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Friends with benifits or no strings attached
February 26 2013
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
I am ultimately looking for a fuck friend or 3! But in between finding them I do a fair bit of the meaningless sex in between and it doesn't get to me at all if they don't contact me again...as I usually do it to them anyway! When I'm horny all I want is a fuck...I don't even care if we don't say a word to each other (Random Sex)...LOVE IT! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a more sex with substance kind of guy. I like having sex compliment the friendship....as meaningless sex can be found in brothels....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ThunderBuster'I'm a more sex with substance kind of guy. I like having sex compliment the friendship....as meaningless sex can be found in brothels.... Im kinda looking for the same thing..but does it exist ??????????? is what we seeking the new Unicorn...??????? Sex complimenting the friendship ..with some substance thrown in ???????????? Where is IT ???
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RHP User
12 years ago
Keep looking Op. tomorrow could be a click that you can not ignore. Fucken awesome you beg please come back for more. Company is just that, better then a night all alone.So if in seconds its not for you, do the deed if lust is all. But count down the numbers as each time you play you get closer to the one that makes you glow.So i can just say keep playing the game. OMG you never know what comes out of the blue. Never be committed, never feel obligated, never say yes if you mean no. With out exploring, tasting all around how could you find a flavor that is yours.Ohhh then the one is there. Nothing to do, nothing to try. Fuck i am ready to die.Takes time to try the sweats in the candy store. Takes time to find the flavor you adore. Never worry to spit out what you don't like. But always be ready to consume what gives you joy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
such thing as meaningless sex,what it actually means to the other person, is a whole other thing. Some people love the thrill of the chase,variety for them is indeed the soul of pleasure. Until you have sex with someone it is hard to know if you want to have sex with them again. Some men will tell a woman what they think you want to hear,I read your profile OP ,a smart opportunist would know exactly what to say to you. It is not impossible to find someone here that you connect with for something a little more meaningful than a o.n.s here,but that is not necessarily what most men here are looking for.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
My view.... if sex has zero meaning for a person, they probably fit the psychological profile of a Sociopath.If someone cant muster so much as a basic level of empathy or interest for someone theyre going to get naked and vulnerable with..... they may as well just be a human vessel theyre selfishly using for their own masturbation.How rewarding.DG
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ruby_blossum
12 years ago
wish the men were more upfront with their intention.If they are just looking for one night stand, please tell me.Then I can make an informed decision.If they are looking for something ongoing, please tell me.I think most people like to know where they stand....its about having informed choice.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I first got on this site, just 4 months ago, my profile attracted those types too. I think It contained the words 'I just want to have fun'. Ummm, derrr, little did I know what that meant in the rhp world. I've changed my profile now and get less messages but of a better quality (generally!?!? Lol). If you're looking for something ongoing then say so, if you want to go out then say so. Then you'll attract people who want the same thing. There will always be the game players and you can't do much about that except to steer clear. I find they tend to out themselves pretty early in the piece if you're looking out for signs. Good luck! Ax
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would think often the age bracket and time avaliability of the individual determines what they want in relation to FWB verses NSA. I like to connect intellectually, and I have to actually "like" the people I am with before any physical naughtiness ensures. liking people normally requires time. Time invested nornally equates to friends Friends sometimes have strings (usually thier own) A nice FWB with no strings... now THAT sounds pretty good to me!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not into one night stands. That means I am not looking for single encounters, or wasn't. Unfortunately, some of my encounters have been so uninspiring or disapointing I have gone off the radar to the person. Guess thats my male side emerging eh?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your profile Imagirl, if this has happened to you then you have the right to be outraged. You make it VERY clear what you dont want and that is exactly what you have described above. As far as this male getting to know you over a period of time and knowing you have kids, little time and not much money to spare, meeting you once for sex and then never contacting you again, thats not on. There are guys that treat the whole thing as a game and I find it a cruel one, particularly in those circumstances. You will find him though, he does exist and he will be generous to you in everything you want, dont give up and good luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with a lot you say though there are times that they and we have good intentions but the fire works just fizzle on the night and therefore one, the other or both do not want to persue the situation further. I am lucky enough to have the same lover with NSA for 7 years now. We have an understanding and a very deep respect for each other and our outside needs. This can be hard to find though. To those that want to fool, screw and fuck us around.... Read our profiles and don't waste our time. Have respect for what we want and leave us be.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well because we live in such a diverse world i cant say how long it will last but make mine a good one im a woman and i have some special talents i wish to swap with a man who also has special talents so that what ever time we spent together we had some fun shared some time and who knows what else we did or accomplished. time is valuable why waste it on just a one off sexual encounter make a memory or maybe get a job done that needs a second pair of hands :Dsurely men have to be worth more than whats between their legs
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
We are worth more. Just because we are on this site doesn't mean we are all the same. As thunderbuster said go to a brothel for that type of sex. Give me mental stimulation,it makes the physical soooo much better. Taking the time to know someone,its about putting quality in. It makes life so much more worthwhile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can't control what other people will feel or do after sex. If you are having sex with someone based on an understanding or hope that something more will follow, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Have sex because you want it then and there, not for any other reason. That way, whilst it's great if something more develops, at least if it doesn't then you've still had fun for your own reasons.
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'ThunderBuster'I'm a more sex with substance kind of guy. I like having sex compliment the friendship....as meaningless sex can be found in brothels.... I really hate men that say that! Why is it meaningless sex at a brothel? I used to have regulars come back all the time for a reason! Working girls are not robots...they are as human as you are! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I could've articulated my point a little better. I don't wish to dehumanise sex workers and I apologise if I've come across that way, however, with a sex worker, it's more about business instead of a personal connection. What I'm talking about, is a friendship, that includes sex. Interactions that are based upon 2 people's personal desires for each other, and I'm sure you can acknowledge it's something that a brothel just can't offer.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I prefer to have more of a meaningful connection. But that's just me. Everyone is different.I don't think anyone can make guarantees about how they are going to feel or what they will do tomorrow or the next day once they've had sex with you. Sometimes I don't know immediately where I sit with someone? Either I need to sleep on it, mull it over, and tune in to myself more instead of wondering what he is doing/thinking or just totally forget about the him for a while and get on with it. My needs have changed and shifted over time as well along with me.I too went through those years in my early 30's of raising a child on my own and, (this is totally in hindsight but), during that time what I really wanted and needed was companionship, true friendship, love and daily practical support from a man. But almost simultaneously felt a lot of misplaced guilt and that to want those things was to appear needy or somehow flawed?Yes, I did meet a few 'dicks' during that time who really only wanted the 'free prostitute' scenario but portrayed the exact opposite. Yes, I felt deceived and disappointed by it. But we live and learn.I did eventually find the right man for me and had four rich and very fulfilling years with him on every level imaginable. Sooner or later water always finds it's own level! Things tend to have a way of righting themselves in unexpected ways.What goes around comes around and what you lose on the 'merry-go-round' you'll pick up on the 'hurdy-gurdy'.I guess what I am trying to say is don't ever feel that having met these unsuitable types of men has been time wasted for you. You are all the time polishing and moulding the unique person that is you and honing the very thing inside yourself that you are looking for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am afraid of giving in to sex for sex sake with someone I have no connection with as I might enjoy it while dehumanising that person. No thanks. The connection is what is important for me. A lover is so much more fun than sex with a total stranger. They know all the right buttons to push :)
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
I enjoy NSA sex as I am present in the moment and enjoying it! I dont' worry about what happens after ... I am in the moment and enjoying the person I am with at that time! Not only my body..but my mind too! I can enjoy a random lover just as much as I enjoy a long term lover! . Maybe some of you need to put away the books like Cinderella and Snow White and pick up books like The Power of Now and Mindfulness for Dummies! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who isn't looking for these things? I would like to know? I prefer to have some semblance of depth and meaning in my interactions with others. Not just a physical sensation alone where it is all too obvious or apparent that I really couldn't care less about the person and/or they couldn't care less about me!But that alone isn't solely responsible for the unfortunately familiar trend of this kind of hollow "It's all about me!"/"couldn't give a rat's arse" air people seem to give off! It is the fickleness of being able to tell somebody one thing and then actually go and do something else, especially when it is conscious, and then duplicating this with a string of intimates that is the definitive factor here! Most people seem to be navigating the grey areas in between some common extremes. But if you do know what you are doing (or not doing) in a situation which you have helped create and it affects someone else you are intimate with then, I think it is only fair that you, make your own intentions clear!If you don't know? Then say "I don't know?" At the very least it is being honest.Communication is the key for all manner of misunderstandings or ignorance.There are an infinite multitude of scenarios to be had! As we are all multidimensional and diverse and not all 'cut-outs' or generic clones who can be dismissed into narrow black or white categories.Find the right fit for you. One man's trash is always another man's treasure.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Reading through the responses everyone has a different wish, but for the fact I'm on this site Id have to agree with funloving. Saying that, there will be some women that I would want more than a one night stand however there will be others when once will be enough. I'm also sure that some women will feel the same. I think to be meeting anyone of here it's best to have no expectations just enjoy the moment, live life for the now people. If you don't tomorrow may never come.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
I want sex with some substance. I am not interested in fucking for the sake of fucking. Having a 'relationship' is like poison for so many men and women today.. or so they profess. For me, it's the opposite. I am sick of denying that I long for a more prolonged experience of intimacy.. and that includes some form of 'relationship. FWB, NSA.. blah blah blah.. is great for men wanting to spread their wild oats, and for women who profess this same kind of head space in their attitudes but this little black duck, definitely, wants more.
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
Quoting 'CrackUp'I want sex with some substance. I am not interested in fucking for the sake of fucking. Having a 'relationship' is like poison for so many men and women today.. or so they profess. For me, it's the opposite. I am sick of denying that I long for a more prolonged experience of intimacy.. and that includes some form of 'relationship. FWB, NSA.. blah blah blah.. is great for men wanting to spread their wild oats, and for women who profess this same kind of head space in their attitudes but this little black duck, definitely, wants more. And good on you for being open and honest enough to say that! I admire that! I just don't think that anyone should judge others on why they are here! I do not want a relationship as my heart was buried the day my partner was...So having a FB or NSA sex for me works right now...Who knows it might change in the future as you never know what or who tomorrow will bring! But, thanks for sharing CrackUp...I love your honesty! xFunlovingx
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wingman2014
12 years ago
I have done my share of one night stands . But I find now at my age that sex is infinitely better when you genuinely like the person your with . That mental connection is was helps make it special. For me it is the only way to go.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cassy_74
12 years ago
The FWB or NSA thing suits me well, purely because I am not ready for a relationship but I like to keep the physical side of things going, after all I have my needs like everyone else. I think there is a fine line of difference between FWB and NSA: To me the FWB is a form of friendship you can develop through enjoying the physical fun with a person. It's the clayton's relationship I guess you could call it, all the perks and bonuses of being with someone without the commitment or the emotional connection of that is known as a serious relationship. And aslong as you are both on the same page, this can be a fun and successful friendship. NSA, to me is the FUCK BUDDY, you purely meet for the sex only. You can some kind of friendship I guess but its not as meaningful, you contact each other on a whim when the mood takes you. Then there is the one off meet, the "one night stand"..........This is ok I guess if you are into this kind of thing, I am guilty for having a few over the years. But to me they are the meets when you need to have your fix and then you walk away not feeling the desire to meet them again. I am a firm believer that you should not say things just to please the party, like saying yes I am looking for a FWB or NSA thing when really you just want a quick root and fuck off. Also if you are the kind of person that does attach yourself easily to a person, dont say things like I just want casual or FWB or NSA, when you want more, you only set yourself up for heartache and heart break. I do agree with I am girl, I think that you should be honest and upfront with what you want. If you just want to meet for a fuck well then just say it, the worse case scenario is someone will just say no.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'ThunderBuster'I'm a more sex with substance kind of guy. I like having sex compliment the friendship....as meaningless sex can be found in brothels.... I really hate men that say that! Why is it meaningless sex at a brothel? I used to have regulars come back all the time for a reason! Working girls are not robots...they are as human as you are! xFunlovingx Agreed, I have a few friends who work as Service Providers here in QLD... and they are some of the most down to earth, well connected and lovely people I know. As for the rest of this thread it has given pause for thought, thanks OP :) ... maybe I should go back to looking at what is written in my profile... How do you say in a nice way "Want a steady FB/FWB until the divorce is finalised when we can then look at a more in depth relationship that I can dedicate my time too"? (too shallow?) Methinks what people want is based on their situation in life and how their personality is put together... we all change over time and people who are 'sex monkeys' today may become 'avid monogamous caring lovers' tomorrow. Just my 2 cents worth... please don't shoot the confused messenger.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cassy_74' To me the FWB is a form of friendship you can develop through enjoying the physical fun with a person. I've been in this kind of relationship and it has been great. NSA, to me is the FUCK BUDDY, you purely meet for the sex only. Haven't had one of those before.I am quite tempted to try this out but I can imagine this conversation. Hey Miss, do you want to be my Fuck Buddy. Yup, recipe for a slap and her storming off. Then there is the one off meet, the "one night stand"..........Haven't had one of these before. She will have to buy me dinner first. I am actually looking for a committed relationship with my better half. Yes, people have told me this is not the site for that kind of relationship. Failing that then a FWB arrangement with someone I can get along with. If that does not work, then I will look at the NSA as a last resort. I do not think I would ever be comfortable with a one night stand. The understanding being that if I ever meet someone that I want to have a relationship with, this will end.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here is scenario.. We talk a little online... decide to meet... One person has an itch they want scratched a little more then the other... and sort of puts across the inclination to get sexual. You have travelled to their place.. or they have come to yours... you half realise you dont actually WANT it to get sexual.. but still manage to get caught up in the moment.. Afterwards.. you kick yourself... "Fck .. I shouldn't have done that..... Now he/she is going to bug me..and I didn't get anything out of it.." So, you ignore the person... and retreat back into obscurity.. A lot of people fatasize about FB and FWB and quickies with "Almost strangers" but, when it actually comes down to the physical act, it becomes LESS of a fantasy too much reality.. Our fantasy was a hot hot body.. perfect conditions and lighting, and EVEN perfect romance..or Perfect Chemistry.. leaving us panting and nearly in faint!!! Even if our fantasy was to get thrown up against a brick wall outside a night club.. there is a build up of extreme sexual tension happening.. WHICH.. as we all know.. does NOT happen that way (Mostly) in the world of physical reality. We feel let down.. embarrassed.. ripped off.. and it is the OTHER persons fault.. so, we stay away from them.. ignore them., or even change our profile to escape them. I have had some hot hot sex.. in some very obscure places... and had some totally disapointing sex in some IDEAL places. I recently missed out on something which I am sure would have been an extremely hot sexual encounter, out in a garden one night (while her BF was getting drunk inside) which would have been definately a ONE OFF deal... BUT, I wanted more.. I DIDNT want a ONE OFF... so.. I missed out altogether with her. now, SHE ignores me.. Why? who knows.. maybe she is embarrassed about her promiscuity and hot slutty advances on me.. I am damned if I know why.. SHE wanted a hot wild uninhibited FCK. (Albiet - a drunken one). damn.. I hate myself for letting THAT one go.. *grins* (ESPECIALLY considering I am a true Exponent - one who will always declare "Alcohol as the BEST leg opener/aphrodisiac") SO.. "Imagirl" I can give you a decent sexual encounter.. IF we get together, and actually DO IT.. but.. IF I get there.. and we kinda just stumble through it, because we have TALKED ourselves into it.. then.. one of us MAY NOT really like it.. and may try to hide from the other person later *smiles* OF course... IF we totally LOVE it..we will talk to our friends about it... and we BOTH might be inundated with "Messages" and "Invites" You willing to give it a go???? *grins*
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