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Here is a quick question how many of you actually reply and say not interested or just totally ignore them
February 10 2022
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RHP User
3 years ago
How engaging is your opening email? If it's the same as your profile (which is blank / no text), that's why you're not getting a reply.
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RHP User
3 years ago
If I replied to every message received from men, I’d be on the app for hours. If the message received has no effort, no clear face photo or is just a dick pic, it gets deleted without a reply.
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BNElooking
3 years ago
It's pretty common mate. Women on here can get overwhelmed with messages (a friend on here was getting 100+ a day😅) don't let it discourage you and like @herslutstrategy implied, add some detail to your profile.. if you want people to be interested it's all about showcasing yourself😏
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
Have no expectations or pressures. That way you won't be disappointed if no one replies. People don't have to reply to messages on here. There is no policy or procedure in place that states "all members must reply to every single message they receive". It's not until you met a person face to face then yes by all means have them then, but not something that's technology based. Ms Foxy
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Pumpkin
3 years ago
Number of reasons for that in my experience: - your approach has to be interesting and catch my attention - it might seem strange but asking how my day/night is going or how the site is treating me, may be polite but a response has to be equally boring so I don't bother. - other guys. You may be respectful, but some guys aren't and will insist on reasons for a refusal or even become abusive, so sadly it's just easier not to engage at al - your profile needs to be interesting and stand out from the crowd - it's a numbers game, men outnumber women, persist, play nice and you'll get there
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RHP User
3 years ago
Maybe add some smiling pics on your profile? But as others said, no reply is the reply. I personally don’t reply unless I’m interested. Lots of men also react negatively if you politely say you’re not interested. Also, just saying “Hi how are you and how is your day” is pretty boring. Comment on their profile and say why you messaged them.
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Ex007
3 years ago
Add more to your profile. READ a woman’s complete profile and send an individualised message relating to her profile. You can search the forums, this topic has been covered endlessly.
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AnnieWhichway
3 years ago
If someone responds with a "thanks but not interested, have yourself a nice day" the male penis instantly takes control and theorises that said respondee is up for some action. Must be the theory no means yes so they are up for it. No response at all, any halfwit can surely not strategise that maybe it's a maybe. No means no, nothing means nothing. Move on and take it as a lesson in ego management
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FeistyFatty
3 years ago
I always reply, rude not to. Sadly, most men think this equates to interest...... Which it doesn't 9 times out of 10 and they get snotty when you politely draw their attention to the fact that you're not a match. So yeah, I don't blame the majority for just not replying in the first place.
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Cuddles4fun
3 years ago
I reply to some, ignore others and block some as well. I'm sure I'm not alone in this when I say sometimes a polite no thank you response ends up with an abusive response back or requests to change your mind. No one owes you a reply and if someone thinks I have "no respect" because I choose not to reply to them, tough titties.
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Freaky_Fun
3 years ago
The fact that you're disagreeing with most of the comments posted because it's not what you want to hear. Is EXACTLY why women don't reply to messages.
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MsJonesy
3 years ago
Well I shall reply to your question of do I reply or not. I don't reply, because my profile says clearly I am not seeking anything or anyone. If people don't read my profile and send me a message then that's their problem not mine. If they read my profile and still message, then again, that's their problem not mine. The only people I reply to at the moment are people I know - and that means I have met them and have had positive interactikns with them. That doesn't mean I have played/fucked them, it simply means we have spent some quality time with each other.
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Iamthecowgodmoo
3 years ago
If I'm not interested, I reply with a polite and simple "no thankyou". If they persist or l start getting pushy, then I block them
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Rising_Phoenix
3 years ago
Just had a guy message me, I said no thanks, then got a picture of his dick with the words “shove this between ya hot tits”. You just never know what you’re going to get, that goes for all of us, stop expecting that people will be good to you.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Replaying to emails. We do most of the time. Like mentioned if the profile has limited or no information coming with a message Hi, i love your profile etc we tend to ignore. No effort no reply, sounds rude we know . We have learnt over the years. On the other hand we have replied numerous times saying we are not interested. most are respectful but the odd few clowns ruin it for most. We can understand some ladies dont reply at all. Some of the nasty messages we got back are insane.
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Chillymofo
3 years ago
Curious, if you got 30 messages a day to your inbox, would you reply to all of them? You know, could be 200 messages a week! Even if its just 50 in one week, do you have time to answer them all?
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Kattere_70
3 years ago
I reply
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CasualGuy65
3 years ago
I get that not everyone replies to all messages (I’d hate to think how many some women get). In my experience many go unread altogether (dead profile or simply too many messages? No way to tell). Of those that do reply most are a polite “no thanks”. That’s nice but not expected, but that’s the end of it for me. What I do find odd is if you do get chatting and then she goes dark without saying anything, but keeps seeing follow up messages, I think that’s rude. “Sorry, changed my mind” isn’t too hard to tap out, and I’d respect that.
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nightingale8
3 years ago
I’m more interested in how the Internet is changing human connection, sexuality, and gender stereotypes. Historically - a few men proposition a woman, woman vets and chooses. Internet - 200-500 men proposition and woman, woman goes WTF. 180-450 men get ignored, 10-40 men get a polite message back that goes nowhere. 10 meet, if at all. The rest is history. Occasionally woman tries to do her best to reply to all but after some time realises it’s a losing battle but likes the attention and doesn’t want to give those ‘potentials’ the idea that she doesn’t want them. She’s just got no time. Because woman is doing 10,000 other jobs in the rest of her life and potentially dealing with backlash is not on her priority list. Fact is, Internet dating is bad for your self-esteem. But it’s sooo damn good when it works out. The allure of good f*cking seems worth the lottery.
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RHP User
3 years ago
1. Read the profile in detail and make sure you address likes/don’t likes. If you don’t tick all boxes move to next 2. Don’t send long emails that entails every life details. Start small 1-2 lines max and simply intorduce your self. 3. Make sure you have plenty of photos on your profile. If you don’t then it’s pretty much a guarantee you won’t get a reply. At very least send a face shot as part of your opening message. Be polite and keep it simple. Don’t act desperate or over compliment people as you haven’t developed a report yet. 4. Back to pics. Put decent photos up. Not half a face or a bit of a leg. Get some nice photos of your self looking respectable. Make sure your photos are current. Make them Stand out but don’t come across as a tosser either. Keep the naughty full bod shots in the private album and only send when requested. 5. Make sure you live nearby, no point messaging someone 500km away. It won’t work and it’s a wast of time.
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AWomanWithNeeds
3 years ago
I say outright in my profile I will intentionally ignore if the message is not specific to me. Women (or men) do not owe anyone a response. Even if you think it is common courtesy. Read that part again.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Apart from the obvious, you aren’t what they are looking for (as the majority of us are pretty clear on what we want and if we are interested, we will make it known) most women only have guest accounts, and we don’t check our messages daily, RHP don’t let us reply after 7 days. I don’t know about most, but I am certainly not checking my inbox daily and replying to ‘be polite’ You say no thank you to anyone and chances are you will get abused in response. It’s easier to say nothing at all.
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HungCougarHunter
3 years ago
Depends on the message I recieve to be honest. If they have put effort in the mesaage or not
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Shevil89
3 years ago
O try to reply to everyone
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Beachlovers2020
3 years ago
Seriously who cares if a profile dosnt reply , let's face it we are on here for extra bedroom fun , and if we make friends along the way even better.
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RHP User
3 years ago
The unwritten rule is...if you get no reply it means they are not keen. This has been told to me by numerous profiles on here. I just find it rude and ignorant.
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RHP User
3 years ago
We get inundated as RHP like most sites is a sausage fest. I sometimes get up to 70+ messages (not quality ones let me tell you) at any point during the weekend. It’s draining and exhausting, especially when there’s NO effort, or a lonnnng winded novel about how they wanna fuck me ten ways to Sunday. That’s not boasting at all, it’s overwhelming to say the least. I’m not after a million talking stages, we get ignored, blocked and ghosted all the time, especially after the guy cums. Sooo it’s the hook up culture innit 🤷🏼♀️
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
3 years ago
Get used to it lots of fakes and flakes on here too..guys parading as females and couples always.. Some people don't have decency to reply with no thanks🤔
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ozmelbcpl4cpl2
3 years ago
Most of the female profiles are guests that might be another reason too.. Look at most of your replies on here you'll notice not many are even verified nor validated
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bianca_dd
3 years ago
Two things spring to mind; 1. What was your opening msg and if it was 'hey', 'nice tits' or 'what are you doing', do you honestly think that is going to illicit a response? 2. Weed through the fakes. That is both frustrating and time consuming as there is an endless supply of then. FYI if there are no genuine validations or if there is no detail on him/her/them and what they want that surely has to make you wonder about the veracity of the profile
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RHP User
3 years ago
We get so many messages each day with guys not reading our profile. Or just figuring there is one person, not a couple. Read the profile, direct the messages to what they are looking for... And realise that good looking women get flooded with messages from.100s of dudes and can't always keep up.
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JODA14
3 years ago
Our biggest pet hate. No replys after they have seen our pics or read our messages. Especially when it shows that they have read your message or viewed your pics. Recently found the block button. Works a treat. Oh, we always reply.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I went through the same thing. But after a bit of digging i found barely any real profiles at least in my area. Unverified, 18-99 age interest, no pics, lots of red flags
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Jay696969
3 years ago
Lol true.. sometimes I wonder why people make profiles? Just to check their rating I suppose. Had my profile pic up for long time.. no one visited my profile. Had it removed.. people start visiting!! Lol
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KindaOldButNew
3 years ago
You probably just need to be patient until the right one comes along. I have met a few nice ladies from rhp that I clicked with. Not all messages will be read or responded to but that's part of being on here, you need to accept it and move forward.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Adopt the attitude “I don’t chase I attract.” You might be surprised at what the universe provides.
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Forus1234
3 years ago
We always reply, even if it may take a day or so. Quite often we receive a message back, thanking us for replying. You never know what people are going through & even being acknowledged may just make their day!
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86Jasindy
3 years ago
A reason we don't always reply to a message sent, is we are now a guest profile. That means we have 7 days to reply, past that we can't. We did have a paid membership for a while, but have been really busy of late and put it on hold. Still check once every month or so, but sometimes it is too late. We do reply to all that we are able 😀
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HappyCbrCouple
3 years ago
Why not start by simply ‘liking’ their profile. If they like you back then you can initiate a conversation. Although this isn’t suitable for guest profiles it makes sense for paid ones.
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MsTeryme
3 years ago
If someone has taken the time to obviously read my profile and have messaged because they genuinely match - then sure 😁 Anyone else is just a time wasting dick pic, egotistical illiterate hopeful 😂😂
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RHP User
3 years ago
Loving the new 'ignore' feature. Although block is just as useful a tool. If there's no interest for play, block away. No point keeping comms open with a dead end
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RHP User
3 years ago
I will ignore if it clear they haven’t read my profile, but I generally will message back and say not interested.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I agree there does seem to be a lot of men not getting replies but I understand why weman that are not even paid members get 100 messages on there phone and can even be picky on who they want some weman even picking the size penis and cut or not while man that are even paid members don't get any reply now I believe the ratio is not right somewhere . Now some weman are not replying to not get issues but I believe all weman should reply and block if it gets ugly that is fair but yes there seem to be alot of feminism on here but ladies if men don't message you any more because there being ignored it will end up in disaster and everyone will loose . ladies I ask that you do the right thing and reply when you get a message or delete what you don't use that is fair. also the site should fix the ratio so 50/50 man/ weman all get replied . Men only message weman that are paid members if you are . Don't be in there spam folder with 100 other men waiting . Men speak up and man up if your not getting messages and try doing something about it . I believe it should be fair not one sided ..
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Freaky_Fun
3 years ago
Next time men want to whinge about women not replying ^^^ 🙄🤦♀️
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MnauMnau
3 years ago
Just get over it and move on, you are wasting energy. Just recently, I've sent a follow up message, to my unanswered message, after 3 years. Guess what, I've got a reply...
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kazziepoo
3 years ago
Sometimes I reply, sometimes I don’t. If it’s just ‘hi, great tits’ then I probably won’t reply. I also won’t reply if they don’t match what I’m after.. I replied to someone earlier to say I wasn’t interested then got told I was very selfish… and that’s only a mild response. I’ve been called all sorts of names for saying I’m not interested. Soooo I’ll probably continue to ignore those that don’t meet what I’m looking for and probably won’t respond 90% of the time. No one is entitled to a reply.. just because you message doesn’t mean you’re owed anything…
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onherkneesplease
3 years ago
theres too many to respond to for me, i feel overwhelmed as a beginner in this, also time restraints. Not sure what others people's reasons are though. I still dont understand what the rush is , people trying to emtionally blackmail you into meeting up immediately that day or having a sulk because they see youre online by havn't immediately responded. sometimes im here for the chat rooms or reading the erotic stories or forums. I have actually sometimes thought how do people have the time to be online all day and night everyday?
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RHP User
3 years ago
Bottom line is , if you’re not a hot looking guy , you ain’t touching her 😂….
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RHP User
3 years ago
possible reasons brother.....they dont like your profile...couldnt be bothered...or just to up themselves to reply...the profile may be old and no longer in use....or its a fake profile plenty of them about. May be the management should make a way that the females can send a bulk " Thanks but not interested" message to all those thousands of messages you all " claim to get". Either way bro i wouldnt sweat it if they dont answer there probably not worth pursuing anyway.
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Blowurmind
3 years ago
I am with you bgray, I believe that most of the women on here are a scam or they are working girls which tell you to contact them on KIK
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DonnaBrett
3 years ago
Depends on the initial message, if it's polite and sensible we'll reply with a "Thanks but we're not the couple for you" or something similar. If the initial message doesn't show any effort or there is no facial photo or they are smokers or they don't practice safe sex then we'll just ignore it because the writer has obviously not read our profile stats and what we are looking for.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I think its couldn't give a shit with the attitude they will get over it. Also remember most are guests so no financial commitment, if they had to be financial to be able to read messages that probably change the whole attitude.
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rwp9969
3 years ago
I barely get any messages and most of my approaches are ignored, I thought it was just me..
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Coastman1
2 years ago
Yes, that happens a lot. Just a hi and no thanks would be nice
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kickingaround
2 years ago
I used to always paste "thanks for the message but i'm after something different" and then i get either abused or someone trying to keep going... my replies stopped when "no" stopping being accepted as no
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