F56
Have you ever experienced
October 02 2013
Comments
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Yes! I have experienced it a couple of times. Met a guy in 2006 when I was performing at a local bar. He was my friend's neighbour. Absolutely tingled all over and yes, my breath caught in my throat. In 2009 started chatting to a guy here and when we spoke on the phone I had a sense I knew him. Yes it was him and from the moment he walked in my door I was smitten, again (or still). We had a somewhat on again off again thing for a few years and while we have now gone our separate ways if he ever asked if he could see me it would a resounding YES! He inspired my art, my song-writing, my sexual exploration and while I have had lovers since, nothing comes close to what we shared in terms of intimacy and trust.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Bloody oath Miss Kaleidoscope - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
After all the above goes down,"Your really nice but can we just be good friends"AAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHH !
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, I have experienced this a few times I. My life and each time it worked well when we were together. The endings were mixed, I gained some wonderful friends and also had my heart ripped out a few times. Like any relationship, even friendship, things can work out well or badly.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
If you're talking about people you meet via RHP then yes - it is the best result you can hope for and a good indicator the connection will translate into the bedroom.However, if this instant comfort occurs when you meet someone in the normal course of events then I find it invariably gives oxygen to the dreaded 'banishment to the friend zone' and sex is suddenly off limits for fear of spoiling it ?and you've gotta hate that dreaded "friend" zone with its preconceived and artificial limitations on the good stuff while simultaneously putting you first in line for the associated burdens.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
One click and I'm a gooooooooooooone.It's magical...It's more than just the locked eyes at first sight.Time standing still and the world stopping.It's breath taking.It's amazing, words can not explain.It's the most powerful connection, I have ever felt. It does not happen to me often.I know straight away, it's long lasting.Special.It's real!!FOXY
-
RHP User
11 years ago
In the last 2 months it happened twice.. The first was a chance meeting with a popular artist (singer) , our meeting was supposed to be brief, 2 minutes the max allowed' but we had great eye contact and the conversation just flowed. We sung and chatted together for probally 5 - 10 and had to be interupted. haha.. One of those consensual moments you know was special... Of course I know thats where it starts and ends.. but the harmony and communication was one of them moments you dont forget.The other was a salesgirl in a big dept store where I bought some new carpet. we clicked straight away and by the time I left, I knew where she lives , who she lives with , what she drives, what uni she's attending , what she drinks, and where she was going that night.. lol. The next time I went in , she spotted me coming and yelled my name waving.. lol. the usual handshake turned into a hello hug and by the time we finished a request to see my house when the reno's are completed.. All very innocent but the vibes are happy ones... Its nice to meet nice.. I love it..
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Yes !! Only once. He contacted me on-line on another website. I felt it in that first email , it was warm , funny and ticked all the boxes for what I was looking for. We emailed for almost a month , long , interesting emails where we both confided things with increasing intimacy. It was like long , drawn out foreplay......fantastic ! Finally , a telephone call. It lasted a hour and we talked like we'd known each other forever.......kindred spirits , I think he said. Then we met. We stood and hugged each other for what seemed like forever. I remember it like it was yesterday. It felt incredible. I was smitten........utterly. He was much better looking in person than his photos . I've never lusted after someone as much as I did after him. That first sexual encounter wasn't the best , I think he got stage fright. But I knew it would get better and it did. As Kaleidescope said , I felt completely at ease in his presence , it was effortless , comfortable , easy yet exciting at the same time. Every time he knocked at my door I could feel my heart pounding in my chest , it never waned for almost three years. He was a man who truly loved and appreciated a woman's body , was so attentive to my needs and took me to greater heights sexually than I'd ever imagined possible. It's finished now (recently) and my heart feels broken into pieces. But I will always remember that instant connection...........and wonder if I'll ever be lucky enough to find it again. Thanks K for the opportunity to share.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Have experienced that exact thing with a wonderful man. From the moment we met last year he summed it up by saying its like we are 2 sides of the same coin :) Yes it carried on into the bedroom with amazing passionate sex. Now he has become my best friend :) He is there for me at the drop of a hat He makes me laugh, makes me cry, and really pisses me off at times, but that's what friends are for !!- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
So the friend zone isn't a good place to be? - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope' So the friend zone isn't a good place to be? - Posted from rhpmobile That "friend" zone where you are excluded arbitrarily from any possible sexual interaction ... in terms of looking forward to some sexual interaction, no not such a great place to find yourself.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I was invited into a 3sm with my best friend and her lover of 2 years. I wasnt expecting it but thought what the heck. As soon as this man and me kissed it was fireworks. Him and I felt it and so did my best friend. She none the less got upset and angry and both him and I fled the place we were at together. We went back to his house and had sex for hours. That was six years ago and I still fuck him. It has grown into love although we kinow it would never work because we could never trust each other. But it was the most powerful instant connection I have ever had
-
inspirit
11 years ago
Quite a few times. Hours fly by without you realising and yes they are great lovers as you can be very open and honest and trusting with out feeling like a dick! On the down side though, sometimes their emotion steps over the boundaries you put in place and you have too flick them on.
-
Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Yes n yes x
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope' So the friend zone isn't a good place to be? - Posted from rhpmobile Is it's delivered like some sort of ultimate compliment !
-
RHP User
11 years ago
That's why I married mrs cjtogether. When we met for the first time I was blown away by her eyes, hair, face and her great breasts. Then she turned around and I saw her perfect rounded butt and I was hooked. We talked for hours every night and the sex from word go was amazing and intense. 5 years on and we are still at it like rabbits!!!!!!
-
RHP User
11 years ago
BS players lol
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Some of the guys here have spoken about the dreaded "friend zone" I think they are confused........and I also think that they may also be receiving mixed messages. Does a man being in the "friend zone" preclude sex? Does it mean they will never be more than a friend? Don't the best relationships often start in the "friend zone"? In my experience if I tell a guy lets be friends it's because an essential element is missing in the sexual attraction equation. We might experience a connection, an ease in each other's company, but at that point in time I am not feeling the urge to drag him off to the bedroom and jump his bones. That doesn't mean that as we get to know each other better I won't find him sexually attractive. Sometimes it never happens and he will indeed be relegated to the friend zone, but that's because on some level I recognize that something is missing. I suspect that I'm not alone in this reasoning.- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Have met quite a few people where we had the chemistry... all the first points you made were there... communication, humor etc etc.I have learnt that that doesn't always convert into the bedroom though. Sometimes it did and the sex was mind blowing and sometimes it didn't and we both left dissatisfied.Mental connectivity versus physical connectivity are different and don't always equate in the bedroom in my experience.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I think the point to be made about the dreaded FriendZone is that it isn't a permanent state... the zone'r chooses when a person is placed in that "no sex stasis field" that is the zone and when the friend can come out of it.The FriendZone is defiantly a place where sex is not allowed... but nothing lasts forever either... unless you die in the FriendZone at which time your penis's soul becomes lost in purgatory.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I find if you feel comfortable in talking openly and honestly with the person your seeing then if it moves onto the sexual area then you both feel safe. Making the sex much more intense and rewarding knowing no judgements will be made from either person. I find it a must myself.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
In relation to the "friends zone" that indefatigable is talking about the answers to your questions would be....1. Yes.2. Yes3.No, almost never ( that's a completely different friends zone lol)I am sure if I got it wrong Indefatigable will let me know, but the friend zone he is talking about can be a really hard place to be sent to.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
"I think they are confused" Initially maybe, like "how did I fuck that up ?"Does a man being in the "friend zone" preclude sex? Yep ! Might "spoil" it !Does it mean they will never be more than a friend? Not likely, when you get into that "effortless communication" space and spew out your life story and solve the problems of the world in your unique way she has all the information she could ever want about you, no mystery, no curiosity, nothing left to discover. Game over.Don't the best relationships often start in the "friend zone"? Maybe, "hands up those here for a relationship ?" Oh.I think most people here see sex as part of a relationship, the friend zone is quicksand, very difficult to get out of, she will be looking for someone as easy to talk to as you but with the missing ingredients that you forgot to keep in your pocket on that fateful first meet. Curiosity, intrigue, interest, call it what you will.My somewhat tarnished 2 cent piece.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
If a woman just wants to be friends than you have missed the boat. Is it because men don't take enough of the lead and allow a connection to fizzle out? Not enough flirting and seduction in my opinion, if there was more of it the "friend" thing wouldn't happen as much. Do you guys allow things to become comfortable? Chatting about the weather, etc?
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Correct me if I am wrong, but women like to be seduced, chased, coaxed even. It's the flirting game. Or maybe it's just me that isn't getting any of it? 😪
-
Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
I believe that guys will always play the 'flirting" game - it's part of our make up. Equally it's part of a womens make-up to reject any prospective guy to make sure he is 'up to task', so there will initially be bit of a stand-off, unless the girl really finds the guy very striking and lets her guard down. As far as the girl being chased and seduced, that's all good fun and can be part of the game, provided that the girl shows there are further possibilities down the road. This message doesn't always come across, and indeed at times the 'friends' message is projected very early on (intentionally or not), clearly killing any prospects the guy might be hoping for, and thus he will not carry on with the flirting. It's not necessarily because the guys allow things to become 'more comfortable' or mundane in their seduction - it may just be also the signals (or words) we pick up from the girls. Yes, the friends zone is a very poor place to live in as the guys above have alluded to. Tall
-
madotara69
11 years ago
All you say, is the whole reason we are.Mado Tara xx
-
RHP User
11 years ago
From our first message, phone call, meeting...a connection, it may have been short and sweet, but one that I will never forget.Still leaves me breathless...
-
RHP User
11 years ago
If he hesitates or drags it out (trying to be polite). He is heading fore the FZone. But then the Predeter can trip on there own haste. Figuring the "Mixed Signels" is more than half the game
-
cleopatrababe
11 years ago
red head im so sory to hear of ur breakup ,, i suffered terribly after my last love i to had very much the same experience , it was like time had stood still and we were the only ones on the planet ,, i creid and dribbled every day for months , after three years now ive moved forward but trauma yes and pain yes ,, i send u some big hugs today
-
RHP User
11 years ago
is JUST...let's just be friends...a woman's way of letting a man down lightly...translation...I like you but I don't want to fuck you
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I've started a new thread...... "How to avoid the dreaded "Friend Zone Quicksand"
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I've started a new thread...... "How to avoid the dreaded "Friend Zone Quicksand"
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Is it under Hot Topics Kale?Foxy
-
RHP User
11 years ago
But still awaiting approval
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I agree that let's just be friends is a way of letting someone know you aren't interested. But I also think that even if a women thinks, yes there could be something there but the guy just doesn't do anything... Not much flirting, etc. Personally I just say NEXT!
-
RHP User
11 years ago
if a man calls me ''mate'' that is the biggest turn off....I am definitely in the fiend zone,speaks volumes
-
RHP User
11 years ago
If he calls me Mate.......he put ME in the friendzone!
-
RHP User
11 years ago
fiend zone..how Freudian lol....and yes that is what I meant Kalei...oooh I like that name,sounds like an Indian goddess.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Amazonian Goddess..... I resemble an amazon more than an Indian 😉- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
As far as meeting people from RHP....i have experienced it once...He was a single guy, we invited over for a MFM...Everything was so easy, effortless and amazing...When we met for drinks, it was so relaxed and comfortable...And when playtime came...it seemed he knew my body instantly...as if we had been lovers for years...Obviously, as i am married...it was not the "romantic" kinda connection..But all our interactions...sexual or otherwise...made me feel like i have just met someone i already knew...Maybe from a past life?I think it's not often, that one gets that feeling about somebody...but when it happens, it is amazing...Almost trans like...(I think you know who You are...lol...and yep...still no comparison)
-
RHP User
11 years ago
in my life...the guys were both overseas and i ended up spending 4 years back and forth here, there because of it... One was already married, one was too young and just got married a month ago... Had some awesome times with them both, stuff that great memories are made from. Still in the friends zone with both of them, just decided the effort for me to keep doing the half life here, half life there was too much of an ask for what i got in return. but the feeling, wow hard to accept anything else after you experienced that and even harder when because of the circumstances, it couldn't lead to anything with a future in it. Pleasure and pain combined at max :)
-
RHP User
11 years ago
She's Intelligent, Sexy, Gorgeous, Cute. I felt like I'd known her for ages.Will this translate to / progress to the bedroom ? I don't know yet.I hope so. I think the lovemaking will be Very Sensual. A lot of exploring of each others' bodies. Not being afraid to ask. Not being afraid to say "please do this".Time will tell.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting '50zkool' Quoting 'Kaleidoscope' So the friend zone isn't a good place to be? - Posted from rhpmobile Is it's delivered like some sort of ultimate compliment ! I'm hearing you mate, have had this happen to me quite a few times, usually when I definately do not want it haha I'm just too slow and by the time I step forward we are already in "friend zone" Mind they are still good friends :)
-
RHP User
11 years ago
All I can think when reading your question is YES. We have had that instant connection since we started dating 14 years ago and still as strong as ever.
-
Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope'Amazonian Goddess..... I resemble an amazon more than an Indian ??- Posted from rhpmobile They were also known as 'Amazonian Indians' - each way bet ? Tall
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't it all about the head space your in in concerns to the person to whom you connect with. You can have awesome sex with your best friend if that's all it is. Generally if you come across someone you really connect with don't you want to try and maintain some sort of relationship with be it sexual or not.
-
foreign_lover
11 years ago
I wouldn't go as far as going to ultimates (some came close but as i'm single you know how the story ended), but yes there have been a number of people with whom it just clicked. And that is for anything; friendship and since recently FWB-relations too. In fact, i daresay these people are the people i prefer to be with sexually as it does make a very big impact. I think therein lies the difference between a root and passionate lovemaking. But that's a personal preference, i suppose
-
RHP User
11 years ago
a Hindu goddess...Indian from India...but Amazonian works too
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DEDMAN' If he hesitates or drags it out (trying to be polite). He is heading fore the FZone. But then the Predeter can trip on there own haste. Figuring the "Mixed Signels" is more than half the game A woman likes a man who takes control....letting things take too long is a huge mistake.But someone seems to desire to keep women as friends, I find it curious but if as dedman says you dont make a move I suppose its their own fault as this is what she will assume.As for the topic at hand........... YES.................
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, I have had that experience where I felt comfortable talking to him about any topic and feeling that instant connection when we first met. It's fantastic when both parties feel the same way cos it did lead to the best sex, and still does
-
RHP User
11 years ago
When I meet people, creating that instant connection is the only thing that really counts. In terms of chatting about any subject life can through at us, that is natural to me. It's not something I pre plan, I just engage with people in a way that makes us both feel as if we have known each other for years..... But it's when we do this naked, wrapped around each other, caressing each other, chatting about solving the worlds issues or how her per cat is fighting for my attention, kissing each other passionatly, laughing or having a deep and meaningful, but as we do this the kissing becomes more heated and we end up fucking like mad before resuming where we left off... Repeating this over and over so without relising we have spent the last 8 hours in bed, fucked multiple times, chatted effortlessly, kissing each other saying I need to go and arranging how soon I can come back.... Of course every time I say I need a shower before I go, from experience, that's always another romp in the bed sheets! Then there is the most passionate kissing as I stand next to the door on my way out, almost her way of saying make sure you come back very soon!!! To me, that's what connection does to sex.... And it is the only sex i have. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I don't trust many people but I have opened up and clicked with one guy from the first day we started talking and met. He has always been a true gentleman and is the only man I trust. He is no longer single but we still keep in touch everyday and I couldn't stand not ever talking to him again. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Me and Mr wren met through a wrong number call. We chatted for a few hours then met up the next night. Instant attraction could talk about anything and still do. We have had our ups and downs but 10 years on and 4 kids later we still have just as great sex as the first time. Its actually gotten better, as we know exactly what we each like. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
...would be the way I would define my wife and I in our first conversation. It lasted at least several hours which flew like time was distorted. And we've been in a Time~Vortex ever since. It was effortless and exciting and is still this way today.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Time Vortex......love that explanation!
-
RHP User
11 years ago
What a cool way to have met!
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'IndefatigableMe'If you're talking about people you meet via RHP then yes - it is the best result you can hope for and a good indicator the connection will translate into the bedroom.However, if this instant comfort occurs when you meet someone in the normal course of events then I find it invariably gives oxygen to the dreaded 'banishment to the friend zone' and sex is suddenly off limits for fear of spoiling it ?and you've gotta hate that dreaded "friend" zone with its preconceived and artificial limitations on the good stuff while simultaneously putting you first in line for the associated burdens.but the first kiss will tell if theres any spark
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 14361 Comments: 120840
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1355 Comments: 14709
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2425 Comments: 17234
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2405 Comments: 12737
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 794 Comments: 5154
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1148 Comments: 6957
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 622 Comments: 2145
-
LGBT
Topics: 156 Comments: 1150
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share