M59
Gold Digging or Prostitution Online
March 27 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
well in my interpretation, someone who is selling something of their own for base gain is prostituting not someone who is gaining from someone else charitable side. They are quite opposite in my book. But i understand youre trying to find a word for these types
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RHP User
12 years ago
By financial gain do you mean someone who expects gifts,meals bought etc and never pays for anything?Or do you mean someone who charges for their services?Perhaps both could be seen as a form of prostitution,.The question for me is where do you draw the line and why should it matter? unless one person is being exploited by the other? Emotional gold digging,do you mean a person who manipulates another so they can have their ego stroked without regard to the fact that they may be emotionally damaging that person.Emotional cruelty, if not abuse I would call that, OP.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' By financial gain do you mean someone who expects gifts,meals bought etc and never pays for anything?Or do you mean someone who charges for their services?Perhaps both could be seen as a form of prostitution,.The question for me is where do you draw the line and why should it matter? unless one person is being exploited by the other? Emotional gold digging,do you mean a person who manipulates another so they can have their ego stroked without regard to the fact that they may be emotionally damaging that person.Emotional cruelty, if not abuse I would call that, OP. In both cases I mean knowingly exploiting someone else. Some call it "being played" some "looking after number one". The funny thing is that the people that have done this to me believe in Karma. How fitting. PMSL
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RHP User
12 years ago
indeed OP,the worst experience I have had with a man here was someone who is actually part of my Buddhist community.He was so incredibly abusive in his messages to me.I just continually did not reply with words,just sent him smiley faces.Must have really annoyed him ,I can't imagine why
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inspirit
12 years ago
In the last 4 weeks I had been chatting with a guy who I thought was a "good guy". I thought he was a genuine dude. His wife had passed away 6 years ago in England so he relocated here to Australia to move on. He still sound it difficult to discuss and said he was not looking for a replacement, though just some one to share life's small joyous experiences with... such as a sunset on a hot balmy night. Suited me as he was single, easy on the eye and a great sense of humour like mine and didn't want a "relationship".We decided to meet last week at a local establishment here in shitsville. A nice place for a quiet drink with hotel rooms attached ;-) . It was a lovely night - we share a few life's experiences laughs, dinner a few drinks and then a hotel room. The later was amazing. A selfless lover who pressed all the buttons. Fantastic night. The next morning we parted company and said we would catch up again. He went to Perth for the weekend as he does every weekend. Never thought twice about it as he had informed me he had just bought a house and was renovating it. Me being me, (the Skeptic) looked his profile up and face book and him being him, had his Facebook page open for the world to see. Wow I thought, clearly nothing to hide. So i begun to read. Well fuck me there was his wife alive and well, still with him and then there was another woman he had clearly duped, abusing him. Sooooo....... I rang him when he got back. "lets meet again soon"We met up again just the other night. This time somewhere quite up market for shitsville. Dinner and drinks were delicious and from my earlier phone call he booked another room for the night. I parted his company after dinner and drinks saying "You really should not leave your Facebook page open" I even kissed him good night. Did I play him.. OH YES...did i receive dinner and drinks YES, and fuck it was delicious. I did this knowingly he will be paying. Do you wonder why I do play some men?? Actions speak louder than words. Oh this is not the first time this has happened and I am sure not the last.....No.. he still did not disclose his deception to me during the night and when I touched on the subject he changed the subject.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77'indeed OP,the worst experience I have had with a man here was someone who is actually part of my Buddhist community.He was so incredibly abusive in his messages to me.I just continually did not reply with words,just sent him smiley faces.Must have really annoyed him ,I can't imagine why GOLD
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit'In the last 4 weeks I had been chatting with a guy who I thought was a "good guy". I thought he was a genuine dude. His wife had passed away 6 years ago in England so he relocated here to Australia to move on. He still sound it difficult to discuss and said he was not looking for a replacement, though just some one to share life's small joyous experiences with... such as a sunset on a hot balmy night. Suited me as he was single, easy on the eye and a great sense of humour like mine and didn't want a "relationship".We decided to meet last week at a local establishment here in shitsville. A nice place for a quiet drink with hotel rooms attached ;-) . It was a lovely night - we share a few life's experiences laughs, dinner a few drinks and then a hotel room. The later was amazing. A selfless lover who pressed all the buttons. Fantastic night. The next morning we parted company and said we would catch up again. He went to Perth for the weekend as he does every weekend. Never thought twice about it as he had informed me he had just bought a house and was renovating it. Me being me, (the Skeptic) looked his profile up and face book and him being him, had his Facebook page open for the world to see. Wow I thought, clearly nothing to hide. So i begun to read. Well fuck me there was his wife alive and well, still with him and then there was another woman he had clearly duped, abusing him. Sooooo....... I rang him when he got back. "lets meet again soon"We met up again just the other night. This time somewhere quite up market for shitsville. Dinner and drinks were delicious and from my earlier phone call he booked another room for the night. I parted his company after dinner and drinks saying "You really should not leave your Facebook page open" I even kissed him good night. Did I play him.. OH YES...did i receive dinner and drinks YES, and fuck it was delicious. I did this knowingly he will be paying. Do you wonder why I do play some men?? Actions speak louder than words. Oh this is not the first time this has happened and I am sure not the last.....No.. he still did not disclose his deception to me during the night and when I touched on the subject he changed the subject.More GOLD. Disclaimer: though I would not personally sujest this behaviour to anyone as advice, some people just need to be brought down a peg or two.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
I always find this an interesting topic of discussion.It strikes me as kind of obvious, that the only one responsible for how I remove my wallet and where its contents are spent on/with women..... is me.Sure, there will always be people who will seek to manipulate others for their own gain...... but choices are still made that allow them to do it, whether the "victim" is aware of making them, or not.DG
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
Inspirit ..Bugger hope you are now laughing. I guess you both got good sex but why he felt the need to lie. I don't know. Hope his wife finds out and he gets shafted. fancey plaYING THE EMOTIONAL CARD THATS SO LOW. I am amazed guess I am nieve. Oops off topic well a capitalist society is base on the rich exploting the poor. Its the job of the poor to take the money off the rich and as much as you can stuff in your pockets. Of course supply and demand you got some pussy I want it and I am prepared to pay you for it if you want to sell. or take you out to dinner a few drinks $200 max. cheeper then a hooker. not my style but some guys look at it that way.
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inspirit
12 years ago
ya think
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' indeed OP,the worst experience I have had with a man here was someone who is actually part of my Buddhist community.He was so incredibly abusive in his messages to me.I just continually did not reply with words,just sent him smiley faces.Must have really annoyed him ,I can't imagine why Freya, maybe he was helping you manage anger? No? He gave you a gift of abuse but returned to sender without opening it. Classic. On another note, I was asked by a woman whose ex told her she was not a Buddhist because she was on an online dating site. I just told her that unless she is a nun, no one else can say whether she is a Buddhist or not. His statement affected her quite deeply. Either his understanding of Buddhism was shallow or he just wanted to control her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gold Digger - A greedy person who forms a relationship for the sole purpose of monetary gain.Prostitute - Someone who performs a sexual act for payment. This is more honest although I am wary as a lot of women are coerced into prostitution. Have a read of "Secret world of Melbourne's sex trade". Relationships are quite often formed for financial or emotional support. However, this is quite different from gold diggers or prostitution as these two things are no the primary reason for the relationship. Hmm...that might be the romantic in me speaking.
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Cassy_74
12 years ago
I dated this guy years back, I thought we were getting along fine until I realised he was screwing around behind my back, so once I got him to admit to it I kinda said well nice knowing you arsehole and went on my merry way. Wasnt till a few weeks later after a few people got wind of the fact we were no longer, I found out he decided to get in first by telling everyone we broke up because he was sick me always asking for money and expecting him to spend money on me. Luckily for me, the people that actually know me quite well, know this is not my character, in fact I am uncomfortable with someone spending money on me. So now I am a bit scarred by that fact, so I insist in always paying my own way and or being 50/50 so I know nothing like that will be hanging over my head.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cassy_74' I dated this guy years back, I thought we were getting along fine until I realised he was screwing around behind my back, so once I got him to admit to it I kinda said well nice knowing you arsehole and went on my merry way. Wasnt till a few weeks later after a few people got wind of the fact we were no longer, I found out he decided to get in first by telling everyone we broke up because he was sick me always asking for money and expecting him to spend money on me. Luckily for me, the people that actually know me quite well, know this is not my character, in fact I am uncomfortable with someone spending money on me. So now I am a bit scarred by that fact, so I insist in always paying my own way and or being 50/50 so I know nothing like that will be hanging over my heaSo Cassy, "your" asshole actually severed a purpose in the bigger picture. Now you go "dutch" and don't have any obligation to your "date". Assholes can be good promps to change our behaviour.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some men lavish gifts on women to get to the pussy. Some women get sucked in and think they are in love and trust a man, and hand over their life savings. Some men live a life of self deception , who juggle balls and people like the face book idiot. Humans are diverse and they react in odd ways to get a gain of some sort. Divorce of Death and Money will show the character of most people yes there are gold diggers and hookers and we play others and get played at times. Go back to the sand pit and watch children fight over a toy. some win some loose. Your heart is your weak spot, if it opens up then you open to risk and sometimes its worth the risk Inspirit what you did was mild to what he deserves, I would have given him the fake std with thanks for dinner umm sorry I have an std, better tell ya wife.
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Cassy_74
12 years ago
Quoting 'SINGLEFYI' Quoting 'Cassy_74' I dated this guy years back, I thought we were getting along fine until I realised he was screwing around behind my back, so once I got him to admit to it I kinda said well nice knowing you arsehole and went on my merry way. Wasnt till a few weeks later after a few people got wind of the fact we were no longer, I found out he decided to get in first by telling everyone we broke up because he was sick me always asking for money and expecting him to spend money on me. Luckily for me, the people that actually know me quite well, know this is not my character, in fact I am uncomfortable with someone spending money on me. So now I am a bit scarred by that fact, so I insist in always paying my own way and or being 50/50 so I know nothing like that will be hanging over my heaSo Cassy, "your" asshole actually severed a purpose in the bigger picture. Now you go "dutch" and don't have any obligation to your "date". Assholes can be good promps to change our behaviour. It didnt influence or change my behaviour, what I did forget to mention was he didnt actually spend any money on me anyway, I always went 50/50 with him and he never bought me any gifts. He said what he said to steer away from the real story which was he screwed behind my back, he fabricated such a story coz he thought people would believe it. I have always and still am very independant, always pay my own way, never considered myself a charity case and never will. If I cant afford something, I go without its simple as that. I am very uncomfortable with whole be 'spoilt' factor, I prefer to be spoilt in less material ways. Maybe some men have to change their ways and not be so frivolous with purchasing gifts and spending money, not until they know what they have will stick around. And you cant generalise all women are like that either.....its like me generalising all men are arseholes because of what I have had to deal with in the past. I dont think men are all arseholes, I think there are some lovely ones out there and I know a few really nice guys, the reason why I am single is because I choose to be single. If you have chosen to spoil a woman and then she left you high and dry, well shame on her and lesson learnt for you. Whats that saying "Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice shame on me"
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's only one benefit that should be considered. What can WE do for US??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
By the very words you use it covers nearly every relationship. Certainly many marriages are based on emotional and financial support. We will all sell ourselves.... We just need to set the price- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do people who use other's for Finacial or Emotional gain, really just" Prostitutes"? Is calling these people "Gold Diggers" just a PC way of sugar coating the fact? (This question is not gender specific)You know they do...Whether it is financial or emotional.Apart of this very, hard & unfair life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cassy_74' I have always and still am very independant, always pay my own way, never considered myself a charity case and never will. If I cant afford something, I go without its simple as that. I am very uncomfortable with whole be 'spoilt' factor, I prefer to be spoilt in less material ways.I am impressed. Most people are up to their eyeballs in debt. You must really enjoy annoying shop owners by only buying stuff you can afford. I also annoy my bank by paying off my credit cards in full. Pity you are not looking at the moment. If you have chosen to spoil a woman and then she left you high and dry, well shame on her and lesson learnt for you. Whats that saying "Fool me once shame on you, Fool me twice shame on me" I learnt long ago to have no regrets and to only spend what I can afford. I don't nitpick everything either. On a date, I normally split the bill but might shout a tea/chocolate.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'I always find this an interesting topic of discussion. It strikes me as kind of obvious, that the only one responsible for how I remove my wallet and where its contents are spent on/with women..... is me. Sure, there will always be people who will seek to manipulate others for their own gain...... but choices are still made that allow them to do it, whether the "victim" is aware of making them, or not. DGDon't be a sucker in life. Take responsibility for your own actions, choices and reactions. Walk away if someone seems even a little bit dodgy. Simple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Some men lavish gifts on women to get to the pussy. Some women get sucked in and think they are in love and trust a man, and hand over their life savings. Some men live a life of self deception , who juggle balls and people like the face book idiot. Humans are diverse and they react in odd ways to get a gain of some sort. Divorce of Death and Money will show the character of most people yes there are gold diggers and hookers and we play others and get played at times. Go back to the sand pit and watch children fight over a toy. some win some loose. Your heart is your weak spot, if it opens up then you open to risk and sometimes its worth the risk Inspirit what you did was mild to what he deserves, I would have given him the fake std with thanks for dinner umm sorry I have an std, better tell ya wife.Thanks TL :)
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