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Give men a break!
July 10 2013
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Karynb - I agree with you, men are a different species altogether n they react in alot of different ways to us. Most men wk full time n don't get alot of free time chat via phone, email or txt. I too find that some men are very confusing - the more they confuse me, the less I have to do with them. The more mind games n lies that are told - well I just stop playing their game n move on. I like a man to be completely honest with me, no trying to guess what they are thinking...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Since it's obvious that this is at least partly in direct response to the topic I posted today, I will say this. I saw a particular, well known quote that I personally dislike in a guy's profile, and I posted a topic to promote discussion about that quote. I didn't make any personal remarks about the guy himself, I have no idea what he's like and if his profile had interested me I would have followed up his contact since I am aware that his use of that quote alone is not something on which I can base an opinion about his character. Just because I find that particular quote sexist, does not mean that I'm saying that this guy is sexist, or that all the guys on RHP and all of the men in the world are sexist, evil women-haters. I'm talking about the quote itself, that is it. So, if we've come to the point where we can't post any topic like that dealing with sexism because it could be (incorrectly) interpreted as 'over-complicating things' and 'man-bashing', then I think it's time I bid farewell to the forums because I'm not going to censor myself in that way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, I am not here just for sex. That is too easy to find for a women.... Don't need to get it here. :)
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flimac
11 years ago
agree completely, although at the moment I'm thinking I should be cause I seem to be finding a heap of rude men who are convincing me they are all the same! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry no I'm not just here for that...and when and if I do have se wth someone I want it to b with someone hwo isn't crassI read some men's profiles and read the same paragraph...how they're in urgent attention of it now. Sorry let me just pull my pants down whilst you read that out to meNo, its not over-complicating it. If it was all just about sex, I'd still be as picky...why not?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your quite right flimac, men are all the same chromosome wise, however that's where it stops.I agree with the topic in some regards.I myself am quite disgusted in a lot of males, the way they carry on, talk down to whoever, particularly women in general. If I'm in a situation whereby a male makes a comment and I don't think it's warranted, even in a all male gathering I'll pull him up on it. If it happens in mixed company then the wit and sarcasm is espoused and I make it known that particular "reference" is not suitable within earshot of me so you got someone on your side.Most take a long time to realise its often best to leave something unsaid, or these days un messaged (if there is such a word).What I'm trying to say is that I'm hearing you and there are some pigs out there. [Disclaimer] Its not just the XY combination. However, that's what the topic is about. Hope that makes sense, after all we're not the best communicators lol...
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RHP User
11 years ago
can't even get the letters out correctly with this thing...do excuse my typos!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23'Since it's obvious that this is at least partly in direct response to the topic I posted today, I will say this. I saw a particular, well known quote that I personally dislike in a guy's profile, and I posted a topic to promote discussion about that quote. It seems to have been deleted already?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm all for defending the guys here. I certainly don't over analyse messages and never have, though receiving things like "I want to smash you bud" leaves me a little mystified. If this topic was in response to the one Luckdragon wrote, I can't really respond as that one seems to have disappeared.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Our collective of 1 concurs. And they wondered why, say, someone whose name begins with K seems to have a profile unavailable to someone whose name, say, might begin with K. He can't recall having a blue with her or anything, and he wanted to see what sort of a gel wrote such fine posts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I should probably expand on my comment. One of the main reasons for joining RHP was to have more men in my life in general, and mainly as friends as most of my guy friends are married with small kids and I never see them any more. Which is fair enough, people lives change and friendships along with it, but I realised that I suddenly had no male friends and the ones I did I only saw a few times a year. I missed them!!! So, since joining RHP I have met some cool dudes that I call friends, would like to meet more. So I am happy. Ahem....... I even bonk some of them. So how good is that! And as an added bonus I have met some really lovely women too. Which, okay okay, I may have bonked too. Men are very simple and women do over complicated and over analyse things, absolutely. I used to be this way also when I was younger. Why, I think it's in our nature. Now I take what a man tells me at face value and look no further than that. Besides I am hopeless at mind games and have no interest in them either, and boy has my life become easier and simpler since I have adopted that philosophy. Boys.... you know I love ya but keep it classy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you are being just a wee bit sensitive. No one has said you don't have the right to raise any topic you like in the forums. I fully expect when i post a forum that there will be those that agree and those that don't. Forums are ALL about healthy respectful debate. We are both entitled to our opinions and the forum to discuss them Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Since it's obvious that this is at least partly in direct response to the topic I posted today, I will say this. I saw a particular, well known quote that I personally dislike in a guy's profile, and I posted a topic to promote discussion about that quote. I didn't make any personal remarks about the guy himself, I have no idea what he's like and if his profile had interested me I would have followed up his contact since I am aware that his use of that quote alone is not something on which I can base an opinion about his character. Just because I find that particular quote sexist, does not mean that I'm saying that this guy is sexist, or that all the guys on RHP and all of the men in the world are sexist, evil women-haters. I'm talking about the quote itself, that is it. So, if we've come to the point where we can't post any topic like that dealing with sexism because it could be (incorrectly) interpreted as 'over-complicating things' and 'man-bashing', then I think it's time I bid farewell to the forums because I'm not going to censor myself in that way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I reckon you have it. All men are alike, we're all bastards. Except of course the men that aren't.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think most regulars from the forums would know that i don't tolerate being treated with disrespect by either men or women, please note that was not what i was speaking about. I DO think, however, that there are some women here on RHP who are a little caught up in their princess persona's. I DO not respond to messages like: Hey babe, i'm passing thru town tomorrow.....wanna meet up and see where it goes DTF? Let's Fuck Wanna see my Wang? Nice Tits. Can i Blow on ya tits? ..........yada yada yada (Yes, i too have had a multitude of such messages) But you know what, the guys who write such classy messages/profiles are getting what they deserve. I could spend hours whinging about their messages. I could spend mindspace wondering what the hell they were thinking? I could spend my time composing messages to them to show them the error of their ways. But honestly, they get what they deserve, wether that be silence, abuse or perhaps finding someone of the same mind as themselves. I really don't need to give it another thought, nor take any action. As to the overcomplicating things....YES, on sites such as RHP, i think we women are guilty of that. As a group: We write these long lists of our requirements, our instructions for success, our desires, our must haves and must not's, we refuse to answer flirts and messages, we publicly complain about the messages and profiles that don't suit us, we whine about the men that disappear into the sunset without notice, we disparage the first meets who fail to live up to our expectations, we publicly bag the shit out of some of the experiences we have had and the partners we've had them with, we bitch and moan when they don't contact us for a second meet.......and the list goes on.... Seems to me like a whole lot of negative energy surrounding sex, the most basic need and requirement of humans. Perhaps we are just getting what WE deserve??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Chicks get frustrated because they feel they are not being heard. But of course men see things differently to the women. Hence I got rid of all mention of fun from my profile, I don't mention NSA and my messages have dropped dramatically! And I don't tend to put the saucier photos up anymore. LOL. Men get over excited I think. I bet you would get frustrated as well if lots and lots of women wrote to you every single day saying. "How about it? I would love to peg that delicious arse of yours. How about it?? Go on. I have an enormous clit that stays hard for hours! And a strapon that never sleeps and is as thick as a coke can"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Perhaps we are just getting what WE deserve?? OH I do hope so,
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RHP User
11 years ago
You deserve a spanking Missy! Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'karynb' Perhaps we are just getting what WE deserve?? OH I do hope so,
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RHP User
11 years ago
karynb,I deserve nothing
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chevtrek
11 years ago
I agree men are different but does that mean we can get away with not having manners or being intelligent......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka, I stand by what I said. If I was being bombarded with messages, I doubt I would have time to answer them all. I never suggested that the messages you get are similar to treatises written by Plato and my comments on other forum topics about the "why can't I get a reply" reflect that. I am simply saying that if you get to the point when you think ALL men are bastards, oerhaps it's time to take a break. It would be similar to saying all women are "bitches" (not a view I subscribe to) for not answering every message. It's an unrealistic expectation that the only messages a woman will get will be classy or to her liking in a similar way to the expectation some men seem to have that their every whim or message will be answered and catered too. Can we not simply acknowledge that some men are bastards, some women are bitches and go about things with those undertones leaking through all the time. I get what Karyn B is saying and just as her OP was tongue in cheek, mine was also intended that way. to answer the question she actually asked, not tongue in cheek, just straight out......yes, some women probably are getting what they deserve but many probably aren't. On a site as big as this you will get all types, some will be bastards, some will be bitches and some will change your life with what they bring to it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know Karyn, women do come here and discuss these things and I don't believe it's because they're all super negative and are having negative experiences because they DESERVE them. They come here to share and make sense of their experience because often there is nowhere else to talk about it and no reference points out there to help one figure out what is going on in this crazy place. Women on here can be isolated due to location etc but also because they are living a lifestyle that is outside of societies norms. Usually they seem to just want to be heard and to know its not just them, that they are not alone in their experiences. I personally think it's time to stop the woman bashing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, yes discussing issues does help, women in particular, to make sense of their environment. However, I guarantee, if RHP was more favourably stacked towards men and we women had to compete harder for the available men here, women would reign in their negativity in order to appear less "Whiney" ........we do what we do here.......because we can. I'm neither a misogynist nor a misandrist, merely someone who makes observations .......sometimes those are about my own fair sex.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My profile is blocked to everyone as I'm out of play for a period of time while life takes precedence. By closing my profile I don't have others wasting their flirts and messages on me when I have no intention of meeting anyone right now. I enjoy spending some in the forums regardless.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are an enigmatic anomaly! Quoting 'Freya73'karynb,I deserve nothing
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for that courteous response. Whew! I thought it was because I had done something appalling without knowing. ( I confess to a range of appalling things with knowledge). I have no idea whether men deserve a break, but, really, the truth is probably that we all deserve a break, one way or another. It can be confusing, cos although I think the stupid, thuggish messages that men are reported as sending are wrong, dumb and no doubt offensive to the recipient, I suspect that some blokes may be a bit overwhelmed by being in a context where they see women with usernames based on words like 'slut' and subtitles in the same vein. Of course, this is no excuse, and men should read profiles individually, and respond on a case by case basis, but our acculturation is to generalize and to deal with the world on a formulaic basis. And, of course, although we bang on about the brain being the largest sex organ, for a lot of blokes, especially younger blokes, the dick is the largest thinking organ. That is why 'dickhead' is not an insult, but merely a description.
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'karynb'I agree, yes discussing issues does help, women in particular, to make sense of their environment. However, I guarantee, if RHP was more favourably stacked towards men and we women had to compete harder for the available men here, women would reign in their negativity in order to appear less "Whiney" ........we do what we do here.......because we can. I'm neither a misogynist nor a misandrist, merely someone who makes observations .......sometimes those are about my own fair sex.- Posted from rhpmobile The problem is communication. Too much communication.......when are people going to learn communication doesn't work
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'justforfunisall' I reckon you have it. All men are alike, we're all bastards. Except of course the men that aren't. When you try to give men a break another just comes along and stuffs it up for the others.I was to meet a man from a vanilla site for breakfast.......but typical even before we are to meet come the messages and the wanting to come straight to my place. He wonders why Im offput jeez why not let a complete stranger over....fuck 1st meet later.....But lately its the honesty....say what you mean....Always be open.
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RHP User
11 years ago
by that I assume you mean that my experience here is just not the norm for most women....perhaps you are right....in the past week my messages have been precisely zero.....so by your reckoning I deserve precisely zero....and once again you are probably correct..... As a guest I have one message per week,the last time I sent a message to a man he refused to show me a photo and told me that he would feel squeamish about calling me after I gave him my phone number.... However when I was 82 and my profile was jokingly slutty I was inundated with messages....go figure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
now on your way toots, I have union business to address
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RHP User
11 years ago
*orders a pizza and grabs a 6 pack of jimmys* This thread is highly amusing, I'll be in my corner attempting to solve the worlds hunger problems with a piece of string, 100 mile an hour tape, and this months edition of sport pilot. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take your cold little ass off to the union thread and conduct your business there......before I warm it up for you ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I should probably expand on my comment. One of the main reasons for joining RHP was to have more men in my life in general, and mainly as friends as most of my guy friends are married with small kids and I never see them any more. Which is fair enough, people lives change and friendships along with it, but I realised that I suddenly had no male friends and the ones I did I only saw a few times a year. I missed them!!! So, since joining RHP I have met some cool dudes that I call friends, would like to meet more. So I am happy. Ahem....... I even bonk some of them. So how good is that! And as an added bonus I have met some really lovely women too. Which, okay okay, I may have bonked too. Men are very simple and women do over complicated and over analyse things, absolutely. I used to be this way also when I was younger. Why, I think it's in our nature. Now I take what a man tells me at face value and look no further than that. Besides I am hopeless at mind games and have no interest in them either, and boy has my life become easier and simpler since I have adopted that philosophy. Boys.... you know I love ya but keep it classy! Hit the nail on the head. x
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'karynb' Are an enigmatic anomaly! Quoting 'Freya73'karynb,I deserve nothing Ok surely you girls, Freya ? I am starting to feel more sorry to see what has become to the friendly and feelings that there are just some , but just some can be of the special people, that stand out be action or a deed and seek to use the wisdom lived become the insight, experience to recognize the tricks, advice that is tested true, street smart, all generally covered by the what ever it is called, Term ? looking over the town folk and when the need, keeping them under your wing. That IS Miss Freya, that would even say yes dear to the village idiot, just so no one would feel alone, Miss freya would know what topics to have as question and right at the time where some insight saw knowing the answers avoided the problem surely about to occur. I said it once to Miss Freya, if to have the privilege of company, then I would choose to listen rather than speak. Sorry Freya, this also applies to a bunch of you in here now that seem to feel a bit more like how yuppies became yuppies. Yuppies all speak with each other and compliments fly thick, but if one had not found it, then they certainly did not require any of what ever it is when one thinks they are special.I am not calling you lot yuppies, as you don't live in Mosman, and your chating amongst each other in what was called the most popular adult forums in Australia, and a pie was a pie. put some good tucker out and have lots of pretty girls teasing the the aching knack sack and there will be some interesting shit being tossed about,but with respect all tossers are in for the play, And this adult sex site is for play, not stature or grading. Respecting the elders is a choice that will be of a benefit, and ignoring the old foggies is allso a choice that may not be so valuable but easy trade off, if the fogies think your not worth the shot. The yuppies sat in the stock market forums and crashed when the easy money easy left, and yuppies left wandering exactly what was it that they had to be so special to earn a position of testing for comparison, a few million dollars written on paper, and that is all it was, just paper money and paper people. Maybe I am just a cheeky prick and you don't like my whatever, but there is a whole bunch of people coming to play and finding a fucking bingo match and legs eleven, is not even a girl to look at, so that game gets the arse, and spin the bottle, twister, or even face book me, just empty my nut sack please because it is to full and hurts, a fair request and probably the better approach with the girls because it is the truth and can easily be remedied, all smile and having fun Now If this has risen the temperature and you feel like having a lash back, I will cop it and with a little dignity, However please do not tell me that disrespect has been shown, as it is the respect that I have calling, if I ignore or chose to avoid these feelings, then I have shown disrespect.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find it interesting what you have to say and I enjoy a wander through the forums, but I have noticed that some women bemoan the fact that men don't say much...indeed if at all...in forums about feelings and such...I recently posted on the forum topic "What was left unsaid - An open letter to YOU" and when I opened my emails today, I had an email from a woman whom I had previously emailed. She had viewed my profile no less than 8 times (I dunno, is this good) and she replied with the following:"Hi, thanks for your email hun," (I knew it was bad as soon as she called me "hun", lol) "I like your profile, but I think you still have a lot of baggage to deal with, so maybe another time" So, whilst I don't post much in the forums I was moved by the "open letter" to post something about someone who was very special to me...and now I've been accused of carrying baggage, and she has absolutely no friggin' idea about who I am, none...I love your posts and many other peeps who post on here but I think I'll just read them from now on...S'nP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'karynb'Take your cold little ass off to the union thread and conduct your business there......before I warm it up for you ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile ur a meanie
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RHP User
11 years ago
Give yourselves a break, you never know what delights may await you behind your blinkered periphery.(disclaimer.......this post may or may not be tongue in cheek.It is not my intention to suggest that anyone, male or female, should repeatedly communicate with disrespectful persons. We do after all teach people how to treat us)
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RHP User
11 years ago
And that's the way it "should be"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't be such a soft cock! Lol. I have to deal with this also. People make assumptions about me without meeting me. It's going to happen. So one women made a particular assumption about you but other women may really appreciate something you write or at least feel a connection with you because of it.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'spicyandpassion' So, whilst I don't post much in the forums I was moved by the "open letter" to post something about someone who was very special to me...and now I've been accused of carrying baggage, and she has absolutely no friggin' idea about who I am, none... Agree with Meeka on thisIF she doesnt know you...... what she thinks or does.... shouldnt be of any concern to how YOU think.You cant control what other people say or do...... only how you react.see also.... how people behave is their karma...... how you react, is yours. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
and sense of humour firmly in place... S'nP
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forcedinduction
11 years ago
Thank you Karynb your 100% correct.Sadly it seems a lot of women not only on here but in other dating websites (yes i am a normal dating site as well) a lot of women tend to read too much into what is said, take things to heart too quickly.It gets dammed annoying too when your trying to get info about what a person is like etc to see if your compatible (dating or otherwise) and all you get is one word answers or no reply after the initial contact is made. Why dick people around??? (no pun intended) Are you seeking some form of revenge on mankind?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yea Sheila's you are not giving us blokes a fair blow ;)........... Join the Q you lucky chicks can only handle 2 at a time- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
After all it is a task taking the plunge to send a message nobody likes rejection- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well there's a few things we should address here...~ Women are less conditioned to rejection than men. This is a fact of evolution, essential part of the species survival, it's why women and children got on the lifeboats first.~ Women believe all men want from them is sex. This is not true; 9 times out of 10 a guy actually wants to connect with you on an intellectual and emotional level to begin with, but you girls are just so damn sexy and your hair smells so good when we meet that other instincts start to take over.... it's natures fault, not ours! ~ Masculinity is homophobic. This is also bullshit and not true, knowing what it is to be a man doesn't make you hate gay people. I think this stereotype probably still exists amongst bogans, general trash and maybe the military? Otherwise, LGBT people don't affect us in our daily lives. What gender roles mean for them well... you'll have to ask.~ Men don't know how to communicate. omg... COMMUNICATION is the interaction between two persons. That means, if a man can't communicate to you, you aren't communicating with him!!! Clearing up the signal to noise ratio is easy to do too, just avoid having dysfunctional expectations. That goes for men and women. Just keep your expectations clear, reasonable and grounded in reality.Guys, if you're an "alpha" you have a responsibility to be leaders and to dish out authority. This means punishing bad behavior and rewarding good behavior in your interactions with other men and especially with women.Ladies, if you keep running in to "betas" and "nice guys" you should realise they've probably been rejected a lot in their lives and are stuck in a psychological LOOP! Feminism has really beat the shit out of some dudes, and they don't know how to handle strong and powerful women. You need to help them break out of their shitty dating flaws, not exploit their good nature!Great thread!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' I agree men are different but does that mean we can get away with not having manners or being intelligent...... Your recent posts have been indicating a distinct lack of both of those traits Chev, so don't think you should be judging anyone here. What baffles is that you still seem to be posting comments, with no awareness of what everyone has thought of them?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyarses'Karynb - I agree with you, men are a different species altogether n they react in alot of different ways to us. Most men wk full time n don't get alot of free time chat via phone, email or txt. I too find that some men are very confusing - the more they confuse me, the less I have to do with them. The more mind games n lies that are told - well I just stop playing their game n move on. I like a man to be completely honest with me, no trying to guess what they are thinking... Isn't it the main complaint that men are being way too honest and not at all confusing? lol "hey babe, wanna fuck?" would seem to be none too confusing and rather clear to our mind. As to the mind games, and making people guess what you're thinking...wouldn't have thought the female gender should be excluded from this either!
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inspirit
11 years ago
I am single, liberated for being on here and don't really see that the messages are rude. Perhaps more naive when they want too catch up for a root. I get it though, as it is a sex site and penises are penises. Not every one has a wonderfull vocabulary or are able to express thier desires in a more user friendly context. Usually the youngins. I take it all in with a grain of salt and have a laugh.... No use getting pissed at them as it only cyber world. Men do think differently and when you come too understand this you begin to accept it. At the end of the day it is mostly tongue in cheek don't you think.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"But sheez......aren't we all here for the sex?? Let's stop overcomplicating it!" - I agree... "Honestly ......Don't you think we over analyze men's profiles, messages and text messages?" - I most deff do not agree. I honestly couldn't give a fk how or what's being written. And being the site that this is, this is not the place to over analyse a text or message. This is not a site where husbands or wives are found. This site is designed for finding "special friends". The only time I over analyse a mans text if his my BF and we've had a fight and I'm trying to understand his point if view. Other than that, meh.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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sungf1t
11 years ago
It's funny you say women look into profiles to much! When some guys aren't that good vocabulary wise what is there to over complicate hehe it will be expressed in simple writing :) the hardest part would be holding that conversation lol I also think why you get complicated an confused is some guys will try there best to word a non rude polite attractive profile thats more than the two words they would like to use 'lets fuck' lol just a thought
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MsBunny
11 years ago
I've been around since the opening of RHP, and things have changed a lot since then. This site was all about finding sex. Opening ones mind and living a bit of life!! I've met some amazing people both male and female and not always in a sexual way. Anyone from melb will remember kissas BBQ parties :) Time to go back to basics, be honest with each other, don't play games and heck if after you have started talking to the person and it just doesn't feel right - be up front and tell them. In return have respect and move along lots of pie to play with :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ladies with odds such as 10-1 in your favour, I can only imagine what types of mail you receive! ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dont let someone discourage you to write. I liked what you have written in the open letter.No one can know what you feel and this stupid word baggage....FUCK, we all have baggage in our age. Its just the way we have worked through it.People who say they have none, have not looked at it because they are to afraid of dealing with it.I have history and a massive one behind me, and that's what defines me, that's what fine tuned me in what I am living now. Without my past pain, I wouldn't have know my happiness.We all lost love in one way or another, and it is painful, but this pain is what I call a good pain, it let me see my world in such a beautiful way and positive way, I didn't know this before.Yes I was happy but my eyes have not been opened until I lost someone.Now they are wide open and my heart to. I love what I have, I love what I am.Litonya.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'spicyandpassion'I recently posted on the forum topic "What was left unsaid - An open letter to YOU" and when I opened my emails today, I had an email from a woman whom I had previously emailed. She had viewed my profile no less than 8 times (I dunno, is this good) and she replied with the following:"Hi, thanks for your email hun," (I knew it was bad as soon as she called me "hun", lol) "I like your profile, but I think you still have a lot of baggage to deal with, so maybe another time" S'nPI had to go and search your response, that's not baggage, that's beautiful. Keep that hard hat on. (and yes 8 times is usually good). K x
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RHP User
11 years ago
...how would these same guys react in person? they wouldnt even know how to approach you ladies, i think its actually good for you ladies to receive that type of message as it makes you put up barriers / defences and you will quickly be able to sort the trash from the the 'refreshingly unusual'...it kinda makes it harder but then easier for the genuine guys out there (here) i as a guy cant even imagine having too many messages to get through that i wouldnt be able to respond to all of them, so guys you need to make your topic interesting, just talk to the ladies they wont bite be interesting to have an open conversation or even a topic where guys post their 1st up mesage to one of you ladies and we all see the responses.....for example 'forcedinduction' could write an open message to say meeka and see where that goes ...... i'll giv it a go if u like......may help a few guys (and gals ) out too
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passion8_l
11 years ago
Trev, you make a good point about "sorting" I chose this site above others because I assumed that men would be up front about their expectations. For the most part this has been true and while I've had my share of undesirable mail it has allowed me to screen more effectively. I have friends on other sites and it's not uncommon for them to invest a lot of time talking to a prospective date only to learn that all they wanted was sex. Not everyone is here only for sex, sure it's RHP so it's more than likely going to be on most people's agenda but some of us want friendship too.
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Goldenage
11 years ago
All us men are total fuckin' arseholes who only want what is between a ladies legs........full stop. At least that is how we are perceived in this new age world.Women's lib gone wrong? possibly, but i'm a man so I probably have that wrong too.Some men may get it right but my past experiences are that we all get it so very wrong.I expect a flurry of replies telling me why i'm a prick for my views but i'm at an age where i've seen and experienced just a little more, I really don't understand it any more.Being a pig doesn't cut it but neither does being a gentleman............perhaps it's the loss of use of face to face english language and use of phone text that has done this.........My 2 cents worth
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Culturedanimal
11 years ago
Going through this discussion seems to be over complicating things when we are considering the population as a whole. The way I approach this problem is with a starting point for every lady or man and the look at the situation on a case by case basis. The common starting point I use goes something like this. The human race evolved over a period of time with all but the last very, very small fraction of that time lived in situations any where near as civilised with the life spans we enjoy today. Life was short and rarely sweet, even for the elite among us. As a result men evolved in ways that would help them in situations that were dangerous to say the least, and a violent ending to a mans life was probably to be expected rather than to come as a shock to anyone. The result of this was that the male of the species was hard wired in certain ways. For example "throw the fucking spear" would have been more likely expressed than "do you think could give me a hand to stop this animal maybe goring/crushing/bitting etc me to death". There would also have been a tendency for males to back each other up unconditionally, even if they'd just had a disagreement, as the results of not doing would be detrimental to future unconditional support, also in times of danger when a man relied upon his mates/comrades for survival. Ladies also had it hard. Child birth is sometimes not a very safe process to go through, and for a lady to have less that at least about 4 in her life would have been seen as a fairly poor effort if she had survived them. The survival mechanisms for them obviously would have developed differently to the men. They would have been concerned with building relationships with each other for child birth and nurture reasons for starters, and to bind the males to them by giving them something to fight and probably die for in the long rung, yes, to an extent keeping their men happy. Here is an easy example. Normally when we get burgled us guys instantly get a rush of adrenaline and want to kill someone. You ladies from what I can understand feel violated, vulnerable, and insecure. Now we roll things along to modern times, our hard wiring is still with us. Most of a males hard wiring is now obsolete (if we ran with it we would be spending a lot of time doing time) and we must navigate much more into the feminine side to fit into this world. Only by using our intellect to adjust a lot of our natural instincts can we manage to fit in with you ladies, and to be frank some of us do a better job, or get more experience, to allow us to do this. The natural wiring of the ladies however is needs less adjusting. I am not saying you don't have to adjust things in this natural wiring, but I would suggest you don't have as far to go. So to you ladies, have a heart and realise that just because a man has manners doesn't necessarily mean he if better for you, just maybe better at hiding the truth from you until too late. Most of us guys do try very hard to live to expectations, and if we're trying we're probably worth a second glance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wombs are precious, men are disposable.The male in the modern world is floundering, male suicide is an epidemic but no one gives a fuck.As long as the women and children are ok, all is good.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Every last one of 'em....'cept me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think the general lesson is ... be yourself. Say what you would normally say in any conversation. And expect the consequences of what you say. Simple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '50zkool'Wombs are precious, men are disposable. The male in the modern world is floundering, male suicide is an epidemic but no one gives a fuck. As long as the women and children are ok, all is good. You can thank the rise of feminism, female-favouring court system where the fathers are discriminated against, and chemicals in our food which effeminize us for that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well the court system at least in WA is on the improve in that respect. Effeminate food ? More information please. I'll have you know my quiches are made with home grown eggs ! 🐓- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think the media also have quite a lot to answer for. Watch the Today Show in the morning. Count how many times men are put down in a 'jokey' way, or how many times the presenters say something sexist about men. It certainly sends out a confusing message to both genders. Often female media personalities make mention of a men's looks, but it can make international headlines if (when) the reverse happens eg Wimbledon Men are not meant to take offense and we are considered a bit pathetic by some women if objections are raised, almost as though we should be a little shocked or impressed that they made a sexual reference. I guess there will always be a sexual power struggle between men and women, and it has definitely swung in favor of women. This has forced intelligent men to change their approach. Unfortunately, not all men have adapted to the new rules of play. Equality for all, I say! Treat everyone on their merits. At least men who are saying 'Want a root' in their messages can't be accused of having communication problems! (ok, they might have other problems!!lol)
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RHP User
11 years ago
or may I say, those with manners / morals wouldn't initiate a conversation with "Want a [insert anything]".
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goldcoastcple69
11 years ago
I noticed every second thread is about baggin out blokes on this site. Seems to be a lot of man hating going on. If you cant talk about fucking , orgies , dogging , dildos , cum, dicks, pussy etc on a sex site where can you talk about this stuff?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'cwhereitgoes'or may I say, those with manners / morals wouldn't initiate a conversation with "Want a [insert anything]". Want a hand changing that flat tire you've got? Well, if you insist...
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RHP User
11 years ago
i have given this site and others a chance i have been meet with the things i try to avoid off the internet.I am a very empathetic person in alot of regards, the reason i tried this site is to try and find anything that i might be interested in and to avoid getting groomed by the homosexual community which seems to have a bulletin board up with my daily movements. within reactivating this site all i have been meet with is the "i wanna suck your cock" comments.I personally will not bang anything with 2 legs and/or a heartbeat, so i understand a lot of woman might not like these comments, but a lot of guys do not enjoy them either, some of us still open up doors for a lady (Oh yes, it CAN happen)But some of us guys are not here just to blow a load. remembering that if that was the only intention i am sure there is a brothel near by that will account for the specific desire. some of us are here to make friends and explore that in which we can not obtain within our current life circles.So to cap it off.A lot of the guys here are "dicks" but there is a lot of us trying to improve of things in life as well.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I stand corrected on that one
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Generally the men on these swingers sites seem to think that the women on here will simply open their legs on command. And they get quite angry when we turn them down. That's my experience so far. Leslie - Posted from rhpmobile
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Culturedanimal
11 years ago
The way I see it is if you do get a knock back getting angry is the least useful way to respond. I find it useful to keep the following in mind They might be up themselves - too much effort required to correct even if I could. I'm up myself - better take a good hard look at my self. If you're just continually getting knock backs - guess you'll have to reassess your own sense of yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' Generally the men on these swingers sites seem to think that the women on here will simply open their legs on command. And they get quite angry when we turn them down. That's my experience so far. Leslie - Posted from rhpmobile I thought the topic was,"GIVE MEN A BREAK" ?
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