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Going to Swingers club alone or with someone?
February 20 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would prefer to go by myself, but would only do that if the age dynamic stacked up. I would go with a fb if it was required to get me access to a younger group otherwise, definitely by myself, huge turn on meeting and playing with random people I haven't met or had any contact with before. I'm also completely confident so would have no issues with that
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Eiliethiya
8 years ago
Have never been. But if I decided I wanted to try it...I couldn't go alone the first time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Im a loner type.. so i would feel more relaxed if i went alone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I have been I went with friends. Either a couple, or other girlfriends. I have not with a guy or a play partner, and I haven't been on my own. This worked well for me as I didnt feel any need to get amongst it the times I have gone, but also had a 'wing-man' to chat to throughout the night.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
As a woman, I think it's wise to go with someone who has your back, can watch drinks, observe condoms being slipped on rather than off at the last min (especially during doggy style) etc... First time to adult club I know I felt overwhelmed. The day after it's also great to have someone to vent and debrief, as it can be overwhelming if one has not experienced that scene before. Sometimes, expectations are a little different to what actually goes down (in some cases up 😉). Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have attended venues and private parties alone, with couples, with a girlfriend,with a male friend. Had the best times on my own. I have never felt scared or out of my depth. Yes, Ive had guys(generally the married ones or in one case,the married host of the party) keep trying, after being given a polite no. Even to the point that I had to ask them not to ask me again or follow me around the venue. But that has been rare. It can be a bit of a clique with some of the regular women who go, but single women seem to be a lot more approachable and social than the married women.I havent bothered with swingers parties/clubs for a few yrs now. Was enjoyable while I was into it but not my thing any more.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...will have to try one day. I would probably go alone, however SuperFoxxxy's thoughts above do make sense. I guess I just don't know anyone that would go with me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I went alone. Sometimes, if you don't do things on your own, they will never happen. You can spend a very long time looking for the person to accompany you, be it to a swinger's club, or other places in general.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I went the first time somewhat alone - there was a group of people going that I knew of but had never met . I think alone can be good because it forces you to mingle but for calming the nerves going with a group of friends or a fwb is the way to go. fwb also kinda means you can get some action if you dont feel comfy with playing on the night with anyone else.
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nibblemebi
8 years ago
While it does take a bit of courage and confidence, I've often gone alone. It can be a lot of fun! You are the creator of your own destiny ☺ I've also gone with friends or a partner, and that has it's own merits too. My first time in my 20s was alone 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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megz85g
8 years ago
To go alone , to be honest I find it easier to be only focused on yourself, rather than making sure your partner is having fun, or waiting for them when you're finished - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We prefer alone too. More fun to tell stories afterwards. Megz, are you going again this week? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
First time I went alone and meet some pretty amazing people. It's an eye opener. I strongly suggest that if you have never been to one to go. It's a great night out. I'm happy to hold a female hand if she wants to attend a club. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't know what club you attended but sounds like you had a bad experience. I've been to several clubs and parties around qld and have never encountered any of these problems. As a woman be confident and look out for yourself. I've not encounter rude,pushy or creepy men at swingers clubs ever. I've always felt safe and had a good time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
No. I've actually been to clubs across Australia, not just local. Friends of mine have had a few bad experiences. Ms Foxy
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Some swingers clubs only allow couples & single females on some nights, but on other nights they also allow single males in. So it would all depend on the club and night in question as to whether you can go alone or not. Single males are generally charged a higher admission fee than single females & couples. The recent trend is for single males to find a female to bring with them, so as to get into the club on a couples night and also pay less of an admission fee. The problem then arises, when the "couple" then part ways once they are inside the club, and the male thus becomes a single male. Some single males behave in a polite & respectful manner, whilst others do not. We and many other couples (that we have also met on here) have experienced being stalked, followed, harassed, groped & solicited by single males, in swingers clubs. It's for this very reason that the clubs offer "couples & single female " nights only, so that those couples & single females who would prefer not to be pestered & inundated by the advances of some pushy single guys, can attend. Single guys arriving with a female, just to get into the club, obviously has become a problem, and some clubs now have a rule "must play together & leave together". (Ie don't part company within the club, the female gets left at the bar and the male goes on the prowl trying to get in on the action) If we want to play with single guys, we will go on a night that they are allowed in. It is good to have some choice in the matter. All of the couples we have met on here (in real life) have told us that they will not go to a club or party, where single guys are allowed, as they have had bad experiences. We have too. But if and when we feel like having a MFM then we will go to a club, or arrange to meet a guy (that we have screened well beforehand ) at a club. At the end of the day it's your choice & preference. Our advice is that you need to not be pushy. No always means NO, and it's important to ask before touching, or attempting to join in. Approach others in a respectful, friendly and well mannered way, being mindful of their boundaries if any. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I find men tend to go alone whereas women feel more comfortable with a group of kinky girlfriends who are keen to check it out. Strange really when someone blokes will have group sex with a mate(s) involved. I find that strange.
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just4fun48
5 years ago
I used to go alone and most of the time just chatted to people but always go now with my partner.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Not for me just yet!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Going alone is fine for girls if they have the confidence to do it why not. Guys can go alone but it's really not recommended unless your popping your party cherry, are desperate for sex(very common) or the most common reason- you're a moron who's so engrossed with swinging and it's lofty ideals that you hit em up anywhere anytime as a means of getting laid and hoping a single lady will take pity on you or you'll eventually fluke a good enough performance that they agree to date, you and all your wildest dreams come true😆
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RHP User
5 years ago
To put it simply. Single men roaming around in cheap white towels cutting laps of the venue like awkward horny zombies is not a look you need to perfect. These wandering homeless idiots intermittently pop a corner or cut off a walkway as you and your gf are walking then star at you like a mute idiot believing just being in a towel and looking at people will be enough to get the green light. I.E. You'll humiliate yourself by looking like a desperate, clueless and friendless Outkast desperately trying to get laid. It's just sad.. Worst case scenario. You pay for a hooker to pretend to be your date. Don't go lower than that and you'll be sweet
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