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Her friends think it's all about me.

January 20 2022

Not sure if this will help at all but the wife thinks I should give it a go. So I sincerely and honestly would love to hear back on this. The thing is over the years when my beautiful partner finds a friend she feels comfortable enough to share our bedroom philosophy I suppose, who have always been women. For me I don't say anything to anyone really. My circle's are what you would call ignorant I suppose. Let's leave it there. As I was saying when on occasion my wife has shared with her friends intimate stories about us. The Initial reaction is that I have manipulated the situation, she's doing all this for me. Which is so far from the truth it's actually offensive. Not to my ego but the fact that they think I would ever put her in any situation of any kind that would cause her any type of pain does upset me. I like to think I do my best to protect the ones I love. Just me? I have a few opinions why people are like this but there only ideas. Would love to know if this rings a bell with anyone. Makes me not talk about a pretty amazing part of our relationship, we think at all. Cheers

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

Why do you even care what other people think? That's your only mistake. Everyone has an opinion, you don't have to accept them.... Or even listen.

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ddlbm

3 years ago

Opinions are like arse holes , everyone has one , and often the stronger the option the bigger the arse hole attached to it .

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RHP User

3 years ago

In a sex positive and empowerment world, the majority of society is willing to be welcoming of same sex relationships, and almost everything that falls under the lgbtq+. But I'd say the vast majority of people view consensual non-manogomy in all its forms as unnacepptable, or greedy or a sign of issues in a relationship. Who knows the driving force of this view? Jealousy? Fear? Traditional upbringings indoctinating a particular judgement?. Whatever the reasons, society as a whole is far from accepting non monogamy, but perhaps in another 10,20,50? Years, surely that will change. Until then, discretion is the default, sharing only with those you truly trust are open minded is the way to go. Even then, it's amazing how close minded an open minded person can become when swinging is discussed. As previously mentioned, ditch the haters, perhaps it's a good way of filtering out non genuine friends....

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RHP User

3 years ago

You're smiling? Your wife is smiling? Super. End of story.

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teamaj2

3 years ago

This post resonates with me . It was five years ago when we finally, after 10 years of deliberation , had our first MFM experience. We both were on a natural high and elated. I am very close with all my girlfriends and some are more open minded than some . It was difficult not to blurt out what had occurred on our city escape when asked how our weekend away was . After a few weeks I told a very close girlfriend that we spent the night in a hotel with another man . I certainly wasn’t going to give her all the details . Before I could blink , her reaction was disgust and told me never to bring it up again . From my point of view I just wanted to share what was a positive , exciting joyous experience with my dearest friend . It seemed a tad hypocritical of her to be so disgusted . She is single , has many many many one night stands with random men - all of which I’m privy to hear about . We are a committed loving couple. She bluntly told me she found it disgusting and obviously it was my partners idea . Interesting take on things but it was a lesson learnt . The experiences we have are something that others don’t want to hear about . Ax

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Ex007

3 years ago

People who struggle to accept parts of who they are, struggle to accept other people.

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RHP User

3 years ago

I am genuinely taken back by all of your comments. Honestly thank you so much for taking the time to write. It really does mean something to us. It's funny, there almost seems to be a anger, a jealous rage. It's our life we don't impose or judge. We just feel like I'm sure a lot of people that we are a partnership and accept all parts of each other. I didn't know I would but watching her fill with confidence when she feels another man wanting her. Teasing the way she does, fuck the way she does. Some of the most incredible and intense sexual experiences I've had have been just watching. I love her completely not an idea of her that sits comfortably with my ego. I'm a very lucky man I guess. Thanks guys. Means a lot

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justforthefun44

3 years ago

For use the Mrs was the instigator We both live our play time now Keep smiling be happy with what you do together

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JnJsDarkDesires

3 years ago

This lifestyle isn't for some people... they just don't get it... there are plenty of people in the lifestyle you can talk to and for the others... their the ones missing out🤷‍♂️

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Sawadee

3 years ago

I have some wonderful friends who l talk very openly with. There are 2 in particular who l confide with more than the others. But l know there are some things l just dont feel comfortable telling . Why ? probably because to maintain a healthy relationship some things are better left unspoken..

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countrytouch82

3 years ago

None of my family know anything specific regarding any intimate situations post 2014 when I had a g/f that was introduced to family. Since then contacts have been made all through ENM networks. And varying types or contacts obviously. The problem is, you might trust individuals, but you can't trust "secrets" staying with said individuals, no matter the good intentions from you or them. So, people that will be disgusted and act so, will find out, unless you tell literally no one (or at least, no one connected to your wider family and social circle). Now it might be none of their business and it doesn't matter what they think of you, but I've seen family refuse to speak to each other for much more trivial matters. So it's not worth the risk imho.

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

OP, did you Houdini?

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RHP User

3 years ago

You said yourself "ignorance" Those are the ones who are not comfortable in exploring their desires. Little loan have a frank conversation about it with partner. Easier to say a negative comment then to realise what a amazing women she is. Also that she has just as equally supportive husband. Most of us know that no woman will be welcomed into the marital bed unless she makes a connection with the wife first. If you don't then you are just asking for a major shit fight to break out and a crap experience for all involved.

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MrG440

3 years ago

You are her scapegoat to this when she gloats this shit to her friends….dude just hang back in a chillaxed manner like a man and just look at AND SAY….yes dear and thank you dear (with a cheeky give a fuck look on your face) 🤪 don’t sweat it mate clearly it’s your partner that’s enjoying it more than you! You need to stand tall and proud…just doing that and no need to say any words will give you back your 50% share in this amazing situation you are in with all its glory or keep doing what you’re doing… if you do that not only does she do this more for her but it’s humiliating you! For what to look good (and that’s pathetic if that happen I’ll tell her to fuck off) for her friends?

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