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Friends you click with
July 13 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Even a Great Affinity..From my experience, either can lose it and it hurts like hell..As to how and why? This can be as varied as life circumstances themselves. Lately for me.....External Influences of others creating pressure and stress causing breakdown that we couldn't (in the end) breakthrough.
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RHP User
10 years ago
my friends are always chasing me, I rarely initiate contact with them. I am usually pretty busy and they understand that so we have a good friendship where we can catch up like it was just yesterday that we saw each other. My friends are really nothing like me in the things they like but we get each other. One I met at school, one of the kids mum's and the other I met on a dating site when she dobbed me in to organise the first Melbourne meet up off that site.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Almost 2 years ago I met a man on another site and we instantly clicked. Like you I was the female version of him and vice versa. He used to say we were two sides of the same coin. We initially became lovers but due to him being married and stronger feelings developing he pulled back. We remained friends , best friends, as work bought us together most days. In recent months though due to my sister in law losing her battle with cancer I've needed to call on and lean on him a lot more and it's made me realise that as much as he wants to be there for me he can't. He is married and is not emotionally available nor have the time for me that I needed Because we were lovers at one point he can't ever introduce me to his family or friends, I am like the invisible friend . We started fighting a lot because as much as he wanted to be that friend to me he couldn't and I couldn't help wanting and expecting what I would from any normal friendship so I made the heartbreaking decision a couple weeks ago to end the friendship . I was surprised how easy he was able to let me go and walk away, he didn't argue or put up a fight . Maybe as much as we clicked we were not so alike after all and just had dufferent ideals on friendship. Like any relationship breakdown it's left me with an emptiness. I still miss him at times - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I believe you don't have to live in each other's pockets,but need to be there when required Not just a sex thing,shoulder when life gets hard!Funny feel that connection,with some ladies on here Just from chats lately ,great there is quality out there xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Recently I met someone and instead of the normal to and fro of messaging I decided that I would just go ahead and meet him.We clicked on a communication, fun and sexual level. The sex was fantastic and we openly talked about the swinging lifestyle. So at his suggestion we became an open couple and created a new profile together. His ex flew home from work early as she was upset that he had moved on. What was suppose to be a return of keys and a see ya later moment. Turned into them getting back together and still allowing each to see others. So when I got the call to hear this new development and to find he still wanted to see me too I declined. Connections are rare I think and as much as they bring some happiness and light into our lives. It can also quickly end as well. However I'm lucky to have one friend that I click with and we are still friends. I think no matter the ups and downs of RHP we will always have each others back.
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Seachange
10 years ago
I am very sorry for the loss of your sister and your friend. I feel for your pain on both counts. As for the latter, it is hard to let go at times and I bet he is as in as much pain as you as he cannot deliver what you expect of him and letting you down. I hope and wish you are in a better space now. A big virtual hug to you. I have dated a man for 12 months a couple of years ago, whom I met via one of my consulting work. He actually owned the company so he was my boss. Lol. We clicked straight away. He is witty, kind funny, sexy and a true gentleman. He made me feel great and I him. I did nto resist too much when he surprised me with a passionate kiss and embrace in a tramstop in St. Kilda. I think we just both melted into each other for a while and we knew. We both cried when we had to end the relationship as he had to move to the GC to expand his business into Queensland and he needed the time to sort out the trail of destruction left by his 'delinquent' daughter. But we have remained very good friends when he wanted a sounding board/advice and catch up for dinners and comedy shows when he is down in Melbourne. I do miss him at times too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Big hugs to you too 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I have clicked with a few people I have met from RHP. One I could probably say has become my BFF over the last couple of years. We have nothing in common and our lives could not be more different but we have some form communication most days. Well... I bug him a lot! LOL. Wonder he doesn't get sick of me. 😋 Actually we have movies and some sexual interests in common... And stuff. 😇
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's better to live in the now ,not the rear view mirror! We all will hear a song and think of ex or lover it's part of the journey Better to have great memories than dwell on past xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sounds like common goals to me :) Most will (I assume) say that most man here will say of do anything to get there cock wet n sticky inside a lovely lady... Truth be known some of us males are here to meet lady's for chat more so then slamming her from behind ?? Common goals if u like make better sex partners
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him_and_me
10 years ago
It's such a lovely surprise when you click as friends as well as sexually! We've met lots of really lovely people through the site and feel incredibly lucky to count some of them as real friends. There's a couple we've been chatting to recently who we've both really enjoyed getting to know. I wonder sometimes whether the intimacy of sleeping with someone means I'm more willing to give of myself in other respects also. I love talking with the male half and we've built up a strong rapport that means I think of him as much as a really good mate as I do a sexual partner. We have some form of communication most days and I miss him when we can't chat! And yes, my husband knows. Lol. x Me - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
You know it when you have it.....It's unforgettable! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I don't get it that often and when I do - makes me quite ill and really relaxed at the same time (weird I know)...when someone can see the best and worst in me, that's when I know I have it. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whether friend ,lover or both,will change...because people change.All relationships have a beginning and an end.... I think you can click with someone and just be with them for a short time but you don't forget them...conversely,you can be with someone.for twenty years and they are very forgettable....The people I tend to click with,regardless of age or gender,are the people I have most in common with...I was great friends with someone for over sixteen years and then she decided that she never wanted to speak to me again....for many of those years we had worked on arts projects together as well as being friends...she just got angry with me and that was that...I still miss our friendship xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, it does hurt like hell. I'm one who struggles to just shrug off a lost friendship easily. And I have some friends who I rarely catch up with but when we do, it's like we haven't spent any time apart at all. These are huge ones who understand me the best and support me the most.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The friend of mine who I mentioned (the male version of me) got a girlfriend (really ........how dare he -kidding). The problem is she struggles to see me as her boyfriend's best friend. Instead, I'm the other woman in his life and therefore a threat. We're limited to how many times I can visit him (used to be every four weeks but it's now every 6 weeks). Today I really spat the dummy at him and pointed out that I would be able to visit as often as I wanted if I were male. Things are a little strained at the moment but neither of us want to give up the important friendship and bond we've developed so we're working through it. I seem to have a habit of becoming close friends with single men and it all crumbles once they get a girlfriend. Why do guys let that happen? Or maybe that's a question to start another post with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sometimes opposites attract and work well together :-) just like the Paula Abdul song. And yes, there are some great people in here to chat to. There are guys in here who are happy to get to know who they're chatting to first. Just need to sweet out the others first to find them, but they're here and they're wonderful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me, that click and connection is a must for any sexual partner and when someone sees the best and worst in you and still loves you, that's when you know it's real. As people we do change but what's really special are the friendships that still endure those changes and strengthen as time goes on.
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passion8_l
10 years ago
Just under two years ago I met a man from this site, we chatted for about a month before meeting up for a night out. The attraction was instant and we felt so comfortable in each others company we ended up spending the weekend together. I can't quite explain what it was but we just felt this instant connection, apart from great sex we had so much in common and enjoyed doing the same things. It wasn't long before we were seeing each other exclusively and became the best of friends. We could be in each others presence for hours without a single word being spoken, and when I was with him I felt it was where I belonged. He supported me through a difficult divorce and a health scare and we had a few obstacles but they just brought us closer together. We ended it recently because he couldn't get past the 18 year age gap but we are still great friends and talk every day. That was the most intimate relationship I have ever had, I have never felt that close and connected to another person and was heartbroken when it ended but I don't regret it, not for a single second, he gave me back my confidence and showed me I am worthy of being loved. I like to think that we will always be friends but only time will tell. I haven't really answered your question OP because I can't explain why we clicked, we just did and still do. I hope we don't lose it because we have become very special to each other.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't really expect answers so not sure why I even asked that. Maybe in the hope that some might have answers, but that's a great contribution to this thread and it's great that you got something out of the relationship and don't look back with regrets. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'Warning69' Sounds like common goals to me :) Most will (I assume) say that most man here will say of do anything to get there cock wet n sticky inside a lovely lady... Truth be known some of us males are here to meet lady's for chat more so then slamming her from behind ?? Common goals if u like make better sex partners Not necessarily common goals although it does help in the long term as common goals but it may not be evident on the first meet (s). I read your comment as having both parties discussing common goals, which may or may not be the case. I wish it was as simple as that but it isn't. It is multidimentional, as complex as we human beings are. The physical, emotional and mental 'affinity' as Tonyerotic has mentioned earlier is definitely a good start... But as per above posts, sometimes, some people click straight away like a thunderbolt thru one's soul and it is altogether beautiful, scary and awe inspiring of the wonder beyond the kiss. The full reasons can't be nominated. It is just that certain 'je ne sais quoi'.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Funny being comfortable to me is super important,not expecting teenage lust But would be great to feel like again lol Investing into new friendships is exciting,can be like a new world on here!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I met someone a few months ago and we clicked instantly. We could talk about everything and anything. We would go out and always have an amazing time. The chemistry between us was so overwhelming and even strangers commented on it. The first time he kissed me I felt it all the way down to my toes. It was like an electric shock. The passion was like a slow burn between the times that I saw him and when I was with him it was so consuming it scared the hell out of me. I considered him to be a friend as well as a lover. I fell for him and he wasn't ready for that but he was honest with me about it. It did hurt a lot at the time, but I have no regrets, just beautiful memories.
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RHP User
10 years ago
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