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Gangbangs from a womans point of view...
September 05 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am the same as you Miss TLC I find it a complete turn off if blokes have been involved in Gang Bangs as well, I think it shows no real self respect for one self.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Miss TLC, Im with you on this one! Such a turn off. Although with the amount of gang bangs that are listed on here, there must be plenty of guys (and girls!) that are participating in this kind of thing. However knowing that a guy has been involved in one, to me makes me a little squirmish, and I dont think that I could catch up with them either. Flutterflie x
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RHP User
13 years ago
whats the big deal if a man has been in a gang bang that would be like if men didnt want to have sex with you because you have had sex with a lot of men After all this is a sex site for people who like certain things in their sex ,they are here to find people who like the same thing as them You cant go down to iga and shout down the isle is there anyone here who likes a gang bang i will meet you at the checkout ???? Anyway how would you know if a guy has been in a gangbang or not if you have made it known you dont like then they will lie through their teeth that they havent had one????
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'kissmetenderly' whats the big deal if a man has been in a gang bang that would be like if men didnt want to have sex with you because you have had sex with a lot of men After all this is a sex site for people who like certain things in their sex ,they are here to find people who like the same thing as them You cant go down to iga and shout down the isle is there anyone here who likes a gang bang i will meet you at the checkout ???? Anyway how would you know if a guy has been in a gangbang or not if you have made it known you dont like then they will lie through their teeth that they havent had one???? my thoughts exactly
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RHP User
13 years ago
Welcome to the forums. To answer your question, I'm not sure i've ever really considered what I would think of a man who had participated in a gang bang? Not sure it even puts him in a 'certain type' category unless of course he was having unprotected sex within that scenario. My view and yours may differ slightly on what tone the gang bang takes on as well, is your take on it a little more violent perhaps? I do know of guys who have participated purely out of a curiosity for it, bit like us exploring a fantasy or two. So I wouldnt be judging anyone on their past escapades until I knew a little more about their side of the argument so to speak. I'm much more accepting of the fact that all people have kinks and fetishes within their sexual life that don't characterise who and what they are in day to day life. You can meet the nicest guy in the whole world but he can be a dirty little fucker in the bedroom (lol or basement) and go like a jackhammer hehe So I would say, give them a chance to explain their take on it (what they get out of it) learn a bit more about it and go from there, you may find yourself less turned off by some past play .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wait.. when you say participate in gANGBANG.... do you mean as part of the gang or as the bang? Either way, I guess I'm out. :pBut tell me.... If I choose to be the bang, why have you got it dirty on the people who are part of the very accommodating gang? They're just doing me a favour after all.HugsStalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whether he used proper precautions all the time would be more of a priority for me than if a man is is exploring his sexuality. I prefer a man who is open to trying new things sexually. That said I have never had or wanted a gang bang ( watched many) , I like long sex sessions with one person, which is a preference not a judgement.
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RHP User
13 years ago
What is it about the idea of a man participating in gang bangs that turns you off? It would not turn me off if it were what a guy was into. The idea of being involved in a gang bang as banger or bangee does not do it for me so the only way I would be turned off is if the guy was trying to get me involved in something I had clearly told him I was not interested in.Everyone has their thing....the deal breaker, no biggy if this is yours but what is the difference between a gang bang or an mmf other than a number? Do you think less of men who are involved in mmf and what do you think of the women who like these and gang bangs?xx SalinaPS..welcome to the forums. I do hope your visit is a pleasant one and we do not all frighten you away with our replies and questions:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are things in my past that if I revealed them many a man would run screaming from the room. What happens in the past...stays in the past. I am not in favour of gangbangs and I understand that this is a hangup from my youth when gangbangs were nasty things that happened to girls with loose morals and those that got too pissed at a party. However, that does not make it easier for me to participate in them now and it is something that I will never do myself. To me it seems a little sordid. BUT I would never pointedly turn away from someone that I liked because they have indulged. My own daughter has. And I know that my very prudish oldest son would have done so when serving time in the army. I still love them just the same. If it is something that you find you can not accept , then it is a matter for you to decide. I dont think I would like it if a man I was in a permanent relationship with decided to go out and be involved in a gangbang...No! If that was the case it would probably spell out a death knoll for my relationship...but that is me, when in a permanent relationship there is no one else and I dont do threesomes, foursomes and moresomes. Certainly what he did before becoming involved with me is really nothing for me to get my knickers in a knot over. Every second of the mans past has gone into making him the wonderful person that would be standing naked beside my bed and far be it for me to judge.
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RHP User
13 years ago
get involved with a guy who has participated in a gang bang, that just says to me that they are quite dirty, who knows whether he would have even used a condom for it!When I say gang bang though I am talking 10 guys or more on 1 girl, I can accept like mmmf or something like that...I just think it gets a little dirty when there are more guys involved.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think there is anything wrong with men that have done gangbangs at all. The main aim of a gangbang is to pleasure the woman - she is in control. She knows what she wants and desires. A proper gangbang has the men always respecting the woman. I just wonder what the OP feels about women that particpate in gangbangs? Pusscat xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Haha it's weird how a girl into MMF is so violently against gangbangs. Haha hate to break it to you but if a guy is into doing it in front of another guy chances are he's done it infront of more than one too, they'd be lying (or haven't had the chance to) otherwise.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Like all fantasys ' some things are better left to those who's kink it is. I'm a one on one participant and that seems to keep me busy enough let alone multiples. OK ' I may fantasise occassionly but in reality I just cant see myself there at all. I know Mr JJ feels the same. We once spoke about it and he said then the thought of lining up to fuck some girl leaves him cold. We both prefer something a lil more intimate. FM, MFM and FFM is about our limit. Even then you need to check all our boxes..lolA good friend of my hubbys wouldnt even blink at a gang bang. We know he's been there before and makes no bone's he would willingly line up again.. so it takes all kinds... Mrs JJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
Good question.. and worthy of another thread so not to highjack this one. The tread will ask women who partisipated in gangbangs their take on things... Mr JJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
lol , How would you ever know unless you were there watching him do it...So unless he says, hey i went to a gb...and fucked this hot girl with other guys....lolJust my thoughts..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had never been to a party before and as I am finding it impossible to meet anyone on this site, I went to a private gangbang house party last Friday night that was organised on this site. The aim of the party was to satisfy a fantasy of the woman concerned. There were seven men in attendance who took part. The woman's partner was also present as was the hostess and another female friend of hers. The party was very well controlled and supervised. Safe sex was practised at all times, which included the use of oral dams, condoms and latex gloves. Men who turned up without having a shower, were required to shower and everything went well. To each their own I guess. I suppose gangbangs are like anal sex, you either hate it or love it, there is no middle ground. Not sure if I will attend another one though, as I found it difficult to get hard in a group situation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
this is my first reply in a thread and thought that it was hilarious that someone on a site designed for casual sex, eperimentation and overall fun would look down on a guy for being in something like that. At the end of the day trying or being involved regularly in something like a gang bang isnt to be looked down on. Whats the difference with a guy being involved in a gang bang with 1 woman and 5 guys to a girl having sex with 6 different guys. At the end of the day everyone likes different things and whether someone has done it, wants to try it or is a regualr ettendee it doesnt necessarily make him a bad guy he just likes something you dont
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I,m in a open relationship ( mr here ) with my wife & my two girfriends , so i thought it would be no big deal for me to try a gang bang , hey , just for the hell of it. mmmmmm how wrong was I , I never heard so much f &^%$%^**%*. when the 3 of them , let just say disagree with me. So the point is , some woman really hate it alot , i say it agin really hate it alot. Do i know why ???? no , some times it just pays to shut up , when you on a good thing lol. So guys I would not tell any woman even if you are in a open relationship, you did one or want to be in one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
or is it 'misnomer'? Would you get involved with a guy that has fucked a girl who fucked 10 or more guys - does it make a difference if they were all in the one night or spread out (pardon the pun) over time? It seems a curious distinction to make.
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RHP User
13 years ago
whats in the past is in the past and why would he tell a woman he had done it unless he isnt serious about the woman he is with unless she is a virgin everyone has a sexual history and it is know ones business but yr own
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Colette
13 years ago
This is a SEX site for goodness sake! What kind of questions is this? Gang bangs are so common I can't believe it could be an issue for someone on redhotpie. Maybe you should look elsewhere for your vanilla fun.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks guys for all your comments.As this was a subject I had never had to think about before, I guess the shock of knowledge got me more than anything else. I certainly dont look down on anyone that is into this or anything else for that matter. But reading everyones comments and opinions has certainly been a great help, and i will definately be looking at things from a different angle from now on. Each to their own.. Thanks MissTLC
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh, what a question - and how very revealing were the answers. Despite this being an adult matchmaking site- yes, one where people try to match each other for sex the replies revealed that not only is sex with other people than the (future) sex with them looked down upon, but that they seem to be subconsciously really not looking for sex (see CHRISJM's response)but they are looking for a relationship as it is often mentioned in girls' answers... sad IMHO when ppl cannot be honest in being here just for the adult fun... and make it easier for all :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm totally stunned by this post. There are gangbangs and there are gangbangs. i used to hold them monthly for a number of years. Often many guys would turn up. It was never a line up. i would play with say 4 or 5 at a time and they didn't all fuck me. It was like a big group session. some guys who turned up were so shy i literally had to talk them into joining in. There were men of all ages and there was nothing violent or bad about it. Safe sex was always practised. a lot of the time it was quite often just a guy touching me and me him and nothing more from that one. what's the big deal??
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RHP User
13 years ago
maybe the OP sees a GB as unemotional meaningless sex?? Just a fuck!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interesting ... sounds to me MissTLC like you are sending a very subtle message to some here perhaps? I would like to think that this is a very non-judgemental site given the depth and breadth of what goes on and what constitutes a gb anyway? 4 or more?? RHP isn't the site you should come looking for an exclusive relationship, it so very rarely happens.Live and let live I say ... plus how do you know if you like something if you haven't tried it??
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RHP User
13 years ago
we both are very much put off by the idea of gangbangs..... its just a wee extreme for us, we enjoy a much more relaxed and respectful encounter than this would appear to offer........sex should be fun...and this sounds like anything but.
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RHP User
13 years ago
GB's cant be compared to one-one or a 3some. It's just something different. My parties were never violent, i was never attacked and it was never a line up, just a lot of people having fun. As i previously stated a lot of the time i had to coax guys to actually join in and some were so nervous they could never cum, and it was never a situation where i was demoralised. Clearly not everyone's cup of tea, but please dont make it out to always be something disrespectful Quoting 'mikeandshel' we both are very much put off by the idea of gangbangs..... its just a wee extreme for us, we enjoy a much more relaxed and respectful encounter than this would appear to offer........sex should be fun...and this sounds like anything but.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe finding a relationship at RHP is rare... I dont know if that is so.... but I wouldn't have thought so. I mean, you get on here... find someone you're attracted to with similar sexual interests.... that's a pretty decent start to a modern relationship I would have thought. I mean to say, why invest all that emotional energy in someone, only to discover that they're really crap in bed and will never satisfy your sexual urges.... it's just too late if you fall in love with them first. From that perspective, this is a sensational site to find a relationship.hugsStalky Quoting 'crazywhitechic' I would like to think that this is a very non-judgemental site given the depth and breadth of what goes on ..........RHP isn't the site you should come looking for an exclusive relationship, it so very rarely happens.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'desserts' GB's cant be compared to one-one or a 3some. It's just something different. My parties were never violent, i was never attacked and it was never a line up, just a lot of people having fun. As i previously stated a lot of the time i had to coax guys to actually join in and some were so nervous they could never cum, and it was never a situation where i was demoralised. Clearly not everyone's cup of tea, but please dont make it out to always be something disrespectful Quoting 'mikeandshel' we both are very much put off by the idea of gangbangs..... its just a wee extreme for us, we enjoy a much more relaxed and respectful encounter than this would appear to offer........sex should be fun...and this sounds like anything but. so....we cant have and share an opinion? we see it as we see it. not as fun. not as something we'd enjoy. the idea is too extreme, and less than respectful. to us. deal with it. we do.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Must say there have been heaps of relationships that we know of that have started here, they meet on here, come to the club and meet and then start relationships.We went to a wedding yesterday just like that!.So there are people on here that meet and end up together for sure!I can think of at least 30 singles that are now couples that met here and then at club and now are either married or in a relationship and some have had children.I met John here too....and then at the club and now we have all been together for nearly 3 years.Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Colette'This is a SEX site for goodness sake! What kind of questions is this? Gang bangs are so common I can't believe it could be an issue for someone on redhotpie. Maybe you should look elsewhere for your vanilla fun. It may seem normal or natural to you, but sex is like anything else, everyone has different likes and dislikes and that doesn't make them 'vanilla'. Personally I think gangbangs are boring as batshit, I would much prefer a good FFM, or spa with a few couples and a long night of fun, rather than a rodgering by some faceless, nameless guys all lining up for their 2 minutes of sex (Just my opinion, I think they are pathetic- both the bangers and bangees- And before you ask yes we have had experience, so we know its not our thing). Good on you Miss TLC for being upfront and what you like and don't! Mich x
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with a lot of the sentiments expressed already. It really is a matter of perspective. I don't have a problem with a guy who has been involved in a GangBang before, i need em a little adventurous. It means you're probably not going to be bored to death a couple of years down the line if you start a relationship with him. This is NOT where his character lies either, i don't think we should make that mistake and tie this in with character. As has already been said, this type of senario is just as much for the woman participating as for the men involved. You don't do this type of thing as a woman unless it 1. sits well with you and 2. you are particularly highly sexed. Sure, i would prefer the most intimate setting of an mfm by a long shot BUT if you're in that wild, crazy, up to your eyeballs in hormones then it can be a fun sport. xxgoodgrl
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree Stalky, and some friends of mine have just married and another couple about to marry next month, but of all the people I know from RHP, they are the exception rather than the rule. And I think that people shouldn't play here if they can't be open minded. Just my opinion hun Quoting 'couplesint' Must say there have been heaps of relationships that we know of that have started here, they meet on here, come to the club and meet and then start relationships.We went to a wedding yesterday just like that!.So there are people on here that meet and end up together for sure!I can think of at least 30 singles that are now couples that met here and then at club and now are either married or in a relationship and some have had children.I met John here too....and then at the club and now we have all been together for nearly 3 years.Leesa xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is it necessary to resort to name calling just cos you don't like something?? i don't particularly like swallowing or even a guy cumming in my mouth, but i don't resort to name calling those who do!!Quoting 'michnruss' Quoting 'Colette'This is a SEX site for goodness sake! What kind of questions is this? Gang bangs are so common I can't believe it could be an issue for someone on redhotpie. Maybe you should look elsewhere for your vanilla fun. It may seem normal or natural to you, but sex is like anything else, everyone has different likes and dislikes and that doesn't make them 'vanilla'. Personally I think gangbangs are boring as batshit, I would much prefer a good FFM, or spa with a few couples and a long night of fun, rather than a rodgering by some faceless, nameless guys all lining up for their 2 minutes of sex (Just my opinion, I think they are pathetic- both the bangers and bangees- And before you ask yes we have had experience, so we know its not our thing). Good on you Miss TLC for being upfront and what you like and don't! Mich x
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RHP User
13 years ago
There was no name calling- just pointing out that calling someone 'vanilla' was a little harsh.....geez..
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
What is the big deal? We have dabbled in gang bangs...from both sides of the coin...it was a novelty & lots of fun, we don't look for them now..but if the situation arose again with the right people (right people is the key)..sure. We are talking gang bang here..not gang rape! So long as everyone plays safe, the guys are respectful to the lady..and to each other and she has the last say on everything that happens..what's the problem?? Really what is the difference to a party where one girl plays with say, eight guys and a party with eight couples are present and the male halves of all those couples just so happen to play with one of the girls over the course of the party? The numbers are exactly the same in the end.... either way it's eight guys in one room having sex with the same girl.......just one is called gang bang & one is called group sex.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You said that bangers and bangees were pathetic!!!!Quoting 'michnruss' There was no name calling- just pointing out that calling someone 'vanilla' was a little harsh.....geez..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Of course you are entitled to one. i was merely pointing out that i was not disrepected or treated in any way that made me feel bad. They were fun encounters and i made sure they weren't the traditional line up type thing that is all. I know it's not everyone's cup of tea.Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'desserts' GB's cant be compared to one-one or a 3some. It's just something different. My parties were never violent, i was never attacked and it was never a line up, just a lot of people having fun. As i previously stated a lot of the time i had to coax guys to actually join in and some were so nervous they could never cum, and it was never a situation where i was demoralised. Clearly not everyone's cup of tea, but please dont make it out to always be something disrespectful Quoting 'mikeandshel' we both are very much put off by the idea of gangbangs..... its just a wee extreme for us, we enjoy a much more relaxed and respectful encounter than this would appear to offer........sex should be fun...and this sounds like anything but. so....we cant have and share an opinion? we see it as we see it. not as fun. not as something we'd enjoy. the idea is too extreme, and less than respectful. to us. deal with it. we do.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'thedoctor2640' Oh, what a question - and how very revealing were the answers. Despite this being an adult matchmaking site- yes, one where people try to match each other for sex the replies revealed that not only is sex with other people than the (future) sex with them looked down upon, but that they seem to be subconsciously really not looking for sex (see CHRISJM's response)but they are looking for a relationship as it is often mentioned in girls' answers... sad IMHO when ppl cannot be honest in being here just for the adult fun... and make it easier for all :-) I have read and re-read all the comments from the girls that have commented before you and with the exception of Fiona stating that if she was in a relationship and the man went out and participated in a GB then that would be the end of the realtionship, all the other ladies have only stated they would not want to catch up with a man if they knew he had been involved in a GB (their personal preference) ...I did not read that as them wanting a relationship...is it because another male poster has not been inundated with offers of sex that you believe that the female posters are not here for sex? Yes, it is an ADULT matchmaking site...and members use it in the vain hope that they will find someone who will be sexually compatible with your own needs and desires...wether you are a swinging couple, married and looking for more outside the marriage, bi or bi curious and wanting to explore, single and looking for a bit of fun or single and looking for a partner who shares your sexual and non sexual interests...it is all horses for courses...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Couldn't have said it better myself. XX Quoting 'DonnaBrett'What is the big deal? We have dabbled in gang bangs...from both sides of the coin...it was a novelty & lots of fun, we don't look for them now..but if the situation arose again with the right people (right people is the key)..sure. We are talking gang bang here..not gang rape! So long as everyone plays safe, the guys are respectful to the lady..and to each other and she has the last say on everything that happens..what's the problem?? Really what is the difference to a party where one girl plays with say, eight guys and a party with eight couples are present and the male halves of all those couples just so happen to play with one of the girls over the course of the party? The numbers are exactly the same in the end.... either way it's eight guys in one room having sex with the same girl.......just one is called gang bang & one is called group sex.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have to say i tried it once and none of the guys could get it hard and i walked out. Never tried again!Had to keep telling myself it wasnt me..lolLeesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
what is different in a person ( male or female ) having many partners either at once like in GB kinds of ways or one at a time ??? its still being with many isnt it ?????? and if all are realy adult about it then whats the harm ???? Axxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
well said andreweagle!!! Double standards don't sit well with me either :-)
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
SPOT ON!!! Quoting 'andreweagle' what is different in a person ( male or female ) having many partners either at once like in GB kinds of ways or one at a time ??? its still being with many isnt it ?????? and if all are realy adult about it then whats the harm ???? Axxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
would welcome a gb with 10 women.... probly kill me but what a way to go
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RHP User
13 years ago
My girl loves being gangbanged and does it bareback group creampie
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RHP User
13 years ago
You will give poor MissTLC a stroke Cream_me!!! Quoting 'Cream_me' My girl loves being gangbanged and does it bareback group creampie
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RHP User
13 years ago
ummm Cream_me..bareback/group creampie ??? how can you be certain that all of these men are disease free? Unless you come back and tell me that you locked them in a room for at lest 3 months after you had them tested, I'm inclined to say WTF man But the 'if required' box you check under safe sex on your profile, tells us that you're not exactly a stickler for it hey? Geez, all those men, all that cum..............I'm rubbing my face with worry for you, your girl and for your playmates.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are you just winding us up? Stuffed if I can pick it lately
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interesting way to get very very sick .........really sexual nothing is worth it , I feel sorry for your wife
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Cream_me'My girl loves being gangbanged and does it bareback group creampie and this is 'safe' sex? how? do we now exclude all from hervey bay as prospects?
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RHP User
13 years ago
For my part I 'LOVE' being gang banged. It is one of the best things to have happen to you. My problem is finding a group of guys who will participate, many men find it intimidating - such a shame really.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Cream_me' My girl loves being gangbanged and does it bareback group creampie THAT IS DISGUSTING AND SO UNSAFE....WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING , ARE YOU NOT AWARE OF THE HEALTH RISKS TO YOUR WIFE AND OTHERS! AS FOR THE GUYS THAT PARTICIPATE..OMG WTF....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously dude. You do not care about her health? Bad form
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RHP User
13 years ago
From a man who has never been part of a gang bang, I find your comments the most succinct.I certainly wouldn't line up for a gang bang, but we are supposed to be talking about a gang bang from a woman's perspective. So my question would be put to a woman who has experienced a gang bang, rather than those who denigrate something that is not there "cup of tea" lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gangbangs it depends :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We both get turned on by the thought of each other going and being involved in gangbangs. We attended them together and separately and always enjoy reliving the memories together letter on. We always pratice safe sex and have strict rules on when we play and how we play. I'm this day and age, acceptance of someone's past is important.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wow good to see so many perspectives. D_G_T you would be surprised how many women & men do bareback gb's, I was chatting with a man the other day who was asked by a woman trying to organise a bareback gb at her place to participate, she is hoping to recruit 25 participants. I guess for some people the risk of disease isn't an issue. The truth is everyone is entitled to their opinions & tastes in regards to the gb, my opinion is it's not for me & even though it was a fantasy for me when I was younger (I wouldn't have had the maturity for it then anyway), I'm glad it has remained thus; a fantasy. I think for me it is just too intense & like many thoughts I am happy to keep it that way. I was impressed to read about CHRISJM's post, especially the bit about safe sex! My other opinion is this, people deserve to know what their partners are up to regardless of whether you're in a polygamous or monogamous relationship, so if your intention is for a gb or extra relations with others, you're indirectly controlling your partner/s choice of their lifestyle by with holding that information. No judgements, everyone enjoy your posts! Ms D xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dreamy i don't think it's a case of disease not being an issue to some, i think they're just too stupid to make an adult decision. You can't cure dumb because there was too much cousin marrying in your family. Quoting 'DreamyD'Wow good to see so many perspectives. D_G_T you would be surprised how many women & men do bareback gb's, I was chatting with a man the other day who was asked by a woman trying to organise a bareback gb at her place to participate, she is hoping to recruit 25 participants. I guess for some people the risk of disease isn't an issue. The truth is everyone is entitled to their opinions & tastes in regards to the gb, my opinion is it's not for me & even though it was a fantasy for me when I was younger (I wouldn't have had the maturity for it then anyway), I'm glad it has remained thus; a fantasy. I think for me it is just too intense & like many thoughts I am happy to keep it that way. I was impressed to read about CHRISJM's post, especially the bit about safe sex! My other opinion is this, people deserve to know what their partners are up to regardless of whether you're in a polygamous or monogamous relationship, so if your intention is for a gb or extra relations with others, you're indirectly controlling your partner/s choice of their lifestyle by with holding that information. No judgements, everyone enjoy your posts! Ms D xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
To Goodgrlzsayplz I understand how wrong it is to be involved in such unsafe practices, but my opinions aren't going to change peoples bad decision making. If some people are making stupid choices they all have to deal with their ignorance, which of course is not bliss, not for anyone who end's up suffering either directly or indirectly, that's why we can only protect ourselves at the end of the day. Ms D.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If a potential partner had been in a gangbang, I'm just failing to see how that would have anything to do with me.If they are clean then what they did last week (or are doing next week) is just not for me to judge.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I absoloutly agree lovely Dreamy, for sure 100% but unfortunatly some STI's can pass from one person to another even with the use of condoms. So these morons not only put themselves at particularly high risk but the rest of us too. After playing for 18 months i came to understand that very few people get tested regularly and most people don't even know they are carrying anything, engage in highly risky behaviour if you want to, disrespect someone you're supposed to love by allowing them to not only put your health at risk but their own but don't risk the rest of us with reckless behaviour. At the end of the day we all take risks playing this game but not all of us are reckless and not all of us have such disregard for the health and welbeing of our playfriends. As a decent human being surely we have the obligation to protect others? xxgoodgrl Quoting 'DreamyD'To Goodgrlzsayplz I understand how wrong it is to be involved in such unsafe practices, but my opinions aren't going to change peoples bad decision making. If some people are making stupid choices they all have to deal with their ignorance, which of course is not bliss, not for anyone who end's up suffering either directly or indirectly, that's why we can only protect ourselves at the end of the day. Ms D.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Would knowing a guy has been in a GB make me not want to see him? Absolutely not! Who the hell am I to judge? Everyone has a past, its an important part of who we are BUT it doesnt define who we are today. Just because someone has experimented with their sexuality does not mean that they are in anyway a bad person, or someone who treats women in a derogatory manner. All it means is that they are open to new experiences and may have a different ideal of what makes up a good time. The most enjoyable partners I have had a people who have had different experiences to me, and can bring some new things into the bedroom I can only think of 2 scenarios where a partners participation in a GB may be off putting for me - a) If he is trying to get me to be in one that I am not wanting to be in, or b) If we are in a relationship and he participates in one without my knowledge If I am meeting someone off RHP, then their past is not an issue to me, I am not planning on marrying them, or even entering a relationship with them so how is it any of my business? As long as I have a good time when we meet up I really dont care! Open your mind MissTLC. If you discount people on RHP, and even in life, solely based on their sexual past, or current sexual interests, you are going to miss out on some amazing times with great people
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RHP User
13 years ago
the whole iea of 'safe sex' means we absolutely should be excluding people based on their sexual pasts..........if a persons been involved in 'high risk' activities, how could this not impact upon your choice? if we knew someone had been involved in unprotected unsafe sex acts, then yes, 100% we would exclude him from our play. how could we not? its not at all about 'judging', its about making responsible, realistic and informed choices.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not all gb's are unsafe ones. Many are completely safe sex, like a lot of parties etc. The impression that i get from the OP is that she seems to think that any guy who has been involved in a GB has somehow treated the woman concerned in a derogatory manner.Of course if someone has been involved in unsafe sex play and that could even be a 1-1 which was unprotected then yes of course one needs to make a different judgement.Quoting 'mikeandshel' the whole iea of 'safe sex' means we absolutely should be excluding people based on their sexual pasts..........if a persons been involved in 'high risk' activities, how could this not impact upon your choice? if we knew someone had been involved in unprotected unsafe sex acts, then yes, 100% we would exclude him from our play. how could we not? its not at all about 'judging', its about making responsible, realistic and informed choices.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I"m outta here. Bit over it allciao
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'desserts' Not all gb's are unsafe ones. Many are completely safe sex, like a lot of parties etc. The impression that i get from the OP is that she seems to think that any guy who has been involved in a GB has somehow treated the woman concerned in a derogatory manner. Of course if someone has been involved in unsafe sex play and that could even be a 1-1 which was unprotected then yes of course one needs to make a different judgement. Quoting 'mikeandshel' the whole iea of 'safe sex' means we absolutely should be excluding people based on their sexual pasts..........if a persons been involved in 'high risk' activities, how could this not impact upon your choice? if we knew someone had been involved in unprotected unsafe sex acts, then yes, 100% we would exclude him from our play. how could we not? its not at all about 'judging', its about making responsible, realistic and informed choices. doesnt matter how safe or unsafe they may be, they are not for us. we dont see them as something we'd enjoy, or be involved in.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Desserts? Oh dear... well have a decent rest, a bex and a lie down!...Everybody gets that way sooner or later... it's the nature of a forum!Lots of hugsGazza Quoting 'desserts' I"m outta here. Bit over it allciao
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RHP User
13 years ago
look iam open minded when it comes to sex.. and am interested in try new things with the right people .. when it comes to the act of sex .. gang bangs 3sum whatever .. as long as all party are willing and it safe, it all comes down to people choose .. who are we to judge it and even make a judgement when they have not experince it ourself ..its all about the way you think about sex ..if your wanting to try something .. and there are other wanting the same .. why not take the experince .. gang bangs is not a bad thing if there is consent from all partys and there has to be respect when 'stop' is spoken.. so my option is when it cames to the act of sex(whichever way ) trust the people you choose , be safe and have fun with the experinces ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can understand your reservations MissTLC and it is great that you posted this question so that you can explore your feelings about it. I would probably have the same initial reaction and personally dont find the idea of a gang-bang at all appealing. To me it seems impersonal,indiscriminate, lacking in intimacy and perhaps degrading?? However, one of the great things about this site is that it presents us with opportunities to challenge and question our ideals and sexual limitations. As a couple and as individuals we are open-minded and non-judgemental and respect others likes, dislikes, fantasies, fetishes, turn-ons and turn-offs. Everyone is different and as long as people are respectful of one-another, consenting and indulging in sexual experiences of their own free will and for their own, and each others, enjoyment and pleasure, then its all good. You have the right to chose sexual partners who you feel attracted to and comfortable with, but I would not necessarily rule out someone who had participated in a gang bang without knowing more. Use this as an opportunity to learn more about him - and yourself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Because of my nature and approach to my social interactions, I could never imagine participating in a gang bang. NEVER. There is a dis-respectfactor, a humiliation factor, a being used commodity factor and more. Strangely I am a bit of a poser and one day I will be happy to do the two couples thing in a single room (each having sex). Also I have no issues about soft porn - my cock in someone I care about doing nice things. But never gang bangs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
sex with condoms is not 100% safe as it is. mainly because its not just genital/genital contact that transfers one thing to another.....imagine playing, in a gang bang environment, and the first person transfers some STD to the woman, or the woman has an STD when it all begins....isnt everyone else in that room then also exposed? and then their partners at any point after that? arent we also exposed.......even if we dont meet the guy who was part of it, til 3 months later? gang bangs arent safe. what we do isnt safe. but we dont wish to multiply the chances of us encountering someone with a hidden health issue, by playing with people who are happy to put themselves at uneccesary risk of exposure. its not about the behaviour at all. its about the unknown.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That indulging in a gang bang would be about as safe as having sex with one extra person every month for a year. What is the difference? Same number of people. Lets be honest here, the only safe sex is in a monogamous relationship whereby both parties are faithful and have been tested. Anything else has an element of risk. It is about minimising the risk. If you take but one single extra person into your relationship, you have no way of knowing or verifying thier sexual cleanliness or conduct in the past....unless they are a virgin.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree Fiona it is no different than having sex with a few guys over a period of time, and I am sure the person uses condoms over that period so I see no difference! Having seen and organized gb"'s I can tell u they are probably one of the most safest plays I have seen , no one goes near anyone with outna condom ever!!!!!! And the most I have seen is about 4 guys on one lady so I am sure a lot of guys and gals have had more than 4 ladies or guys in a period of a year. Unless you are a virgin and have never had sex there are always std's out there. Play safe and stay safe to the best of your ability and get your health checks if you are a regular participant in regular sex of any kind unless your are monogamous. Leesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
only if the guys have all had sex with each other as well...which is what they are doing when in a gang bang...arent they? we repeat. its about the unknown. there are too many unknowns here...does the woman know all these guys and their histories? do the guys know each others history? is the same care taken with each successive guy? do things happen that normally wouldnt ? you are having sex with all of them at once, not days/weeks/months apart. theres no comparison, as thats a simplistic argument.
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RHP User
13 years ago
how are guys having sex with eachother, they change condoms, dont use the same condom over and over again, and never usually cross swords..Can you honestly say that all the guys that you have played with or girls for that matter of fact have told you the complete truth about their play habits..i am sure they havent!So as long as everyone is safe with the way they practice sex, that is all they can do.Change condoms each time, never use the same condom change it between goes and that is the safest you can expect to be.Only one dick can usually enter at once of course unless you are multitalented and a very relaxed lady..lolBut most of the time it is one dick and one guy and then the other ...the other holes are filled with dicks maybe too, but always safe sex.!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well to be honest, GB’s are not for me…there is no appeal to me whatsoever, I prefer group sex, spas, fun, alcohol, some great laughs – out of the boat etc……I am not against anything that people desire providing no one is hurt (emotionally or physically), everything is consensual and of course that safe sex is practiced HOWEVER I must say that my views are somewhat bias now..please let me explain A regular poster / reader may have followed my little story in the “Cheating” thread currently going around of the demise of my 3 yr relationship due to my partners constant infidelity, however it actually ended because of his attendance and participation in a GB –oh so your thinking…Wow I ended it because I’m such a prude and not open minded about GB…mmm no far from it..I ended it when the police rocked up on our doorstep and started investigating my partner’s involvement in the GB The “lady” who organised this event, had several men (5) around to her place one nite including my partner. According to the 307 sms exchanged between my ex and her, the day prior to the arranged nite, her fantasy was to be “gang raped” so not just Gang banged but physically assaulted as well…in her words to be treated as the dirty cum slut”” she was. Only 6 people know what went down that nite but by all accounts she got what she craved……my partner had to travel quite some distance from Perth to attend this gathering and after it finished (and because he knew I was coming off shift) he declined her invitation to stay the nite in her bed and continue a one on one session and drove 200 kms back home. According to the police, the next day, she reported her “attack” to them and of course they had to investigate the matter. She consented to forensic testing, insisted she was sexually assaulted and raped - (two different legal terms) both vaginally and anally and the first I knew of all of this was 4 days later when the police appeared on our doorstep to interview my partner (who was at work at the time) ….Im still nursing a sore jaw from it dropping to the ground from what I heard in my living room that day. Yep that’s when our relationship was over. I could go on with all that happened, but I won’t bore you… but what I will say is this, you never really know anyone and I had no idea after being with my partner of 3 years that this kind of role playing did it for him…I was genuinely shocked but more than that when I read the transcript of what went on via sms between my partner and this woman prior to the GB I was almost physically ill…….you never know anyone do you ? and trust me Im no prude…and of course, it was all done bare back, so yet again I dragged myself off to be tested….but what puzzled me most was her apparent lack of self respect and esteem as a woman – and my partners complete disregard for her as a person, he treated her like a dog and she loved it…. I was into BDSM years ago but this was beyond that. Im not a psychologist but I am a doctor but even I can’t get my head around it all…..both him and her….gone was the gorgeous man I fell in love with..I no longer know the man who was involved in this that nite….was the GB or the violence that shocked me ?, I don’t know because I have not been able to separate the two….. So my warning to any who will heed it, is this… – be careful at all times in ALL plays … – yes I am fully aware that the exact situation could have happened in a “”one on one”” scenario but my ex believes and tells me that he still believes she “”came”” after him because he wouldn’t stay the nite when asked and she went after the other men for various forms of rejection that they subjected her to that nite…that he witnessed but like …who knows..rite ??? – was he set up ??– like I said, only 6 people know what REALLY happened. And in case your wondering what the upshot was, well we are over, I moved out and slowly I am moving on – and I’m pleased to say all my tests came back clear, my ex has a new partner who has no idea of his past….and like the OP .. I wonder how she would feel though if she knew , the lady in question, dropped her complaint after a 3 week investigation but was subsequently charged by the police prosecutor for contempt/ public nuisance and falsifying a crime, she will appear in Court January next year and my ex has been summons to appear by the police - her husband ( who is a FIFO) has separated from her now and is seeking custody of their two children, two other men who participated in that nite, are now separated from their respective partners. The other men were single Lots of casualties in this one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have recently started exploring the world of group sex which is just another way of saying gangbangs as they are the same thing and I LOVE IT. The first time I was quite nervous as I didnt know what to expect but the party was very tasteful with really lovely people. A mix of couples and single guys and girls. People did the normal meet and greet at any cocktail party then the ladies went off to change into something sexy. the hosts were fabulous and put people at ease then I went for a shower and a guy i really liked joined me for some fun then we ended up on the bed where everyone began to watch which the start of other people stripping off and joining us. for the next few hours I was exploring the delights of all these guys who were very respectful and everybody had a fabulous time. There is nothing better than being totally spoilt with a guy each sucking my nipples, pussy and being thoroughy satisfied and returing the pleasure as it is about exploring our bodies in a way that gives pleasure to all. I personally do not see anything wrong in this enviroment and everybody has a right to explore their own fantasies without being judged or "looked down" apon for what they have chosen to explore for themselves. From my adult party experience I have met some wonderful guys and I now am able to play 1 on 1 with someone from the party and I would not have met him otherwise so I am very thankful I was invited in the first place. This has opened other avenues to attend parties as a couple and still enjoy my single life. each encounter in life shapes the person into who you see when they touch your life. Celebrate diversity whether its a person's cultural background, sexual preferences or educational level - people are people through people and we were not wired to be monogomus creatures. so to re-cap I LOVE GANGBANGS !!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
We were taught sharing is caring.What happened to that in adulthood ?While on the topic, why can't we have adult playmates ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
heres an idea....what if just one of the guys unknowingly has HPV, and in the course of putting his condom on, he contaminates his hand.... does he, after putting a condom on, stop to wash his hand? ........................the guys are all sharing the one woman... if just one guy also shares something unwanted, doesnt it stand that everyone will have shared it as well? just asking...to me, these are all valid questions..... and i repeat, its not the behaviour that concerns me, its the unknown. if there was no risk at all, and we didnt have to worry about STD's , these questions would never be asked....would they?
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RHP User
13 years ago
The very next single man you decide to play with as a couple could unknowlingly have contacted HPV just a week before playing with you.....the day after his last test. He accidently contaminates his hand while putting on his condom. Does he stop to wash his hands? If we are all going to have to suit up in HAZMAT gear then what will be the point? Assess the risk and move on. As much as I am not a fan of gangbangs...my reasoning has nothing to do with the safety issues as from where I am looking the risks are the same.
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RHP User
13 years ago
but you play with the unkown too........which is what i was saying, its not the behavior....its the unkown... theres no argument here, as we are fully aware that we know nothing of the person we play with..if they dont tell us...how could we know? its not me arguing the rights n wrongs..i'm just putting ideas forward....the hesitation we have at all times is the unknown....always has been...
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RHP User
13 years ago
ourselves from earlier..... gang bangs arent safe. what we do isnt safe. but we dont wish to multiply the chances of us encountering someone with a hidden health issue, by playing with people who are happy to put themselves at uneccesary risk of exposure. its not about the behaviour at all. its about the unknown. we'd feel the same if the guy was using intravenous drugs, or frequenting beats or bath houses...or said he was going bareback with playmates.... and yes, we are fully aware that disclosure is the issue in all things.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
anyone in surfers paradise area fancy goin for a drink, i'm bored?
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MrJingles
13 years ago
What if it was one guy and 10 women, is that still called a gang bang....does that change your perspective? I wouldnt know where to start....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Naaa. Most guys call that "You lucky bastard"
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RHP User
13 years ago
having known a lady that was very much into being on the recieving end of gangbangs, and then reading these comments, has sort of opened up a question or 2 for me. A gangbang of 3 or more guys on 1 fem duz nothing for me, but yea have been involved in a mmmf situation, "alcohol" is a bad thing sometimes ...... the thing that gets me though, and the question i have to ask .......... " Is it the guy's who are involved in the sexual act, or the female that wants the sexual act, that is the sexual deviant - perverted sole" ??????? We have all met the girl who wants more than one guy to satisfy her, and how many of the people out there making comments actually have swaped partners?, had multiple partners at a sex club? or even more than 1 partner on a nite out on the town? I guess if you want to try it, its ok ........... if you cant survive without it, THEN its a problem
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sahzpete
9 years ago
I think it is up to the individual person I was asked by our friends husband if I would get a few men together to please his wife as it was her fantasy of witch I did , it was all arranged and the lady set the rules and her husband also was one of the participants we had5 males and 3 of us where married and our wife’s where there as we where all friends and happy for the lady to have her fun night the other wife’s did don’t join in and we had 2 single men.The lady and her husband who’s gang bang it was likes to call them Greedy Girl Days as it sounds much nicer and I agree, and the lady told us she had a great night and she has had a few ( Greedy Girl Days ) in the past and I am sure she will have more, and after that night my wife said she may like to try a smaller GB of maybe 3 men so every one is different .As you are on this site you must also be in involved in meeting multiple partners at different time and what say you met a man that had been with lots of ladies but one at a time what’s the difference .
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sahzpete
9 years ago
Some people keep going on about the STD risk but we all must except that as a chance if you are on this site or meeting any one here or any wear there is a risk as we are not hear to meet and play tennis, and you run that risk every time you meet some one new, If you are worried about the risk of catching a STD you should not be involved in this life style and you should stay be in a monogamous relationship. Most of us practise safe sex in one way or another to eliminate the risk.
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sahzpete
9 years ago
The other thing the name gang bang does sound like it sends the wrong message and maybe it should be called as a friend of ours calls the ones she has had ( Greedy Girl Day ) as it sound must nicer and that is what it is, a lady having fun living out her fantasies.
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RHP User
9 years ago
because its not on my sexual bucket list doesn't mean I'm going to judge someone else for having it be on their list or actually participated in one.
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bianca_dd
9 years ago
It's just sex and after all they are just men, all talk and very little substance. Most are way too chicken to pull their willys out in front of other men in spite off what they claim. And don't they all claim a lot lol. However, if they did participate, what's the difference between doing a GB and them banging a woman 1/1 who had had sex with dozen different guys over the previous few days? Only she would know, not them or you, so I fail to see your concern. Apart from that, if it was protected (we all live in hope), what would it matter? Good on them, get out and have as much damn fun as you can before they come and nail the lid down on the box. Remember that you are going to spend far more time dead than you are alive.
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