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Group sex does not turn me on

January 27 2013

Just thought I'd see what the general view is regarding group sex (more than 2 people). I simply do not get aroused in such situations. I does not float my boat in any way. The women involved can be extremely hot yet I feel like an impassive observer rather than an active participant? Views???

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I havent participated in anything more than three somes and must admit I've loved them each time....     What girl wouldnt love the attention of 2 divine males... and there is always something in it for them!     More than that and other women involved? Its fleetingly crossed my mind... okay i think about it, but when or if it came to the crunch... i dont think so. Its not the number of people involved or the fact that there may be woman, its a confidence thing for me. Its a fantasy that will no doubt remain as one.... I will admit i do enjoy watching 'swinging' porn more than 'gangbang/groupsex', especially the amateur swinging stuff, it feels real. Most of the gangbang stuff feels contrived and too aggressive against the women, but thats just my opinion.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I like group sex, it can be fun and sometimes it is just mundane and boring. Depends on my mood and the people involved.I have a friend who I sometimes go to clubs with for group sex, and when I am with him I simply love group sex. It's watching him with other men and women and the way we interact with each other during the whole thing is so sexy and just so depraved too. I guess because he has very few boundaries. Love it!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    It's the 1 on 1 that freaks me out!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I recently watched a number of couples enjoying themselves....being an observer in my view ain't that bad....actually I loved it....it's a beautiful thing to be entrusted to share in such experiences, even if it's not about YOU. Just my thoughts....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Mmmmmmmm yeah been there done that...not opposed to doing it all again..but basically at heart..I prefer the one on one thing..   ..............which by the way, I believe I will have more chance of winning this weeks 20 million Oz Lotto ....when did shagging become so hard ?..(excuse the pun !!)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    MrK and I have been talking about this a lot lately. Sometimes group sex can leave me a little cold, till I figured out that, with all the combinations and combined limits and likes and dislikes all contained within the room, my mind is so busy working at what to do with whom that I am unable to lose myself in the moment! Two things can fix this: firstly, meeting people who have few limits, which means less worrying about whether the person I am kissing is a boy or a girl, or which two people I may be in between, or which body part needs licking... etc *happy sigh* The second thing is... honestly, I really have forgotten the second thing. MsK x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'paintme' It's the 1 on 1 that freaks me out!!! I see, but having someone set fire to your chest is just another day at HellFire is it. LOL.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'I like group sex, it can be fun and sometimes it is just mundane and boring. Depends on my mood and the people involved.I have a friend who I sometimes go to clubs with for group sex, and when I am with him I simply love group sex. It's watching him with other men and women and the way we interact with each other during the whole thing is so sexy and just so depraved too. I guess because he has very few boundaries. Love it! he is an exceptional man and it makes it sensual poetry, not just a group grope   some people can carry it off, others cant   I wish I had take my sketch book Meeka, but then it was a tad dark and I would not have been able to say just hold that pose for a few mintues.   I like to watch group sex, and have a little dabble if the mood takes me to nibble on someones errrrm but I am not able to get my kit of in front of a bunch of people, thats odd as I am normally very open with sex when its a threesome   It depends as if i am comfortable with a couple or another woman or two guys then its natural , if its not your thing then you cant pretend it is.   Meeka is the queen bee , all the drones come to the honey pot.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    You know lots of women keep on some lingerie at those clubs you know, I know I have lately as I am a fat little potato at the moment. But I am working on it!! I was having this conversation the other day with someone. To go to a swingers club and have sex do you have to be a bit of an exhibitionist? I have never considered myself to be an exhibitionist but I don't know? The pictures I put on my profile, and the things I say. Maybe I am?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    You were asking about group sex, and not necessarily at sex clubs. So, the times where I have had group sex with a group of people where I am attracted to all the people in some way... is the best. I love it. It is lots of fun and I love trying new things and having lots of hands and bodies all together. It's a total body submersion in sweaty groaning and moaning bodies. Yum, what's not to like????My ultimate favourite is being with bi-sexual men. Now I don't know if I have been spoilt by one man....but I know I am always just a little disappointed when I found out a man I might be interested in is straight.

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    12 years ago

    Threesomes for us; we like the interaction with that number of people. MFM or MMM or Fff . Or another couples oops I knew I should have counted on my fingesr....thats four ok foursomes as well. I can agree with you about group sex with lots of people not our thing but fun to watch.

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    12 years ago

    We love group sex...(got to be the right mix of people of course), just 3-somes & 4-somes are great too, but when you have six. eight or ten people all playing together it's pretty intense!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Brett, you know I have been at the club when a big group is playing and I find that a lot of the men are.... I don't know they are holding back or something. Its the women who are normally moaning and groaning and talking. Again I find some bi-men who are totally uninhibited in their sexuality are more satisfying in a group situation, they way they totally let go is amazing. Same as some women who can do the same. Or maybe I haven't had a good orgy with all straight guys before? I haven't really tried it as the idea doesn't do anything for me at all really... I just immediately think of a gang bang where men are standing around waiting. Am I totally wrong in that assumption??M

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Setting fire to my boobies was amazing!!! Couldn't stop touching them all night! (thanks for taking the pic!) Especially as i really am an exhibitionist! I'm discovering that 1 on 1 doesn't give me the space and freedom I crave. I like the club atmosphere where there are people everywhere doing all sorts of crazy stuff. Suits my aversion to intimacy and my short attention span! The more the merrier I say :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    all good...with the right guest....easier to arrange than it is to find a couple who suit, but truckloads of fun regardless. the dynamics of a 3some can be extremely rewarding, especially if all 3 'click' or 'gel' as we've been fortunate enough to experience...more often than not........

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    The few occaisions I have been invovled in group or 3sum sex I find it stinulating but too much to concentrate on or something is dstacting and I lose traction or rhythm.   I think practise helps..... Any volunteers....   Mike

  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    12 years ago

    Meeks... I don't know what clubs or parties you go to or what the guys are like but the group sex parties we have been to with ONLY straight guys , everything flows fine. There is generally no awkward standing around, it pretty much always a laugh a minute...people cracking jokes & just not taking it all too serious. That's how it should be fun fun fun! (maybe it's the just the company we keep?)BTW The Gang Bang scene you talk of is so 1970s...the days of guys lining up waiting their turn are pretty much gone. We find girls want more than one at a time! So it's generally a melee' LOLQuoting 'Meeka100' Brett, you know I have been at the club when a big group is playing and I find that a lot of the men are.... I don't know they are holding back or something. Its the women who are normally moaning and groaning and talking. Again I find some bi-men who are totally uninhibited in their sexuality are more satisfying in a group situation, they way they totally let go is amazing. Same as some women who can do the same. Or maybe I haven't had a good orgy with all straight guys before? I haven't really tried it as the idea doesn't do anything for me at all really... I just immediately think of a gang bang where men are standing around waiting. Am I totally wrong in that assumption??M

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I've never tried it, but I think you may need to have a lot of confidence to enjoy it, so I'm much more comfortable with one on one.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Nice...With the right group..Especially at a club or private party.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Not my scene either OP. I've found there's no real depth of connection or intimacy, and instead just a lot of groping, tweaking, moving parts etc. Half a dozen people in a twisted mess of wobbly bits poking here and there does nothing for me - too busy and lacking the kind of intensity that makes me feel alive. Give me one man, a whole night, and a sense of adventure, and I'm a happy girl :)

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    12 years ago

    (Is that poor grammar?) It's one part of why we swing. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' Not my scene either OP. I've found there's no real depth of connection or intimacy, and instead just a lot of groping, tweaking, moving parts etc. Half a dozen people in a twisted mess of wobbly bits poking here and there does nothing for me - too busy and lacking the kind of intensity that makes me feel alive. Give me one man, a whole night, and a sense of adventure, and I'm a happy girl :) I totally agree - the intensity becomes diluted in a crowd.....one on one anyday ;-)Danny x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Mfm yes please , controlled environment, still feels intimate, the man is chosen as a extra for his sexual attractiveness ( plus hubby) both our preferences re safe sex and dislikes are discussed beforehand- bring it on, nothing quite like being ravished by two men!!! Random group , some not at all what I find attractive ( mind or body ) used tongues everywhere , fingers unwashed from Woman to woman , safe sex ( not always) totally not my scene , way too germaphobe for that !!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Agree DeliciousCple, I have just realised that the half a dozen times or so that I have been to a straight swingers club I have only actually been with two men for full sex and one was a close friend I brought with me. Most of the time nobody really appeals. There is no lead up, no real kissing and no teasing or flirting. A bit boring really as it is all couples and doesn't overly interest me. I should probably stop going. However, I enjoy the bi-sex clubs and group sex that has been arranged with people you connect with. That I enjoy enormously.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    We love foursomes, or threesomes (with the right lady). Haven't tried any more than that but hey, dunno til we give it a go. I don't think i'd be into the gang-bang though... too many meat popsicles might overwhelm me LOL. Love the topic and all the responses, Ms Otori.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You mention if the two women were hot you still wouldn't get turned on. Fair enough. But what if you were with two women who you had a strong connection with, two women who were totally into you. Don't you think you would enjoy that experience? Would you still feel like an observer? I know I get that feeling at the clubs when I am there as a single girl, there is no connection. Swingers clubs are so vanilla really. I used to have in my profile that I am no root rat even though I wish I was. I am just not as slutty as I want to be. God damn it!! I HATE feeling like I am missing out. :(

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    A dozen people trying to have sex simultaneously? A group of small groups and parings enjoying their own space and the closeness of others? One central focus person with many slaves? A dancefloor full bumping and grinding?That's all group sex, but its all different. And enjoyable for different people, at different times.I might have a odd take on the world, but if the 'group' (be it 2, 3, 4 or 400) are right there in the moment, are leaving the outside world truly outside, and are focussed on the sexiness, the flirtiness, the eye contact, the laughs, the pleasure of others, and the freedom of sex, then its sexy.All that can be missing with 2, 3 or more, too. But there is something special about watching and being watched, while doing, in that moment, IMHO.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' You mention if the two women were hot you still wouldn't get turned on. Fair enough. But what if you were with two women who you had a strong connection with, two women who were totally into you. Don't you think you would enjoy that experience? Would you still feel like an observer? I know I get that feeling at the clubs when I am there as a single girl, there is no connection. Swingers clubs are so vanilla really. I used to have in my profile that I am no root rat even though I wish I was. I am just not as slutty as I want to be. God damn it!! I HATE feeling like I am missing out. :( That's a good point - however, I have never been with two women during which a connection was felt with both.....and I mean something like an enduring connection.:-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    That's a shame. Because you see, being with two lovers you have feelings for is absolutely amazing. Difficult to achieve, absolutely. But if you ever have the opportunity don't pass it up. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Otherwise, I absolutely understand what you mean. Group sex is an occassional thing and usually is a bit of fun, it's is just a different way to express yourself and connect with people. Be naked and wild. Yes, it is different to being with a lover you have a deep connection with. No question.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' That's a shame. Because you see, being with two lovers you have feelings for is absolutely amazing. Difficult to achieve, absolutely. But if you ever have the opportunity don't pass it up. :) I will certainly not turn away from it if I find two women I totally connect with - and then get them in the same place at the same time ;-)..Danny x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I must agree that the intimacy of one on one can be quite intence and powerfull. However after being involved in several 3-4 couple group sex sessions, You cant beat the random pleasures that follow.. You get so involved in the moment you dont worry about whats happening around you or with you.. Just go with the flow as it were... Its a great way to have and give multiple orgasms.   Thats just my experience I know its not for everyone...