Guys Cumming

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Because its quite an anomaly. Lets face it, in the majority its really not that hard to make a guy cum. In alot of cases they can cum too soon leaving you wondering what the point of the whole experience was. Some women may feel like they aren't good enough, or attractive enough to you to get you there. Then theres that common idea that if a guy doesn't cum that its frustrating for him, blue ballls and all that crap...   So you don't find it frustrating? Do you masturbate after they have left?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I do agree with you LonelyGuy91 that there seems to be a growing expectation and I think Saskia is right that some women feel they are not turning on the guy if he does not cum. That said...after the 3rd one in a play session it's not that easy to make the guy cum.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  women are high achievers,or on the Belbin scale completer finishers...we feel cheated if you don't howl like a lion,yelp like a coyote ,or cum before you gox Hugs H

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  YoungOne91

  12 years ago

  No i don't masturbate after they leave i honestly don't mind and yeah i get it would possibly make a woman feel she wasn't good enough or something, however considering the amount of ex girlfriends and girls i have heard saying they like to have fun even when they don't cum its the closeness etc etc...why can't a guy have the same thing.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You won't have to look far around here to find complaints about 5min wonders, premature ejeculation, no stamina etc.I have always had a long fuse, even as a young man, going for 3hrs isn't unusual for me and you would think that woman would be ecstatic about that and for the most part they are, BUT.........getting a guy to come is part of the experience and when they don't they take it as a personal failure.Last year I was on anti depressants it was supposed to make sex as interesting as washing up, however my good ole libido ploughed on through, cumming though, forget it !So despite being able to go for epic sessions and deliver countless orgasms partners were unsatisfied because they couldn't get me off.Even after explaining the situation I lost several lovers to this, I get it though, they are disappointed because having your partner come is part of the experience.Patience has it's own rewards however and being with one lover for more than a few sessions has things working again, it would seem that I need to have a lover over a period of time in order to feel comfortable, relaxed and familiar in order to relax and allow it to happen.Either that or some one totally selfish !

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  it's worked for me, though you need to be wearing a condom to pull it off successfully.         Nat ;)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  hahahaha nice one Nat! pmsl

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  Paradisepair

  12 years ago

  What is the world cumming to? It's been scientifically proven sperm makes women happy.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I feel unsatisfied if the male does not cum- but more so it's the orgasm that I want them to have.:) Cass xxx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  when I cant cum .. embarrassing because I know the girl blames herself which is not the case... its not her fault.. There are many reasons why a man cant cum, mainly due to medication or performance fear.. Anxiety will definitely stop you from cumming, the harder you try the harder it is to cum.. Once you get with someone you feel relaxed with... you will cum....A man knows when a woman gets anxious about not making a man cum, so this only adds to the problem..Relax and enjoy the moment... before you know it, bingo....

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  It could be fallout from the pornification of sex that's been increasing in prevalence, among other reasons. I've noticed this myself actually. Yeah it's nice if everyone gets "there", but if they don't, there's no sense taking it personally or making someone else feel inadequate about their own orgasm.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting '50zcool'Patience has it's own rewards however and being with one lover for more than a few sessions has things working again, it would seem that I need to have a lover over a period of time in order to feel comfortable, relaxed and familiar in order to relax and allow it to happen.Either that or some one totally selfish ! I've found this too, it can take a couple of sessions (for lack of a better word) to get to know someone and discover what makes each other tick. At the same time, I totally understand where the ladies are coming from in saying they might feel disappointed or don't have that sense of completion if the guy doesn't cum. As always, communication is important.xx Stuck

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I too (suffer) from the long grind, sometimes having a couple of two hour sessions in the sack without cumming. Tried all sorts of different types of penetration and games but quite often not cumming but finding my partner orgasming three or four times over the two sessions. I actually enjoy getting a woman off without me having too. I figure it's the equivalent of when a woman can't come and the man feels inadequate.

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  australiaboy

  12 years ago

  I am with lonelyguy and 50zcool with regards to the whole not being able to cum thing at times or taking a while.   Just because it sometimes doesnt happen for me or takes a while doesnt mean I am not enjoying the sex. However the woman can have that feeling of dejection etc etc.   You hear a lot women complaining about sprinters, it can be just as frustrating and annoying for them when they are tangled up with a marathon runner.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This is really interesting, I really had no idea that so many men had this sort of problem. The whole needing a few sessions with the same person to feel comfortable etc, and here I have been thinking all men were just selfish assholes with a one tracked mind... Maybe the sexes aren't so different after all?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Maybe its a much taboo topic but when party fails to achieve an orgasm despite the other party's intentions and consummations, there appears to be fear of failure rising its ugly head. Normally, in today's society the issue is focussed on the women not reaching a state of bliss, from either advertising (pre-mature ejaculation) or films/television shows. Perhaps this is from the socialisation of men providing and since cumming before a woman does isnt providing her with the ultimate release, he is therefore seen as less virile in some way. Hidden beneath the complexity of non-orgasm is the man who fails to achieve the release, as a person who quite regularly does not reach the ultimate feeling within sex, I feel the emotion that the partner has on me to fulfil my needs as well as theirs. My focus on them is paramount and perhaps from this my orgasm is pushed aside and therefore forgotten in the pleasure of my partner at the time. I understand and can relate to the guys here who dont feel worried in any way that orgasm failure is detrimental to the sex or passion involved.The physical and other components are thoroughly enjoyed, orgasm is a mind event after all, maybe we men who dont orgasm are so strong minded to please the partner we neglect or forget our own pleasures. I recognise that and am comfortable no orgasming everytime. To me I consider it like kissing, we dont always use tongues to kiss, sometimes the sensual movements of lips touching, feeling each other is enough to enjoy. So I ask of this simple gesture, if your partner doesn't orgasm as much as you want, just let them feel comfortable and enjoy what they are offering, maybe then they might even orgasm more ;-)Candy :-)

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