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HELP How to say no or get away politely ?
May 13 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Straight out tell them "Cock pictures do nothing for you as you can't take them whole" that's what I say- if not there's always a BLOCK button for the rude crude ones...Don't waste you time on d*heads cause they end up being abusive...Focus on the GOOD men... There is more than ample here- I have met them!!! All the best OP! FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
LAO are dentists who work for ASIO... *they have secret agendas* Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
No pic no meet ......... please take your time even though you may be horny if they cant provide a pic in this day and age seriously.....they have something to hide.Now when it comes to the viewing of that scarey creature wtf...hopefully it wont be obscene and if you have taken the time to chat meet and go from there you are in a situation where you have satifisied personal criteria.Needless to say the first guy I even met looked nothing like his photo turned up filthy from work (put him in the shower) and was much heavier than described....LOL....thats how I know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
but I have been suprised in a good way, once but that is rare and not worth the risk for me its a few messages not war and peace in messages or text no sex texting as that can make you horneyas hell and then you meet and the guy does nothing for you at all even if he is a handsome bastard unless there is chemisry then dont go there, any cock looks great if your turned on by all the other stuff they do no going out for dinner etc, go for coffee or drink and they just say, sorry but I am not feeling the chemistry between us and leave it at that. I would also say unless your swept of your feet, that you will contact them after the meet and let them know, and if they do not hear from you in a day then its a no most men take it just fine its the handsome , six pack guys that get a tad suprised when I say no, your not floating my boat maybe because I am old and they are doing me a huge favour by offering me a ten second root some guys who refuse to send you a picture will try their best to talk their way into your pants you know, its theirjob, their wife, their workmates or what ever, dont buy into that line
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
I think the topic is more along the lines of... ...."how do I push the eject button when the reality in front of me is very different to the promised fantasy?" Its only happened to me once, (not someone I met from here).... and it was awkward as hell to deal with. In short, well presented, very attractive and confident corporate lawyer.... smelled so strongly as to fill the entire house with her aroma. It was overwhelming to the point that I was nearly nauseous. I don't know why, I don't wish to debate why, but it was unlike anything I've ever experienced. But how do you say no at that point of no return without hurting feelings? There is no such method.....people understandably take that form of rejection VERY personally. But you have to look after you. So if it's not what you want, speak up, and save yourself from an experience you no longer want. DG PS (seen that ad for the elastic girdle thingy?! Wow, what a smokescreen lol)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's a tricky one! If someone upon undressing makes you feel uncomfortable, it's ok to say: "I'm sorry, but I don't think I can go through with this" or "My expectation was very different and I'm afraid I have changed my mind". You don't owe the other person a reason if you're not comfortable giving one. You made a choice and they will have to respect it, whether they agree or not. Though I have a feeling you've learned a lesson and will not find yourself in this situation again. I agree with the others: No pics, no deal. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had an experience wher I met someone and even though I had seen pics they were obscure ....... Anyway. He got a room - I met him there - he wasn't what I had expected. Said I am sooo sorry can't go through with this and left. I did offer to pay for room. But he declined. Not a great experience!! Gypsy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yep as you mentioned OP I am sure 99.9% of us have been down the road of looks are deceiving or photos for that matter. How the hell do you get out of Dodge when things are not quite what they seem? politely make an excuse you left your car unlocked, shoes at the front door, stove on with the milk warming for your adopted yak or what ever you can think of and get the hell out of there. Some people say the one you knock back is the one you never make up for but I reckon a good wank is better than a bad root.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Depends on the set up I guess, if you've talked and somehow locked it in that sex is on the cards then you're in trouble maybe it's time for a white lie... I dunno it won't be easy.If however you have set up a no pressure see how it goes and you get to the point of seeing it then perhaps slow things down until you can get to a "you know what I'm just not there right now" still going to be tricky though.The other option is brutal honesty "You are not putting that near me"I can't see an easy exit on this as not many take rejection at that point well, unless you know the person really well.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Then you are not put in that position, there is an out. Whereas if you meet at either place or a neutral place(ie motel) you are put in a compromising position. Chat first gives you more of an idea of what the person is like, meeting them in person is another. Don't give your address unless you feel comfortable.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for the advise everyone I think I was just a little naive in the beginning and believed what I was told but have learnt a big lesson now, don't believe everything you hear yea !!!! I will be taking on the no pic no meet rule from now on too thanks, avoiding any embarrassing situations again lol, I have a serious problem giving a bj to a tiny skinny worm and believing the you wont be disappointed I will blow your mind am very experienced been there done that story have realized now not to be a dumb naive woman and get at least pics first lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
in my profile that I won't respond to messages without face pics. Maybe try putting something like that on your profile (not that everyone reads them but it's worth a try).
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RHP User
12 years ago
but even then I wouldn't rely on it as a hard and fast rule. There is the quote "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear" which, although cynical does hold some element of truth, especially when you can become a master of Photo shop very quickly and easily. In my case I don't have any body photos of myself as they would look a little odd, what with having no legs, I also don't have any intimate shots as again it's really hard to get any sort of appealing photo of that. Heck let's be honest I still need a better face pic! I go more by how excited the person can my me by teasing and playing with my imagination. Given the right series of texts I've had a very, very good day at work while just sitting at my desk. I'm not saying that I discount physical attraction but I look for more than that, possibly because I need a partner who is curious about what I can do and is willing to have a new and different experience. Sadly finding those ladies is a rather tricky business.
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP,just set your phone alarm for ten minutes into the meet.By that time he will have his cock in hand,when alarm goes off ,you have the option of saying''OMG that is gorgeous,oops sorry about the alarm,I 'll just switch it off before I swallow you whole"........or if it is really smelly and or uggers...''Oh I am sorry,that is my emergency button,have to go NOW.Nice to meet you both though,byeeee''. Problem solved
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RHP User
12 years ago
Refreshing to see a gal who's not scared of checking out a dick pic to see what she might be getting before the fuct.Hilarious to see how many misinterpreted the pics you desired to see nautymuma08.After a few not as expected meets, I ended up wanting to check out what I was going to be playing with, can't say it worked out too well all the time though. I'd make sure the bits and pieces belonged to the face by asking for a full body pic which I'd drool over (getting ready for the real thing) before meeting them for coffee when we (me n the Mr) would make sure there was an attraction and that the face was as expected lol. Cum playtime though, the performance did not always live up to the expectation with one one memorable man whacking his bits on the furniture trying to get hard. Can't be bothered with it all anymore. The best laid plans of mice and men and all that lol...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Send me a message and I'll show you my face pic. It's not for anyone to see. It's a secrets what I want to do from friends and family. A micksecret. Cantbefucked
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RHP User
12 years ago
More than one way to skin a cat... For smelly... maybe suggest a shower?If you mean small when you say ugly... that body pic should solve that.Soft when it should be hard... encouragement is all that is needed more often than not.I suppose in all fairness that I should mention that the man I mentioned above was on his third or fourth round LOL!!! I just don't think I can ever forgive him for mistaking my forehead for a piece of furniture!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just say this:- "Wow, what a manhood, but I'm really superficial and that thing is uglier than a hat full of arsewipes in a sewage pond. So if you'll excuse me I'm going to depart, get drunk and go fuck myself as I know you're already thinking I should." How easy is that?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' Just say this:- "Wow, what a manhood, but I'm really superficial and that thing is uglier than a hat full of arsewipes in a sewage pond. So if you'll excuse me I'm going to depart, get drunk and go fuck myself as I know you're already thinking I should." How easy is that?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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