Guys please be honest n explain to me

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Op, men can do both of those actions. speaking from experience, i recently left a partner as i wasn't satisfied with the sex anymore, although i had a very high sex drive with another partner. difference being from you situation, i was honest with my partner as soon as i felt that way and consequently we called it quits. in regards to your other scenario, yes i've done that also. the guilt has prevented me from sleeping with my partner and i came clean and ended it.although both experiences made me feel like crap, i was able to get the weight off my chest and put an end to an unhappy relationship.

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  madotara69

  11 years ago

  I believe that the majority of fellow men will always remain gentlemen, we care for our loved ones and many strengths are fueled by the woman we stand with. Anyone can feel sorry for anyone, usually with thoughts to care. Maybe you have chosen a wrong word, horny maybe.If you would like to believe me, then I am glad your confidence is gaining strength. It is a sure thing there is many men looking for a confidant woman in this place. I am sure you would not wish them to feel sorry if or when you meet them, surely you would want them to feel alive and strong.Mado

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  Curious1965

  11 years ago

  I am a married man and most of my relationship is good but we have become more friends then lovers. There is a lack of connection and intimacy which I find important. We are different people I love excitement and she is happy to knit. We are all different though so for me I cannot fuck without a conscience so I have a moral dilemma but other men I know have a far less issues but I think they are in the minority. Don't let your past experience put you off, all the best in your journey- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  that you had to go through that primrose. There are plenty of us who have experienced this also. I'm not sure your question should exclusively be aimed at men though. I've known women that do this too and they all have their reasons. It's the lying bit that hurts the most yes?People have such a range of sex drives that I think it would be a miracle if we found our perfect match. It's also common that the first six months or so of a relationship is a shagger's paradise. It's normal for it to wane as you realise you haven't washed up in 3 months and the dog is hungry. Life catches up with us. If his needs weren't being met and he behaved like a real man, (and I'm sure you gave him every opportunity) he would have discussed this with you - HONESTLY.Who knows what was going through your ex's mind when he did what he did. And frankly, who cares? Young, dumb and full of cum is my guess. (But I'm old and grumpy apparently!!!) He is not worth another one of your valuable thoughts. You really are better off with him out of your life as there is so much fun to be had out in the world with other fabulous men. Some of them are to be found on this very site (and some even close to your lovely part of paradise). I can think of one not too far away actually ... Chin up lovely, dip your toes in the French bubbles that is RHP play pool and remember, life goes on and karma is a bitch. xpaintme

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I think it's a question of ones own morality...... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Understand what you're saying. Truth is' once a guy or girl experiences something new , they get hooked on the excitement and it becomes a addiction. It's then hard for them to enjoy a normal sexual relationship with their partner . Sad but true. You don't realise it yet, but it is a blessing in disguise . No one needs a unstable guy / girl in their life . Get up and get on with your own life , there's plenty of other fish in the sea.... Cheers Jay....

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  when it's least expected, and give the smudge stick a go as wellAll the best and keep smiling

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I'm afraid are like that... if there's a hot woman around that he's attracted to her, he'll want to fuck her. Same behaviour with some women, they just hide it better, damn them!When a man isn't interested in sex with you anymore, it's a red flag.. he's fucking someone else or interested in someone else. If he doesn't let you look at his phone anymore, he's hiding something probably sexting, if he's always tired or rejects a BJ, he's fucking someone else. People have patterns, if he's late from work at the usual time frequently and he isn't paying attention to you.. he's fucking someone else.I don't understand why guys do that.. if you want to fuck around why be in a relationship, it's not rocket science fuck me.. or at least tell your girl it's boring and it's over you're just not interested anymore and you can stop wasting her time or his time.Unfortunately that's the reality, but there's hope not all guys are like that probably the quieter ones/shy guys/nice guys they won't cheat on you.If that were to happen to me, I'd tell that bitch to tell me the truth and just end it. Rip the bandaid off fast. Life's a gamble nothing is for certain but you can increase those chances by putting yourself into it, it just sucks when the dice you want rolled isn't the one showing. Happens to everyone, some people are just luckier than others.But you go out there and start talking to more guys and fuck them, it'll take your mind off that douche.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  All men see other women and think, yes I could romp in the hay with her . Most of these men are married to their sole partners and probably just got lazy in the bedroom. I was one of these men until I introduced my wife to rhp as I wanted for both of us to explore what we both thought about when we looked at the opposite sex. It enhanced our own sex drive10 fold. If all men or women try this instead of cheating and lying, they would live together like kings and queen's. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Hi I am the male in this couple and went through a similar circumstance with my ex wife except she was the one who went behind my back. At the time I was devasted felt like I was not good enough for anyone and became depressed but enough about the sad things. You need to realise that he was just making an excuse to be a dick and do whatever he truly wanted and by making it about you he was absolving himself of any blame and trying to maintain his feelings of self worth. While it takes time and may not seem possible some days it gets better.This site is a great place to meet people have fun and learn about yourself and you are correct there certainly is some characters on here. J

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  goldcoastcple69

  11 years ago

  I know with myself and ive spoken to close mates about this as well . Sex does get abit boring after a few years . I wouldn't cheat on my wife just for sex , I love my wife and would never do that. But , we both do get abit bored with vanilla sex and feel the need to mix it up abit now and then . That doesn't mean we have to fuck other people ,but we do get abit kinky and for me seeing her with another woman is enough to jump start my sex drive again lol .

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  one can lose their sex drive for someone for many reasons and it is almost impossible for the partner not getting sex to feel like it isn't them, or it is their problem. But when you really look at it, the problem was with him. He made the decision not to talk to you about it and be open and first of all discuss the problem with you. So while the problem may have been with sex, there is the underlying problem of open communication. So without knowing the full details, sex isn't always the problem, it is associated with other problems in a relationship.There is no doubt excitement that comes from fucking other women, it is exciting and intense being with a different woman and maybe this is what he got addicted to and because of that, found that what was on offer at home couldn't be matched with the feeling of screwing around. That isn't a relfection on you, but a de-sensitisation of him, the more he does it, the harder it is for him to get turned on by romantic and loving sex that he could have with his partner. Almost like a junkie living for the next hit.Very sorry you had to go through something like that, his loss for not being open with you and at least talking through his issues. Now go out and have some fun and find that there will be many men that desire you, want you and will want to please you and make him sorry for giving you up.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'UrbanCowboy87'Op, men can do both of those actions. speaking from experience, i recently left a partner as i wasn't satisfied with the sex anymore, although i had a very high sex drive with another partner. difference being from you situation, i was honest with my partner as soon as i felt that way and consequently we called it quits. in regards to your other scenario, yes i've done that also. the guilt has prevented me from sleeping with my partner and i came clean and ended it. although both experiences made me feel like crap, i was able to get the weight off my chest and put an end to an unhappy relationship. A man that was candid, nice   and to the OP sex is like a river, it runs its course. In any relationship things can change over time. often one person feels it more than another at different stages. its hard to tell a person they are not doing it for you anymore, or lets have an open relationship, lets spice it up   or the chemistry takes a nose dive.   the excitement is sometimes in the new, and the frequent encounters.   that is why people often swing.   People play up on each other for a hundred reasons.   So enjoy Rhp and try new things with different people, and expand your own sexual horizons, look forward to this adventure and as they say. Ours is not to reason why...only he knows why he did what he did.   but don't blame him, we all have our own paths to navigate in life and some of them are rocky

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Ok.. I Think I have cheated/strayed in nearly every relationship I have had..   Sometimes.. the extra sex fuels the home sex to AWESOME levels ..   Sometimes, it kills it..   It isn't just blokes who play up blackprimrose... I have been played up on a lot too.. but, the difference was when I found out.. I EITHER joined in.. or was pissed I wasn't ALLOWED to join in .. In one or two occasions, I was working waay out bush and the woman I was with at home had her own lovers to satisfy her whan i was away..   Don't get too bent out of shape OP... move on, or join in the fun I reckon... AND keep the fun happening in your own bed... You know.. MAYBE sex with you and the fella you mentioned had turned stale? No real excuse for him to play up, but. ALMOST understandable that ONE of you did in that situation.. Next relationship OP.. keep talking.. and experimenting Good luck girl :)

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Well said paintme! - Posted from rhpmobile

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