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Guys - liking women on here vs in public
December 17 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you pretty much hit the nail on the head. This is a sex site and the anonymity of it all saves them from being embarrassed. S&T - Posted from rhpmobile
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Beachlover1999
11 years ago
I agree it happens and really unsure why that is. I think there are a whole hoist of reasons and not just 'guys want to get into your pants'!!!! It's partly a numbers game (ie more girls to guy ratio on RHP) and I do believe the fish are a different species here, generally speaking!! On occasion I dabble on RSVP and get knocked back more!! They don't know what they are missing!!! Perhaps I am to much fun for some, they probably couldn't handle me and trying to be 'vanilla' is hard work!!!!! Lol You are much taller than me so perhaps you don't notice them noticing you? There is defo more competition in a bar perhaps? Good luck it's a war zone in the real world!!!! ;))
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RHP User
11 years ago
And yes, I think it's because this is a so-called sex site, which means many men are looking at out profile as a way to get laid rather than as a woman he's strongly attracted to or wants to date etc.
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Guys here are looking for sex. But having said that, I am well aware that sexy women come in all shapes and sizes. Some guys here probably do have a fetish for big girls. Ultimately I reckon a lot of guys here would say anything to get into a girls pants.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Most are the proverbial 60 foot tall and bullet proof, when anonymity is their shield. Only a small % will actually take the gamble at being upfront in a social situation, read out and about at the shops or wherever.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I figure its because this is a sex site and they are looking to get laid. I don't imagine half the guys I have slept with would have given me a second look out on public. But then there are a few that see me at the shops or whatever then message me through here or another site. Who knows men are weird.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess part of it is the "pants" factor for some people; partly easier to be rejected on here than in public, also people are on here for similar reasons; and sadly the peer pressure thing is an issue for some people- I had a flatmate who liked curvy women but his mates didn't, so he rubbished them when they were around to fit in (I don't agree with this though- and I gave him a right proper telling off a number of times)… so a multitude of factors. But as I say, I like curvy women and I would probably hit on you since you're cute anyway so preaching to the choir LOL.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I could have written that myself word for word! In MY opinion, I believe men message ME for one of two reasons: (a) No quality control. They message EVERY woman hoping to get lucky; or (b) Desperation. They have no luck with the hot, sexy chicks, so they assume a bigger girl will appreciate any attention thrown their way. But alas, I am a mere female. I have no idea what goes through a man's brain!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Nice to see a new face start a topic. Im going to receive a few unfavourable responses to this... but hey,... Im used to it.And please dont take my use of 'you' as... you. I mean it in the Royal you way..... My view, unfortunately...... is that unless theyre prepared to be seen with you in public..... .....that the guys in here view you merely as a masturbation pocket to get off inside of. One of many options they hope for. (or.... theyre attached/married, and cant be seen with you in public.) Too harsh?Is it really?!!! If youre into someone, even if only as a FWB where you still need to be able to engage, communicate and enjoy their company enough to want to shag them more.... then being seen in public means they're not embarrassed to be seen with you and comfortable with their choices. But you also offered an insight into most women...."If only they knew what I would do if they approached me at a bar/club etc haha." The human shopping factor aside, youve brought up a very good point.Whether in here, or in the REAL world.... you are a woman with likes, dislikes, wants, desires, needs and powerful emotions. Theyre not exclusive to being in this website. I think a lot of people forget that, due to the advertising lure of this place being an easy avenue for sex.... when sex beyond the website really isnt hard to find at all if you pay attention to those likes, dislikes, wants, desires, needs and powerful emotions. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Face pics are not that common, BJ has a great song, The Stranger. Trouble is not many show their first face let alone their comfort 1. I'm not good with faces tbh, here today gone tomorrow
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RHP User
11 years ago
If men could hear what was going on in my head I would be MUCH more popular than I am. Although recently I think I've learned that I've been more popular than I realised and it's not that most men are stammering, foot-staring, monosyllabic idiots, just they are nervous! Naww. Having said that, I bet those nervy guys would ask me out then and there if I had a "profile billboard" up stating my availability and sexual interests. Some women use clothing to project that image, but they tend to be the body shapes and sizes that society accepts seeing half-nekkid. This is part of the reason that men hold back from hitting on some larger women I think, the other part is definitely the Shallow Hal phenomenon, social pressure is heavy maaan *draaaaaaag* *pufff*
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inspirit
11 years ago
I actually get more noticed when I am out. RHP for me is a habit for the forums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe online it is much easier to take rejection than at a club or pub or shopping centre!! If i went up to five or more ladies in public and got shot down by everyone well how devastating that could be for ones ego !! But to get rejected on line ppffftttt!!' Can you please repeat that rejection thankyou ??!! This time with a little more purpose thankyou .! Its a breeze to be a loser on site !! Hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cutencurvy86, you have a very valid point. Guy's I've met are all "your hot, how are you single" on here, and keen to bed me and chat like there's no tomorrow on here. Which is fine in many way's as I'm always up for a chat and love catching up. But....when in public, I'm not approached, I do get looks, smiles etc. But never chatted up or spoken to like on rhp. Now we all know there are rules in public that require some etiquette due to social standards, so on here, they don't exist? Or have we just bypassed them all lol Guy's seem more forward on here, it's a comfort from your own couch kind of thing? Or do I have it wrong ¿ And yes bigocean your a funny one, luv your humour
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Beachlover1999'I agree it happens and really unsure why that is. I think there are a whole hoist of reasons and not just 'guys want to get into your pants'!!!! It's partly a numbers game (ie more girls to guy ratio on RHP) and I do believe the fish are a different species here, generally speaking!! On occasion I dabble on RSVP and get knocked back more!! They don't know what they are missing!!! Perhaps I am to much fun for some, they probably couldn't handle me and trying to be 'vanilla' is hard work!!!!! Lol You are much taller than me so perhaps you don't notice them noticing you? There is defo more competition in a bar perhaps? Good luck it's a war zone in the real world!!!! ;))
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I figure its because this is a sex site and they are looking to get laid. I don't imagine half the guys I have slept with would have given me a second look out on public. There is a big difference between being attractive and being "RHP attractive". Women here have the advantage as they have what (most of) the men here are specifically looking for, and therefore are a hot commodity. Not to mention the fact the men outnumber us greatly. Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' .....that the guys in here view you merely as a masturbation pocket to get off inside of. One of many options they hope for. (or.... theyre attached/married, and cant be seen with you in public.) ... If youre into someone, even if only as a FWB where you still need to be able to engage, communicate and enjoy their company enough to want to shag them more.... then being seen in public means they're not embarrassed to be seen with you and comfortable with their choices. Absolutely, if someone does not want to been seen with me in public, it's a dealbreaker. Sure, some men I choose to only meet at my or their house for sex, but more often I've also gone for a drink, breakfast etc. Anyone afraid of what others may think of them being in my company is not good enough. I think everyone deserves better than being kept a secret..
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Agree. Its about the non face to face situation. Being able to type rather than approach & start a conversation. Here there is no public looking on to see how you go.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Real life is far more intimidating than online life. While you may get rejected online there are a whole bunch of other factors one can use to brush off a rejection online. In real life, a rejection is much more immediate, in your face and personal. Many guys and possibly girls may have personalities that come out much more online than they do on person. They may be too scared to approach a person in a bar or pub but not so scared to approach online. For myself I find I don't get so much attention in person, because I dont have a certain look, or look like that nice looking man looks too wholesome! But online and when you get a chance to view the personality, it is a different story. And to the OP, you may find that the guys who do really like you and would want to hit on you in real life don't operate in the normal venues. I for one can't stand pubs, clubs and such venues, which society seems to tell us are the places to pick up. So make the most of online, take it all as compliments, pick the ones you want. Sure there are those wanting a quick root on here just because a person is here but no one makes you talk to them! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with what mostly everyone has said so far, and personally speaking, I'm at the verge of giving up on this site completely this time as I find it way easier to meet and pick up a guy at a bar than here. After meeting a handful of men from here, it's put me off big time. I know I should probably soldier on but life is short as they say: YOLO. The first one I'd met had been reasonably nice, without going into it too much, I'd thought we would see each other again, however, I'd never heard from the guy again, and he lives local to me, so that left me wondering if he would acknowledge me or pretend he didn't see me if we were to run into each other at the local supermarket. The second guy was a pervert and couldn't keep his eyes from wondering, yet couldn't make it clear what his intentions were until AFTER we'd met via text message. After I'd told him I'm after something a little more meaningful than just sex, that was it. The third guy I'd met was just plain weird, he was painfully shy, or maybe he'd found me a little intimidating maybe, guess I'd never know, (sadly some find it much easier to communicate behind their phones/laptops/computers than in person) and the fourth one I'd met made seemed quite nice, a little arrogant, otherwise, someone I'd probably want see again, and I'm a big believer in keeping the first meeting casual, not let it drag on. Then he messages me on here asking me if I like to suck cock, and after I tell him it's not one of my favourite things to do, he replies, oh well, nice meeting you, see you later then. Is it any wonder why so many women are turning lesbian or celibate these days!!! Where have all the decent men gone?????
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I'd hardly call them keyboard warriors. The simple fact is, both men and women find it hard to make the first move. It's a very intimidating thing to do. To prove this try staring into the eyes of a stranger for 6 minutes. I bet you don't even last 2. Internet dating sites, adult dating sites and similar provide one thing that we all need......COMFORT. It's comforting to know that I'm in an environment that I feel safe in to be ABLE to make that approach, in order to build that much needed rapport that makes it easier for the REAL person to emerge. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's my annual intelligent comment for this year..... I'll see you all next year for my next brain bleed :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We're not all like that - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe just maybe soem guys and girls I guess :) are simply shy in public but when they hide behind a computer screen they get more courage ?? Just a thought is all
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have been what I would call painfully shy just about my entire life. I don't recall when I have every actually gone up to someone to chat them up. Oh once or twice I've given the "come hither" look to someone who I've noticed watching me already, and it's worked, but I can't approach. However, online, the things that come out of my keyboard....yikes! And I know it's caused frustration, because even though I've typed such things, even though they may currently be rattling around in my head, it is all but IMPOSSIBLE to get the words out of my mouth. Phone or in person, doesn't matter, they just don't come out unless they are typed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great post, I'm sure that goes for many on here. .And may I say, I adore your profile!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' Great post, I'm sure that goes for many on here. .And may I say, I adore your profile! Thank you....and thank you I admit to taking inspiration from you and some of the other ladies on here to have more than a template.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There was a profile?? Re bunny.... All I saw was a tattoo ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I sincerely doubt you could have put it anymore eloquently! Men on here are just looking for sex & will say anything to get it. If you have breasts & a vagina then they'll tell you anything to get laid. I am somewhat different though because I get plenty of sex at home ;) Quoting 'MsElle72' I could have written that myself word for word! In MY opinion, I believe men message ME for one of two reasons: (a) No quality control. They message EVERY woman hoping to get lucky; or (b) Desperation. They have no luck with the hot, sexy chicks, so they assume a bigger girl will appreciate any attention thrown their way. But alas, I am a mere female. I have no idea what goes through a man's brain!
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
of course guys are more forward on here. haven't you guys noticed out in the real world there is such a thing as being politically correct.. girl has great breasts and cute smile but if I stare she will think I am stalking her or They will say hey my face is up here got brains as well as big boobs. the goal post keep getting shifted. on here the guys drop all the pretense because as said Its a sex site and they can be a bit more open about there intentions. Of course there is no need to be rude or crass on RHP . But some guys only like women for sex. they are happy with their mates. to fish play golf whatever but when it comes to sex they have to talk to women and there not very good at it.by the way your hot. sexiness is not defined by the shape of your skin alone its what's inside her head that makes a woman truly sexy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think perhaps the difference here is the numbers, it's easier to approach several woman from a pseudo anonymous perspective than face to face. I'm a fairly bubbly person and I think that can sometimes be off putting in real life as it's hard to introduce yourself when in social settings people are having fun. I'm not at all shy in approaching men but picking the moment is hard. Here you don't have to worry about timing or making a goose of yourself. I find it interesting though the amount of men who start an approach here with "you're hot" and after you meet them, they vanish into thin air. It's just a numbers game really, sooner or later you get your chance to scream "bingo" regardless of if the number comes up here or anywhere else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
She can wash my 4WD any way
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RHP User
11 years ago
I say that in the nicest way. I like your curves and you're certainly cute ! Moreso, your OP is very well written with exceptionally good punctuation. You clearly are a Very Eloquent, Intelligent Lady ! My current Lady and my previous Lady are / were both "bigger women". I am / I was, proud to be seen with both of them. I have to turn the clock back 25 years to be your age. Back then, I was still 170cm tall/short. Even if I was 27 now, you're 5" / 12cm taller than me. Most women like a man to be as tall / taller than them. So, whilst I might see you on the train, on the street, in a bar, and think "Shit She's Gorgeous", because you're taller than me, I probably wouldn't approach you. Hope my thoughts help.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you Chat_meet_touch I guess I do get looked over for being tall. I went to a club the other week and saw a guy hitting on all the short girls with big boobs. He looked at me but didn't hit on me. I didn't have the guts to hit on him. I guess it's a 2 way street :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think the brain comes more into play when meeting someone in "real life". I say "real life" because RHP is very far from reality. There are a few things you need to keep in mind, 1) Anyone can write a message... well everyone should be able to write a message.2) Meeting someone at a bar for example involves small talk which in turn involves conversational skills, wit and humor. Meeting someone on here takes the amount of time it takes to "construct" a message.3) RHP has the luxury of scrolling through potential matches and then picking the right one. A bar or club is not so picky or choosy. It's more like - "that bird is sexy, I'm going to try talk to her". 4)The RHP Guy to Girl ratio is completely out of whack5) The RHP age ratio is completely out of whack I guess there are a multitude of reasons why it would be "harder" or in my view, "different" to picking up outside of RHP. But really what you have to take into account is, as a 27 year old female - you are the minority and what the majority are trying to find on RHP, (majority being aged 30+ single/married men). Outside of RHP you are one of many 27 year old females, and the ratio of guys:girls is a lot more even.(although interestingly Sydney has about 30,000 more men to females aged 20-30 - this number drops the other way after 30).
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RHP User
11 years ago
By the way, you are a very beautiful woman - I'm sure with some small tweaks in your method your fortunes will change.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm terribly shy in public, not to mention very wary of the political correctness police. Being online gives me some confidence knowing that I'm among likeminded individuals. Therefore I can be a lot more open. Having said that, I'm still not the "hey baby lets ......" type. There are many who are looking for nothing more than an orifice, there are others who are legit shy and still more who feel the peer pressure about being with a bigger girl. So to answer your question, I have no idea!!
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Lots of people have put up good ideas about your situation, but I'll just add my 2c worth for what it's worth to you. I think here the guys also get the opportunity to be able to chat with you 'casually' , ie they can take their time over a number of emails to get to know you better, and then decide which way you both want to continue. 'Outside', it is generally bit of a rush to find out as much detail in a small amount of time in the casual encounter, and you usually find out you've forgotten to ask a few pertinent questions after the event, so you're left somewhat in doubt if you should try again or not. Again, here, as mentioned by some, we all know what we're generally here for, so there is no 'second guessing' about a person's availability, whereas outside you have to tread more carefully.Also, as one has mentioned, you're quite a tall girl, which can put some of the guys off quite quickly. Even though most women usually say they like "taller" guys, I have to admit in the real world that most women seem to be intimidated by the height difference and usually give way - so I can understand your situation in this regard. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
With your amazing eyes & your gorgeous smile I for one would not be able to resist saying hi & offering to buy you a drink if we met in a club / pub somewhere sexy lady. Of course that would only be an entree to the delicious flirting we would enjoy from there. Mmmmm Mr funxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you to those who have shown interest in me. I guess I'll keep trying to pick up in public lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now that's more like it sexy lady. Oh & perhaps you should plan a trip to brissy.
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Chelle63
11 years ago
As a BBW I have often been on the receiving end of this treatment. All I ask for is honesty from men and even then they can't do it. Like most of you I am looking for sex but would also like a regular fuck buddy. They tell me they are looking for the same and then never talk to me again after meeting. The worst ever though was a younger guy who contacted me wanting to meet for sex. I told him I was a larger sized woman and showed him my pics and he insisted he found me sexy and wanted to me me. Then when it came right down to it he could not even look at me naked let alone do anything else. I am so over the lies and deceit.................. just be honest and up front
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think to sum it all off. Guys are afraid of face to face rejection hence they are afraid to face woman in real life unless they're pissed lol This is also a sex site and not a dating site, so most men here is just looking for a one off fuck to get laid so they will message any woman that they like if they are desperate enough coz of too many rejections.Men here don't look at the womans inner beauty just boobs and pussy so we are very popular in this site and will always gain a lot of attention. Women to men ratio in this site is paramount.Most men don't really read your whole profile just gets excited straight away with your photos and will send you a flirt and message straight away if they like what they are seeing, in public they cant do that they have to gather their strength and be brave enough to get to know you first before asking you to get into the sheets with them.
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readycantwait
11 years ago
its fair to say that everyone in here is after something.mens profiles out number womens profiles and more so those on cams. a element of desperation is clearly evident in this behaviour. in public we have the luxury of not having to get peoples attenyion through a keyboard and everyone is on cam
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like it or not everyone gets judged by their looks.. And to be brutally honest if i saw you out on the street unless something out of the ordinary happened i'd completely ignore you. But on here it's quite different. If i look at your profile and you have the same sex interests as me the significance of looks starts dissolving because now i start being attracted to how much you'll rock my world in bed. If we start writing eachother and you keep revving me up looks become a formality, all i'll be thinking about is the kinky stuff we've talked about and how badly i want you to magically appear in my bed so we can turn them into reality. Ironically though on here the roles are switched. no matter how perfect an opening line is for the person you're sending it to it may well get ignored because she's already having 5 or 10 great conversations and gets awesome openers from the overwhelming ratio of men to women every day. But if the same line was used out at a coffee shop or a corner store she may well have fallen in love right there and then. What im basically saying is that in the real world unless you talk to the person, 9 times out of then you'll be judged by your looks and the rest by personality or sexual interests if someone overhears something. RHP for the simple fact that it's an open forum for people wanting sex, sexual interests take a big chunk out of the shallow judgments of the real world . Lastly, it's not a major factor but the fact that none of my mates will know i got up on a fatty is a bonus for not having the piss taken out of me. And i do say lastly because friends always take the piss and weather it'll be for this or something else it hardly makes a difference. By the way it's a no brainer that places like RHP give more confidence to men and women alike. Block him, talk to her, take time to get your thoughts together before you reply. Having control from somewhere remote with the same possible reward and none of the fallout if things go south... If you' start asking for more you'll probably end up in a dark hotel room getting charged by the hour. Great conversation topic cute n curvy.I hope this helps at least a bit and i didn't mean to offend Completely agree with these guys too.-Missb72 -Mischeviouslad-CravingTouch -Bigocean72
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're a babe..! The great mystery is behind the hood...Give me a call and i'll unveil the universe of psycho-sexual attraction ...Think i'm wrong? I WROTE THE BOOK ON IT!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Let me reassure you, it's not just the BBW who face this challenge! Being in Perth I find it to be quite 'clicky' and it seems like EVERYONE is in a couple. Well, in the circles I move in they are, anyway. I recently took a trip to Sydney and noticed I got approached so much more ... either out at a bar in the evening with girlfriends, having brunch by myself at a cafe ... it really didn't matter. Perth!
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RHP User
11 years ago
HEY I CHAT WHOM IM ATRACTED TO HERE THERE NO DIFERENCE BUT IT Also a appropriate situaion why they theremaybe imparanion but i dont get any where here or in public why not sure but my gueess is thetime is running out and my patients is done...
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RHP User
11 years ago
i think women should wear a sign on their head saying what they want because they are so complex no man can work them out .no doesn't mean no it means maybe and yes means if you do it the way that i want then ok go for it.women only have themselves to blame for this equal rights shit and i want to be equal and not a woman anymore.they have made themselves un approachable for fear of being told to fuck off and leave me alone .cant you see i don't want company.that's why women are losing out
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can only assume its nerves or fear of rejection that they dont walk right up and say hi. Personally its an opportunity missed in my book. Whats the worst that can happen? I mean really! No different to not saying hi to start with
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RHP User
11 years ago
what the, hey i chat to whom im attracted to here there no diference to me and its diferent appropriate situations . why here there is the same in results as i get nowhere , well my guess is the time is running out and my patients is running out ... my appoligies for my fisrt try of this comment as i was pissed .
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RHP User
11 years ago
You only have to spend 5 minutes in one of the 'cam' rooms to realise what types of people are on here... Some guys/couples will message females who do not have a pic or are not even verified. A flip side to that is it creates girls with big egos, like the ones with profiles saying 'they get a lot of attention, so don't be suprised if I don't reply.' We ignore those types, they usually are not special. Whether your online or at a pub, it never hurts to remain polite and humble. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good post!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'bipetite'I recently took a trip to Sydney and noticed I got approached so much more ... either out at a bar in the evening with girlfriends, having brunch by myself at a cafe ... it really didn't matter. Come again. lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kidSTEEL' Lastly, it's not a major factor but the fact that none of my mates will know i got up on a fatty is a bonus for not having the piss taken out of me. And you were doing so well
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RHP User
11 years ago
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inspirit
11 years ago
it is so damn shallow.
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madotara69
11 years ago
What are we supposed to call you, if you do? The Black hole or something like that. Even the Bottomless Pitt is pretty deep Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bipetite' Let me reassure you, it's not just the BBW who face this challenge! Being in Perth I find it to be quite 'clicky' and it seems like EVERYONE is in a couple. Well, in the circles I move in they are, anyway. I recently took a trip to Sydney and noticed I got approached so much more ... either out at a bar in the evening with girlfriends, having brunch by myself at a cafe ... it really didn't matter. Perth! 100 perthcent agree! Can also confirm, whenever I am overseas I am treated much differently to here in Perth! It's nice, our little quiet corner of the world where EVERYTHING is relaxed, even the singles!
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inspirit
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' What are we supposed to call you, if you do? The Black hole or something like that. Even the Bottomless Pitt is pretty deep Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
online is a safety netit gives people who aren't confident the chance to sell false personas that they cant back up online they tend to get very defensive when you call them out after saying that....i'm on my own tonight and tomorrow. I have Chinese and beer on tap, and i'd be more than happy to share that with any gal who would like to come and share my food and beer with me ;) no strings attached, no expectationsbut I love rap and i'm gonna play it...that's the catch make your life more interesting if you're close and willing to rock up on my doorstepi'm 45 and I live in north perth
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RHP User
11 years ago
meant to say 'cant back up in real life'
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bit sad they would be embarressed perhaps they need a lesson on being bit less shallow be true to oneself :-)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
How was the fishing on Christmas eve.... any bites?! lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I`ve been around a long time and from my experiences a lot of guys like the bigger girls ,but are to worried about what their dumb fuck mate think so they make an arsehole of them selves by putting the big girls down ,As for me I`ve loved the big chicks since I was 14 and still love them,and since the average Aussie woman is now a size 16+,all I can say is"guys get used to being with the bigger ladies ,they are just as horny as their slimmer completion,but not so screwed up about if their body "looks right"".
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MissSarahCurious
11 years ago
Between fuckable and dateable. On a site like this it's expected that you will have a sex-positive outlook so instantly there's something 'in it' for the viewer. On the street, however, the only thing upfront is appearance so there has to be something 'in it' for the public viewer to motivate an approach. That's why I walk around deep throating a double ender whenever I'm at a bar with dudes who need a girl to impress their mates to be considered doable. xx Sarah
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RHP User
11 years ago
As i said, sorry if i offended anyone but you're only fooling yourself if you think that social proof isn't a factor for some a major for some not so much. Personally it's more of the latter, doesn't mean it's not there though. You guys are a bit older than me so it may just be a maturity thing not caring what others think, i don't know.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Finally it happened. I was hit on at a bar and his friends were there there. He seemed genuine. Of course I'm not looking for a relationship at all, just a bit of fun. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Good for you hun..... Big smiles 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kidSTEEL'As i said, sorry if i offended anyone but you're only fooling yourself if you think that social proof isn't a factor for some a major for some not so much. Personally it's more of the latter, doesn't mean it's not there though. You guys are a bit older than me so it may just be a maturity thing not caring what others think, i don't know. Yes, we like fooling around, but neither Luckdragon nor myself would put someone down for their physical appearance, nor call them names like "Fatty". That's just not funny to me. . As for the not caring what others think: I do care what others think, but you're right, hardly as much as I did when I was 21. I certainly don't let it affect me like it did back then. . And thanks for saying "a bit" older.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't accept anything less, you are a Goddess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you lovinit28 and mesmerised :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious' Between fuckable and dateable. On a site like this it's expected that you will have a sex-positive outlook so instantly there's something 'in it' for the viewer. On the street, however, the only thing upfront is appearance so there has to be something 'in it' for the public viewer to motivate an approach. That's why I walk around deep throating a double ender whenever I'm at a bar with dudes who need a girl to impress their mates to be considered doable. xx Sarah Welcome back Miss Sarah, its good to see a familiar pair of tits.
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madferrret
11 years ago
curves for me ,all the way im afraid ,the old country was cold and there was nothing like a snuggle by a real fire with bigger girl ...........ooogghhhh and the the full English breckie the day after was no joke either ..mmmmmm xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Adding my agreement to the conversation.....I would get probably 30-40 messages a day from guys telling me how hot my body is etc.....but I've been single for just over four years and have had probably three dates in that time, other than from the site.... Why is it that men just dont seem to find me attractive enough to take that first step, though I get plenty of men taking second and third looks, lol. I can sit at the beach for hours, in a bar, in a coffee shop....all without being hit on! You men sure are hard to figure out!! lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would most definitely have a second third forth look at you in a bar or even better yet at the beach but it also depends on body language and the signals you send me and the environment where in as I want you to feel safe and relaxed as Im aware a woman could be quite nervous of a strange man approaching her. I have met some very attractive women off the internet and been in relationships with them but most times I go out I cant even get a girls number because she automatically assumes that Im just trying to sleep with her and even if I do want to sleep with her whats wrong with that ................. .
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hamlock
11 years ago
Men might think of you as being all ready attached,when searching for a partner men tend to think the hot girls are already taken.Pride also plays a big part the thought of rejection is not so easy to cope with.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
Quoting 'wantstoexplore' Adding my agreement to the conversation.....I would get probably 30-40 messages a day from guys telling me how hot my body is etc.....but I've been single for just over four years and have had probably three dates in that time, other than from the site.... Why is it that men just dont seem to find me attractive enough to take that first step, though I get plenty of men taking second and third looks, lol. I can sit at the beach for hours, in a bar, in a coffee shop....all without being hit on! You men sure are hard to figure out!! lol If you had those out I bet you would get hit on...They even grabbed my attentionIf they are looking and not approaching they are probably intimidated or think you wouldn't be interested in them.We all have insecurities, even the men. I always get told I look to sweet and innocent...pfft...if only they knew
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where'd you go?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'wantstoexplore' Why is it that men just dont seem to find me attractive enough to take that first step, though I get plenty of men taking second and third looks, lol. They likely do find you attractive, but have a reason not to approach you. It could be anything from them thinking you are out of their league to you giving off a "Don't approach me" vibe.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Forget about the rest, 30 & 40 messages a day, I'm lucky to get that many messages a month lol....but I do say I'm not everyone's cup of tea... I to have been single for 5/6 years, but I think that's due to the fact I live in the middle of bumfuck nowhere, and I'm a little bit fussy I guess.......💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a difference, no-one is going to see you approach, get knocked back etc etc... there is a very big difference between I want to date you vs I want to fuck you!! Approaching women in the real world with all to see is very intimidating... from an ancestral point of view, approaching the wrong woman could have resulted in death. So if no one sees your approach & the girl liked it cool. But if the partner saw it or the girl rejects you & tell someone you could have been in serious trouble. As such, most men get the same feeling as we would if we've to jump off a cliff. I'm less afraid of heights, spiders, snakes then approaching women. I still approach 5 & 20 women a week in a range of scenarios. Coffee shop, park, pub, train etc... I've done it 100s of times & it still frightens me!! Sometimes the thought of it is too much & chicken out .... But when I do get the courage I then fuck it up by being really friendly because you still have a bit of fear in the back of your head.... killing any chance sexual attraction.... but every now & again you find something to tease them about & things flow smoothly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had my profile up on RHP for 3 days this time and recived so many messages and flirts. I thank those who have contacted me, i appreciate it. But in public, i have never - NEVER received a smile, a conversation starter or even a look my way. No man has ever approached me in real life, even though the guys on here say i am hot, gorgeous and in some cases, the living embodiment of their fantasies. I am considering removing my profile because i feel that this is not a real experience. In real life i am two sizes larger than I should be and i can guarantee that in a club or pub there is no way a guy is going to look at me. If you beg to differ then why is it when i go out with my girlfriends, - only one of which is skinny and the rest the same as me, the skinny girl ALWAYS gets the guys hanging all over her and the rest of us get nothing? When i approach a guy, he says thanks but no thanks and then chases after others. That's why i don't go out anymore.... It's so demoralising. And that's why i am deleting my RHP account.... There is more to life and relationships than sex.... I am in the wrong place. Going to try eharmony.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had the exact same experience! I have never had a guy approach me in real life. Ever. Just goes to show that just by being on here, you must be up for it, so those with no quality control will try their luck. See you on eharmony!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Librarygirl and mselle... I appreciate the sentiments that you're expressing and understand the very real hurt that you feel. I think most people come in here and naturally select the more flattering pics of themselves, and as much as lots of women detest dick pics, many women choose to put up a close up of their cleavage... Which really does very little for me personally, but if that's all a guy has to work with... Well... a lot of guys will creat an attractive woman out of that cleavage... There are not many profiles in this place that show people in a "normal/natural" pose... And by that I mean full frontal and/or a full side on pic... The sort of pic that allows the reader to see without photographic lies what someone's true body shape is... Because that is important to some people. I was asked by a friend how I felt about people in here versus their photos, and I replied that everyone was shorter and wider... Except for her, she was much taller than I expected, lol. Interesting about the lack of approaches that you get in real life... I'm constantly amazed during my brief forays into cities like Melbourne, Sydney and brizvegas, at how unfriendly people are... I'm an eye contact type of guy, I actually seek people's eyes when I walk down the street... And getting eye contact is the exception not the rule, in these large cities. So maybe we need to be conscious of actually looking to initiate conversation with people ? And I doubt you'll find any difference on the vanilla sites... Particularly if people use similar pics to what they use here. Besides, the people are often the same... often more underhanded with their thoughts, desires and intentions though... ie lacking the transparency of here... Sex is such a coy little game to so many people My thoughts... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I must be in the minority because I've found I can get to know people and have relations with people I meet in public better than I can in here. I think it's mainly due to people not giving me a chance on here lol where as in public they can see first hand the person I actually am. Plus Im told I look better in real life than I do in my photos. Never been photogenic to be honest. Could be my messages I sent here too.. theyre always polite and honest, maybe theyre structured strangely or something. I dunno. I'd like to know though. Haha Any feedback is welcomed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'librarygirl7' I've had my profile up on RHP for 3 days this time and recived so many messages and flirts. I thank those who have contacted me, i appreciate it. But in public, i have never - NEVER received a smile, a conversation starter or even a look my way. No man has ever approached me in real life, even though the guys on here say i am hot, gorgeous and in some cases, the living embodiment of their fantasies. I am considering removing my profile because i feel that this is not a real experience. In real life i am two sizes larger than I should be and i can guarantee that in a club or pub there is no way a guy is going to look at me. If you beg to differ then why is it when i go out with my girlfriends, - only one of which is skinny and the rest the same as me, the skinny girl ALWAYS gets the guys hanging all over her and the rest of us get nothing? When i approach a guy, he says thanks but no thanks and then chases after others. That's why i don't go out anymore.... It's so demoralising. And that's why i am deleting my RHP account.... There is more to life and relationships than sex.... I am in the wrong place. Going to try eharmony. Example my flatmate is a tiny thing...but she has a head like a squashed rabbit...and a crazy high pitched laugh but I have noticed how men look at the body........I recently asked a male friend about this as he said ok to two woman I thought were not very attractive........his answer was still elusive but it does seem skinny gets it. Comes back to my theory...which I have been blasted about before but here.....you are PUSSY.....and men want PUSSY......but woman get over cock and need connection/ intimacy/ a genuine desire. A man once said to me years ago if I had a pussy I would be on my back all the time...... Some men are smart they know how to play the game and women here can take it or leave it..grab a root when you need or hunt and think something might eventuate.....e-harmony sounds like a better idea Librarygirl............although there are no guarantees men who frequent these sites play on others too. I swear if you wore that corset in public you would easily get some attention and some women know how to dress hot even though they are large....dont give up.........smile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72' I had the exact same experience! I have never had a guy approach me in real life. Ever. Just goes to show that just by being on here, you must be up for it, so those with no quality control will try their luck. See you on eharmony! I joined a vanilla dating site last week and of the two guys I contacted, neither has replied. Ouch!
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RHP User
11 years ago
In a public, face to face scenario...people's interaction with each other is more spontaneous and it gives the people involved lees time to react....hence why when guys say something really silly..the girl just walks. So in tha sense there is more pressure to perform to make that great first impression. In the cyber world...well anyone can be anyone they want to be. A guy can be debonair as much as he likes because unlike the real world, he can read the message and take his time to make that reply all the more imteresting....he can even delete, edit and start again...all without the embarrassment. Like cyber bullying, a lot of people are a heck of a lot braver behind the computer screen than they would be face to face.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I joined a vanilla dating site last week and of the two guys I contacted, neither has replied. Ouch! That doesn't sound right!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
they just didn't fancy one another lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I joined a vanilla dating site last week and of the two guys I contacted, neither has replied. Ouch! yup, they're the bizarro version of rhp, the ratios are opposite and for men its just horrible - always getting messages, winks, stamps, n whatnot... gah, you just don't get a breather.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Balllard' There is a difference, no-one is going to see you approach, get knocked back etc etc... there is a very big difference between I want to date you vs I want to fuck you!! Approaching women in the real world with all to see is very intimidating... from an ancestral point of view, approaching the wrong woman could have resulted in death. So if no one sees your approach & the girl liked it cool. But if the partner saw it or the girl rejects you & tell someone you could have been in serious trouble. As such, most men get the same feeling as we would if we've to jump off a cliff. I'm less afraid of heights, spiders, snakes then approaching women. I still approach 5 & 20 women a week in a range of scenarios. Coffee shop, park, pub, train etc... I've done it 100s of times & it still frightens me!! Sometimes the thought of it is too much & chicken out .... But when I do get the courage I then fuck it up by being really friendly because you still have a bit of fear in the back of your head.... killing any chance sexual attraction.... but every now & again you find something to tease them about & things flow smoothly. I understand what you are saying as I feel the same way as well. I believe it is "fear of the unknown" that stops a lot of people. I also believe it not so much the lack of confidence, more the fear. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
MsElle72...I disagree with your first statement on this subject Dec 17 In MY opinion, I believe men message ME for one of two reasons: (a) No quality control. They message EVERY woman hoping to get lucky; or (b) Desperation. They have no luck with the hot, sexy chicks, so they assume a bigger girl will appreciate any attention thrown their way. But alas, I am a mere female. I have no idea what goes through a man's brain! I fell head over heels for you the moment I set eyes on YOU whilst looking through RHP, I consider you to be extremely attractive and so very beautiful, and yet here you are denigrating your body size, for whatever reason I don't know, Beauty comes from within, and YOU exude that Beauty, and YOU are definitely more than a 'mere female' I'd say a lot of men Do have that quality control, but in public become extremely shy to approach or converse with women, and No size or sexiness of women do not come into the equation, have YOU ever considered that YOUR EXTEME BEAUTY may be a contributing factor, and that WE MERE MORTALS, NEANDERTHALS etc. may be just to shy to approach you in person, and RHP along with other chat sites is maybe an outlet to allow us 'MERE' males to express ourselves freely without the initial personal confrontation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tex2251' they just didn't fancy one another lol. I think I can add number three to that list now. FFS, I hadn't even mentioned that MMMF yet! My ego hurts.
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Missb4u
11 years ago
Maybe you should reverse it and lead with that as your opening line... Hi, I'm looking for men for a FFFM would you be interested? ....... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Me if a girl come to me and ask me for a night fun and just for her pleasure I will do want ever she wants. And even to bigger girls. You don't have to wait us to come across you but you have to come to me =p
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dunno, if I see a woman i'm attracted to there's a lot of reasons I'm not going to make a move. Maybe i'm at work and it wouldn't be appropriate, or she's working and she just wants to do her job, not get hit on. I don't really do the clubbing thing which is a place where it's probably more acceptable to make moves. I think on here, well, we're all here for mostly the same reason, so it's easier.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I walked up to a woman on the street and said "Hello, I was passing by and just wanted to say I find you very attractive. Here is my number, if you feel the same way give me a call" Might seem innocent enough (or a little creepy) depends on a lot of factors based on the people and the situation. There was another thread where this happened to a woman, she turned him down, and was a bit shocked about it all - perfectly understandable and not an unusual reaction, it can be daunting getting hit on unexpectedly in public. Now: what if I added "I'm also a swinger, not looking for anything serious, and very open to kink!" I'd be lucky to get away without a swift kick in the junk, which completely sucks because I find a lot of women attractive when I'm out and about. I turn down women mainly because we don't share the same outlook on life and sex. I wish I could do something like hand out contact cards in public but the reality is I don't want to breach anyone's comfort zone with unsolicited contact ie. Not gunna be a creeper - I'm horny but I've got to deal with it. This site allows me to both a) layout everything about myself and what I'm looking for in either a friend or playmate and b) get a glimpse of other people's personalities and sexual desires to see if we click. It also gives people the comfort to receive that first contact in a time and place at their safety and convenience.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nah, we'd just assume that mes had a stutter... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Australia. Why, then, don't women approach men? Particularly out in the real world. Or is it just me?
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