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Having a rethink
November 18 2016
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
I agree. The big C is terrible. I sometimes think it would get the C and piss off! Every Thursday (when not working), I sit with my dad while he has his treatment. The amount of people we chat too, have such amazing spirits. I do believe that is what keeps people alive and mentally strong. Material things have never been spoken of in the ward, well not when we've been there. Ms Foxy. PS-:Sorry to hear of your diagnosis. Xx
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
I love your friends quote too. That's why I love my parents to bits. They encourage me to go get life experiences, travel get out there and enjoy myself. Both my parents love that I am at my happiest. Money can not buy that. Ms Foxy x
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sweetgem
8 years ago
There are many reasons why some people would place the importance and stress of money + materials before their health and happiness, and for that I don't judge because it is none of my business, as it is people's choice to choose. Besides, I am not them, I don't know what they're going through, etc. hence I won't understand why they would do that :) However, having said the above, I am sure there are people who have always had everything so easy; never or hardly experience any hardship in their lives because they are brought up that way, as well as in such an environment. So for those who have been having most thing easy all their lives, they take things for granted, they don't prioritise emotional and mental happiness + wellbeing in the same way compare to those who have gone through a lot in life. Don't get me wrong, I am not having a go at people who are luckier in life. I am just making an example of why would some people value non-materialistic things more than those who do. I had lost two friends to cancer in the past 24 months, with one is coming up to the second anniversary of his passing 😢; I am also losing my own mother to illness day by day emotionally; and am having some serious health issues myself. All of these have only been happening rapidly in the past 24 months! And money can certainly not buy back any of these good people, and the good health I've lost, back into my life! But relaxing mind/attitude + minimum stress can, no doubt, slow down the process of me losing the good things in my life! Therefore, I don't stress anymore about not having a paid job, as well as living on a minimum income/budget, plus not having a life, etc. while fulfilling my duty of care for my unfortunately ill mother! I am now at a much happier stage of my life compare to two years ago! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
In the moment,enjoy what you have.Love well,family,friends,lovers.This is all we have,the now.Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
...it was starting to think like this 9 years ago that encouraged me to give up smoking...and in recent years, to remove added sugar.I cared more about my mortality. Life had gotten richer.I don't want to increase my chances of dying young from things that give so little in return.
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adventurous_9987
8 years ago
2009, 2010 I had two reconstructive hip surgeries. 2011 I had two minor strokes (TIA) in two days and can't remember a whole week. 2014 I had my left thyroid removed in order to prevent a cancerous tumor from spreading, August last year I had an exploratory surgery in the hip just to lead to a complete left hip replacement in November 2015. My right hip also has arthritis and I am trying to hold of the replacement. Needless to say I have had a shit run and without my wife I wouldn't be here. She is the rock that helps me see how precious the time we have is. Material things are great but having a meaningful, trusting and powerful relationship brings the greatest joy to everyday I spend here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
And yes, you know what, its our loved ones who are most important in our lives. The people, family, friends or partners, who are always there for us and surround us with security and love. Your stories are an inspiration and being here and enjoying life is always a joy xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Recently I had a huge wake up call regarding my health.I had been in denial about my diabetes and found myself in hospital and surgery on my foot.I am still recovering and have limited mobility but I am addressing my health issues,controlling my blood sugars,losing weight ,exercising although its limited to what I can do sitting in a chair.But the realisation that what happens to me also impacts on others was a huge lesson. Diabetes is an epidemic in this country and sugar is an addiction.My quality of life is far more important than my love of sugar.Its hard but the alternatives are even harder. Q
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lovman8
8 years ago
but the old cliche is true.......there is always someone worse off than you.You can find it in stories on this forum and also in "real" life. I am going through radiotherapy at the moment and sometimes feel a bit of a fraud for being little self pitying and depressed because I see many people worse off than me. And generally, the grace and dignity and good humour with which they endure their lot is inspiring and a source of strength as well as being a bit of a prod to enjoy the moment for all the pleasure it can provide. Champagnesunsets, I wish you well and hope everyone gets to enjoy many more sunsets! And also much more champagne!!!!
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sweetgem
8 years ago
About living in the moment! This time last year, I was diagnosed with a scarily serious disease, which got me broke down uncontrollably in front of my doctor! Then, only six months later, I got diagnosed with a new medical issue in one of my eyes! According to my Oculoplastic Surgeon, it is something I was born with, which has no cure by taking medication, only by operation. But the risks of having such operation are extremely high which include permanent blindness as one of the risks! So until that operation day comes, I will have to live with a "bomb" inside one of my eyes, and will need to go back to the hospital every 2-3 months for repetitive checkups and tests. Life is truly random and fragile, and one can never know what's waiting around the corner until they get to that corner! While my family and I have a strong bond together, and I have many good supportive friends, I am fighting alone on this journey emotionally! So, I have learned to relax and only live one day at a time. My best wishes to you, Champagnesunsets, for managing your new health issue and hope there's a cure for your type of disease/illness. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' About living in the moment! This time last year, I was diagnosed with a scarily serious disease, which got me broke down uncontrollably in front of my doctor! Then, only six months later, I got diagnosed with a new medical issue in one of my eyes! According to my Oculoplastic Surgeon, it is something I was born with, which has no cure by taking medication, only by operation. But the risks of having such operation are extremely high which include permanent blindness as one of the risks! So until that operation day comes, I will have to live with a "bomb" inside one of my eyes, and will need to go back to the hospital every 2-3 months for repetitive checkups and tests. Life is truly random and fragile, and one can never know what's waiting around the corner until they get to that corner! While my family and I have a strong bond together, and I have many good supportive friends, I am fighting alone on this journey emotionally! So, I have learned to relax and only live one day at a time. My best wishes to you, Champagnesunsets, for managing your new health issue and hope there's a cure for your type of disease/illness. - Posted from rhpmobile with your eventual eye operation.Take care of your eyes - they are gems like you. I often wonder what the hell I would do if I lost my sight or hearing.There are so many people in the world who are blind or deaf and I know I am SOOO lucky to be able to see all the beautiful sights and hear all the wonderful laughter and music in the world.
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RHP User
8 years ago
A fair few of us are dealing with things behind the scenes. Lovman, yes, hopefully we see loads more sunsets! Hope that you all get through your own experiences and life is much brighter. Heres to a better, healthier and blessed 2017 for all of you xxx
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sweetgem
8 years ago
For your best wishes for my future eye operation 🙏🏼 It was difficult to digest the diagnosis in the beginning because, like you, I don't know how would I cope if I lost my sight! But time is my best friend and thanks to my fighter/survivor genes, I have now digested the news and hope for the best, but am emotionally and mentally prepared for the worst to come (if I am destined to be blinded that is). Life is so much easier to carry one when one can face and accept the reality. After all, I live in Australia and that I consider am way fortunate than billions of people in the world! 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
8 years ago
Not one 😂😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Enjoy every moment in life and surround yourself with people that appreciate you because you never know what's in store for you X - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I lost my ex wife and mother of our 3 young kids to cancer this year. She only just made 40. I spent the last year being a full time carer for her, as she became paraplegic . She ended up losing her right eyesight and was nearly quadraplegic at the end. One thing she always said was " you never realise how good normal is until u don't have normal anymore " simple daily things like toileting and eating became huge tasks , and later breathing did too.. We really do take life for granted, and we're lucky to be healthy when we are.. So please go and do all the fun crazy things you've ever wanted to do , don't be scared , take the jump , use your body any way you can 😉 and love like there's no tomorrow. Love n hugs TSD xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not surprised by how many people here are coping with so many extraordinary challenges, illnesses and diagnoses and the brave way in which people talk of their personal circumstances. What never fails to surprise me is the warmth and compassion as well as understanding of each other's situation. Also the encouragement to live and enjoy life as well as treasure the ones we love and who love us as we go. I'm extremely fortunate with my health and life at the moment but I've enjoyed viewing this thread and the shared compassion it has brought out of so many like-minded people. Thanks everyone and best wishes with coping with your personal challenges - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thats what my friend is going through with hubby right now. And thats so true.....we say, "oh things are pretty normal, so-so, ho-hum..... when in fact things are pretty marvellous. Hugs xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
2016 has been a bit of a trial for me too. It started in January with a black out in NZ which scared my friends more than it did me, they made me promise to see my GP when I got home. I did and now take medication for blood pressure.Since then I have a few issues including an arthritis diagnosis, I might not remember them all so maybe that's another issue in itself.In May I had x-rays then a scan on my lungs, resulting in a six monthly follow up on a suspicious node. I got a positive result from that yesterday...but the scan did show some calcification of the arteries around my heart so I'm going back to the cardiologist soon. All was good with the cardio three years ago so here's hoping.There's been other issues in 2016 too, including a near miss with a head on collision on the open road. It was in the dark and some clown overtook an oncoming truck, he/she just and only just squeezed through the gap. So here we all are in various states of health. I think we owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to make the absolute most of it, if only for those who can't, our absent friends. I don't mind too much beacuse I've enjoyed a full life and good health with it so some decline is inevitable and acceptable. I burns me up to see young people getting chopped down.Here for a good time not a long time.
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