M40

Frustrating

November 17 2013

I'm sure this has been discussed before (and frequently)... A) Why initiate contact with someone only respond once and then never again? I take great care with what it say and I how I say it when messaging people (although I do make the occasional faux pas and apologize when I've done so), so I can't imagine I've offended anyone... B) Why repeatedly look at someone's profile and ignore any contact made by that person? Even when it's a polite "I've noticed you visiting my profile a fair bit, perhaps you'd like to chat or have a coffee/drink..." It frustrates me no end. End rant

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RHP User

11 years ago

I have a certain number of serial profile viewers. I sent one a friendly message last week and he has yet to reply. I just don't get it!?!

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RHP User

11 years ago

Why respond once and never again, well probably because they just aren't that into you. Maybe your response didn't capture their interest? Why let it bother you? Why do they look at your profile, well it might be something to do with the member search function? Maybe they click right passed you with out actually looking at the profile?

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RHP User

11 years ago

True Meeka, but not all of us are gifted conversationalists and those that aren't sometimes take a little while to warm up. As for why it bothers/frustrates me... I honestly don't know. I guess it's just courtesy thing, if I lost interest or was put off, I'd be inclined to the person know. Meh. Was a momentary whinge, all good now :)

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Beachlover1999

11 years ago

MsElle, the amount of people who have me on their 'hot' list that I have never ever exchanged a message with......go figure!!!!! I must be hot!!!!! Lolol Your right of course Meeka, lots of reasons for not responding........ ;)))

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RHP User

11 years ago

they can....and really in the scheme of life and RHP...it matters not

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QLDtwo4fun

11 years ago

Its part of RHP, just like dodgy ages on profiles. How may human years are there to a RHP year?

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RHP User

11 years ago

whether we like it or not.. admit it or not.. we are all shallow in some ways or another. Figure it out :)

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RHP User

11 years ago

....there are so many casual conversations on the go, you lose track. In the days when I was looking for single guys, I might be having brief messages with 20 guys at once. It's easy to forget to reply to some of them. You mean to, but then forget about it.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Hotlisting someone shows up their activities on your home page stream. It will show when someone on your hotlist has added photos for them to check out, or if they are just into you for your mind, follow your opinions on forum posts :-)

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him_and_me

11 years ago

Quoting 'Unrushed1' Hotlisting someone shows up their activities on your home page stream. It will show when someone on your hotlist has added photos for them to check out, or if they are just into you for your mind, follow your opinions on forum posts :-) There are people on out hotlist for those reasons, not because I think we'll ever meet them.

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usnow

11 years ago

It is very frustrating when you get a flirt out of the blue saying "please message me " so you do only to never get a response in return . Cant for the life of us work that out . The cynical side of us has one thought !! Swingnew

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RHP User

11 years ago

"Stalker :p"

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Plain

11 years ago

I just wrote on reach and settle, now this, could be yes we really like you but shit scared of rejection. Believe me when I write this I am 53 years plus and I still have this irrational fear, even knowing that there is a good reason behind the rejection. Some of us stay in the world of the dreamer and not doer, I do both but less of the doing these days. sigh!!

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RHP User

11 years ago

I admit, sometimes I click the person's profile instead of their message so they see that I have perved at them.

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