one being a daughter aged 10. {Wait......im setting the scene...} 2 years later i married someone and we all remained good friends although we did not see them a lot. Their daughter had a teenage crush on me and i must stress there was NO attraction to her on my behalf. Roll on 10 years or so. Through a very messy separation and divorce, contact with the family ceased for a few years. A chance meeting at a new years function where the family was attending. I was 33, the daughter now 22. A very beautiful girl and very sexually awake. We had a relationship for a few months. Her parents were aware of it and didnt have a problem with it. We lost contact for a few years until a chance meeting at a party. By now she was a single mother With a 12 mth old and very keen to get together again. Went to meet her parents again and it was like an interview with the 3 of them to see if i could be a suitable father. I left in a hurry and never went back. But i still see the parents around the area every few years. The only fallout from that relationship was my ex wife who was far from impressed. But then she was hard to impress at the best of times.

  • Bazingal

    Bazingal

    10 years ago

    But no, I would never "go there" with a friend's child, nor a friend of my child.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    had a mate get his sons girlfriend pregnant!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Friend and colleague, whom I've known for over a decade, has a son aged in his early thirties. I see him maybe twice a year, and every time we meet he tries to chat me up. This has been going on for pretty much the same length of time. Just the thought of sleeping with him makes me feel ill, though surprisingly my friend (who found out only recently) doesn't seem to have an issue with it.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    The question must be asked, would you feel the same way if he wasnt your friends son?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My long term partner looks far younger than her age. There's a few here that have met her - bet you wouldn't guess she has a 20yr old daughter. There's been a couple of the boys around over the years that have obviously had a thing for mum, although none have been bold enough to do anything about it. I'm probably a bit scary. Some of the girlfriends are very nice to look at. One is now 21 and quite interesting to talk to as well, but that's definitely all. Anything more would be so weird for everyone. Hmmm, maybe ask me again in 10yrs...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I still wouldn't sleep with the guy if he wasn't my friend's son as he is not my type, but in that case the thought wouldn't turn me off half as much.

  • LightCatcher

    LightCatcher

    10 years ago

    It does seem quasi incestuous - not the age thing necessarily but the nature of the relationship ie almost niece/nephew like when it's the progeny of your friends. Beyond this my rule of thumb with all relationships is never embark on a sexual connection with someone who you may need to have an ongoing relationship with in another context ie no progeny of friends and no work colleagues.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    What a nightmare!! What happened? Was he forced to marry her? Please don't tell me he was already married? How old was the girl?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Would you feel as strongly of it was your son and a female friend?

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    10 years ago

    I made the previous comment based on my current age and life experience, so if it was a son with a female friend, my reaction would still not change regardless! Thank goodness I don't have kids yet and so I don't have to worry about this kind of thing now lol but who knows how I would take it when I reach my 50s, which I would be by then if I had children. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    I do agree with your point. But i think im too easy or somethIng. I had a long history years ago, of engaging in sex with my friends housemates as well. Serial offender. House warming were always a special event for me. And then after a while, it was too uncomfortable to visit my friends hntil they shifted or the housemate shifted.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Hilarious film but in real life a recipie for disasters. Friends kids or kids friends both a big no no for me. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • LightCatcher

    LightCatcher

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Any_Whichway' I do agree with your point. But i think im too easy or somethIng. I had a long history years ago, of engaging in sex with my friends housemates as well. Serial offender. House warming were always a special event for me. And then after a while, it was too uncomfortable to visit my friends hntil they shifted or the housemate shifted. Haha - yes I did the same thing in my 20s with girlfriends friends and housemates - took a succession of disasters to formulate my rule (why are housemates invariably so cute!!) Love your statement about housewarmings - such fond memories

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Not friends daughters, my nieces best friend.