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Happily tainted every after
July 10 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sasha, I hear you. I suppose this has opened your mind to all sorts of reasons why a man would cheat so now you will be able to ask the right questions and maybe know what you can do to keep any future partnership you have a healthy one. Although some people will cheat regardless of how happy they are or how much sex they are getting at home... lets hope you don't meet one like that. Although it recently totally flawed me when a one of the good guys said that he saw hookers when he was married for a bit of variety but he didn't see that as cheating!! Unbelievable. I will know to ask that question now. lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wont tell you about all the "straight married" guys in the gay saunas and gay hook up sites then............
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RHP User
10 years ago
CERTAINLY not tell you about how many MARRIED women I have slept with.NOR will I tell you under WHAT circumstances THEY approach me.. HAVING said that.. I AM a Gael .. and it is PERFECTLY acceptable for WOMEN in our CULTURE To do this..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Same same. I guess the point Sasha is making is, is there a happily ever after for most people were both people are honest and faithful?? Bluer? Bluer? Anyone?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Spelt Bueller wrong.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No matter what sex cavey50. Sorry didn't mean it to pointed just at men , but I don't get hit on as much by women so can't really comment on that one. Wasn't really my point as to which sex.. More that my innocence has been lost. My eyes have been opened and cannot be closed. I always knew people played up , I just didn't realise how many did, how easily and how many got away with it. Yes exactly meeka100!! I am losing faith that it exists !!! You are right though I know what to look for and ask , it's just a shame the more I see the more dissallusioned I become
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RHP User
10 years ago
No matter what sex cavey50. Sorry didn't mean it to pointed just at men , but I don't get hit on as much by women so can't really comment on that one. Wasn't really my point as to which sex.. More that my innocence has been lost. My eyes have been opened and cannot be closed. I always knew people played up , I just didn't realise how many did, how easily and how many got away with it. Yes exactly meeka100!! I am losing faith that it exists !!! You are right though I know what to look for and ask , it's just a shame the more I see the more dissallusioned I become
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheating has been around since the beginning of time, but I think most of the time we are happily unaware of how many people are being unfaithful to their partners. Sites like this (where we find cheating shoved in our faces on a daily basis) can therefore be quite confronting. The positive side for me is that I'm learning how people get away with it, which is making me more aware of what behaviours to look for. This site has been great for sharpening my Spidey sense.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's rare that a single person will fulfil another's needs completely in every way. We have all these compartments sexually, emotionally and spiritually all needing attention to various degrees. If we're lucky we meet someone who takes care of the 3 or 4 at the highest priority and we are often happy with that. Sometimes those priorities change or your partners priorities change and empty compartments appear. Cheating is far from being unique to men and personal experience tells me that it's at the very least a 50/50 split. I've met many ladies who cheat to fulfil very specific needs varying from intimacy to anal play to being hog tied and spanking. These "specific needs" ladies far outweigh the number who just can't do monogamy. I imagine it's not too different for men. Sites like this one make it very easy to find others willing to fill those specific needs as a priority and do it in an NSA way that doesn't encroach on what is otherwise a happy relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That more partners actually know that their partner is cheating than you think......it's just that they don't care enough to raise it or the other partner is also cheating. I know guys who cheat all the time and I know women who do as well (in fact the number of attached or married women that hit on me out is quite ridiculous). I think it's just become an inconvenient truth and more and more people are living in marriages of convenience because it's too hard to divorce if they have young kids or finances won't allow.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd be happy to never have to read this again. Why on earth would you want your partner to have to be restricted to you and on what planet do you expect the happily ever after thing to happen. I love the idea of a partner fucking other people, i'd want to join in occasionally and would love to watch/be watched, together or separate play, it's a major turn on. Deny that kind of sexual satisfaction and what, you expect your partner to be happy with your boring sex life, which is what it will fast become? Turn into one of those wives who's husband doesn't have a signal while he's on site, yeah right, funny how they always have a signal for me. You're on a sex hook up website, i don't care what any of the women on here claim, it's not a vanilla site, people are here for random fucks, excitement, and you expect one of these people to happily leave all that behind for you, or never look at another person, don't kid yourself harsh but true - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have no advice for you on what to look for. In a previous forum, people stated that certain messaging practices, or time they do or when they were online, suggested someone was not really single. But then I fell into exactly those practices myself for varied reasons. So I'm not sure if there's any reliable signs, just rules of thumb. I guess if someone wants to lie, he/she will be found out eventually, but sometimes only after they have hurt someone. So as a single it's sometimes hard to find women who haven't had their ability to trust compromised by previous bad experiences. So cheating men are not only hurting women, but also the chances of other men who are genuine. But when you do make a connection with a woman, it is such a relief for them, and they begin to open up again and regain some faith in people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
Tara lost our key card recently and noticed a transaction had occurred, she rang the bank to sort it out and the Bank told her" no fraud has occured the transaction was an automatic payment to a dating site" Tara said "oh thank gooodness, that's just my husband. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Tara lost our key card recently and noticed a transaction had occurred, she rang the bank to sort it out and the Bank told her" no fraud has occured the transaction was an automatic payment to a dating site" Tara said "oh thank gooodness, that's just my husband. Mado Tara xx You two sound like the happiest couple on the planet, well done, happy days for you both
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Because people are real, and not fantasy creations formed over years of dreaming.... they will have flaws.The horse will not be as tall, the shield not as bright, his debonair moustache not as curly as it should be at the tips.... So.... You have to construct your own armour, Sasha. Trust only comes when another person instills that trust within you by their actions.... and not by the sounds which come out of their open mouth. You cant control what other people... i.e. married and cheating men.... will do, or say in their efforts to do you. BUT, you are in total control of how far you let anyone into your world. (((((hugs))))) DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Trust yourself, adopt an 'it is what it is til it's not' attitude and be your own happy ever after first and foremost.
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
This site is what it is. Because of what some think this site is, it is where the cheaters will be. This site is not in percentages indicative of life in general. Therefore do not despair based on what you see here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' This site is what it is. Because of what some think this site is, it is where the cheaters will be. This site is not in percentages indicative of life in general. Therefore do not despair based on what you see here. In real life, the percentages of cheaters is far higher than on dating sites or RHP in my experience......far higher . Virtually every week that I choose to go out I get two or three opportunities with a married or attached woman that I turn down
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself' Quoting 'madotara69' Tara lost our key card recently and noticed a transaction had occurred, she rang the bank to sort it out and the Bank told her" no fraud has occured the transaction was an automatic payment to a dating site" Tara said "oh thank gooodness, that's just my husband. Mado Tara xx You two sound like the happiest couple on the planet, well done, happy days for you both We laughed, I said to Tara she should have told him that we look for men to come and help hubby fuck her. I want to know how the dobber knew it was a dating site? Send us a message QT.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well that is about as useful as tits on a bull. ML - what are you saying that you shouldn't let anyone in to your world? Trust nobody? Kiwibred - trust yourself? What? I touch myself - no words for your response. Sounds far too harsh for something that I am sure 95% of the population want. Sasha - I am with you. I would love to find someone who is true to me too. (although I do like playing with others in groups sometimes. ) I just never want lies between me and my partner.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree with your post. Time for a drink......
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' ML - what are you saying that you shouldn't let anyone in to your world? Trust nobody? Not at all. We have a certain level of trust when we start communicating with someone. But to really trust them.... thee kind of trust that the OP seeks...... they must prove that they're worthy of holding our trust like a faberge egg.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I feel the same... my fantasies of romantic love and happily ever after have been well and truly smashed to pieces. Sure, it's nice to dream that one day I might meet someone and fall madly in love with them, and they'd love me back just as much, and we'd sail off into the sunset and live wonderful lives together until the end of our days. But the reality is that the wall around my heart is bigger than the one in China, and I honestly can't see myself ever letting it down. But that's not because of what I see on this or any other dating site. Rather it's a result of my own experiences, and those of my friends - both male & female. Cheating and inflicting pain on others is definitely not restricted to men lol. I'm not looking for sympathy, or to be told to buck up and just be open to love, or whatever other words of wisdom or advice people may have. The fact is that I have a great life - wonderful family and friends, a good job and lots of other things that make me very happy, so never falling in love again really doesn't phase me all that much in the bigger scheme of things :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
How dare you tell others what this site is for - or what a happy, healthy relationship looks like. What you are after is not necessarily what others are here for. There are plenty of "Vanilla" people on RHP - I was one of them! I've met and played with like minded people I've met on here (and I am very vanilla!) The tone of your post is nasty and embittered - and not at all helpful to the OP.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Incognito_Bella' How dare you tell others what this site is for - or what a happy, healthy relationship looks like. What you are after is not necessarily what others are here for. There are plenty of "Vanilla" people on RHP - I was one of them! I've met and played with like minded people I've met on here (and I am very vanilla!) The tone of your post is nasty and embittered - and not at all helpful to the OP. Sorry my previous post was aimed at I_touch_myself, for some reason it didn't post like that. Sorry for the confusion : ( Bella
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had bad relationships, been cheated on, lied to but I've also never believed that to be complete I need to be in a relationship. I've never had the romantic notion of being swept of my feet, in fact I've never been married. However, I do believe in starting any form of relationship, on here or in everyday life with a clean slate. A new guy isn't my ex, he may not cheat, he may not lie. If he does so be it. Bye.But I do not live my life expecting a new guy to be like my ex's.The idea that I will have a committed relationship, no lies or cheating still exist to me.
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Not every person on here is looking for random NSA hookups and not everyone here is untrustworthy. I met my partner on a similar site, and we both have profiles on here as well. We are madly in love and we both treat each other with respect and kindness. Neither of us are perfect, yet we are perfect for each other. (the sex is amazing as well btw - can't see it ever getting boring!). We have both found what we were looking for and don't feel the need to go looking for anything else. Not everybody feels the need to cheat or lie. What you are looking for is out there! Don't give up hope!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm definitely not on this site to meet random fucks either. There are very trustworthy men here and I've been lucky enough to meet several. Quoting 'jennifer102'I do believe in starting any form of relationship, on here or in everyday life with a clean slate. A new guy isn't my ex, he may not cheat, he may not lie. Same here. I prefer trusting someone until they prove me wrong, to being wary and suspicious until they prove themselves worthy. If they're lying I trust myself to find out quickly enough, and it costs me much less energy that way.
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livelifenow123
9 years ago
Sasha I feel for you and can understand how hard it is to trust again the simple fact is you must and believe me the rewards that come from that trust being placed in the hands of someone who loves you back make all the bad things fade and allow for the good things to shine bright believe and it may take 47 years in my case for me to have found that person but that person is out there good luck on your journey.
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RHP User
9 years ago
give up ! And in the end if the fairytale was only a dream , not a bad dream to chase😊 Ps Don't wear your Heart on your sleeve for people to break keep it safe on your chest, you can feel it and share it, when the moment feels best. - Posted from rhpmobile
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