Friends with benefits

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  if you have a good relationship with them now, and you've talked about it before and not just done it in a drunken/spur of the moment scenarion then I think it's totally fine and can often improve the friendship... having said that... I've no experience with it myself, just my thoughts and feelings.   Wayne   I get to wear the t-shirt now... ;-)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  hard to comment really. Just be careful. Sometimes I think it best to have sex with strangers who become friends

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes we discussed this one a long time ago, and decided, this was a no go zone! We think the risk of damaging the friendship is too great, and will certainly alter the dynamic for ever.For us its Sex first then friendship if it happens, not the other way around!Cheers Nev

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  how unusual question ..for couples ..anyway I wonder is that question of morality or just apsolutly pointless question , cos jumping beds with other couples is just basic life stille of swingers , driven by attraction and desire at one particular event so you cant put predujice in front of open mind and desire  , cos you missing ..I would say ..the most important.......soooo,  dont worry about it you cant blame yourself ......  ever.......for somones good time .

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think daytimelover has the answer...much easier to have the sex with strangers and the friendship will come from that...you are on the same wavelenght and met for mutual cause/reason...if that worked the friendship will happen If you have sex with friends could be the end of a great friendship I would think but as we all know and you are all saying "it didnt happen to me" yeah always exceptions ..but be careful and look after your friends they are the ones that will be therefore the longhaul sex partners move on

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We to always said we would never swing with friends but 1 new years a few years ago after quite a few drinks 1 thing led to another and we ended up swapping parteners ,was great on the night and not as bad as we thought the next time faced them (thought they might not want to know us) in fact they were real keen on doing it again at any opertunity but as time went on the hubby kept getting keener and the wifes interest started to wain .Now the wife doesnt want to have anything to do with us because hubby keeps bringing up the swinging and she wont have a bar of it so we have in fact lost a couple of good friends over it . This might not happen to you and could happen with any couple you meet I know but it hurts to have lost a good friend because they are just scared (even though we have continuely reasured them that it wont happen ) of what could happen .

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi friendships change over any number of things, over the years I have experienced this and often wondered why, what changed, but then accept it and go with the flow, in your case it was more personal and intimate and it appears that the only way to avoid the underlying tension was to remove the contact. Shame the hubby could not see it, but then again lust is a very strong power. I once asked this question of another lady I knew was swinging with her husband, because I was trying to work out a way to broach the idea with my wife. But her comment was be very careful, if it is not in her mindset then it would mess with her head. My wife is as straight as they come, won't give oral, enjoys receiving and missionary is the only position for her. Once put on a cock ring with vibrator to change things up a little and after she stopped laughing, told me to turn it off. You may guess that I never broached the idea of swinging. Dzynr

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  How are you going babe? Im mike from the north sydney area, would you like to chat sometime? Come say hiill show you some pics!!xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi guys   Well from our experience it is too hard to be friends first then have sex later...  We had a couple that we had known for years as friends and then one night things got out of hand and all seemed great on the night actually it was fantastic.. but the other couple became nervous that this would become the norm and we started seeing them less & less. I asked the other M if everything was ok and the reply was all about taking the moral high ground.     Sometimes its just best left as a fantasy hope the outcome is different in your situation!   D & R xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ...these naughty pups have had two such experiences with two of our closest couple friends. On both occasions nothing was planned or discussed, it all happened in the heat of the moment. Although we had fantasies about both couples we would never have planned to go there as we'd never risk these great friendships. So what happened? Well we're still very close with both couples, as close or closer than before. Did we go there again? No. We had a laugh about it the morning after and were all very pleased to have explored but no one has wanted to go back for seconds. I think if you continued on with a sexual friendship it would definitely alter the friendships and wouldn't be worth it.It's a lovely memory to have though!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  we have had sex with some very close friends over many years. it does change each other responses to one another but how you deal with it determines the future with the friends. Like everyone else we had too much to drink one night and the gear can off. well that started it off and we did have a number of play dates. we were fortunate that they did live an hour or so away so distant did make it hard to see each other regularly. after swapping everytime we caughtup, that did slow down to eventually stop. this did not stop us from being friends and we still see each very regularly and we still consider them very close friends. the playing has basically stop now but every now and then we either play seperately or as couple. has the relationship changed,..........yes. I think in many ways we have become closer. would we recommend it, not sure it is very hard to say as each and everyone of us will react differently to it, having said this we have had a ball with them in and out of the bedroom while we enjoyed the "benefits"

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Our friends are off limits to each other.  However, if I was interested in a male friend of MINE or Mr Urge was interested in a female friend of HIS... hmmmm.  I'm not sure if that would create an uncomfortable situation between those friends should it develop into MUCH more than just sex between friends.... especially if they are very good and close friends.  Could cause a bit of a mess.  Perhaps don't shit there either!   Mrs D

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