SpicyKale

SpicyKale

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Gym fit vs Looking after yourself and taking pride in your appearance

May 23 2020

A recent post got me thinking about this one... We see so many profiles that mention this, but it's so subjective. When we see "well presented and takes pride in their appearance", we imagine not turning up in track pants to a date a Maccas! We're sure a lot take it as gym fit, tight bods... a lot of us cook at home, have healthy diets, know how to dress, use nice perfume / aftershave, but carry a kg or so. Call it genetics, having kids, busy lives or the fact that we like a bottle of red to go with the lamb shanks that are slow cooking in the oven! How do you see that chestnut?

Comments

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    I've never had a six pack never had a gym membership. I love eating good food good wine etc. But l take a middle of the road approach. I'm still fit through my sport and being prepared for that. Power walking group fitness classes. I watch my weight by eating the right food and working off the beer and wine. Exercising helps cope with daily work stress and mindful attitude so l can present myself in the best way l can. But l don't do it for them l do it for me. No tracky daks on this old bitch and certainly a red light given to the lazy pricks that present with them

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    forgot to mention l could lose a couple of kilo but enjoyment versus pain the middle path wins as does everyone on the path l meet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Not really into the tight gym fit bods these days. I would much prefer someone who looks after themselves and takes pride in their appearance while rocking the mum bod.

  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    5 years ago

    "Well presented" to me means that one is clean (showered), neat and tidy, as well as knows how to dress to the occasion. For example, be appropriately dressed for fine dining scene, or smartly dressed if it's just a casual dining at a dumpling restaurant. Apart from the physical side of presentation, "well presented" also means (to me anyway) that one is capable of intellectually presenting themself. "Takes pride in their appearance" or "look after themselves" means that one cares to make sure that they are healthy, fit, and happy both physically and mentally (again, to me anyway). In this modern time, life can be very challenging and gets in the way, at times, and so weight gained or weight lost is an unavoidable issue to some people. Hence, I am fine with a cuddly body as long as I still can wrap my arms around his waist, because I certainly do not have the body of a hot Hollywood star, but cuddly and curvy. At the end of the day, we need to be happy with ourselves from within, which will then bring out our confidence, which will no doubt enhance our attractiveness 😊

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    5 years ago

    But I like to dress/look/smell nice and go by the 80/20 rule, 80 per cent healthy food, 20 per cent hot chips and wine. I run around all day at work, love walking and I feel pretty good. I dont own trakky daks, but Im an OP shop dress girl and Im sure some people think op shop outfits are a turn off. If Im not fit enough for some people then thats fine, we all like what we like and its our right to be choosy. There are people of all shapes and sizes on RHP and that makes it all the more interesting. (No one has complained about my body yet.)

  • funtimescouple1

    funtimescouple1

    5 years ago

    To us 'well presented and takes pride in appearance' means smartly dressed, neat, shaven, manicured, hair done, make up for her, a bit sexy and can hold an intelligent conversation. Not necessarily gym fit but healthy. That is who we believe we are and its what we look for. Hey everyone is different and variety is always good, so apart from those things and being easy going we dont have any preconceived ideas on looks or personality.

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    5 years ago

    We like to be fit and healthy , we love working out to balance out the not so healthy fun stuff , nothing like a weekend of food ,wine and energy feeding snakes ,lol,to get you motivated for the following weeks work outs ,its a balance ,kokos 80 20 split between it all sounds about right to us Mr b

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    It’s sad that we have to state clean and well presented. It should just be manners to turn up smelling nice in decent clothes, not dirty work clothes.

  • coolnhotnok

    coolnhotnok

    5 years ago

    I went to the gym about 4-6 times a week but bit for a great body. I'm not ugly, but I don't look like a gym guy. It's about having the energy to put into investing in your body & mind.

  • Peninsula67

    Peninsula67

    4 years ago

    When i see “looking after themselves “ i invisage the average person who takes pride in their appearence and hygiene. I call myself a work in progress as life does get in the way sometimes. But i am confident in my own skin and appearence and i feel that portrays to the other couple. Not everyone will suit you as a person or a couple.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Taking pride in yourself, being clean, manicured appropriately dressed takes precedence over gym fit in my opinion.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    4 years ago

    I like to think people can have a little (or a lot) from columns A or B. Their attitude towards themselves and others have a larger effect on me

  • RichieReynolds

    RichieReynolds

    4 years ago

    Two completley different ways of describing ones self .... gym fit; someone whos body type would be considered athletic and muscular Well presented and takes pride in there appearance; ??? In my mind its conflicting because you could be gym fit and have abs and work out twice a day but still not present well and have no pride in there appearance

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Agreed... Self-care says a lot about a person and in turn their level of physical and mental health... That's why attractiveness is a thing?!? At the end of the day, "Body positive" is a thing. So are personal preferences... I'm easy going but more than understand personal tastes.

  • Playdatespls

    Playdatespls

    4 years ago

    In all thruthfulness such profiles are a turn off for me. When contacted by people talking up their own appearance it reeks of vanity (my number one hate). If I miss out so be it.