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Getting hit on at the gym

May 09 2015

So today I took my first solo venture to the gym. I've been having some personal training sessions but this was the first time I've ever gone to a gym for a workout on my own. I quite enjoyed it, and am even thinking about going back tomorrow. I also managed to get hit on. Didn't bother me at all, and if anything I was flattered as it's been quite awhile since I've had that sort of male attention (in real life, I mean). If he'd been my type I would've told him I don't have a partner when he made the comment that was obviously trying to suss that out, and seen where it went from there. But as a gym newbie it did make me wonder, are there any unspoken rules about flirting or trying to pick up at the gym? Is it something that happens much? Obviously there can be a fair bit of surreptitious perving going on - I know I've been doing that - but just what is the go if someone wants to take it further than just looking?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When I'm busy doing something else (whether it's for example working out, grocery shopping or studying at the library), I prefer to be left alone, though I wouldn't have a real problem with it. The same rules applies as anywhere else for me though: A "No, but thanks for the compliment" should suffice if I'm not interested for whatever reason. :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    children now lack the ability or gross motor skills to throw a ball with any force.Now you have worked and exercised your body let your brain and what happens in real life cum to you.. naturally.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    But it's like most places you go to on a regular basis .Humans tend to be creatures of habit,if you go there at the same time,same days you will inevitably see the same people ,some you will no doubt connect with and I imagine the gym if you want it to be ,could be quite social.If you like someone and they like you why not meet up for a spirulina or two...xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    For me this is a funny one. (not HAHA funny)... I see guys at the gym blatantly hitting on girls, and it makes me shudder with embarrassment. Partly because I'm generally pretty shy & wouldn't do it myself - as much as the devill on the shoulder says I should. There are plenty of gorgeous creatures in the gym at Coolum! ...now, on the other hand I had a very attractive woman hit on me a couple of times. Back to being a bit shy, I wasn't sure if I was being my shy self or if I was actually uncomfortable with the situation. First encounter she couldn't get the seat down on her bike, so I offered to help (I was on the bike next to her) - when she jumped off the bike & pushed the seat down with her chest. What's odd about that? My hand was already on the seat pushing it down. Is it me misreading or was she blatantly "offering"? That's where this male gets shy & uncertain. Part of me says "leave people alone in the gym". I'm not anti-social, but when someone tries talking to you when you're curling 20kgs you're not exactly in the frame of mind to chat. The other part of me says "Oh lordy how I would love to feel that firm butt in my hands while I..." and the gym is the perfect place for said firm butt. lol Clear as mud? :-)

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    No rules. Gyms are the closest thing so a swingers party. Lots of goings on. Many a deal done over coffee after a workout and a big source for both singles and the married.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Maybe I should start going to gym??? Lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I tend to focus on my workout. I have met hundreds of people over the years who are now friends/acquaintances but have never bothered to take it any further. Quite a few grls have flirted with me and I could tell they were interested, but I just kept it friendly. I prefer to do my picking up outside the gym lol

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Ive made it pretty clear that I have no issue at all walking straight up to someone who looks interesting, and starting a conversation..... wherever they are. However, there is always an underlying context, from a short period of observation of her first. In the gym, most women are busy getting in, getting their workout done and getting out.... which is how I do my own gym work. Nobody really wants to live in a gym. From my observations, these women are hot and sweaty, tired and exhausted and not generally feeling that sexy at all..... and more than likely don't want to be approached because they're not feeling it. From a "success" point of view, you're behind the curve. Thats not to say it can't or hasn't happened.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    However.... to directly answer your question...... we all know when it comes to seduction, women have the upper hand as most guys are fundamentally clueless lol IF you wanted to take the aspect of your peeving further, its no different to taking it further beyond the gym.... simply maintain the eye contact, engage with a smile... and the guy will get the message that you're open to be approached. Eye contact is key, everywhere.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I look like utter crap at the gym and I tend not to notice anyone else fuck of fat chick exercising that's my motto and shit, there is nothing attractive about me in gym gear and my husbands tshirt. thought some women like to get dressed up for the gym and good luck to them if they score at the gym.

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    10 years ago

    Lol! There will always be flirting, innuendo, gossip, rumors about gym and at gyms. I work at a large gym and I see and hear about many things. As an instructor I get told many things from clients and members - broadens ones thoughts x - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    10 years ago

    A few years back I was a regular at my club gym, and I was interested to see if that type of behaviour actually went about. I worked out at various times / days on much of the equipment around the place, and watched quite carefully for any sort of "casual antics", but never saw any type of 'inappropriate' behaviour getting off the ground. Most every one I saw was just genuinely there for the workouts on the various equipment, some with their obligatory headsets on and mostly unaware of their surroundings, but even the others not so equipped were just happily working away on their routines. Actually surprized me a bit. Tall

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    From what Ive seen..... far more guys seem to be admiring themselves in the mirror, than anyone else.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' IF you wanted to take the aspect of your peeving further, its no different to taking it further beyond the gym.... simply maintain the eye contact, engage with a smile... and the guy will get the message that you're open to be approached. I think my view is, I would assume that someone at the gym is focused on their workout and not in the frame of mind to be bothered. And certainly my main aim in being there is to try and work on my fitness, without looking like too much of a fool as I try and work out how to operate the bloody machines . Sure I'm not averse to a chat starting up, but I guess as you mentioned that would have to be in the right context. The guy yesterday got me as I was having a break in between rowing sessions and was giving me 'tips' on my technique, which I guess would probably annoy me if I was an experienced gym goer and thought my technique was fine, instead of being the newbie that I am. It's interesting that people mention women not feeling sexy at the gym. I can certainly understand that, but I've found that for myself, even when I'm sweating and totally stuffed after a session I actually feel sexier than I have for a long time (and no I don't get dressed up for the gym). I know it's probably to do with the endorphins, and feeling of accomplishment and strength which has been lacking a bit in my life lately.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I know that some blokes get all soaped up together in the showers together... And the straight guys don't even have a clue. :p

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Has the apparent result of making you sweat less. Particularly women. Manufacturers must be onto something there. Enables the user of said garments to have flawless makeup for the whole of their workout. Seems to make them talk a lot as well And flutter their eye lashes.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Lorna Jane seems to the the go-to brand for women that want to / can afford to spend heaps on gym gear. Personally even if I could afford it I wouldn't buy it, I find their stuff boring. Now some of Black Milk's gym gear I would buy if I had the $ but that's mainly because they appeal to my love of things that are a tad different to the mainstream (some people here are aware of my BM fetish ).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    That's because it's a bitch to run in stilettos on those damn treadmills.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I go to a gym down the road once a week. Just for a coffee and a bite to eat, they have great food in the cafe there

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You reminded me of gyms when I was a late teen. Their popularity was not big and very few around. Blokes did go pumping their weights and admiring themselves and very few women went to them. The times have changed drastically. Myself I do not really dig or understand the gym thing. I love my sports and especially exercise in the outdoors and can't think of much worse than being cooped up with shit loads of sweaty people (no sexual innuendo people) breathing in carbon dioxide which us humans release in activity.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is most action is in the change rooms....true story :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Love the workout after the workout. Oops. Dropped the soap.......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'TisonlyI'can't think of much worse than being cooped up with shit loads of sweaty people (no sexual innuendo people) breathing in carbon dioxide which us humans release in activity. and I'm never going to be a gym fanatic, but I have found that it's an efficient way that I can target certain areas of my fitness that are lacking e.g. upper body and core strength, and that I don't normally address much other than through my sporadic yoga. Plus for about 6 or 7 months of the year up here the humidity is disgusting, and doing outdoor exercise is... not fun. So going to the gym gives me an alternative there too.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Yep were all clueless and vain except you aye lad.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Being hit in the gym is normal. It happens and a gorgeous girl like you will stand out. I go to the gym (well not in the last 3+ weeks as jut got back from overseas) at least 3x week. I have my boxing training and cross fit. Some days, i would just work out with the machines when I missed out on training or have an injury. but i do not linger on too long, I show up, do my sets, cardio workouts, weights, machine reps then quickly leave the gym, almost still sweating. All within 60-90 minute session. From my experience, most of the hits happen during the machine workouts or group exercises. but I am in my zone when I work out and ignore everything around me. Earlier last year, one of the trainers regularly commented on my calf and leg muscle definition. some of the young studs were quite friendly to me as well until they found out I regulary train in boxing and muay thai and the approaches ceased. Lol. Most of the hits are harmless and I approach it with humour. Enjoy your workouts and glad to hear you are getting positvie results.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You don't hit on women shopping with kids in tow and I don't imagine during bench pressing would be a good time either, between sets, having a drink, reading the notice board. Why not ?

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Quoting '50zcool' You don't hit on women shopping with kids in tow and I don't imagine during bench pressing would be a good time either, between sets, having a drink, reading the notice board. Why not ? Ive been hit on by a woman with a child in the cereal aisle at Woolies....... and I even had a kid try to pimp me out to her mother in a kids playground. hahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'll admit, I find it a little daunting but I'm sure that feeling will ease off as I become more familiar with the equipment and the gym environment in general. I've been watching youtube videos about rowing machine technique today and realised I've been doing a few things wrong

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A truly awesome exercise for legs and butt is a brisk walk on soft sand, not the compacted stuff next to the water but the mushy stuff higher up the beach, strike with the heel and push off into the stride. Works a treat.