De0cypher

De0cypher

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Have you or anyone you know cried during sex?

June 04 2014

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So.. horribly embarrassing and one I have never experienced... I started crying during sex last night. Not just a sniffle. But big, wracking, chest heaving sobs... needless to say he was as disconcerted as I was by the unexpected behaviour. Thankfully, he had already cum and we were in the end stages of the deed... with my mouth on his cock for one last taste. Once I had calmed down, we even did it again. No, it wasn't the taste. No, it wasn't him. Fairly certain, it was all me. But I am still trying to figure out why!! Any perspectives on offer?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and does sound embarrassing . Maybe it was just a sudden hormonal thing? Did you have any thoughts running through your head at the time?

  • De0cypher

    De0cypher

    11 years ago

    mmmm? :) because it didn't feel too bad but not great? But yes perhaps hormonal... except I'm a fairly even keel type of gal...in terms of personality that is. No extreme highs or lows for me. Which is why this was not just embarrassing but also a 'wtf' moment!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Are you in love with somebody else?

  • captainkaos

    captainkaos

    11 years ago

    You are longing to meet me? I know that we are at the opposite sides of the country but don't worry baby, love has no boundaries. No. Seriously, I hope that you find out the reason. I hope that you are ok. Maybe it was something to do with your past? Maybe you are not happy aith the way that your life is heading? I know that I have had a few gf's lately and I just want someone steady. I want that one special person that i love to spend time with in and out of the bedroom. I am sick of first dates.......then again, I love kissing passionately and the first time that i take off her clothes. lol.

  • De0cypher

    De0cypher

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Are you in love with somebody else? No... I think I'm broken that way. I've been more of a lust/crush/"care deeply abt someone" type of girl... love has seemed elusive. At least the fairytale kind.

  • De0cypher

    De0cypher

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'captainkaos' You are longing to meet me? I know that we are at the opposite sides of the country but don't worry baby, love has no boundaries. No. Seriously, I hope that you find out the reason. I hope that you are ok. Maybe it was something to do with your past? Maybe you are not happy aith the way that your life is heading? I know that I have had a few gf's lately and I just want someone steady. I want that one special person that i love to spend time with in and out of the bedroom. I am sick of first dates.......then again, I love kissing passionately and the first time that i take off her clothes. lol. Yes perhaps... I do find I want someone that gets excited at the thought of just me... not just the sex part, although that's awesome too. But I am curious to know if someone else has figured out if/why they experienced what I did..

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    You showed an emotion. The man should be thankful of that. Some people can't show emotions during sex or sexual activity. The only thing they may show is the "O face" and that's about it. People cry for all sorts of reasons, especially women more than men. I would say as women are just more emotionally expressive. If he made you feel bad or belittled you or degraded you in any shape or form...I would be more concered about that. Sorry but I don't believe it was just all of you or just you. He played a part in this also. Foxy

  • De0cypher

    De0cypher

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' You showed an emotion. The man should be thankful of that. Some people can't show emotions during sex or sexual activity. The only thing they may show is the "O face" and that's about it. People cry for all sorts of reasons, especially women more than men. I would say as women are just more emotionally expressive. If he made you feel bad or belittled you or degraded you in any shape or form...I would be more concered about that. Sorry but I don't believe it was just all of you or just you. He played a part in this also. Foxy A point there.... I do remember thinking, I want more kisses.. I more touching... not just a mad scramble for him to be inside me. Again, not a bad thing because after all, that felt good too. To give him his due, no degrading or belittling of any kind. Perhaps just a touch of a lack of sensitivity? I'm just not a big crier though... I'll cry watching Grey's Anatomy or Up but in general, I just go quiet.

  • JessicaRabbit

    JessicaRabbit

    11 years ago

    And it had nothing to do with anybody else besides me. I'm a very emotionally stable person and very rarely cry, so it was a shock to me too. It happened after a particularly intense and out-of-the-usual session and I just burst into tears and didn't stop crying for about 10 minutes. Thankfully it was with someone that I was very close to and had known for years, so he just held me until I stopped then asked what it was about to which I replied, "I don't know, but i'm not upset or hurt." It felt damn good afterwards though, like I was letting go of stresses that I didn't even realise I was holding onto. If you're like me - you described yourself as not a highs and lows person - maybe this was your way of dealing with things that were affecting you on a subconscious level that you otherwise ignore and don't realise are affecting you. Sex can be cathartic and a great way of releasing stresses for situations that we might be brushing under the rug or ignoring. Sometimes you just need a good cry - whether you realise it or not! Jess xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'JessicaRabbit'It happened after a particularly intense and out-of-the-usual session and I just burst into tears and didn't stop crying for about 10 minutes. Thankfully it was with someone that I was very close to and had known for years, so he just held me until I stopped then asked what it was about to which I replied, "I don't know, but i'm not upset or hurt." It felt damn good afterwards though, like I was letting go of stresses that I didn't even realise I was holding onto. Sex can be cathartic and a great way of releasing stresses for situations that we might be brushing under the rug or ignoring. Sometimes you just need a good cry - whether you realise it or not! Exactly what Jess said.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    only once has it happened to me. many years ago a girl I was seeing casually. pretty much mid deed started with the water works for reasons I have no idea. bit of a mood killer I can tell you. ended up just putting the brakes on and took her home, she never even really talked to me after that so was left with more questions than answers. the fact was an isolated incident im pretty confident it wasn't me but it was unhinging to say the least

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The sex just felt empty,sometimes it's just not enough hugs Q xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes,I have cried for exactly that reason xxQ

  • tamworthguy46

    tamworthguy46

    11 years ago

    I can remember a time when I cried, she was the first girl I had been with, out of a long term relationship, I was spending the weekend with her,just after the first time we were together, we were holding each other, I couldn't help it, the tears just started to flow, There were some mixed feelings, of possibly letting go , guilt from being with someone new, and probably just bottled up emotion, we talked for a while, she said that she understood, and had indeed been there herself, as she slowly stroked me hard again, we kissed....I do remember at that point simply moving on and letting go of the past. Tam

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Yes..... I can recall several women who burst into tears. In each case, we spoke about the experience and the emotions before and after the event.These women couldn't express why they cried, but mentioned a sense of release, and being overwhelmed by it..... as if doors were opened and emotions they couldn't control washed out. And I think thats kind of amazing....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A long time ago when the sex was so bad I would just cry quietly and on occassion when it felt so amazing again silently.............that was with the same person. I may have cried with another I cant recall...but never sobbing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    But I have cuddled a couple of ladies as they cried after as I have, once! As a general rule, women are more invested in their 'virtue' and if I'm not the person they'd prefer to be there, the tears start. Not saying the OP has the same issue

  • passion8_l

    passion8_l

    11 years ago

    We met to say goodbye because the relationship couldn't go anywhere. It was the most passionate and meaningful sex I have every encountered, just thinking about it brings a tear to my eye.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have had a few experiences where I have cried during sex. For me it has happened when I have orgasmed and it is such an intense orgasm I then feel a wave of emotion come over me and I start to cry. My partner has seen this happen with him and when I have been with another man. It is rare when this occurs but I really love it when it does happen as I feel so very very good. Ms NC2147 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Antzy

    Antzy

    11 years ago

    It was with an ex whom I loved deeply. We had just finished and we were looking into each other's eyes and both started crying. For me, I just didn't want it that moment to end and at that time the thought of not having him in my life was overwhelming? Weird... But beautiful :).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    After reading some of the above , it struck me that we sometimes put that much pressure on ourselves to deliver ' we lose sight and overlook our own needs. I hope that makes sense ? I mean we have ideals of what we think we should be doing so we get caught in the moment and overlook our own needs. DeOcypher , after reading your post 'its obvious you are a giver and like to please. Giving is great ' but comes with a certain pressure . Maybe ! just maybe, that pressure was sub consciously released. ? Food for thought.. Jay

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I find several weeks after a pretty stressful or emotionally exhausting event I will suddenly and unexpectedly just break down and sob ( and sometimes laugh at the same time because its so random) for a good 10mins too. Its like a big pressure relief valve... feel awesome afterwards! I find that in the stressful time I can hold it together and soldier on and its like my body waits till everything has settled down and life is good again for me to loose it! Weird! But I completely understand what it's like for you xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    yes, I think that brain wiring sometimes puts orgasms and tears together, and I have experienced that with women.No, its probably not easily explained, (and nor is it disappointment), and it can be after an intense orgasm. Perhaps both are high intensity emotional releases that are plumbed into the system.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    happened to me she let it all out for a good 10 mins , she had been in a meaningless and toxic relationshipwas purely because i was just normal for her. Caring , respectful and kind. was sad that someone could be ground so low as to feel worthless , so i think i was a breath of fresh air she was terribly embarrassed, ( for no reason) and we drifted apart afterwards, even though i re - enforced that it didnt faze me , in fact appreciated that she felt comfortable enough to let her guard down.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Miss De0cypher I think this one you can only answer from the depths of your soul and truth within your spirit and life and stage of your journey the question you must find for i believe we all have our answers in us , the hardest thing to do is ask the raw true question that you may be to afraid to ask ?? Well dont be , never be afraid to ask the hard questions in your life they are the most important and prove to be the most rewarding in your journey. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    But, I believe that many women have shed a tear when a man cums inside them. Maybe a maternal emotion? Mado Tara xx

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'madotara69' But, I believe that many women have shed a tear when a man cums inside them. Maybe a maternal emotion? Mado Tara xx Further to....... sort of...... more of my experiences have been after a woman realises her first vaginal orgasm..... as if control over self has been lost or released... and with it the emotions are released. DG

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    11 years ago

    When it's been amazing sex

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I had a guy pick me up at home (I normally never did this but did so this time. no idea why) and he arrived. He was all upset and I asked why. He started to cry within minutes of appearing on my doorstep and said.."waaaahhh, I want my wife back. She left me as she caught me in bed with a tranny... we normally did that together but when I did it on my own she didn't like it". Then he said..."maybe we shouldn't go out as I don't want to wreck your night". I replied "well, you HAVE already wrecked it.. let alone wrecking it at dinner". I said "damn, no dinner, just when I was having a good hair day". In the end, we agreed to go out for dinner and not have sex. It was a perfectly fun evening. Every so often I'd joke with him and say "wanna go home for a fuck"!!! I heard from him a few times more, but hey, I didn't want to get involved so suggested we 'end our chats".