M41
Handling Selfish People
March 17 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't have much time for selfish people so I just usually distance myself from them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
With Ralf..distance yourself..don't engage with their crap...or find a comfy cave,do a very long retreat 😒xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
It stops me throwing tantrums in the shopping centres.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We all are to a degree Remember, people only treat you like shit, if you let them
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
It starts from...... the start. People should know where you stand, what you will and won't tolerate, and how you will respond .... and how to cut them loose.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Life is always a battle of wills and personality. I am selfish in bed. I no longer put a guy first. I have paid my dues. If a guy does not make an effort to see me over the line. Then I don't bother again. Work your stuck with them. All you can do is get a tefflone coat snd let it slide in. You will never change them. Same with family and friends. Friends you put up with for a while but pretty soon you wise up and break off that friendship. I used to have a friend here a woman. She would want threesomes all the time. I like them but I need to connect with the guy. When I refused s few guys she wanted, and she used me as bait ti get that guy. She called me selfish. So that was the end of our friendship. We all need to be a little selfish at times. If not people will eat you alive. No , is a good word at times. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Teach people how to treat us, if your being used.....harden up !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I don't have much time for selfish people so I just usually distance myself from them. When I was younger I would tolerate selfish and self absorbed friends and family just to maintain the peace but I'm too old for that now and will no longer bother with such people. Luckily I work with a pretty good, helpful group of people and I am polite and cordial towards them however I take care not to get TOO close. One has to spend a lot of time in the office with colleagues so I prefer not to socialise with colleagues outside work.
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rupamohan
10 years ago
I assume these people are part of your life and getting rid of them is not a solution. May be you can share how such people affect you..and you can then get more useful suggestions.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
In a classy New York Restaurant, ol' Paulie says Im not sure what that lady is having over there, as the people at his table turn to look he smacks the selfish person right across the chops.......Perfect!
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RHP User
10 years ago
one wouldnt be concerned with selfish ppl...would they? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If they are that focused on their own needs, they obviously don't need me to care about them as well. So I usually let them be, unless their behaviour affects me directly. In that case I try to talk to them and hopefully work things out. Sometimes people don't know how they come across but are willing to listen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires'If one is not selfishone wouldnt be concerned with selfish ppl...would they? So only selfish people concern themselves with the behaviour of others? What if it's a flatmate, an in-law, a colleague or someone else you don't choose to be around, but can't get away from?If their behaviour affects you in a negative way, why would that mean you are selfish yourself?
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inspirit
10 years ago
If so then you will come across a lot of selfish people if you are a giver. Perhaps they do not see themselves as selfish, rather more they think they deserve? How do I deal with selfish people? I just don't think about them at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some people are selfish by their very nature, I quickly determine this and give them the flick. Others just have so much shit happening in their lives they haven't looked over their shoulders to notice. These people deserve some consideration for at least a short time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
I get rid of arrogant negative or selfish people in our life. We have zero tolerance to any of this behaviour.... Karma is a great thing and selfish people will get a taste of karma - what goes around - comes around. Be nice to these people though - as they need as much love as they can get
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S_W_A_G_G_E_R
10 years ago
Just accept them for who they are. If it still bothers you, move on.Don't associate with them
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chevtrek
10 years ago
I agree just distance negative people.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
take away the "ISH" and what do you have. Who decides if someone is selfish or not?? is there a special formula to calculate selfishness? Is it Ok to call another selfish without sounding selfish? Is calling someone selfish healthy because that person can not give what one wants? In my eyes and how I see it... I believe it's OK to be selfish - it can be healthy and unhealthy. I believe it's Ok to think of ones self while at the same time show empathy and compassion towards others, without being greedy. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
To stay sane is to practice saying NO...you can wrap it up in pleasantries but NO can be a powerful word and can appear to be a selfish word but sometimes we need to look after ourselves.I have decided that I don't want to be guilted into doing what I don't want to do..if this upsets people,so be it xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Selfish means, lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. synonyms: egocentric, egotistical, egomaniacal, self-centred, self-regarding, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-seeking, self-serving, wrapped up in oneself, inward-looking.... I don't believe it's ok and really I loathe these traits in a person and have made the decision not to have or bring them in my life..... Walk away maybe even run, because it soon becomes toxic and this isn't good in any relationship.......💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Selfish means, lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. synonyms: egocentric, egotistical, egomaniacal, self-centred, self-regarding, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-seeking, self-serving, wrapped up in oneself, inward-looking.... I don't believe it's ok and really I loathe these traits in a person and have made the decision not to have or bring them in my life..... Walk away maybe even run, because it soon becomes toxic and this isn't good in any relationship.......💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I feel that strongly about it I said it twice.....😝
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