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Hardcore/Rough sex - How to guide?
April 04 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find messaging back and forth can be a great way to get to know each other's sexual kinks and learn what the boundaries are, along with building the sexual tension. By the time you do meet, sparks can fly, but you both know what page you're on. Guys usually ask lots of questions, I prefer if they do, and I like to find out what turns them on. I like to be dominated but most guys will not take that too far UNLESS the woman indicates she likes it very rough. So a typical or good encounter with a dominant guy for me, would involve face fucking, I love it, they usually don't press hard into your mouth constantly, take the pressure off occasionally, so we can breathe. And she will guide you as to how deep she wants to take you. Better if I've been pleasured orally and fingered prior, if they deliver there first and make me squirt over and over, then I just go through the roof when turning on them, that's my preferred pleasure zone or the way I like it to play out, and the guys are pretty happy too for the record. I like the guy to be standing so he can look down at me, the dominant thing again, thrust into my mouth, shit I might have to take a break here lol I'm into cock worship so to start, I make them wait while I enjoy hovering close and thirst for that first touch, for my lips to feel his cock, that's pretty much the holy grail for me, that moment I never rush, feel his bulge and make myself wait too before releasing in all it's glory. It takes my breath away, long before contact is even made. Then rough yes, I like this rough and the same with fucking, from behind, hard thrusting. Only exception is sitting on him and doing the slow grinding thing which is amazing. You have to be confident enough to trust your instincts and have that confidence transfer to her, all part of the dom/sub thing. Much of it is the mind, the most powerful thing. A sub will like a dom telling her he wants to nail her or impale her, strong statements that hit the spot. Make her feel like she's it, like you want to take her, and take her good. Then come the time, you'll know how to do it so as not to hurt her. You obviously understand that. With the right partner and the right compatibility, it all seems so natural. Some guys will grab the hair, others won't, I like it so long as it's not too rough, you don't want to pull it out by the roots lol it's more the gesture, and I think that's the key thing, being dominant is about gestures of the mind and body But talking is essential prior, some women don't even like you to cum on their face, I do, all over my face, then rub his cock all over in the sloppy mess after, nothing better than that yum. Okay I have to stop now, I've gotten a little excited writing that Good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can't comment on that one, not my thing. Can't say I'm terribly excited by sub action either. The harder question, YES 😍 I can put my 2c in. Harder is not faster. Important news there. I haven't met many guys that think hard, slow sex might be an exciting option. Pity. Devastating, wasted energy, kind of pity. Unless asked, keep the rhythm what it was (fast, slow, medium, whatevs). Please! Tell her if you are edging closer so she's got a chance to retract and change style before its all over? Aaaaand not so hard that if you slipped you would break your dick. Fair? Might spoil the moment.. I would only take pleasure in stretching out the pummeled lower back and a good hurt in my stride the next day. Yum! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
"Calibration" Any Guide, per se, will be useless. Why? Each persons likes, dislikes and preferences are very much their own..... and each situation can vary dependant upon that persons mood, your mood and how excited you both are. Thats a LOT of variables. Best to take your cues from the person you're with. IF they want you to stop, slow, ease back etc... they will tell or show you. DG
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horneycouplewa
9 years ago
We too have only been here for a year and I have gone from a woman who didn't show cleavage to having a gang bang recently and a squirter (lol the 1st time it freaked me out). We get into kinkier situations as time goes on, exploring and even full filling ours and others fantasies. generally a guy doesn't have to ask me what I like as I will tell them, however I got a few slaps on the butt which shocked me and he asked if I liked it, I said yes (even tho wasn't really sure) as I wanted to get the full effect to be able to decide if it's my thing or not (it's still in debate lol). Just had the discussion with hubby last week about missing some intimacy in our meets. I think in the past year it's been pushed aside as this was reserved for us and the swingers lifestyle is just about sex and pushing our limits. So we are wanting to still keep our kinky side but add some more sensual moments e.g hoping to blindfold a couple and oil them up for a slow build up rather than fuck me hard doggy style, that can still come later Hubby and I don't really have a "safe" word as we are generally always within view of each other or he's comfortable with who I'm with, and I feel I have most control when playing with another man. Face fucking!! hmmm can't say I've had that as I'll be gentle to start and then deep throat to my limits. Personally I think as the time comes with each position or moment you can ask if your not sure what they want. Start of slow and progress from there. PS we are having another party soon
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'Longest_dream' Harder is not faster. Important news there. I haven't met many guys that think hard, slow sex might be an exciting option. Pity. Devastating, wasted energy, kind of pity. Unless asked, keep the rhythm what it was (fast, slow, medium, whatevs). Please! - Posted from rhpmobile I agree! Thrust harder and slower for more intensity. Hard and too fast and it can end up being an "almost there" missed orgasm. Sad... :P Is it right to say that when stimulating the clitoris, gradually cranking the speed up is good. But when it comes to thrusting and penetration, hard and fast has to slow down to hard and intense to trigger that orgasm unless the clitoral stimulation triggers it first? ;) I love dominant men, not so much in the BDSM context, but more in men who know what they want and take initiative and control. I'm quite strong-headed so to be overpowered by a stronger man is a huge thrill to me! :D Pull my hair, grab my wrists, pin my arms down, smack my bottom... woohoo! :D Just don't be violent and cause injuries. :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ok Make that I'm full on kinky if I'm with the right guy . Being a submissive in the bedroom means I like to my limits and my self to be pushing boundary as I like to be used as a partner dirty little sextoy , fucked hard and made to cum over and over again but this is only with certain people I feel I can be like that in front off, but I do like to explore more kink so much to try so much to learn ... Fucking - please I want it hard and fast the harder the faster the better lol and I want to not to be able to walk after this! But I doubt that will ever happen to me , I just keep going. And going. And going so getting me so I can't walk would also be a good thing, Face fucking- again fucking love this oh I miss this ! being a submissive I almost never ask for this but find my self wanting it more & more and guys the more pleasure a girl the more boundary's you may be able to test and I want to be made to cum and cum again , so just want to have mass big Os while someone's going to town on me !! In to a bit of pain but no pinching me or slapping my face or biting my face total turn off for me !!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Different partner, different day, different intensity, it will never be the same. But some parts I like rough all the time, as outlined in my other post. Slow tease or buildup is also good with the right person but slow and sensual just wouldn't do it for me all the time. The fire is hot when delivered well 😛
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sex without intimacy? Bang bang spurt goodbye? To answer your question, Im not submissive, but I do bend the rules with one guy. All I would need to say was "Stop" International safe word, surely?
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is something animal about rough hard sex that brings out the animal, it goes from sensual to down right dirty hot passion and wild sex. The kinkier and more turned on the better, so teasing and being teased really builds the intensity making both ache and wilder than before till the chains of norm are released and it's intense. Intensity is the key, then let the inner animal urge roar together! I find as I get older that I enjoy the kink and the pure physical passion even more and my orgasms leave me shaking and wailing like an animal and I love it! Both should be totally breathless and totally spent!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fucking - If you ask for it harder, I am going to oblige but how hard is too hard and how long do you want me to keep this up for. Firstly it is hard work and secondly you may need to walk after this. slow down once i've cum please it hurts if you keep pumping hard once i've got there - for me anyway Face Fucking - If you want me to use your mouth for my pleasure then I will, do I gag you until you can't take it any longer then go again or just not care about what you want and go for it. Are they happy tears? I'm not a fan of gagging i have a weak stomach and it wont end well.. Pull hair, pinch, slap - If you ask for it I will do it but the aggressive tone you ask for it in makes me think you want to feel pain. Is being dominated that thrilling? I do want to feel pain , the mix of pain and pleasure is just ahhhhh :D yes being dominated is that thrilling. I always use safe words i like the traffic light system its pretty universal red yellow green with yellow pushing towards my boundaries - slow down redirect .. red being stop immediately .. I know some use unusual words but i want something i'm going to remember in the moment and an unusual word i'm less likely to remember.. if you're doing things like face fucking with gagging you may need a safe signal as well as her mouth will be otherwise occupied obviously. Like you said though everyone is different you need to check with each individual :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yep the right person and the right situation ,will bring the best out in me . It all depends,often. I'm the shyest of people at times ,but if I'm made to let my inner kink out buy I'm as kinky as hell!'
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twowithnolimits
9 years ago
sorry but you don;t seem to have any natural affinity for this kind of play which would make whatever you do seem like play....
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RHP User
9 years ago
What is one person's kink is another's vanilla! Rough sex isn't kinky to me, it normal! When someone is playing with me they don't do anything to me, I'm a participant in all of this with them! I will let them know that I : Like face fucking because I'll give them clues, by deep throating his clock, making gagging sounds and pushing my limits. Tell them to fuck me harder, faster, more, keep going etc! I love feeling thoroughly fucked! By now they'd realise that whilst they're taking me doggie, my very round arse is is primed for that slap, firm grip etc because I've given so many clues already! A naturally dominant man is sexy, if it's not your nature, it won't work IMO! They know how to read the situation, their play partner and there will be lots of face fucking, hair pulling, arse slapping and rollicking good fun! Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Rough sex or not, if you're kissing my lips, I'm sucking your cock, you're fucking my pussy, we are being intimate, every time! I'm a swinger, but if there isn't the intimacy in every interaction, I may as well pay for sex! This is what makes the connection between people, be it for 10 minutes or longer! Just my 2c. Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
is like cooking..... Recipes out there galore, but what tastes best for you and your partners is up to you two. Perhaps the questions you ask here, are the questions you need to start asking your partner..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dimeshreds, You have only said that people are wanting you to have hardcore sex with them. I hope you are enjoying dominating not just going along just because you are a guy. I have been in the fetish scene for a long time and love rough , dominant sex bordering on non consensual, with moments of tenderness. You are entering a realm where a discussion regarding boundaries has to take place. This doesn't have to be clinical , and ultimately they will answer your question for you and you are then free to go for gold within the limits! No wondering. Safe words ( slow down, or stop are acceptable :) ) should be used. You can also use the traffic light system. There is so much information from experienced doms on the internet. Do your research It takes focus and finesse, however, the mascara smudged face , the drool running down her chin as she looks up at you with wide eyes as she gags is its own reward - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dimeshreds
9 years ago
I am starting to enjoy it but the rough stuff is not my go to move, I am more light hands and gentle touch as I like intimacy...However this is not a dating site and I am a people pleaser so I enjoy giving people what they want and a lot of them want the hard stuff...lol I am asking these questions so I can understand different peoples needs or likes as I do not naturally lean towards the hardcore action and your input will guide my future input.
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Missb4u
9 years ago
Don't do anything you aren't into and talk to each person and ask them the questions you've posted here. I love all of those things and Yes I lean more towards the forced submission, I like the pain as it brings me pleasure but it's also about the person doing all of those things and pleasing him by suffering and taking it all soooo if you aren't truley into it and comfortable with it it won't work for me. However, I don't want that all the time I think that would get old pretty quickly. So I like a combination of all of the above and soft gentle moments with lots of touching and kissing. I do think it's hard to find all of that in one person though.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hands down one of if not thee most interesting post I’ve read on here to date. Cheers to the poster and the participants. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
5 years ago
As long as it’s all been discussed it should always be fun. When I say enough or stop my partner would back off but so far, they always do that just before I am ready to anyway. They know me well. But we talk lots. And they are observant.
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