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Grrr.... Why me??
July 03 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
But fortunately just a minor part of the experience. It happens to us all... After the first you'll learn to shrug it off. You're not obliged to reply to anyone and you're not responsible for their experience. Block and delete at will!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi TC,I really do think most guy realise that you will get a lot of messages. Sending a follow up and being critical is his issue not yours. I think you are best to to Ignore him for now. let be honest his initial message didn't grab your attention or you would have remembered it good or bad.Next time you get a message have a template reply explaining you get many messages and cant possibly respond to them all...Don't feel bad about it :)LC
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a younger guy (33) message me a few times and eventually I received a message saying "so are you gunna fuck me or not"? I replied with a polite "no thanks" I then received a message saying "well f**k off you dirty old hag" Block----Yes Cheers You know who
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RHP User
11 years ago
This website inundates you with messages and flirts and when you are busy with other things, sending a reply is the last thing on your mind. Don't feel bad about doing a template reply - I think that's the whole reason they exist is so busy people can use them.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Ok,.. lets be frank about this. There are so many topics and comments from guys asking how to send messages because they get ignored.And sooooooo many more topics and comments from women complaining about the messages they receive. Clearly, theres an issue with effective communication/introduction (and likely even profile drafting). Is the problem created by sites like this where guys can use the excuse "its a sex site" as has been discussed in other topics, to behave in ways they think are attractive and effective..... but clearly arent if the lack of "results" they complain about are an indication? A bit of yes. And a bit of No. Yes, because theyre lured to the site from porn sites with the bait of hook up sex.... but no, because they ultimately make the choice to act the way they do, and earn the appropriate results. They can change, or not.However, the very short answer to this topic is......... if a guy sends a message of any kind, and receives no reply (probably because his message was one of the typical dumbarse self oriented horndog one-free-handed typing ones, or he wasnt the flavour sought, or, he mailed a fake profile), and his response to no response is to get shitty....... then he did you a favour, and you discovered much earlier than you otherwise may have discovered, that he is a self interested, narcissistic, insecure brat who most likely would have offered you little in the way of the pleasure that his messages no doubt promised to deliver.Dont feel guilty for exercising your standards, and giving someone a tolerance line gobful, or simply blocking them.Consider it..... Darwinian Evolution in action.DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I understand your frustration.However as I read your Post Curvy, all I read was excuses, excuses, excuses - in other words - BUSY!If you really are that BUSY then why are you here??Yes it's true there are some rude people on here as someone has said before - it's like a Shushi Train.People come and go, people are also on their own journey/path.It does not mean tho to take out your frustration on others because their email was not to your liking.Clearly the man was upset and wanted a clear answer.I give credit to men on this site sending out messages...think about it - they have to someone how get attention.Some men have now idea or are educated in what a first message should be like to grab ones attention.Best of Luck...there are GOOD men out there. I know as I have met them.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually felt really bad the other day, for some reason on the side bar it didn't come up that I had sent a message to a very attractive 35yr old. Anyway I sent her a message and she replied with after the 4th time that the age difference is too great even though I'm sexy (something along those lines) I HATE sending more than one message to a girl, the way I see it if they aren't interested they are more than welcome to block me. But anyways this girl was more than nice enough and I said she can block me, but she didn't I'm pretty sure.... Anddd this is probably the worst reply I have ever had to a post in history
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
How long does a template reply take? just asking
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am with Mischeviuslad and SuperFoxy on this one. While there is no excuse to be rude and the fact that he was has ruled him out of the pleasure of your company. But as someone that is relatively new here I can say that it is not all beer and skittles writing an interesting, intriguing, different and engaging email. Enjoying the challenge though.And in short, yep a template is good (puts us out of our misery) and a delete and block is order for the rude.J
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both DG and Foxy bring up good points. It is good you apologised for snapping but we are the wrong audience. Hopefully the guy reads this. I think all the guys here have either been ignored or get rejection messages. I choose to take it in stride, wishing them the best of luck and move on. I wish to thank all those women who have taken the time to tell me they are not interested. You know who you are.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find it frustrating when you message someone, get along greatly, they reply 3 or 4 times, then stop, you start a new message, things appear great, then BAM stops again! Yes you get lots of messages, and filtering through them must be difficult, but the easiest thing to do, i think, is if you aren't interested, just come out and say it to guys, we won't bite, it means we can move on to the next person who talks to us.Sure a guy being rude and pushy deserves a response of "Fuck off" but try avoiding that situation early! if your busy, select who you want to reply to, and focus on that!This isn't a dig at females, or males, or anything like that, just some a piece of advise that i think could solve some of this issue
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks everyone for the advice. I would like to address the busy thing- yes, I am - I have a family, work full time and am studying however I am enjoying my time on here too.. I just don't devote enough time here to reply to every message when I'm busy- and i feel thats fair...and truly as everyone is.. I'm exploring. I get that it was maybe wrong for me to snap... However I am a 31 year old woman who does not have to listen to a man, whom I don't know giving me a lecture on not replying to his message which supposedly was to make conversation along the lines of how's your day... Not show me your tits... His words- not mine because he wanted to talk to someone- and his words again that I "could then be seen as a person who stands out to be someone worth talking to" I appreciate that that's his way.. However for whatever reason I did not reply to his initial message... And i shouldn't have to put up with his belittling attitude for not being impressed with his condescending lecturing message because he didn't get the response he expected or desired either- its unfair to think that because I'm venting its all on me because i took offence to being lectured like a child....And yes, I do send. " I'm sorry however I'm not interested reasons" and I try very hard to do that.. Yet I do get busy and I should not have to justify that to anyone- and i wont be berated by him for that especially when his message - the initial one also was not recently as I have been lazy and not cleaned my inbox for a bit (and that includes the messages i replied not interested to) And yes there are some beautiful people on here and no I am not talking about looks I'm talking about what makes them quintessentially them- i have met two men who are the epitome of amazing people. however this is a site that the majority of people are using for sexual exploration not for seeking the love of my life (who I could meet here however I could meet him when he gives me a parking ticket.. Who knows- however I'm not seeking him here) ... I happen to be one of them.. I totally understand how incredibly difficult it can be to write a message... I appreciate the effort and do try to reply to most messages.. And most of the time I do.. this one was missed for whatever reason. I am beyond impressed with my experiences to date on this site so far but I will continue to take it all with a grain of salt and something to use for exploration not as something to devote hours on end to to keep people I haven't met happy- I am busy but love the sexual exploration journey I'm on and even though some may disagree I will continue to view it as I am .. One site for purposes of pantsing fun.. Not lots for many reasons- I will continue to send messages with my interest or disinterest to whomever takes time to message me... However I'm human and I make mistakes... Thank you all for your advice and truly I do appreciate it, I apologise if My response sounds grumpy I'm not.. It's just that I didn't ask for his message and I don't feel it's fair that It's anyway justifiable for me to deserve a condescending lecture-some message for not being the person a stranger expects me to be ..simply because I didn't reply to his initial message for whatever reason or that I should feel bad about not spending enough time on here. Thank you again.. I appreciate it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In saying all of this- I think the best messages from potentials are the ones that make me smile.. And the ones , even though they may not be what your looking - for when you do say I'm really sorry but I don't think this could work but some lucky girl will just find you amazing .. Reply with sweet - answers! They are brilliant guys.. And proof that men can be truly wonderful creatures even when they are not getting the response that they want. Thanks again everyone. :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
DONT TAKE ANY CRAP JUST BLOCK EM!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Ok,.. lets be frank about this. There are so many topics and comments from guys asking how to send messages because they get ignored. And sooooooo many more topics and comments from women complaining about the messages they receive. Clearly, theres an issue with effective communication/introduction (and likely even profile drafting). Is the problem created by sites like this where guys can use the excuse "its a sex site" as has been discussed in other topics, to behave in ways they think are attractive and effective..... but clearly arent if the lack of "results" they complain about are an indication? A bit of yes. And a bit of No. Yes, because theyre lured to the site from porn sites with the bait of hook up sex.... but no, because they ultimately make the choice to act the way they do, and earn the appropriate results. They can change, or not. However, the very short answer to this topic is.... ..... if a guy sends a message of any kind, and receives no reply (probably because his message was one of the typical dumbarse self oriented horndog one-free-handed typing ones, or he wasnt the flavour sought, or, he mailed a fake profile), and his response to no response is to get shitty.... ... then he did you a favour, and you discovered much earlier than you otherwise may have discovered, that he is a self interested, narcissistic, insecure brat who most likely would have offered you little in the way of the pleasure that his messages no doubt promised to deliver. Dont feel guilty for exercising your standards, and giving someone a tolerance line gobful, or simply blocking them. Consider it..... Darwinian Evolution in action. DG That's the short answer?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Ok,.. lets be frank about this. There are so many topics and comments from guys asking how to send messages because they get ignored. And sooooooo many more topics and comments from women complaining about the messages they receive. Clearly, theres an issue with effective communication/introduction (and likely even profile drafting). Is the problem created by sites like this where guys can use the excuse "its a sex site" as has been discussed in other topics, to behave in ways they think are attractive and effective..... but clearly arent if the lack of "results" they complain about are an indication? A bit of yes. And a bit of No. Yes, because theyre lured to the site from porn sites with the bait of hook up sex.... but no, because they ultimately make the choice to act the way they do, and earn the appropriate results. They can change, or not. However, the very short answer to this topic is.... ..... if a guy sends a message of any kind, and receives no reply (probably because his message was one of the typical dumbarse self oriented horndog one-free-handed typing ones, or he wasnt the flavour sought, or, he mailed a fake profile), and his response to no response is to get shitty.... ... then he did you a favour, and you discovered much earlier than you otherwise may have discovered, that he is a self interested, narcissistic, insecure brat who most likely would have offered you little in the way of the pleasure that his messages no doubt promised to deliver. Dont feel guilty for exercising your standards, and giving someone a tolerance line gobful, or simply blocking them. Consider it..... Darwinian Evolution in action. DG DG, if you're an example of Darwinian evolution in action, why are you standing next to a dinosaur?! Haha!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
She asked nicely ;-) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'She asked nicely ;-) DG She's not a biter!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pats the chair, take a seat sugar. I have been called a whore...and yes it gets steam out of my ears I have been sent an email with my full name all my phone numbers and a picture of my house. and then he tried to join my face book page. Never even met the guy. I have had guys wanting to just stand outside my bedroom window and wank...please take a ticket and don't step on my rose bushes. Do jump the fence as my German Shepard is very fond of balls, the human kind that is. I have been recognised when out in public, thank god non of the men approached me in person, only one but it was a crowded pub, and he was very discreet. As for messages, well just take it all with a grain of salt. As a woman the ball is always in your court. I know what its like, when you are having a crap day and some arsehole that does not even know you, takes a crack. but think of it this way, even arseholes have bad days and put their foot in their mouth. If you give them time to think about what they write to you, they always come back and say sorry. that is why I hardly ever snap back. I am always as polite as can be, but not always. I say you need to just have a little think about what you just wrote to me, would you walk up to me in a public place in a social setting and just start being rude to me? then let them think about it. I only block if a person just will not get the message and keeps at me, but so far only one person has driven me to that. and I also have a hissy fit myself if I read something on the forums and feel its directed at me in a negative way. but then I go spit my dummy, and then build a bridge. welcome to the Sand Pit LadyT
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' I have had guys wanting to just stand outside my bedroom window and wank..Isn't it supposed to be guys standing outside bedroom windows singing sonnets? I think you need to find guys with some musical talent.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' I have had guys wanting to just stand outside my bedroom window and wank.. Isn't it supposed to be guys standing outside bedroom windows singing sonnets? I think you need to find guys with some musical talent.I spat out my tea, well they are playing the fiddle does that count?
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RHP User
11 years ago
because the responses are less than overwhelming....the last time I did, it turned into War and Peas.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' Quoting 'zu7bcv' Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' I have had guys wanting to just stand outside my bedroom window and wank.. Isn't it supposed to be guys standing outside bedroom windows singing sonnets? I think you need to find guys with some musical talent.I spat out my tea, well they are playing the fiddle does that count? I can imagine a few fiddlers on a hot tin roof
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RHP User
11 years ago
The source of this post is me.. Firstly I am sorry beyond words that my message offended or insulted you in any way shape or form as this was the furthest thing from my mind when I sent the message to you. I wasn't berating you for not replying rather it was late on a Sunday night I was looking through old messages and remember that your reply was nice, polite, friendly and even though you said that you were not at all interested in anything physical you did not rule a friendship. So always looking to meet new friends I sent you a message that I thought was very light hearted, non-confrontational and friendly. Clearly it wasn't and I was mortified that my words had insulted someone as no matter what medium I use to talk to a person I always try to be respectful. Clearly I need to go back to school to brush up on my prose style. I don't know how to begin to undo the insult you felt and even if I could I wouldn't blame you for not letting me try nor would I blame you for not accepting this apology. I really am truly and deeply sorry though.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why are you bothering to defend yourself? You never have to tell anyone your business if you don't want too. I get busy, and I hate answering emails but I do answer them all but unfortunately sometimes three or four weeks go by or occassionaly even longer before I look at them. I rarely get a rude reply although occasionally someone will make a comment about my speedy response time. LOL. But if they were angry with me, I wouldn't blame the guys. Must be really hard for them so I try not to take it personally when I have rec'd an ungracious response. You never know... maybe they were just having a really shit day. Why am I here? Cause I want to be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tight_Fit' DONT TAKE ANY CRAP JUST BLOCK EM!!!! just try to understand what its like for any man on this site or out there in the world.if you block a person they cant apologise to you can they?Its like when people have a bit of a scrap on the forums, some people will have a crack in message then block. Thats not cricket, were adults we have to own what we do in here and out there.there is always a middle ground, and people can make up that ground if they realise they may have intentionally or un intentionally hurt another person.I dont take crap but then I also realise that as a woman I hold a lot of the power on here and I do not want to hurt guys just for being a tad over eager or rude in their frustrations in not getting their end away. Or not even having the chance to be around a woman, to touch her to hold her to show himself as a man and lover.I respect myself, and in that I try to respect men as I am a woman lucky enough to get all that at the flick of my manicured fingers.LadyT nobel peace prize winner
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you again, I appreciate it. I follow the forums.. And needless to say I enjoy the advice and opinions given by everyone.. Please don't think I'm ungreatful or a whinger, I was just perplexed and a tad pissed off for being lectured by a strange man. Truly I appreciate the opinions and advice given to me. Lady Tuscan... I have to apologise I spat my tea all over the couch and laughed hysterically.. I had visions of men in camouflage outside your window playing with themselves with foliage not where one would expect it when one is naked.. Wanking.. And you doing a Jennifer Anniston scene from horrible bosses... Needless to say my imagination ran away from me. However, you kindness is truly appreciated and you can be my yoda anytime (I'm not a Star Wars but however I can't think of any other way to put it.. It escapes me today) - although... You make sense, have brilliant advice, hilarious, have a non green skin tone and are gorgeous. So.. Not really yoda at all ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' Quoting 'Tight_Fit' DONT TAKE ANY CRAP JUST BLOCK EM!!!! just try to understand what its like for any man on this site or out there in the world. if you block a person they cant apologise to you can they? Its like when people have a bit of a scrap on the forums, some people will have a crack in message then block. Thats not cricket, were adults we have to own what we do in here and out there. there is always a middle ground, and people can make up that ground if they realise they may have intentionally or un intentionally hurt another person. I dont take crap but then I also realise that as a woman I hold a lot of the power on here and I do not want to hurt guys just for being a tad over eager or rude in their frustrations in not getting their end away. Or not even having the chance to be around a woman, to touch her to hold her to show himself as a man and lover. I respect myself, and in that I try to respect men as I am a woman lucky enough to get all that at the flick of my manicured fingers. LadyT nobel peace prize winner And agree with you Lady T. So to the men I messaged yesterday and others and I told you straight thank you for not taking it badly and being understanding. (sigh) sometimes getting attention isn't all it's cracked up to be.
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Such patience and kindness........you all just got an extra gold star in my little black book
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lifes_great' Such patience and kindness........you all just got an extra gold star in my little black book I am in your little black book, peeps over shoulder and sees all kinds of figures in sexual positions..points to oneand says, that aint gonna happen..my zimmer frame cant carry that kinds of weight
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' Quoting 'Lifes_great' Such patience and kindness........you all just got an extra gold star in my little black book I am in your little black book, peeps over shoulder and sees all kinds of figures in sexual positions..points to one and says, that aint gonna happen..my zimmer frame cant carry that kinds of weight You'll never ever know, if you never ever go!
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I get these messages I usually point-out how ridiculous it is for them to get all butthurt because a complete stranger hasn't responded to their message on their time-frame.....does the trick :)
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Coops27M
11 years ago
After reading the posts here most of them have caused my faith in humanity to go up a notch. Also i love the nonchalant way you discuss the actions and desires of people in your life Lady Tuscan, one very amused RHP'er over here :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
All women get heaps of messages... That's a big generalisation... And I don't get nearly with the ones who stop talking to me... But if they are rude, I'll give them a serve and if they are offended by that, it's because they are having to think up excuses to justify such bad behaviour. We all have lives and if we all got shitty at someone for being human.... We'd never be having any sex. Sounds like to me that bloke needs a wank... He sure is acting like one... A wank that is...
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RHP User
11 years ago
the myth of the ALL women get soooo many messages....who says?...ALL the men here and All the womenwhoget soooo many messages....my messages, the few that I receive fit into two categories...asking for advice and or/wanting to be friends... or the usual variation of..do you wanna have sex today/now...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kemmster' The source of this post is me.. Firstly I am sorry beyond words that my message offended or insulted you in any way shape or form as this was the furthest thing from my mind when I sent the message to you. I wasn't berating you for not replying rather it was late on a Sunday night I was looking through old messages and remember that your reply was nice, polite, friendly and even though you said that you were not at all interested in anything physical you did not rule a friendship. So always looking to meet new friends I sent you a message that I thought was very light hearted, non-confrontational and friendly. Clearly it wasn't and I was mortified that my words had insulted someone as no matter what medium I use to talk to a person I always try to be respectful. Clearly I need to go back to school to brush up on my prose style. I don't know how to begin to undo the insult you felt and even if I could I wouldn't blame you for not letting me try nor would I blame you for not accepting this apology. I really am truly and deeply sorry though. That took courage...That's ever so brave.Foxy
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The_lex
11 years ago
reading this post made me think a little of my time here in the bakery,,and I would just like to thank all the ladies that i have politely turned down for not taking it personally and abusing me..lexi ..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't waste time and energy on the jerks. I reply and do it with respect and consideration of others, if they can't take rejection that is their problem and if they have to reply in such a rude manner consider yourself lucky that you didn't hook up as they are showing their true colours if they don't get their own way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well gents if any of u have a mother or a sister witch most of u must, if the messages u send girls are anything but what u would deem fit for either of them to receive ...... U NEEDTO TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOURSELVES AND THE WAY U VIEW WOMEN!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Only being relatively new on here, yes this is a sex site so to speak, but many people are on here for many different reason, meet friends explore their intimate desires fantasies etc. At the end of the day however no one should have to tolerate any form of abuse in any way. ( well put Aticus79 ). after reading a number of different posts I believe some guys on here believe that just because this site is titled as a sex site, they have a given right or get shitty when they are knocked back as it were. We all have choices and being on here is no different. It just goes to show the insecurities that these guys have.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' Quoting 'Lady_Tuscan' I have had guys wanting to just stand outside my bedroom window and wank..Isn't it supposed to be guys standing outside bedroom windows singing sonnets? I think you need to find guys with some musical talent. The Royal RHP Choir, singing "Tip Toe Through the Tulips" in falsetto Mado
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custardapples
11 years ago
Wow ... he's a keeper!!! lol What the ...?? Quoting 'fun4some2' I had a younger guy (33) message me a few times and eventually I received a message saying "so are you gunna fuck me or not"? I replied with a polite "no thanks" I then received a message saying "well f**k off you dirty old hag" Block----Yes Cheers You know who
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting post here? It's not only man that struggle to get a clear message over to possible play mates?? Couples are sadly judge either to ugly, poor profile or daubed a male only ? (Thanks to soem guys here) either way if u can't meet then simply stay away until u can or lock ur profile?? In saying that though we believe everyone deserves a reply after all we are adults here so to the peeps that ignore ? Wld u like that in real life ??
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't believe that kemmster made a public apology on july the 4th, there were 2 posts that day and 14 afterwards, and Foxy as been the only one who read and commented on that apology ! Kudos kemmster Kudos foxy Hp xo 💌 Something to be said for reading the threads...
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Twisted_Mister
11 years ago
Appears to be the standard response for me - maybe it's me, maybe it's the talent pool (or lack thereof) where I live :( HOWEVER, I've taken to sending 'thanks for your polite response, good luck to you too' messages in response to my knock backs. A little politeness doesn't hurt regardless of circumstance. As an aside, I might start leading off my online seduction attempts with knock knock jokes!!!!! A new approach beckons!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
GOOD FOR YOU Rude little fracker deserved it. Why should you put up with it. I read this all the time. Here I am trying to be polite and respectful as a bloke looking for what Im am after and little knob heads come along abusing women for what the word NO. We are all on hear looking for what we want as individuals. Just because you may see something you like doesnt mean your intitled to it. Some people need to grow up and smell the roses. Its surpose to be a site for adults not little kiddies. BLOCK and forget him you dont need the agravaition.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Twisted_Mister
11 years ago
'Who's there?' 'Orange.' 'Orange who?' 'Orange you glad I messaged you?' Brilliant!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just my two cents, Obviously the male in question was inappropriate. What is most frustrating however is , I will message, can quite clearly see they checked my profile and receive no response. You have the time to view my profile, you have the time to be courteous and reply. I am quite often grateful for receiving one, regardless if it's a canned template response.WHat I find even more curious is a female will accept my friend request and not reply whatsoever. Why accept the request??I understand I am not everyone's cup of tea, I just find this odd and a waste of time. I am never crude in my messaging however i find the more up front approach some how gets me results..Just my two cents.
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playfulminx
11 years ago
Quoting 'tehbatman'What is most frustrating however is , I will message, can quite clearly see they checked my profile and receive no response. You have the time to view my profile, you have the time to be courteous and reply. I am quite often grateful for receiving one, regardless if it's a canned template response. I think that's the problem. A lot of us will read a message, check out the profile but leave the reply until later. Depending on how busy I am, I will read all messages and try and send a template, but many times I decide to leave the replies until the end of the week when I have more time. I can see how that could be frustrating for a guy to know his message has been read AND his profile viewed, but sometimes that's how it is... Of course, one could say that if a message and profile reeeeeallly grabbed me then I might reply ASAP but most of the time, even if I'm interested in someone, I leave replying til later :| Sometimes a few weeks later :| Sorry!
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RHP User
11 years ago
And the other person concerned, but too many posts like this exist, where the OP is in my view asking us to make a judgement on how bad the other is...... Schoolyard shit!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
some men on here make me laugh even in the chat rooms, it dosent matter what your response was at the end of the day if you wasnt interested it should come down to respect an he should respect that!! we all have personal stuff going on and dont reply straight away people need to understand life does not revolve around this site!!
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uneventful
11 years ago
Highpriority, kemmster and foxy ..... seems noone here actually reads past the OP before they add their two bits worth ....
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RHP User
11 years ago
It "appears" there maybe a misunderstanding of communication between the two parties.That does happen.Hope it is all sorted out.FOXYHugs, HP and uneventful.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do hope that you read back a bit and review the situation... An acknowledgment to the poster in question might be nice, IMHO. Hp xo 💌 We need a bit more love in the front row please...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you everyone for your posts.. I do realise that perhaps it wasn't a completely necessary topic yet somedays people vent and want opinions- obviously that's how I was that day plus a little bit sensitive. I stand firm on the fact that the message was inappropriate although I do accept the apology from the man in question.... That takes big brassy balls to admit your wrong and especially by personal choice in a public forum- so Thank you it's truly appreciated. RHP at the beginning can be a little daunting to navigate and figuring it out can be tricky.... However personally ..it's fantastic- I've met some fantastic men on here who are truly beautiful people, been gobsmacked with some interesting topics that I knew nothing about, I get to enjoy being on a site with people who are honest about what they wish to explore within their own sexuality/ desires etc when although i have amazing people in my life they just dont see sex like this, laugh my bum off at some of the forum posts whilst also discovering vast views on others, I've had an incredibly wonderful people message me offer advice a friendly shoulder - amazing!!!!!..... my experience on here is mostly positive also I understand how tricky it can be to gauge another person online, let alone message them as tone and body language can't be expressed and humour is completly individual ...so it can be misinterpreted. The bad expirences make the wonderful ones that much more special. Again thank you everyone for your comments and taking the time to write them. Maybe there should be a topic on "so you just joined RHP and are now cowering under the covers as its a little bit daunting.... Some do's/ don'ts/ this can happens" -apologies for any spelling mistakes... I'm blaming my phone now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nice response tallcurvy 💋 Hp xo 💌 Helping spread the love...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...perhaps the gent in question was doing the same thing. Who knows how many times he had sent out a message and recieved no reply. Poor Tallcurvy81 may simply have been the straw that broke the camel's back. I expect it can get very frustrating laying down your cash for membership and recieving no returns. Perhaps he was just venting and his winge was actually uncharacteristic of him. Then again, maybe he's just an arsehole and, like DG suggested, he's done you a solid.
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uneventful
11 years ago
He had no other way of making any sort of contact / appology or other wise except by public forum...... sorry but in this situation ... I give 100% points to the gentleman ... and 50% points to the op.... venting on someone is never good. Especially when it is done publically ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
As far as this topic is concerned I've accepted his apology... It took balls to do so and in the manner that he did- so kudos for that... However at the time I didn't block him immediately and no apology was given. Also just to state a point.. I never referred to whom I was venting about- that was his choice alone to make the apology in the public forum.. and dare i suggest he wouldnt have done so if he genuinely didnt actually feel bad or that it deserved it..hence why it's a brassy balls moment- that's a brave person and that I respect. Again, this post wasn't my finest moment either... Yet, it's a forum- this is where people share and others choose to comment... And I did and so did those who posted comments and I do not expect everyone or anyone actually to see things the same way I do.... However I think what everyone has possibly learnt from here is that you can't put personal expectations on other Rhp members its unrealistic as everyone is completely unique yet we should all conciously treat each other as people and all that entails not just as a potential notch on your bedpost. You can't demand that everyone acknowledges every flirt/message that they are sent just as you can't make every person you smile at in the street smile back. Everyone has their own lives outside of this site so again how can you realistically expect them to want to dedicate time solely to make you feel better about what youve sent when they are on here for whatever brought them here in the first place. There is a reason your parents always told you to be wary of what you write down because it can bite you in the arse. We are all human and make mistakes but it takes a brave man to say sorry (again its truly appreciated). Manners are free and no one (a variety of differing posts explaining other people's stories reinforces this) should send something that's "shitful" or rude. And lastly - yes, I can be a precious grumpy arse when sent crap, when having a terrible day and therefore make decisions to post my displeasure for the whole site to see regardless of whether its the right avenue to go down... Not my finest moment but I'm owning it, my words, the fact that I still found it offensive (and no I'm not a prissy person but being lectured shits me to tears and such other things) but again the apology took balls and who can't respect that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know maybe its a no no to do this... perhaps even frowned on...but I really wanted a giggle last week and posted an " funny but oops embarrassing moments thread" after having coffee with some of my non rhp everyday life girlfriends .... And that made me think Rhp is the perfect place for such a post considering all the mischief that goes on around here and since its a caring sharing sort of place... . So far I've had a few giggles at both my own and other posters comments (because lets face it its truly hilarious and we all do it even in a cringe worthy moment) and it a hell of a lot more entertaining than this post which is depressing the bejesus out of me now... I beg you all to go find it and let's make each other laugh at our funny but oops moments! Thanks again everyone! Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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wetrynplease
11 years ago
What a dick... Probably a little dick as well ;) no excuse for rudeness... BLOCKED... Hope things get better for you... Mmwaahhh - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is when you get a flirt from a lady asking you to contact them, you send a message and get shot down in reply hahaha I don't understand that logic at all... Maybe ladies don't like "hey my name's Dick, do you like it?"
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