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Friendships men form on RHP - do you?
June 27 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have formed friendships with both men and women from a few sites but I don't know any men that see each other socially from them unless the women have organised it and it is men and women again, not just men. Good topic :)
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ThingsnStuff
10 years ago
We have formed a good friendship so far with another couple we have meet through here and enjoy our "non RHP" related chats, We chat about numerous aspects of life as well as hobbies and interests. (it has surprised us how much we actually have in-common)
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
Canberra being Canberra there isn't a huge amount of people on the forums living locally. That being said I have been to meet and greets and met many lovely RHP forumers from interstate when away for work for social catch-ups. That being said pretty much all of the people I have caught up with were ladies and not men.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have plenty of male friends in real life...why on earth would I want to socialize with randoms on the internet? Unless I was struggling socially, I would have to say I would never consider it... I - like most single men - joined here to enhance the sex life and meet some more like-minded women. Meeting up with a dude on here, even for a 'friendly beer', is quite possibly the last thing I would want to do on a spare night!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some of those I'll no doubt engage in debaucherous activities. Others I'll keep as friends.... Gender is not a criteria. I've made a couple of connections with blokes that I'll continue to have a few drinks with. I mean; why wouldn't I?? People are fun for more than their bodies - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
10 years ago
It is a very good post though Meeka.From what I have seen.Most guys be they single or part of a couple don't really catch up with each other away from RHP activities.(come to think of it most times guys from here meet they will both probably be naked together at some stage of the night-lol)Drinks or meet and greet nights aside anyway.I have had the male half from a couple we have played with (and I do call them friends) call in to work one day for a chat,he is welcome anytime.I also know that the male half of a couple we know went to Alaska on a guided fishing trip with another male half of a couple from RHP that shifted back overseas. Both are straight as a rifle barrel and had a great time. Hell if I could have afforded the time and the money I would have been there in a flash also. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
10 years ago
It would be nice to see two or three hot men meet my lover, and enjoying a drink and a meal together. The meal being lil ol' ME ! :o) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Tigeroo' I have plenty of male friends in real life...why on earth would I want to socialize with randoms on the internet? But that is my point. Women get to know each other via the chat rooms and forums, exchange private information, and so those women are no longer randoms. They have become friends. There is lots of confessions and girly chat in Secret Women's Business.... it's like a big girly sleepover. I don't think you are on here enough probably to get to know any of the blokes. I also would say that women don't join RHP to meet friends either. It is just a happy accident really, meeting other women with similar views and outlooks to sex, etc. By the way, one of the reasons I joined RHP was to men for fun times but also to meet some guys as friends. All my old friends are married and raising families and I never see them any more. Not sure how successful I have been with that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is interesting though. You will meet random women for sex but not meet random men if you have something in common and strike up a friendship online.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Tigeroo' I have plenty of male friends in real life...why on earth would I want to socialize with randoms on the internet? But that is my point. Women get to know each other via the chat rooms and forums, exchange private information, and so those women are no longer randoms. They have become friends. There is lots of confessions and girly chat in Secret Women's Business.... it's like a big girly sleepover. I don't think you are on here enough probably to get to know any of the blokes. I also would say that women don't join RHP to meet friends either. It is just a happy accident really, meeting other women with similar views and outlooks to sex, etc. By the way, one of the reasons I joined RHP was to men for fun times but also to meet some guys as friends. All my old friends are married and raising families and I never see them any more. Not sure how successful I have been with that. Exactly Meeka. I never expected to make any female friendships on here but I wouldn't change it for anything.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...It's perfectly fine, I just find as a guy there is No desire to. I would just never be bothered to write to a guy something like: "Hey buddy, I loved your post in the forums about giving oral to woman - great tips! Hey since your in Vic what are you up to this weekend? want to hang out in the city and talk about chicks all night?" If I got a message like that from a guy, I'd be like....wtf?! As I said before, I have all kinds of male friends who cover all bases I need for socializing, so I guess for guys like me the thought of meeting another guy just seems like a waste of time - I would rather spend time with my real buddies than out meeting some mysterious guy who may turn out to a be a total dickhead, just so we can 'discuss mutual interests'. Also, I think it's because most guys around my age group are clearly on this site for women and women only, so why bother each other? We are all busy writing hundreds of delicately crafted messages to girls!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I, too, am surprised that I have made a few friends on here. A couple of guys from Interstate that I chat regularly to, we share stories, give each other advice, have a laugh together, but will never meet? Anyway, Tigeroo, in that case "why on earth would I want to socialize with randoms on the Internet"........you, yourself, to other people, are a "Random", and as Meeka says, its perfectly fine to socialize with these "Randoms" if they are females? You might be missing out, I have lots of friends outwith RHP, but I love meeting new friends, whether its online or on a night out, work, whatever. Funnily enough, a guy I know on here wont put up pics incase his friends find out. Well, what do you know, one of his friends is also on here. I wont tell.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' That is interesting though. You will meet random women for sex but not meet random men if you have something in common and strike up a friendship online. The women are not random, by the time of meeting. As you alluded to before, someone is not random if you know enough about them. However, I will only make the time to message, get to know and maybe even skype the girls. But I would never make the time to get to know a guy online because for me it is pointless, I don't need what they can offer (friendship, good times, nights out on the piss) because I already have that with people I've known for years and years and that's all I need. The women though, can offer sex, backrubs, cuddles...all kinds of things I desire! Hence why I make the effort to get to know the sweeties
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captainkaos
10 years ago
I had the time I guess. It's hard enough keeping in touch with my family and friends as it is. I tend to keep in touch with a lot of ex's as well. If I am bored I'd rather go out to a jazz club or night club or dinner or anything with pretty girl than a guy. lol. There's always the chance of sex afterwards. lol. If i want to go to a guy thing like a car or bike show or even the football, I have plenty of male friends who are into that and I'll call on them for that. Don't get me wrong, I have met some awesome guys at the Meet and Greets. I would also like to meet a few more (araps, sir_stir and Gazp come to mind) but i do need to spend more time with people who are very close to me.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I've met and spoken to some awesome people, male, female and couples, people that will be life long friends. Some are play friends, some are not, but friends nevertheless, people I enjoy spending time with, people with open minds and always up for open conversations, about everything and anything.....💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
And they're defiantly 3 gentlemen that are worth meeting.....💋 The thing is you meet people, if you click, you make new friends, or you meet, don't click, you never have to see them again.....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
Tigeroo and CaptainK fair enough! I yes I get that it's hard to enough to catch up regularly with friends and family. I totally understand everything you are saying and it makes perfect sense..... but I still find it curious how women and men approach the "friendship" side of RHP differently. Interesting.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think like you said Meeka, women generally (not all) are more inclined to talk to and share stories with other women, even if it's just on an online basis. Also I think the way men and women approach a site like this differs, as illustrated by Tigeroo's responses. Men are probably more likely to see RHP solely as a site for finding sex and / or dating partners, hence they are using it for a specific purpose and anything outside that purpose would seem redundant (again generally speaking, not saying it's the case for everyone male or female by any means). I believe that men tend to compartmentalise more than women do, and keep the various areas of their lives in separate 'boxes' so to speak, so they already have their 'friend' box and wouldn't see any need for that to overlap with their 'sex and dating' box. Whereas women tend to think in bigger picture terms and not be so strict with their life boxes, being more open to letting some overlap occur and perhaps being a bit more flexible in how they view things. Hmm...I don't know if I'm explaining that very well, hope it makes sense
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RHP User
10 years ago
From some of the guys responses here - that being a predominantly sex site - IF we took out the hookup scenarios; would it NOT be like meeting and conversing with guys at say a football dinner?? Social club even??? So I'll say that the guys that aren't open to friendships are actually seeing other guys as simply competition and sexually objectifying each other - and at the risk of man bashing; how typical ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Tigeroo and CaptainK fair enough! I yes I get that it's hard to enough to catch up regularly with friends and family. I totally understand everything you are saying and it makes perfect sense..... but I still find it curious how women and men approach the "friendship" side of RHP differently. Interesting. .....I too find it all very interesting Meeka.If I didn't offer my friendship (not JUST sex) to people on these types of sites I would imagine they would think I was unfriendly. In my experience though, most men seem to have a totally different view of friendship in general compared to women.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' I think like you said Meeka, women generally (not all) are more inclined to talk to and share stories with other women, even if it's just on an online basis. Also I think the way men and women approach a site like this differs, as illustrated by Tigeroo's responses. Men are probably more likely to see RHP solely as a site for finding sex and / or dating partners, hence they are using it for a specific purpose and anything outside that purpose would seem redundant (again generally speaking, not saying it's the case for everyone male or female by any means). I believe that men tend to compartmentalise more than women do, and keep the various areas of their lives in separate 'boxes' so to speak, so they already have their 'friend' box and wouldn't see any need for that to overlap with their 'sex and dating' box. Whereas women tend to think in bigger picture terms and not be so strict with their life boxes, being more open to letting some overlap occur and perhaps being a bit more flexible in how they view things. Hmm...I don't know if I'm explaining that very well, hope it makes sense I agree that most women appear to see the bigger picture where friendship is concerned.Experience has taught me you can feel that you have all the friends in the world one day......and none the next.People's circumstances change and friendships come and go, things just run their course sometimes.It always pays to be open minded where friends of both sexes and mateship is concerned.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I made a great friend from RHP. We have been friends for a few years now. We laugh, tell each other secrets, have fun, chat most every day. She has stuck by me and stayed a friend through some shit. There are some really nice people on here. You just have to be selective.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I believe, men and women do view friendships with the same sex quite differently. Women are happy to share with other females and bond verbally and non verbally more that way compared to men/men friendships. I'm not saying men don't have or like those friendships, I think they are just happy and satisfied with the male friends they have. I think too, sometimes men just don't have the need/want to talk, like women do about their fears/insecurities etc etc. Yep I agree with Meeka - I do believe men do miss out on the social side of things on a site like this. It can be a shame and sad in a way, maybe a little lonely too if they don't have those male/male friendships. However I do agree with Tigeroo. I highly doubt some men will send out messages saying "lets go for a beer". I think men would see that as strange and odd or maybe in some cases, a come on (maybe) rather than just the friendship side of bonding. More a fear I think?? We're emotinal creatures (meaning women) what can I say - men need to get away from us sometimes and I think for some males to have have that male/male bonding time, as it's great thing to do/have. :) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have made male friendships on here.It all starts with the UNION!I have made female friends on here to.Altho i am extra special ... and don't feel the need to have sex with women i say hello to or dance with or socialise with. I see the big picture in life..its all about meeting people and compare life's lessons. I have always seen the "sex mentality" on this site as over riding the friendship aspect.Its sad but true from some men who see this place as a pick up joint.Some women just want to be friends and i am happy with that.I have never found it hard meeting women in life Get out there socialise and enjoy the different people on here.
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captainkaos
10 years ago
from the guys that I met at the last meet and greet that i could attend..... Meeka, Luckdragon and Foxy are right. Women do open up more. Maybe some guys think that the other guy is the opposition. Trying to get the same girl. Maybe it's a jealousy thing.......? I personally would go for a beer with a couple of the guys that i have met. I'd actually enjoy it now that I think about it. lol. Exchanging funny anectotes about our experiences on RHP over a beer. Much like you women do. lol.
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madotara69
10 years ago
As far as the social side of these forums, even the chat rooms go. There is not so many men that participate in these forums as the male half of a couple, most that do, I have chatted with over the past couple of years and I have chatted with quite a few of the regular single blokes that post to these forums. Dare to say most of the regular forum posters. I have always been as open that feels right for these topics, there has been some good topics over the time and sharing thoughts to some personal experiences good and bad has lead to many messages for support, even similar types of stories. Quite a few men have just messaged to say they enjoy reading the friendship Tara and I have for the stories mentioned with our relationship. These forums open up an opportunity to talk and bullshit, openly and honestly and for some, deceptive and deliberately disturbing. Some people come to these forums and play on others emotions by manipulative agendas, after a while it becomes easier to see these types and kapow the sandpit livens up. Usually that is when the men chat and offer a word or two in support. Going out for a beer?, maybe if we bump into each other at some time and place, though most of these sort of friendships are from all over the country. Mado Mado Tara xx
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Has there ever been just a Male only Social Meet and Greet, ever been organized I wonder? Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'dudeinthestreet' I made a great friend from RHP. We have been friends for a few years now. We laugh, tell each other secrets, have fun, chat most every day. She has stuck by me and stayed a friend through some shit. There are some really nice people on here. You just have to be selective. HI dudeinthestreet. I am not talking about friendships with the opposite sex, I am talking about you making friends with other blokes on RHP. Would you or have you?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Has there ever been just a Male only Social Meet and Greet, ever been organized I wonder? Foxy I really doubt it. There wouldn't be much interest I bet.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have plenty of male friends, I joined RHP specifically to meet women as I had allowed my ex to remove all of my female friends from my life. Some of these friendship have involved sex but most have not, something I should remedy. If one of the guys I've met at the meet and greets were in town and wanted to catch up for a beer, I probably would but I'm not going to persue a closer friendship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... the panic that would go through a guy's mind if the answer to 'How do you guys know each other?' was 'We met on a sex site.'
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RHP User
10 years ago
In the real world it's abit of both , lots from sport and a some since we were kids. . But here ' it's all female unless they have a straight partner .. Some of the females I regularly chat with are now long time friends.. To answer your question.. I have no desire to want to make more male friends than I already have.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not opposed to a pants on bromance or friendship with a guy. I have chatted on and off on here and another similar site and interacted with a few of the guys. I would agree that men are more inclined to be ón the hunt' and there seems to be quite a bit of ego driven banter that doesn't generate the good will needed for a friendship. In saying all of the above there are a few guys who get on well and would be well worth having a beer with! I've also thought about the possible advantages of having a RHP mate... say in the case of a potential MFM, although the odds of 2 guys who are 'mates' being compatible with a woman are probably relatively low. ie probably better if the woman chooses 2 guys she would find appealing for a MFM. Oh yeah, I actually have a man friend on my profile.... but we never seem to be able to catch up for a beer! RegardsAqua
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh and one other thing.... I have a stack of friends outside of RHP, but I prefer not to discuss any of my private life interests. I have always disliked the way guys talk up their game and brag to their mates about what's gone on in the bedroom, dining table, coffee table, secluded beach... or late night skinny dipping in the pool etc.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Quoting 'AQUA_bumps' Oh and one other thing.... I have a stack of friends outside of RHP, but I prefer not to discuss any of my private life interests. I have always disliked the way guys talk up their game and brag to their mates about what's gone on in the bedroom, dining table, coffee table, secluded beach... or late night skinny dipping in the pool etc. I totally get and understand what you are saying. This place can be a little incestuous like that. ...and yes has turned me off them. I especially don't like it how "some" men run the woman down/(like loose, easy, cheap *insert other names here* cause he met on her on an adult site), but yet they were still happy to have continuous sex with that person. :( I can never figure that one out?? So I imagine myself as a bloke listening to that crap whilst having a beer in a pub...NO THANKS! It would drive me mental!! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
What a pretty cool profile name for two male friends/mates looking for someone to have a threesome or more with! :) "Bromance"... I looooooove it! I looked to see if there is a profile called that already...there's not. So there you go......Any takers?? :) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are not concerned at all about being friends with other women and in RL sometimes their friendships do not include discussing issues of sexuality etc,whereas the friendships formed here with other women do not preclude that discussion.......I imagine that men's friendships in RL do include discussion about their sexuality etc so the agenda for them here would be different xQ
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Aqua bumps I'm curious do you have an animal dress up fetish? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe he is a furry?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' Aqua bumps I'm curious do you have an animal dress up fetish? - Posted from rhpmobile I don't mind dressing up for an occasion! My first reaction to this question was, NO I do not have an animal dress up fetish. But as I considered my response I realised that I had attended various parties dressed as, a dolphin,a kangaroo, a unicorn, a bear (several times) a fireman, and an FBI agent, and I'm only talking about what I did last week ...... other fetishes include ......never-mind.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have plenty of RL friends where we have the same common interests, whether it be our kids, sport, philosophical ideas or other. But to make a friend on a sex site where I am looking for a woman to share an intimate connecting with, um, no way. And anyway, guys here are competition in a sense. If a guy views my profile I block him, I certainly don't want to be friends with him! You girls have it easy in my opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is a difference. Genderish as my Subject Title / Following Sentence may be : Women want to "talk" and seek support, whereas Men couldn't give a Rat's. My Mates and I talk about Business, the Economy, Politics, News, rarely sex or sports. A "Male Meet n Greet" via this site would, I think, attract a limited response, if any. This is an "Adult Dating Site" not a "Friendship Site". Should I feel the need to acquire more Male Mates, I would be looking to "Men's Shed", not RHP.
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inspirit
10 years ago
RHP is not Facebook or Twitter ........ etc However, in saying that I do know many men have formed close friendships here in WA through our social networking scene. I must ask - Why do you think man need a "support network" on a sex site? Why do you think they are missing out? As for a Meet and Greet for men - sure it would work with female strippers and topless waitresses.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Didn't mean that men need a support network. Just that all men seem to be loners on here... Whereas seems that most women (on the forum) often will have a few clothes friends. Just wondering how come. Men hunt alone .... And women always in packs?
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inspirit
10 years ago
cuts out the competition
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RHP User
10 years ago
Clothes should say close.
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inspirit
10 years ago
PMSL
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Missb4u
10 years ago
It's about safety in numbers for women? But men have men on friends lists on here. Is that just to show that they attend meet and greets and have met these other men?
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inspirit
10 years ago
I cut my own grass. I thought men have men friends cause they root each other
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not that I comment often meka ... What a very nice forum to raise... HAVE not had follow up with any guys... But bi guys have shared ... Nature of the beast maybe
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women are networkers. Men aren't. In general. We are about as different as you can get and still belong to the same species.
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RHP User
10 years ago
" Men hunt alone , and women always in packs ? " Good question. Made me think about how I go about it and you're right. If I'm with a group of mates , I'll break away by myself if I see someone I want to get to know. Where women usually have other women in support..
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_Me' " Men hunt alone , and women always in packs ? " Good question. Made me think about how I go about it and you're right. If I'm with a group of mates , I'll break away by myself if I see someone I want to get to know. Where women usually have other women in support.. Do women always hunt in packs and men alone?? Well I'll be and learnt something new today. Women will do the same thing as well if they want to get to know someone, will break away from the other ladies. Women don't always hold each others hands and skip into the sunset. Sometimes I find a group of women are too much to handle, they way they giggle and what not..drives me a little mental...well for me sometimes it is. Women can be great for support network, sometimes. Sometimes I prefer to speak with a man, at least they don't giggle and carry on silly. That's where I think some males make great boyfwiends. :) Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
…I wouldn't and don't actively seek any male friendships on RHP. It's not that it " Isn't the reason I am on here"…I'm not interacting with or messaging any women on here at the moment either, it's hard work and I enjoy the relaxed nature of the forums for now. It was a male workmate who suggested RHP to me 6 months ago and we still discuss it on occasion , though he is a different instrument to me and mostly see's women as objects, I think. I appreciate now that this site can be different things to people..to me, for now, it's light( and often educational )reading that has the potential for something more. Dating perhaps? Or just chatting. I'm in no hurry. Nor am I desperate.But just chatting with another male? It doesn't appeal to me. As has been said before, I already have male friends of different types in the real world. Perhaps just the simplest interactions with the opposite sex is enough to release those endorphins in my brain. Perhaps Meeka, its simply chemical. That many men prefer the face to face, hand to hand bondingwith other men over a beer because we're wired too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
See what you're saying.. Of course there are women who don't need a support network and would be the type to catch my attention. . I was generalising and that was unfair.
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TrymeonForsize
10 years ago
From a female point of view ........ I'm definitely not here to make new female friends...... I barely have the time to catch up with my RL ones...... Only here as a means to scratch an itch.... In whatever way takes my fancy at the time lol 😈
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'GonzosDilemma' ... the panic that would go through a guy's mind if the answer to 'How do you guys know each other?' was 'We met on a sex site.' LOL
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