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Grooming your partner

December 18 2017

Question for the guys. How do you feel when your partner is “grooming” you. When women tell you that those shoes don’t match, or tell you there is food stuck in your teeth, or when you see the girls applying sunscreen on their boyfriends. Is this annoying or do you see this as a woman showing she cares? Or is it single white female possessive psycho behaviour (in your mind 😝) What about when a woman touches you all the time - is this a sign of possessiveness or a sign that she is totally into you? These questions are more about significant others or at least a lover you have known for a while, although I suppose some women may act this way from the start?? Thanks guys. 🙏🏻

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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    7 years ago

    I'm not sure "grooming" is the word I'd go with in this context To me grooming is more a reference to personal appearance..... but it *can* have a rather sinister undertone of steering people's attitudes and behaviour to someone's advantage All of the examples you've given are, to my mind, about showing an interest in your fellow human Interpretation based upon possessiveness may perhaps be an issue here? 👍 ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Or give advice when it’s requested but running the whole show telling me what I can and can’t wear will be terminal. Touching is great, holding hands while walking, a kiss, a squeeze, all good. Clinging on like a limpet supervising all social interaction is desperate, psycho stuff. It’s a balancing act, personal freedom v loving attention, getting it right depends on balancing your needs AND theirs. 😃

  • FredAndGinger2

    FredAndGinger2

    7 years ago

    The preparation for a date night meeting a couple is exciting for both of us. We're 'grooming' each other to present ourselves as the best we can be. We have always been touchy-feely with lots of PDA. I've never owned so many shoes, good socks, jocks and nice clothes as I do now! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Livingandloving2

    Livingandloving2

    7 years ago

    Had better tell me if I have odd shoes, food in my teeth, boogers in my nose and always puts sunscreen on my back so I don’t burn. Does this mean he controls me??? I always thought it showed how much he wants the best for me.... And..... I do the same for him! Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Please please please... touch me as much as you want, I'm like a puppy, can never get enough :) Oh yes, applying sunscreen, sometimes we just need and appreciate the help (and touch), same in the shower, I know I'm not quite flexible enough to reach that tiny section in the middle of my back... More on topic, my ex made a point to give me advice that I was apparently sometimes forgetting to wash my underarms, so now I do every time (and obviously remember her each time). I also gained some healthier eating habits/advice from her (such as a love of tangelos and some other food). Far from grooming I see it as care, and in any case I am better in some part for it. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • try1ngit

    try1ngit

    7 years ago

    It will depend on the situation. It can stop some guys with no sense of dress from looking totally inept, and help them to present themselves at their best, especially if going on a 'meet and greet' date.If you at a party and she will not leave you alone it can be a sign that she does not trust you or has some serious jealousy issues/insecurity issues.Other times it can be a very sexy show of affection. A sign of pride in both herself and you as a couple and singularly. P.S. I think most males in a relationship get checked out by their partner before getting out the door. lol

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    7 years ago

    i’m happy if mrs b tells me something isn’t looking right and i’m looking like junk or reminds me by asking ,did you use the mouthwash and holding hands and a cuddle is fine ,it’s all a sighn of careing and affection , damn i’d be shitty if she didn’t and i’m the same for her ,sometimes it’s hard to see when you looking at yourself. but from a distance or fresh eyes from a different perspective it’s obviously douchey and in your favour to listen and take advice from your loved one after all its them your going home with at the end of the day or night or whatever ,i want her to look as awesome as she can for herself and me for her and myself but must say, i do draw the line at ripping a nose hair that went unnoticed out whilst driving or at a set of lights by her, stuff that i will tend to that myself when i’m ready to cry 😅 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    7 years ago

    i’m happy if mrs b tells me something isn’t looking right and i’m looking like junk or reminds me by asking ,did you use the mouthwash and holding hands and a cuddle is fine ,it’s all a sighn of careing and affection , damn i’d be shitty if she didn’t and i’m the same for her ,sometimes it’s hard to see when you looking at yourself. but from a distance or fresh eyes from a different perspective it’s obviously douchey and in your favour to listen and take advice from your loved one after all its them your going home with at the end of the day or night or whatever ,i want her to look as awesome as she can for herself and me for her and myself but must say, i do draw the line at ripping a nose hair that went unnoticed out whilst driving or at a set of lights by her, stuff that i will tend to that myself when i’m ready to cry 😅 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 years ago

    Much like monkeys grooming each other. Except I don't see myself fluffing up a very hairy back to pick out dead skin/ticks/fleas/popping pimples or at a first meet smelling someone's bum to get an Endorphin release. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I like it, obvisouly there can be a naggy OTT way of doing it where it is humiliating, but it's nice if your partner wants to touch you and apply sunscreen, and I'd rather they told me if I had crap in my teeth, or fixed up an accidentally popped collar - it can be tricky to reach those in some suit jackets.

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    7 years ago

    Grooming = mothering.... *shudders at the thought* - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I had an ex who loved fixing ingrown hairs. She got a kick out of searching my body for them, then gently teasing it out with a pair of tweezers. I don't think I was even aware of them prior to her. And the real jackpot ones were when there was a cm or two of hair, curled back and growing under the skin. Fascinating.. 😖

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Ingrown hairs and popping pimples. I’m saying nothing! 😇

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    7 years ago

    Ive always dressed to my own taste and according to comments I receive i must be doing something right ?... Always been one to choose and co ordinate the right colours so rarely will anyone see me in anything too bad. My ex tried dressing me a few times hoping I'd give in and be like my brother in law ' who was always quite content to let his wife do the choosing for him.. I've always had good dental hygiene , so unless I've just chewed a big T Bone a moment ago, my teeth are clean and up to scratch.. I brush twice daily , so that helps..

  • Curious1965

    Curious1965

    7 years ago

    Hi CandyDelicious Can you groom me! On a day to day basis I am ok to self groom but I appreciate it when someone takes an interest, honesty being the most important part. A woman's touch is what I adore more than even sex it is that closeness which is important - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    I read your title and thought it was about grooming a partner, or FWB or FB tho not in the context of your post. Off track... I have groomed. Was lovely too and he learnt to be a devious little bugger. 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    7 years ago

    There were ni humans hurt in any way, shape or form. Well maybe I got spanked but hey... 😁😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Ingrown hairs and popping pimples. I’m saying nothing! 😇 Of course you are. And I understand the obsession. Sort of. I love to watch Dr Pimple Popper.Besides, it's quite therapeutic being groomed for ingrown hairs and pimples. It's giving back, in it's own way. I didn't mind it...my "wincing face" icon above is supposed to be a smile, btw. RHP doesn't always match with Samsung icons, it seems.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    7 years ago

    in essence her eyes sparkle when she smiles, her energy and playfulness, her most beautiful curls often with a red wine colour gives her hair a copper metallic kinda look, electrifying even as she looks into my eyes, her hand resting on a leg or somewhere, holding my hand for a brief moment, what it does is ensures that she has my attention and she gets it, wouldn't the nature for anything in case even the littlest of any with it all changed. When dressed up nothing gets past her, bit of fluff, button hole out making my pockets uneven, colar inside out, i'de never notice stuff like that, she pulled me up because my shirt was inside out a while ago, well it matters to her and she doesn't get that from any of her boyfriends, too busy working on undressing them lol. Then there is that thing, multi tasking...she will begin to pass me something and as soon it's heading in my direction, she has already moved on and begun her next task so everything else but that glass of red is off in another place, it takes a kind of algorithm based guess as to how the best way to intercept something coming in on a wing and a prayer and already mine and mine alone. Gets a little hair raising, keeps me on edge, quite busy at times too. I've got scars where she has multi tasked during foreplay so to speak torn foreskin, stabbed, cut, scratched from bangles and things she makes a lot, or has repaired with bits of wire or of the likes., if I put something down on the bed for example, she will kick it at some point in time, her legs do there own thing although she always apologises in any case. 28 years it's all second nature now, like the workings of a swiss watch. Merry Christmas folk Mado Mado, Tara xx

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    7 years ago

    It makes me cringe. I’d like to choose my own shirts from now on. Xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

  • SeekingAdvent380

    SeekingAdvent380

    7 years ago

    I dont see it as an issue. I would be more concerned about your partner not giving a shit about how you look or saving you from those embarrassing nose nuggets. If its obvious that they do it because they care as opposed to doing it because they dont want to be embarrassed by you I would welcome the assistance/advice. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Rlee552

    Rlee552

    7 years ago

    It is incredibly sexy for me. On one occasion, I allowed my partner to fully groom me ... lying down naked as she lathered me up and got the razor out. A moment of trust and complete pleasure as she slowly made me smooth for her mouth and then pussy.

  • PurePeony

    PurePeony

    7 years ago

    May those who like to be groomed, couple up with those who love to groom! It's really such a diverse world - one man basks in the attention of their partner, another squirms and think it's being "clingy" or OTT. 😛😆 I get super horny in the presence of well-groomed men. If there's a room full of men in suits, oh my!... My mind teleports itself to animal heaven, lingering at the pussy and cocks enclosure! 🤣 Tall, athletic guys in suits... someone get me crutches because my legs have just turned into jelly! 🤣🤣🤣

  • technologic

    technologic

    7 years ago

    OMG MrT looooves doing the pimple grooming! Even halfway through foreplay... ( -___-') he also loves it when i return the favour... ;P Bonding? If only he spends half as much effort on what he wears as well... sigh..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Not really an issue for us. Shoes and belts are always matching, I am quite good with my seasons and colour matching. Always like to be well groomed.