Having sex with someone else, what does it feel like?

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  sheandhe

  7 years ago

  My wife and I only play together and whilst I love seeing her with another guy I have no interest in playing alone without my wife, nor does she. Saying that we have had some great ffm and mfm experiences together which involved my wife watching me with someone else. Felt strange at first but as we were there for both of us it also was incredibly exciting. Our journey is about us and only playing together so may differ form your desires. I'd question whether you definitely WANT to be with someone else just because your wife says it's OK and whether this is what you both want. Balancing the scales so to speak just because the other is happy to indulge may cause issues. Lots of talking about what excites you both certainly is key to maintaining a healthy relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  For me felt a little weird, for us we started with a ffm, I enjoyed it but didnt really know what to expect and was nervous about how I would react to hubby being with someone else. A few years, plenty of conversations and a handful or two of experiences down the track I absolutely love thinking about and picturing hubby with someone else. Turns me on no end. Mrs A x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  When I saw it on the feed, my first thought was that it meant I wasn't wanking.

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  nightingale8

  7 years ago

  I LOVE watching my partner with someone else and would even happily sit in the corner to enjoy the view. Whether I enjoy him getting out to see other people depends on what I'm doing or how I'm feeling. Basically as long as he makes me feel sexy AF and I have the opportunity to explore too we are both very happy. I enjoy him coming home and telling me his stories, and am a natural voyeur. The only strict rule we have is always keep it safe. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  mango69er

  7 years ago

  Are you prepared for all the attention your wife will get from other guys. And the lack of attention you will be getting. It can be very hard on here for a male. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  225Special

  7 years ago

  I would suggest you try playing with another couple a few times so you can both see each other getting pleasure from someone else. If this does the trick then think about playing separately.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  OP, you sound very much like my Mr. We actually started in this lifestyle as it was his fantasy for me to be with other men. It took me a while to wrap my head around it. We started out only playing together, mfm, and while this was enjoyable, due to our home-life, was very difficult to try and organise. Mr then suggested he would enjoy it if I played solo. Again took me a while to be comfortable to try this, but once I did, I relaxed quite quickly. Much the same as your wife, I felt that if I was indulging, my Mr should be free to do the same. That said, him playing had never been something that was a turn on for me. But I was willing to give it a try and see if I could be ok with it. He met up with a friend and they had a night together, sadly, I had to admit that it did not excite me or feel good :( My Mr however has been completely ok with this and still maintains that it does more for him for me to play than it does for him to. As others have said, I would take time to reflect on what you really want. You may need to give it a try, but be willing to let it go if it doesn't work well for your dynamic.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  There’s a very fine line, and until either of you are absolutely sure, you need to tip toe the line. You both will need to discuss ALL possibilities. Remember, there’s no rush. My husband and I nearly did, a few times, unfortunately too many men bailed at last minute or chickened out or availability didn’t line up. I was also unsure of how my husband would be emotionally afterwards. I also felt afraid of how I may react. We agreed to play separately which was a huge turn on! Then he asked for photos or videos with my lover to begin with, his reaction was mixed. So we never did share in front of each other. I’ve also had a lover who was very keen, but when it became reality, their feelings meant that the experience became hurtful for them, which was sad and unexpected. Take Baby steps. Your post on this forum is a good idea 💡 best of luck! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thank you to all who responded. My wife and I read all of your responses and they were very helpful. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in this quest and interesting to hear what others have gone through. It is also nice to feel part of a community that is willing to help on our first steps. The bottom line though remains the same. There is no way of knowing for sure how it will feel until I try.Now my challenge is to find somebody...

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