Guys on here really need to cool it.

February 15 2013

I've noticed a world of difference in the way women and couple's show interest here, and the way single men do - straight or not. Women might look at my profile, and then sometime later send a polite but politely curious message. "Hi, I was just wondering if you could tell me more about yourself", that kind of thing.I wish guys did this. Instead I get 15 profile views from the same person in the space of 10 minutes followed by a flirt and a message along the lines of "hey i'm hot for you now how about I come over and suck you off". Nervermind the listed sexual orientation on my profile (straight). Follow this with several more profile views every hour and then probably another message the next day. A reply to this kind of person is met with a message that surely breaks the space-time continuum in speedy response time, and then some more of the same. It all displays right there in my "Real-time Info" bar. You wonder why women can be so rude, or don't reply at all? You make "desperate" a euphemism. You make "creep" a euphemism.Just a rant. I don't expect anyone to change, though I don't envy the single females here who get this from every angle all the time.

Comments

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    If you are watching your "real time" box so closely...why don't you just block them? You say you get a message one day and then another the next? I'm confused as to why you even give them a chance to message you again! You do realise once you block them that they can't see you right? xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I get where you're coming from Gypsy, I get consistently more flirts and messages from gay/bi males than my target search criteria and my orientation is also opposed to this - and there is definitely a culture to the come back profile views, makes you wonder what's really happening behind the scenes. Mind you I'm not saint when it comes to re-viewing profiles, but it's generally the ones with a great write up I enjoy re-reading regularly.I think the most annoying part for a male in this situation is that little flutter of excitement/anticipation you get when you see there's a new message/flirt and the anti climax that follows. It's statement to say that most females (going off direct feedback) receive a throng of messages and flirts and it's more about filtering out the inbox and making choices, where as (stereo-typically) us the male hunters tend to become ebullient when potential prospect comes our way, it's half the battle to get a reply sometimes let alone be contacted.Then again, I'm going to completely contradict myself and say it's kind of flattering to receive them at the same time and I enjoy everything about being on here.

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you are watching your "real time" box so closely...why don't you just block them? You say you get a message one day and then another the next? I'm confused as to why you even give them a chance to message you again! You do realise once you block them that they can't see you right? xFunlovingx Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting ' ' You do realise once you block them that they can't see you right? What's that noise??? Who said that????? Hello, is anyone there???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The repeat views are men wanking over your picture. Sometimes they email me first to let me know. Lovely. :p I sometimes read a bi-sexual form which is pretty much all men. Hilarious... All the responses are one liners of what gets them off. I sometimes wonder ... Have men fully evolved?? Hehe. And yes, meeting up to suck cock then go home again seems to be a common request.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well this is a sex website in all reality- but just because I want uncommitted sex doesn't mean I want to have sex with a stranger or someone who isn't my type. It also doesn't mean I want to be talked to like I'm a slut (though once I get to know someone I don't mind it haha). Some gals like it I guess, just no one I know.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    shit !!!!! I must be doing something wrong.. *now how can i change this profile again ???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Sorry that should read bi-sexual forum.

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' The repeat views are men wanking over your picture. Sometimes they email me first to let me know. Lovely. :p I sometimes read a bi-sexual form which is pretty much all men. Hilarious... All the responses are one liners of what gets them off. I sometimes wonder ... Have men fully evolved?? Hehe. And yes, meeting up to suck cock then go home again seems to be a common request. We are pretty cro-magnon with seduction. Ever read erotic literature? The difference between male writers and female writers is amusing. "Jenny was a hot blond with big boobs and today she was wearing a short dress and short top with 5 inch heels. She came up to John and said "hey can I suck your cock" and he was like "sure" so she took his pants off and put it in her mouth. "MMM, your cock tastes so good". ad infinitum.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Blonde_gypsy: When I'm at work and I hAve my iphone app on, you keep popping up on my notifications that you are nearby and interested? Maybe that has something to do with it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Sorry that should read bi-sexual forum. Yeah, I had a look at that particular bi-sex site go (following the recommendation of a certain spectacular individual). It made me want to cut off my own penis.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    it not just the guys that need to cool it ,ive experianced the say thing from females ..multiable views receive a flirt then when go to veiw them or send a message back their gone..if their looking to make friends or hook up or what ever ,why dont people chat ,or has the world of social media made people forget how to.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Those aren't females.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If you are watching your "real time" box so closely...why don't you just block them? You say you get a message one day and then another the next? I'm confused as to why you even give them a chance to message you again! You do realise once you block them that they can't see you right? xFunlovingx Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. Why waste your energy on "proving yourself"? If women put you in the "your just like all the rest" basket..then they are really not worth it! I take each message as a new person...doesn't matter if the 10 blokes before him sent shit "fuck me" messages..I don't view guys as all the same...and certainly don't put them all in the one basket! You have to remember too, some women's ego's go through the roof on here...some unnecessarily so! If a woman gives you a hard time..just look at it that you dodged a bullet and yell out "NEXT"! xFunlovingx

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Hotdiggettydamn' Blonde_gypsy: When I'm at work and I hAve my iphone app on, you keep popping up on my notifications that you are nearby and interested? Maybe that has something to do with it Really? I have no idea, I dont turn my location on and I'm listed as straight. :/

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I will pay that Messolonghi!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Blondie ,you is jerst mucho toooo purdy for ya own good.Wadda ya expect....every body will wanna jump ya bones....just be thankful you aren't being ignored.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    But for some reason I keep getting alerts from guys or couples only.. Maybe an issue with the app, but definitely noticed yours coming up regularly when i have app open and for some reason only yours and one other guys comes up as nearby and interested.. Others just pop up as nearby.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Quoting 'Meeka100' The repeat views are men wanking over your picture. Sometimes they email me first to let me know. Lovely. :p I sometimes read a bi-sexual form which is pretty much all men. Hilarious... All the responses are one liners of what gets them off. I sometimes wonder ... Have men fully evolved?? Hehe. And yes, meeting up to suck cock then go home again seems to be a common request. We are pretty cro-magnon with seduction. Ever read erotic literature? The difference between male writers and female writers is amusing. "Jenny was a hot blond with big boobs and today she was wearing a short dress and short top with 5 inch heels. She came up to John and said "hey can I suck your cock" and he was like "sure" so she took his pants off and put it in her mouth. "MMM, your cock tastes so good". ad infinitum.***love your work Blonde_Gypsy***

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Why waste your energy on "proving yourself"? If women put you in the "your just like all the rest" basket..then they are really not worth it! I take each message as a new person...doesn't matter if the 10 blokes before him sent shit "fuck me" messages..I don't view guys as all the same...and certainly don't put them all in the one basket! You have to remember too, some women's ego's go through the roof on here...some unnecessarily so! If a woman gives you a hard time..just look at it that you dodged a bullet and yell out "NEXT"! xFunlovingxAn interesting and quite true point funloving :)

  • m3bmw

    m3bmw

    12 years ago

    Well, we just had a love letter from a.. well, lets say... douch, stating how good of a boyfriend he would be, that he is looking for his one true love and wants to marry my gf (I think he meant her anyway haha). Do guys even read?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Ignore, ignore, ignoreOr as already been suggested, block straight away, not worth the energy...To save my sanity, I never reply to flirts, except for the "I liked your profile", I'll send a thank-you & the other one "If I send you a message, would you reply".I'd be on here 24/7 if I did what you were doing lol

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya13' Blondie ,you is jerst mucho toooo purdy for ya own good.Wadda ya expect....every body will wanna jump ya bones....just be thankful you aren't being ignored. Well, shucks. :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You can certainly understand guys hittingon him MMLK my strap on jerked a little- Posted from rhpmobile

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'EuropianBliss' You can certainly understand guys hittingon him MMLK my strap on jerked a little- Posted from rhpmobile I'd send you a message but it seems I've run out for the day...

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'xFunlovingx'Why waste your energy on "proving yourself"? If women put you in the "your just like all the rest" basket..then they are really not worth it! I take each message as a new person...doesn't matter if the 10 blokes before him sent shit "fuck me" messages..I don't view guys as all the same...and certainly don't put them all in the one basket! You have to remember too, some women's ego's go through the roof on here...some unnecessarily so! If a woman gives you a hard time..just look at it that you dodged a bullet and yell out "NEXT"! xFunlovingx Well said actually. Some of the females on here redefine arrogance...

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'm3bmw' Well, we just had a love letter from a.. well, lets say... douch, stating how good of a boyfriend he would be, that he is looking for his one true love and wants to marry my gf (I think he meant her anyway haha). Do guys even read? Sure they read. It says "Couple M 23 yrs F 19 years". What else needs to be read? :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Toughen up princess :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Hey Hun :) Lucky you never know they may actually get to meet you because of their Interest he!he! Speaking of that would you mind giving me a call about Monday so we can sort it .Because my Hardrive is going .I may not be able to reply to your Online MSG if it dies..haaaaaaaa! Enjoy your weekend ..Cheers Lu :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. This is absolutely true and I too feel this way.However, at the end of the day, all guys here are in competition with every other guy, and if the women here are too stupid and superficial enough to pick out the dud from the decent, then I guess someone loses out. I'm sure it works the other way too, but not as much.Maybe it really is a 'nice guys finish last' scenario??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Its good to read some decent outlooks :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'azamoth' Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. This is absolutely true and I too feel this way.However, at the end of the day, all guys here are in competition with every other guy, and if the women here are too stupid and superficial enough to pick out the dud from the decent, then I guess someone loses out. I'm sure it works the other way too, but not as much.Maybe it really is a 'nice guys finish last' scenario?? Do you classify yourself as decent, azamoth? I invite other RHP readers to read azamoth's profile and tell us what you think :) The pictures are also rather lovely. The second one is my favourite- so artistic.I guess in your book any woman who isn't interested in you is stupid and/or superficial?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    My thoughts- azamoth is either a misogynist or a troll. Perhaps with a little bit of bogan thrown in there.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'azamoth' Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. This is absolutely true and I too feel this way.However, at the end of the day, all guys here are in competition with every other guy, and if the women here are too stupid and superficial enough to pick out the dud from the decent, then I guess someone loses out. I'm sure it works the other way too, but not as much.Maybe it really is a 'nice guys finish last' scenario?? Wa wah wambulance

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'azamoth' Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. This is absolutely true and I too feel this way. However, at the end of the day, all guys here are in competition with every other guy, and if the women here are too stupid and superficial enough to pick out the dud from the decent, then I guess someone loses out. I'm sure it works the other way too, but not as much. Maybe it really is a 'nice guys finish last' scenario?? And those are the girls that then come on here and whinge about men doing "disappearing" acts! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    he is tied to a bed, maybe he is just hungry and cranky   that profile is like the anti fuck message   even if a woman did only want sex, its like a worm tablet for your pet coat it in something delicious   or nobody is going to swallow that crap you have on your profile.   whaps him up the back of the head   change it , yes we know your mad at us superficial women but zip up that anger and try a different approach. Or Not and stay at home pulling your pudding

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    that last message for azamouth...and no its not a typo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I assume you aren't seriously expecting women to contact you after that twitter and bisted rant. As TR so eloquently put it,you will be pullin'ya puddin' ,turning into a tosser,unless you change your profile NOW. Or maybe it was just a carthetic exercise,in that case,continue.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    "Bitterness is a poison that never hurt the one it was intended for." - Freya. You should listen to that lady my friend :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya13' I assume you aren't seriously expecting women to contact you after that twitter and bisted rant. As TR so eloquently put it,you will be pullin'ya puddin' ,turning into a tosser,unless you change your profile NOW. Or maybe it was just a carthetic exercise,in that case,continue. in that profile! Ouch!The worst I've come across...The star sign if correct, is perfect...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I personally think let them keep messaging and acting the way they do when people get a nice civilized message it makes you shine compared to the rest , if they were all polite and civilised going on a numbers game guys to girls ratios i think id stand more chance at the supermarket or gym to meet women ! I'm sure 99% of us straight guys get messages from gay guys , I'm polite enough to say no thanks I don't swing that way but I'm flattered in your interest and I've never had a nasty message back had a few keep messaging after that but just blocked them

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'tuscanred' he is tied to a bed, maybe he is just hungry and cranky   that profile is like the anti fuck message   even if a woman did only want sex, its like a worm tablet for your pet coat it in something delicious   or nobody is going to swallow that crap you have on your profile.   whaps him up the back of the head   change it , yes we know your mad at us superficial women but zip up that anger and try a different approach. Or Not and stay at home pulling your pudding   Seriously though Azamoth..how is RHP working out for you ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'OneEmerald' Quoting 'Freya13' I assume you aren't seriously expecting women to contact you after that twitter and bisted rant. As TR so eloquently put it,you will be pullin'ya puddin' ,turning into a tosser,unless you change your profile NOW. Or maybe it was just a carthetic exercise,in that case,continue. in that profile! Ouch!The worst I've come across...The star sign if correct, is perfect... What does that mean OneEmerald? That everyone who is a certain star sign is bitter and twisted? I don't know. I don't think you ladies are being very fair at the moment. I don't see him saying anything worse than what some women say on the forum. Same same but different.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Holy shitballs! Okay sorry, I just read his profile. He is a bitter young man and it is a shame. He has probably had his heart broken one time too many. But I have to say I have seen female profiles that are very similar to this as well.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Don't take it to heart. We are all hear for a reasons. If you like it say yes, if you don't then just say no and move on.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...You are a curious case. Your name in itself is a little 'offputting' - I am aware of the Black Metal band and their demonic and apocalyptic lyrics..but each to their own......However, you seem rather angry about your lot and there are obvious mysogynistic undertones to your profile.I think you would have 'some' improvement if you approached life with less contempt and anger and instead embraced life with more of a loving approach.Just a suggestion ;-)Danny

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Holy shitballs! Okay sorry, I just read his profile. He is a bitter young man and it is a shame. He has probably had his heart broken one time too many. But I have to say I have seen female profiles that are very similar to this as well. That is how it came across to me...not bitter and twisted...but maybe used alot and over it? I don't know maybe it's just me but I found his profile refreshing...no bullshit and actually humourous as well! I also read his post as not being nasty but just saying that nice guys do come in last! All these women complain they want a "nice" guy...but yet they walk all over them like they are a door mat or treat them like shit when they dare post on the Forums! Ahhh I bet another newbie has bitten the dust! xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'm so hot for you now. Can I come over and suck you off? Of course I read your profile closely, dude. Geez.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Holy shitballs! Okay sorry, I just read his profile. He is a bitter young man and it is a shame. He has probably had his heart broken one time too many. But I have to say I have seen female profiles that are very similar to this as well. I didn't think you had read his profile lolEven if he has been burnt, haven't we all? Do we let that come out to that extent on a profile? What on earth do we expect to attract...

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'azamoth' Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Obviously this is the way to go, I'm just pointing out that if so many guys didn't do this in the first place then the rest of us wouldn't have to go out of our way to prove we're not desperate creeps. Sometimes women give me unnecessarily rude responses because of this pattern. This is absolutely true and I too feel this way.However, at the end of the day, all guys here are in competition with every other guy, and if the women here are too stupid and superficial enough to pick out the dud from the decent, then I guess someone loses out. I'm sure it works the other way too, but not as much.Maybe it really is a 'nice guys finish last' scenario?? I just want to say, WOW at your profile. Has it worked for you? I wouldn't be surprised if there were one or two self-hating types with huge personality issues that might get a little wet at the prospect, but god I hope not...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Sin_Dr' I'm so hot for you now. Can I come over and suck you off? Of course I read your profile closely, dude. Geez.- Posted from rhpmobile Oh go on you saucy devil. You can suck me dry! In fact it's fabulous timing as I was just about to do my lunges.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    stop messaging me guys... no i dont want any hot salami

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Magestick you nailed it mate. Had to laugh at how the tiny bit of excitement is there and than gets crushed when it is an email from a guy offering you a "blow n go" I hate that. They always say the same thing "I know your straight but..." In all honesty I have had more emails sent to me first from guys than girls and to get a reply is near on impossible,Hence why I no longer send long winded messages just a short intro. Red Hot pie Lyfe..ha ha ha ha.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I block all guys who view my profile. Simple really. Yes, occasionally some get a message or flirt through. Sent pronto to trash basket. There have been some truly great comments on here. And some not so great, lol. Just as a curioisty, how many pages of blocked people do you have Ricky

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Dear all.I'm glad you've found my profile amusing. Reading your comments about it has made me laugh out loud.I've been on this site for a while and it has worked. I just like to experiment with my profile a bit and I have to say, I haven't had this much attention before.Thanks for the support everyone :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'goodtimesricky' I block all guys who view my profile. Simple really. Yes, occasionally some get a message or flirt through. Sent pronto to trash basket. There have been some truly great comments on here. And some not so great, lol. Just as a curioisty, I found myself in the unusual position of having some not in my zone of interest whatsoever taking quite an interest in my profile. Was simply repeated profile views (when you don't get so many, you notice them... "you have 43 new views... whooohoo...oh, damn"), so very harmless.I decided to message him - "Hi, thanks for stopping by, what's doing?", sort of thing... Nothing back and now no more profile views. Try being friendly, it might be the most effective...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    & it's a Jungle in here too ! ;)- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Just be as specific as possible and you will hit it sooner. Too easy to get diverted. I know what I want, state it, and it happens from there. Look at it thsi way more wankers, less competition Ha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'AdventureTime' stop messaging me guys... no i dont want any hot salami Do you want some horse meat instead? I heard that it's quite popular at the moment :D

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    women just want a little respect. thats all. if a guy takes the time to write something genuine, then as a woman i know he is in it to please me as well as himself. im one for getting to know someone a little first and then meeting before i decide yes or no. its also about respecting myself. if i just go fuck everyone, how do i respect myself as a woman?

  • GentlemanBrutal

    GentlemanBrutal

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'confidentbabe' women just want a little respect. thats all. if a guy takes the time to write something genuine, then as a woman i know he is in it to please me as well as himself. im one for getting to know someone a little first and then meeting before i decide yes or no. its also about respecting myself. if i just go fuck everyone, how do i respect myself as a woman? Ultimately it's all about respect!People can be into anything they like so long as it harms no one else, or those harmed are consenting.There's no reason that anything needs to be approached with anything less than manners in the first instance.