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June 04 2014
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Hi Lisalee, welcome to the forums.....I hope you realise it's a bit of a tradition, that you have to sleep with the first few people that reply to your post, anyway we can work out those details later ? lol In regards to your post, It's somewhat harder for us to find a FWB with a connection, like you said, when your lover wants to take it further than maybe what was first intended.....that's when we have to be honest and tell that person to back off as it is not a serious relationship your looking for.....and of course if they can't do that....friends. Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
you said it, its such a hard line to draw or make the other understand without them feeling used. hahahah even some like being used. I am still surging for my 5 lovers....each time I find one another one has to leave because life's circumstances. I will loose one in a short while, he will go back to NZ. I don't think I get over 2 lol. Its not there is no men out there is just not many fit so to speak. Bummmer
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pretty over the blow and go scenario too, it is a bit damned if you do and damned if you don't. I absolutely agree with you. I have pulled back a bit from meeting guys because it just isn't even worth my time any more.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I so get where you're coming from.It's a shame we're both after men.... Maybe we are expecting too much...? But I am having a lot of fun trying to find my elusive FWB
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
When you find them, let me know cause I sure as hell couldn't. People change their minds more often than they change their underwear it seems, and after a weekend of dramas with numerous fwb's and others, I decided to take a break because I was unsatisfied with the casual relationships that I had currently and the drama that they were causing. Must be an ego thing where guys either get scared that you're going to fall in love with them and think you can't handle the casual thing that you're asking for, or decide that they want to be the one to make you settle down. err...yeah no! Jessxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
i had a awesome fwb...married too, she now seperated and has dropped my ass like a tonne of bricks....oh well was fun while it lasted racer xx (insert new fwb apply now :) ) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When you find an answer I can't even get beyond a FB ! Just sex , forget going out for dinner or a movie ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really? And are you satisfied with that?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am married, so I am not available for a relationship, I think that helps.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a toad expert believe me lol. And I'm just wondering if tam meant I had to sleep with the first few posters all at once???? ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds ideal.....except for the fact you live so far away, which I think puts you in the fb category :/ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Orgy porgy puddin' and Pie:-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I totally agree!! I'm just not into randoms, maybe it is time to take a break :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As rare as the Unicorn,rocking horse shit or hens teeth,but why is it so?...xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I loooove pie ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's just not fair :( perhaps we need to form some sort of support group lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think men (oops, should I say 'some' men, so as not to get shot down in flames) truly believe we're incapable of maintaining a Fwb situation, of course we're going to fall for their incredible charms and want to live happily ever after :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Really? And are you satisfied with that? It filled a hole....pardon the pun! But no Meeka, I really want more now .....not a commitment .......but just something more social as well as physical......so tired of showing up at functions as the single one while every one else has a partner.....I never thought it would be so hard And the minute you indicate that you would like to do something apart from having sex......they run the other way as if you have proposed marriage!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lisalee69' I am a toad expert believe me lol. And I'm just wondering if tam meant I had to sleep with the first few posters all at once???? ;) - Posted from rhpmobile You can get around to me when you are good and ready it doesn't have to be all at once
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cuckleshells' Quoting 'tamworthguy46' Hi Lisalee, welcome to the forums.....I hope you realise it's a bit of a tradition, that you have to sleep with the first few people that reply to your post, anyway we can work out those details later ? lol That made me laugh. Just trying to remember who first responded to my first post. It has since been deleted. Lisalee I don't think you are expecting too much. Unfortunately I think you have to kiss a few toads to find the one that fits. Shells.Ohhh yeah shells...That was me Don't you remember ? lol
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lisalee69' Sounds ideal.....except for the fact you live so far away, which I think puts you in the fb category :/ - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks Lisalee....yes distance is sometimes a real mood killer...Hugz Tam
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' When you find an answer I can't even get beyond a FB ! Just sex , forget going out for dinner or a movie ! - Posted from rhpmobile Fuck that Jay Jay....pardon the pun !.....xo Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
I ended what I thought was a fwb situation because it became clear that he just wanted a fb....then a few months later he contacted me and invited me for lunch...I graciously declined,there is afteral no such thing as a free lunch :-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Pretty over the blow and go scenario too, it is a bit damned if you do and damned if you don't. I absolutely agree with you. I have pulled back a bit from meeting guys because it just isn't even worth my time any more. It's a shame that guys find it so hard to have friendships and relationships with women though. It would be great to meet some men that would like a true FWB arrangement ..... something in between FB and a relationship.Guys, can you please inform us ladies why you find that so difficult ???And why, if you do start a FWB arrangement it usually only lasts a few months then suddenly you disappear without explanation??Just a simple text to let us know that the arrangement has run its course for you and that you're moving on would be appreciated and people would know where they stand.It's not rocket science. It's just courtesy.
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I ended what I thought was a fwb situation because it became clear that he just wanted a fb....then a few months later he contacted me and invited me for lunch...I graciously declined,there is afteral no such thing as a free lunch :-) xxQ Sorry to pick on you again Q.....but I have paid for quite a few lunches and coffee's that haven't gone any further ... so they must have been free lunches....but not for me ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
would love to buy you dinner......
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happy0450
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' Quoting 'Meeka100' Really? And are you satisfied with that? It filled a hole....pardon the pun! But no Meeka, I really want more now .....not a commitment .......but just something more social as well as physical......so tired of showing up at functions as the single one while every one else has a partner.....I never thought it would be so hard And the minute you indicate that you would like to do something apart from having sex......they run the other way as if you have proposed marriage!! Lisalee, its a question that appears to be at one level an oxymoron for this site - i.e., its an adult site for people generally looking to broaden their sexual horizons. Maybe the learning for many of us is that sex without intimacy is less fulfilling and that to have intimacy requires as a minimum, friendship. If one follows that logic through, it is possible that the combination of friendship, intimacy and great sex will lead to one or other party to wanting more than FWB, even if initially that was not their position. In summary, it appears part of the journey, a risk, but also possibly a perfect outcome if its mutual. For me, if I didn't travel so much several of my FWB's would have made great partners . Oh, and Jay Jay, really.... you seem the perfect FWB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do men really know the difference between the two?? I'm not so sure.... And jayjay, you're so right about being the 'single' at group outings, men look at you and wish and women look at you and wonder if you're looking at their men :/ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just let me give the trusty old steed a bush down (he use to be white but now he's pretty grey), throw the shining armour on (ok, it's a little tarnished but I think that's from when Indy spilt rum and coke everywhere at the footy last year) and rush off to save you. You're not too far away, me and the old pony could probably make it in 5 hours or so. Basically, we are complicated animals who, for all of our abilities, have trouble communicating. I'm one of the worst. Sometimes it's easier to cut and run rather than find out what the other person is thinking. It's easier to assume. Good luck with the hunt, may your prey survive ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
And Fun, bless your honesty. May I whinny & stomp 3 times, go cut & run x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' Quoting 'Meeka100' Really? And are you satisfied with that? It filled a hole....pardon the pun! But no Meeka, I really want more now .....not a commitment .......but just something more social as well as physical......so tired of showing up at functions as the single one while every one else has a partner.....I never thought it would be so hard And the minute you indicate that you would like to do something apart from having sex......they run the other way as if you have proposed marriage!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I shall rest here in my ivy covered tower until you deign to grace me with your presence, pray your trusty steed survives the distance! P.s. Please try to polish the armour before your journey as appearance is paramount..... Thank you for your candid insight into the male psychy, I think you explained it perfectly......now to find the solution to said problem! As for the hunt, there are never any guarantees my prey survive the battle ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nah,there is no point...again Q
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sweetgem
11 years ago
That I am not the only one on RHP that is looking for that kind of friendship ,Lisalee69 :-) I have been on here for a while too, but got similar thing as what you've got! Except that I have not yet met anyone who wanted a committed relationship with me, which I thank heaven for that, because I do not believe that commitment and love can happen so lightly! What I seek is like a boyfriend type of companionship, but take out the commitment and expectation fuss, because I have my priorities in life to accomplish before another serious and exclusive relationship takes place. However, this seems unreal to find and definitely not on RHP, because the majority of people that come on here treating this site like a free of charge brothel! Sigh! - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
That I am not the only one on RHP that is looking for that kind of friendship ,Lisalee69 :-) I have been on here for a while too, but got similar thing as what you've got! Except that I have not yet met anyone who wanted a committed relationship with me, which I thank heaven for that, because I do not believe that commitment and love can happen so lightly! What I seek is like a boyfriend type of companionship, but take out the commitment and expectation fuss, because I have my priorities in life to accomplish before another serious and exclusive relationship takes place. However, this seems unreal to find and definitely not on RHP, because the majority of people that come on here treating this site like a free of charge brothel! Sigh! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' That I am not the only one on RHP that is looking for that kind of friendship ,Lisalee69 :-) I have been on here for a while too, but got similar thing as what you've got! Except that I have not yet met anyone who wanted a committed relationship with me, which I thank heaven for that, because I do not believe that commitment and love can happen so lightly! What I seek is like a boyfriend type of companionship, but take out the commitment and expectation fuss, because I have my priorities in life to accomplish before another serious and exclusive relationship takes place. However, this seems unreal to find and definitely not on RHP, because the majority of people that come on here treating this site like a free of charge brothel! Sigh! - Posted from rhpmobile I find it a great pity that many people across various dating sites seem to think of them as free brothels and treat others like free prostitutes.Many great ongoing arrangements, friendships and relationships could be established if people were more open minded to all possibilities and not be so shallow and closed minded.
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Man2DesireU
11 years ago
Hey Lisalee I suspect there are many on RHP that find it difficult to find that right mix of what they are after I noticed you mentioned that you are mostly after a FWB .. but I also noticed that you have in what you are seeking 'unattached' I couldn't help but wonder why you wouldn't consider someone 'attached' (but free to 'play) ... Many of the women i've been with from RHP .. love knowing that no matter how good our date is... and no matter how good the sex is ... I'm simply not going to get 'attached' ... I'm already deeply in love... I don't need that... I get that for some.. 'attachment' comes with complications... ... but with some of us... it just doesn't (it actually alleviates them) ... Maybe worth considering? Just sayin... :)
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inspirit
11 years ago
I use to have a few on the go at any one time -. They all new about each other and were fine with it. If they weren't they never discussed it with me. It is far more easier than just one..........no one falls in love, gets hurt, gets jealous blah blah blah.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Man2Desire' Hey Lisalee I suspect there are many on RHP that find it difficult to find that right mix of what they are after I noticed you mentioned that you are mostly after a FWB .. but I also noticed that you have in what you are seeking 'unattached' I couldn't help but wonder why you wouldn't consider someone 'attached' (but free to 'play) ... Many of the women i've been with from RHP .. love knowing that no matter how good our date is... and no matter how good the sex is ... I'm simply not going to get 'attached' ... I'm already deeply in love... I don't need that... I get that for some.. 'attachment' comes with complications... ... but with some of us... it just doesn't (it actually alleviates them) ... Maybe worth considering? Just sayin... :) Considering the OP has said she would like to find someone who will also go out on dates with her in public, that already rules out most attached men who for obvious reasons don't want to be seen in public with another woman. That is one reason why many single women prefer single men for a FWB arrangement, because they want more than just sex and an attached man cannot provide that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's all I want but can't find :( I'm fobbed off by everyone without being given a chance and it's annoying - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We, when we choose / chose to : Sexovers, Cookovers, Sleepovers, Public Dinners, Public Movies, Not being afraid to bump into any of our friends when we are out, Partnering each other to things, , , But : Not phoning or texting each other every day, or every second day, Not wanting to meet the parents. A perfect balance.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems like you want to forever live in the dating phase, prior to 'the talk' where things get real =P Dating with benefits perhaps? p.s. First time poster here too, this topic just intrigued me :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You hit the nail on the head! I don't want to be someone's dirty little secret and have to go to out of the way places to avoid being seen, if we went out at all! And that fear of receiving a phone call or knock on the door from some irate (and rightfully so!!) wife is certainly not something I need! Man2, I think you're one of the many men on here who don't understand the meaning of fwbs! I believe even when the sex ends - as in you both move on. - that you can still be friends, would you introduce me to your wife as a friend? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Man2DesireU
11 years ago
Considering the OP has said she would like to find someone who will also go out on dates with her in public, that already rules out most attached men who for obvious reasons don't want to be seen in public with another woman. That is one reason why many single women prefer single men for a FWB arrangement, because they want more than just sex and an attached man cannot provide that That might be true in some cases LD .. . but certainly not in all .. I'm not suggesting it is right for everyone... but it can work for some... Some of us are quite happy for a good night out.. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
So true :), I have a home, career and children (who have a father so no vacancy there) I'd just like a friend, for me, to have dinner with or a movie and have an interest in each other's lives and of course great sex. The odd sleepover is good but we both have our own space/homes. I think you're right in saying a lot of guys do treat this site like a free brothel! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Shame we're in dif states :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Man2Desire' Considering the OP has said she would like to find someone who will also go out on dates with her in public, that already rules out most attached men who for obvious reasons don't want to be seen in public with another woman. That is one reason why many single women prefer single men for a FWB arrangement, because they want more than just sex and an attached man cannot provide that That might be true in some cases LD .. . but certainly not in all .. I'm not suggesting it is right for everyone... but it can work for some... Some of us are quite happy for a good night out.. :) But you would be in a small minority, who I would imagine are mostly in open relationships where your partner is aware that you sleep with other people and doesn't have an issue with it. And in most cases your primary partner and any children if you have them will still always come first (as it should be), so it's still usually up to the single person to fit in around the attached person's schedule.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe the problem is that your not looking for guys young enough, us young guys would live to have the chance of fwb but with no commitment. It's hot for a younger guy to be with an older woman, that's why were on this site. Also I have gotton so many replies now saying "no you are young you can't keep up with me" maybe your worried because you won't beable to keep with guys like me?? :) Have a good day everyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps you're right, I want the excitement, feeling like I want to make the effort to look good. Not the comfortable routine we inevitably fall into. Arabella, I have no doubt you could 'keep up' with me but part of fwb is going out in public. I'd rather not look like I was playing with my sons cock under the table!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lisalee what you describe is exactly what I've been looking for. I had a great fwb a few years ago for nearly twelve months and after the sex ended we remained friends. It was great fun and is something I really want to have again! Unfortunately I feel the same problems come up for us guys too. This beast which we both hunt proves to be very elusive! sooner or later the one, or ones, you seek will show themselves you just need to sort through the deadwood. Have a great day!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had a few great fwbs over the years, but I've come to accept there's a time limit on them. It's a delicate balance. Eventually circumstances change for one or other... Someone wants more, or one of us gets into a relationship with someone else that's more exclusive or something. But I'm still friends with most if them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
That some older age women like me cannot keep up with the attitude, ego and immaturity of some young men like yours! In some countries and cultures, women in my age would have a son in your age! I am certainly not yet ready to be a mother and teach! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love your work sweetgem xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
Everyone has a slightly different variation on the expectation of what a fwb would be... My version doesn't seem to match many other people's definition :( However I do find it easier to have this arrangement with females rather than males... I have no idea why :) Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's also that you want to go out with your FWB's on Friday or Saturday nights...and sometimes you might want to catch up a few times in one week, or even meet up spontaneously. Single people have the freedom to do this usually.
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lisalee69' Arabella, I have no doubt you could 'keep up' with me but part of fwb is going out in public. I'd rather not look like I was playing with my sons cock under the table!! - Posted from rhpmobile Yes that would be the definition of Awkward ....lol........Hugs Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I'm male and think the same as you have written! Although I'd say you get more sex then I lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really?? I'm not so sure of that :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
HI Lisalee69, We are out there!!! I've found it's usually the ladies that tend to want more from my experience. There wouldn't be anything better than catching up with someone, where the attraction was mutual, the conversation stimulating and the laughs a plenty. Then intimately and sensually sharing an awesome morning or afternoon or evening together and doing it all again at the answer of a phone call. We are out there and not all toads........ Koz.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'tamworthguy46' Hi Lisalee, welcome to the forums.....I hope you realise it's a bit of a tradition, that you have to sleep with the first few people that reply to your post, anyway we can work out those details later ? lol Tam What the Hell! May I direct everyone to *my* first post please??! ;)
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Quoting 'PlaywithAbby' Quoting 'tamworthguy46' Hi Lisalee, welcome to the forums.....I hope you realise it's a bit of a tradition, that you have to sleep with the first few people that reply to your post, anyway we can work out those details later ? lol Tam What the Hell! May I direct everyone to *my* first post please??! ;) Give us a hint Abby ? lol
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