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Friends with Benefits... F Buddy... Rules of engagenment?
May 14 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
No rules,except to be clear with each other about what your expectations, of your particular relationship are. If you are seeing other people, be honest about that.If you are wanting dinner and a movie,be clear about that.Only you and your FWB can sort out the parameters of your relationship. However emotions may and probably will become involved,it is when one person feels more,wants more, that relationships become tricky. All about you.All up to you.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Friends with benefit rules. Do you stay the night? Only if its in a five star hotel and the other person is paying, or if their parents are ok with you having a woman as old as them in bed. Do you do dinner and a movie? Yes dinner is eating me, the movie can be “the extra man” for those with a little kink Do you meet their friends and family? Sure most men love to meet your friends, so they can ask if they can fuck them. Can you have sex with someone else? Of course that is the benefit of RHP, its not like your engaged , and you can have sex with inanimate objects as well Do you not talk at all and just.get to work and go home? Its rude to talk with my mouth full, and the job is not over till the fat lady , cries out ooooh god! That would be me :). I guess it depends if your wife, mother, drinking buddies, softball team or any other medical emergency comes up then yes blow and go. But remember how many relatives you have as cant have a dead granny used five times in a row , as your reason to leave. Do you break up? No honey, you just look at the women as you zip your pants and say I will call you same thing. Do you set a time limit on relationship. Yep 15.3 Min and it took that long cause the guys zipper got stuck for a while.
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RHP User
13 years ago
TR lmao xx Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm sure that's not the norm for one of your rendezvous. I know that you and I don't share much in the way of benefits, being as there is an entire continent dividing us, but I promise to be your friend for the rest of my life. ...Both weeks.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're in a situation where you are having so much fun as you say, I would love to be in that situation, but then what I don't understand is the part where you say 'but we know we could never be long term'. Is that your opinion, is that her opinion or have you both actually said that to each other and agreed on it? I think that will determine most of your answers.
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RHP User
13 years ago
the two of you make the rules from the start whatever you are comfortable with then thats your rules what works for on FWBs might not work with another so communicate and see what you both come out with Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
are two different things
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RHP User
13 years ago
tuscanred I like youI should copy your answer and keep it. I was laughing so hard. Wow super, thank you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
The friends part is what comes first, and the boundaries need to be set from the start.As friends you would have normal conversations that don't involve sex. You might go out for a drink or a coffee but "dinner date" is a no no.Forget their friends and family, and don't involve yours.Of course you have sex with other people, there's no commitment here, but let them know you are - if they have a problem with that, they're selfish, they just want sex but they must be prepared to share you.You don't break up, you're not in a relationship, you go on with your life.Set a time limit? It's not a summer romance, it's meant to be a friendship first and foremost. They're not a priority in your life. You just go with the flow, meet when you can, chat as often as possible and appreciate your freedom.
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RHP User
13 years ago
1. Yes if you want to 2. Yes if you want to 3. No if you do you have progressed to another sector . Look up Relationship for the rules once here 4. Yes 5. No set ruling here common sence will prevail 6. No you just stop 7. Yes the rule books states 36 years and you must Stop for 1 month to start again or go to the rulle book mentioned in 3
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RHP User
13 years ago
Except for dinner dates....your not dating....so dinner is fine. Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
FWB is close to a relationship, a SHORT-TERM, faux relationship/fling. Clinginess can be a problem. 2 months maximum. I think it's very close to a relationship, except they don't share a place, scrub each others loos or do the laundry. Flowers, yes. Dates, yes. Meals out, yes. Meals in, yes. Travel together, yes. Entertainment, yes. Meet family, no. Meet each others pets, absolutely. Affection should feature prominently in FWB when being physical, but sex shouldn't be expected every time they meet up. If they've had dental surgery - lay off, no need to impose 'cos you're horny. Of course, yes, you can have sex with others, but if your FWB is adamant about safe-sex then you should not poke everyone incl him/her w/out protection - that's disrespectful. If you must have unsheathed intercourse, then choose one person to be the one so that diseases can be contained at least?!!Make it clear how often the other should expect that you will or won't be texting, msging after work. I recommend not to start the FWB with too many msgs as it's just constant LOL. Watch your text bill sky-rocket. FWB's not the easiest set-up, but suits some people better who don't wanna feel like a free prostitute with no emotion shown toward them. And yes, set a time limit. 2 months is ample. That's enough time to have a fake relationship before one or the other packs on 10 kilos & gets too comfy. Then change your phone number or take out an intervention order LOL
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just re-read your title & will re-iterate what has been said: FB and FWB are well & truly 2 different things. The former is a NSA fling & not much more than pure physical, when you meet-up it is only for physical pleasure. The latter is a short-term faux rship whereby more emotion, time and affection is invested & it's rude to impose sex on the other at every meet. Blur the lines between the 2 and someone will be left crying...
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RHP User
13 years ago
man it was a serious question, but im having such a laugh at the answers.. .... LOL Well i have one night left of our fwb fling.. ... so wish me all the best that i can give her a nice fairwell gift and i hope i can give it to her at least 3 times.n :)
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