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Ghosting

April 03 2022

My partner and I have met a couple of people on here for mfm and had great times with them, hooking up and having extended sessions where everyone had multiple orgasms and then crickets. One fellow met up with us 4 times over a 6 month period and then went silent, blocking us and ignoring polite greetings. I get that sometimes interest peters out between people but we are all old enough for a simple "thanks its been fun but Im not really into this anymore". Has anyone else had this kind of experience? Im really curious if this is the new normal for the end of a sexual relationship of this type.

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

Ghosting: A silence is a NO. People do it because they can and have changed their minds, there's a reason for crickets. It also saves time, being put in akward positions like being abused or questioned why, or being manipulated to change their minds etc. As a couple, Best to focus on your relationship/partner, rather than others outside of it. Ms Foxy

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Rising_Phoenix

3 years ago

They probably went on a juice cleanse or suffered a change of temperature and died of a heart attack, it happens a bit these days apparently 🤷🏼‍♀️🤣

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ElectricDreamers

3 years ago

Some people just don't have the emotional intelligence to know how to put together kind words that mark that there's nothing more to say/do... so they say nothing

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RHP User

3 years ago

@JamesandLynda tbh it's the fact that this age of electronic communication has led to ghosting. Ignoring unwanted or offensive attention by blocking someone when they first communicate is fine. To ghost someone after months is just rude but the issue is theirs, not yours.

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

Many things..... Lost interest, moved onto new pastures, left the site, wife found out and chopped his weenie off lol. At the end of the day, who cares why someone else does something..... That's a thinking mistake. Just focus on yourselves and enjoy the encounters when you have them. Don't sweat the rest x

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nightingale8

3 years ago

Sometimes people ghost because they’ve lost interest or can’t be bothered but want to keep the door open in case they change their mind. Easier not to say anything than undo words always said. Easier for whom? Certainly not the person who was ghosted.

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Sawadee

3 years ago

Sign of the times .. Maybe sitting down for a few lessons on manners wouldn't go astray ...

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RHP User

3 years ago

Yeah happens all the time. Mostly blokes that are too weak to be open and honest and don’t reckoginse the amazing gift to they have been let into, either that or they just aren’t developed enough in the lifestyle, and will never really understand the rules or dynamics, sometimes they end up wanting to have the supermodel wife for them self. End of day the real man is the confidence to open up your privet world in confidence.

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JessicaRabbit

3 years ago

You've done better than myself and my partner have - we've found it hard to find guys to even show up for a first meet LOL! People and their circumstances change and sometimes it's easier to go silent than have to explain why for whatever reason it may be. It's annoying to be on the receiving end of it, but I always try and keep in mind that people have busy lives outside of RHP and this isn't always their priority.

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MrsTingle

3 years ago

That’s happened to me/us loads of times! And each time I’m left scratching my head about why…but it’s impossible to interpret silence or do too much self reflection without any feedback. I find a shiny new distraction can be just what the doctor ordered…get back on the field!!

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Bluemoon1

3 years ago

While ghosting shows a lack of respect for those being ghosted, it shows a lack of integrity and self worth by the ‘ghoster’. I’m sure u would have been willing to at least discuss any issues as u obviously had some level of rapport with this person. For too many people, sites like this are an alternative to a real relationship so u just got accept this behaviour is possible.

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JamesandLynda

3 years ago

I want to say thanks to everyone who replied. You all have an interesting take on this experience. As a final reflection we know everything runs its course in life and we didnt/dont expect these 'relationships' to last for ever. I truly wish our past friends well and wanted them to know that even at the end of it they were appreciated.

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Dil_Aruni

3 years ago

A couple reach out to us and asked for pics and as soon as They got the pics, they blocked us. I understand people have different taste and expectations but it is ok to say something rather block and disappear. Seems lack of maturity and respect for others.

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