F53
Healthy departures
March 14 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I knew my ex-wife was no longer in love with me. So I asked and said I would move out and let her go, it was tough at the time and for a few years after. But 10 years later we are great mates and both a lot happier with our lives. So I agree 100% Super Fox
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I recently let someone I cared for deeply go and it was very difficult but I don't have any regrets.. He was much younger and I knew it was time. I just smile because I only have good memories as there was no malice with the departure :) Phewwww live, love and let go :) Ps need new toy boy he he well let's clarify that need exciting new lover !!!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I also believe if I didn't let this person go, then I would be selfish in denying them a choice. Is if an adult is not into you , he will fuck of anyway. If you do not let go of any relationship, if its one sided in any way shape or form then that person needs to go and see a counsellor. If you love someone, and your married then you need to walk away from either your lover or your wife. I think Coops had a post about this one before. as for soul mates, I do not believe in that at all. great love, yes but its transient, the other kind is up their in the movies or with some tarot reader , ripping of people in a frayed tent. There are some people on RHP who go from send me a text to stalker mode in a flash. the women that bring their heart and emotional need to the table, and the guy that just brings his cock its not much of a gun fight, the cock always wins
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gazpacho
11 years ago
What do you mean by setting someone free? I'm not into the term at all, as it implies that I have in some way prevented someone from doing whatever it is they choose to do. Far be it for me to get in the way. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
OOPS This person is not male, sorry I should've said that in original post. Setting "Free", I mean allowing someone to do what they want to do, sort of like encouraging them to ...open their wings and fly. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Foxxy I think you should always encourage people to live their life to the fullest. It is wrong to hold people back whether that be a parent and child relationship, or lovers,etc. Also I think that a person has to choose freely to be with you or it just isn't worth it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I absolutely believe in getting out of the way of the choices others want to make. It's their life, their choice, their freedom. If they don't want me in their space I know to bow out gracefully. If I don't want them in mine, I know to be clear and direct about that, rather than leave them hanging. I've ended relationships with love and sincere good wishes for the other person - my marriage, various friendships and so on. I've also clung on way too hard at times when the message to move on, or that they were moving on, was loud and clear. Logically I knew that the graceful thing was to step back and leave them be. Emotionally I struggled terribly with this, mostly due to an almost paralysing confusion at the time. I suffered badly with the grief, guilt, confusion and concern, and it brought out the worst version of clingy in me. I believe in letting go in a healthy way. I don't always achieve it but I do learn and I do prefer to forgive myself for my fuck ups.
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sweetgem
11 years ago
I adore your courage and think you have made the right decision. Your relationship with the person will only bond stronger even though you're apart :-) they will thank you dearly later on for the opportunity to see the bigger world out there. Big thumbs up 👍 from me for your decision :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
I haven't had the same "let go" experience as you did Foxy, but something that I was part of got taken away from me by nature. It was the greatest pain I have ever had and couldn't let it go until recently. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've never been in the position where I've had that choice to make. I'd like to think I could/would do the right thing but I also believe you never really know how you'd behave in any given situation until you're in it. It sounds Foxy, like you've done something special and that's a happy thing :D. Kisses, J (Mrs) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I "let someone go" recently ... As you know... And it has left me with very real pain and doubts. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
sometimes we have to step back from some friendships Its not so much setting a person free , its more a step back from me, and sometimes stepping back very very slowly and quietly as you realise your standing next to a nut job. other times, they just are so negative on themselves, and keep making the same mistake over and over and it becomes a constant whine in your ear. then you have to say ok, cant hang here for this anymore I guess its setting yourself free of those kind of relationships that run their course.
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RHP User
11 years ago
so you convinced me to untie Cavey from the cellar fly my pretty flyyyyyy
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RHP User
11 years ago
particularly on a Fri evening, I do allow myself a couple of standard drinks weekly. Initially I thought you were asking why I would give away 1 of my functioning kidneys, it is / was healthy after all, but alas no. In short, what's good today may not be next week, or next year. Why have a hang up, even if it's 10 / 20 years. Shit happens
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madotara69
11 years ago
Our little grown up daughter, she wanted to go to NZ for a school she found something worth it for her, she is with family and following her dream. We are all our own persons, plus we know you are as nervous as hell permits, but that is what love means. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Congradulations you have passed another vital challenge in your life what you think you lose in this life you actually gain with unselfishness and ability to care for another in a way that may infact bend there own heart but never brake it but as you say set it free to truly find what it desires without being held in a false castle on a false hill looking out a window of false hopes only to look back and find a life wasted on a spur of lust and fake facade held by a princess that wants it all has it all and will end up with nothing not you foxxxy now you can have anything you want .:-)) xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Something's aren't meant to be caged and it's always better to set them free. Truth is why would you want to keep something caged, if it wanted to be free........💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' What do you mean by setting someone free? I'm not into the term at all, as it implies that I have in some way prevented someone from doing whatever it is they choose to do. Far be it for me to get in the way. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile I come from a European background and I do believe that Europeans of my parents generation were taught from birth how to guilt their children into doing what they want and in some cases how to put unbearable and unfair pressure on them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are what we all hold dear....who wants to be compelled to stay with anyone that they no longer want to be with....whether it's guilt or duty that keeps us there......I believe that we should encourage our children to live their own lives,seek their own dreams......passages in a child's life can be painful for a parent to witness,but let go we must....it's our job:-) .....oh and Meeka,Tibetans have no word for guilt:-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
We're all born this way aren't we? We're all born free, nobody owns anybody. Besides, we're put here to learn, grow and love. IMHO :-)
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