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Health & Safety

July 07 2021

Hi there, Question that we would like advice on as we are not seasoned swingers. Upon meeting for a possible Play, the topic of health comes into play naturally, we ask the lady questions re safe sex and what their views & practises are ! They state yes safe sex etc. Communication ongoing and Play Meet set, then to discover by my lovely lady's perceptive intuitive and discussion with a lady to discover she has had unprotected sex only days before our meet . The scary part is that she was not going to divulge this information . Meet was cancelled as no pathology test was actioned before meeting us . We cancelled . How do you all deal with these safety concerns before a play please.

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sw1ng3rz

3 years ago

Who was the unprotected sex with? If it was her other half I don’t see a problem. Hubby and I don’t use protection when we are with each other but definitely when playing with others.

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Missb4u

3 years ago

Hmm I’m a single but this really relates to all playing in the field. I don’t think you can always trust whether protection has been used all the time with others, regardless of what they say they have done. Just enforce your own use of protection. That’s what I do.

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

Just boil them first.... problem solved

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

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Ell_uno

3 years ago

Ummm that’s a tricky one , condoms are better if not sure and they won’t be oral for sure😎. Play safe like you did cancelling you got my support 100%. Better sure than sorry.

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RHP User

3 years ago

Just looking at it from another angle,can you trust the person who gave you the info that she played bareback? Even if it was the actual dude she was supposed to have done the deed with, its a good way to keep other people away from her From my own involvement with the swinging scene, there was a lot of cock blocking and back stabbing/bitching about others. Did you ask her if the information you received was true, when you cancelled? Just a thought.

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AnnieWhichway

3 years ago

There is always risk. Risk can never be nulled. Industry risk is calculated by producing Safe Work Method Statements and highlighting risks and then producing methods to minimise to an acceptable level. If you don't accept risk then stay home. You drive a car?

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sweetnyorkshire

3 years ago

condoms for sex and 3 month testing is our practice. we've met some couples that have said "we don't really chat, we just like to get on with it" and this is a deal breaker for us, We do sometimes play on a first date but we need a few hours of conversation first so we can assess if your a pair of fuckwits or not.

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Byron2Bay

3 years ago

Just curious how many consider that oral sex with women has the ability to transmit almost every sti other than HIV? Yes, a dam, or plastic sheet, can be a barrier. How many people use these and if you don't...does the condom still have meaning?

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

If they can not give you that info, that is a Red Flag. You did the right thing by cancelling. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

3 years ago

People aren't always honest and that's why I only ever plan a meet with people who get tested a week before a meet and if they can't provide paper results then it's a no go from me

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damnhot

3 years ago

I’m on PrEP, get tested every three months and use condoms. That would be better than 99.9% of people on here and I get the impression that still wouldn’t be good enough for you? I think you need to find another hobby

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

Recently same thing happened to me. There was a verbal agreement for both of us to get tested. I produced my evidence of results, via a printout from my GP. The person refused to produce results (after requesting twice) and gave me the excuse "he would (meaning the GP), was only going to contact me if there was an issue". My reply "Sadly...No, it is not all that good, without that piece of paper". I call BS on verbal wording alone, if people can not produce that evidence, then, it's not on. Ms Foxy

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Kokoflamingo

3 years ago

Then there are the guys who say " Dont have to wear a condom, Im sterilised" 🙄 It doesnt sterilise your dick. Brain, maybe.....

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Gentlelovers

3 years ago

Then there are people you look at and know you would never do anything if they don't use protection.

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2funtimes

3 years ago

Really.... Do you think you are superior to the woman you are meeting? You have no right to demand or control how she has sex. Did you both have your tests done and present the results before meeting someone.

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