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Hetroflexible - Can we have a VOTe Please
October 16 2010
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RHP User
14 years ago
Here we go again with the whole label issues. Why cant I just be me? Which ever way I swing is my business. Why do I need to label my preferences at all?
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inlustwetrust
14 years ago
We agree Fiona, labels are not essential, even with the labels that are available on RHP we are unable to find one that fits who we are and what we might become. Can we just have a label that says fun.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I like the word hetro-flexible! Some friends of mine (D&D) used to use it and I think its prefect for those who know in their hearts (or loins) that they are hetro, but just like putting the bins out or doing the dishes, they are happy to play with the same sex if it makes their partner happy!
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's a shame people can't just ask! I consider myself to be straight; Mrs O is bi - when she is in the mood - however, we love 4 in a bed and our preference is always the opposite sex. I guess to some people some of the positions we end up in would lead them to think I was bi, (if you can't picture it, then I'm not going to explain! lol) and may also feel that just because Mrs O has bi on her profile that she either can't keep her hands off the other woman, or they feel obliged to indulge in some FF interaction. JUST DO WHATEVER FEELS NATURAL!!! :) - we should all be comfortable even to say "no thanks" or "not today thanks" without spoiling the mood. If they are at all concerned then they can clear it up before they actually get around to meeting up. Having said that...we're the worlds worst at asking the right questions and can be a bit slow off the mark sometimes! lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh here we go again, fionabee I'm not sure we have met, so perhaps I need to explain something for you. Inlustwetrust that's cool if you want to put 'happy' as your sexual orientation, might have a few people scratching their head. Ok perhaps I need to spell this out. What do you do if you sexuality is social than an actual lifestyle? Salina might like to be with a lady now and again. But would never feel the urge to 'come out' because there's nothing to come out about! I don't have a problem with labels on a mother flipping sex site. If it means that it gets people together who want to be together. I"m not saying have it tattooed on your forehead, with a "IM BI' Label. I'm saying that for the sake of this site and it's search engine, you might find this would help you in the ability to meet up with like minded people. Your arguments are unnecessary, totally not the point of this post. Here we go again, WTF excuse me for daring to post a question on a Red Hot Pie forum? Salina has been expected to play with girls and yes she can 'communicate' that she doesn't want to play, but on the night it could cause hurt feelings. Hetroflexable says, 'don't' contact us if you are wanting girl on girl as a primary goal. we're a couple and if you want to 'experiment with your little girl on girl fantasy don't waste your time.' You people shit me sometimes ... really you do!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
If we "Shit you sometimes" imagine how we people feel with the incessant need to categorise - constantly! No we have not met and no you do not have to "spell" things out to me. There is never going to be a ONE SIZE FITS ALL. Leave it blank, put ask me (which would serve each individual better). You asked for a vote on the term heteroflexible and obviously I answered so how then can my arguements be not to the point and unneccessary? I vote no!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Don't ask for a vote if you can't accept people don't agree with you. Then it just becomes a case of you forcing your view on others. This shouldn't be about attacks. This is a place for us to share our views and enjoy some adult discussion, some flirting and most of all fun.Our view is that the catergories are limiting. We are open to many different things and from one day to the next a particular catergory does not suit. For us though I think experimental was the only one with a broad enough scope to suit. But if we want a fun time in the bi zone, then people may look us over, if we want a straight time, the straights might be worried about what we might do to them. On that I guess maybe we should just be an ask me. Anyway, its sunday morning and I just need a good coffee.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes, you are right I did ask and I should accept peoples responses. So i'm sorry about the 'shit me' comment. Coffee sounds good. However, are you in a situation almost all of the time when you hook up with couples or single ladies and it is assumed that the girls will have some 'girl on girl' fun? Is that what happens to you guys in the active swinger world that would indicate your reasons for the response in the negative? Fionabee yes i did ask for a vote, but you answered my question with a question. Okay fine lets agree to disagree. Anything else you want to know 'ask me' a
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lets all kiss and amke up, hmmm kissing now thats better, isn't that what we are here for.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have often wondered isn't the "label' for want of a better word more so about our day to day desire and sexual preference in terms of our true lifestyle ? ie : a Hetrosexual person will have desired to 'be with, i.e., love live cohabitate ' in a life-partner type relationship with a straight person. a Homosexual person will be the same but with another homosexual person a bisexual person will have this with either.. so unless we are someone that could actually see ourselves in this way permanently aren't we all in fact hetroflexible or as I often refer to myself as trysexual :-) sassy xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good idea to have something else to choose from the drop down menu... i understand that. But I was under the impression you'd just ask about a person's sexuality and what they are comfortable to do or not to do? In my opinion, people are still going to question what you're comfortable with despite the new label. Maybe redhotpie needs a revamp, a blank spot where you can type your status and sexuality? Then the individual can choose what to write? For example married couples could write "open - relationship" for their relationship status or write "hetroflexiable" for their sexual preference... ya know?Something to ponder anyways...Giggles,Rainbow
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes trysexual certainly fits us. Nothing like trying a bit of this and a bit of that when the mood takes us.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the point of this post is not for you to label yourself per se...but to let others know if what you are into is what they are looking for.I see myself as polysexual.I play with others...but its all about attraction for me....not gender.This is a sex site....of course we need a "label"....otherwise...whats the point?Just like height, age, relationship status...it tells you something about the person...and whether or not they are what you are looking for...or indeed...if you are what THEY are looking for!JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Finding out what people want is all part of the fun of the swinging scene - I like the flexibility part but it doesn't have to be too preclassified :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'rainbow_bright' Maybe redhotpie needs a revamp, a blank spot where you can type your status and sexuality? Then the individual can choose what to write? For example married couples could write "open - relationship" for their relationship status or write "hetroflexiable" for their sexual preference... ya know? I don't think you want that, putting tooo much flexibility in the options makes using the search function useless - though I wish they'd make it a bit more flexible with a bit of text searching.I think the main problem is that 'experimental' isn't very well defined - though I always assume that means about what heteroflexible suggests.
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RHP User
14 years ago
That none of the current options suit me or Salina at all. I'm not experimental as I've done enough to know that I like it sometimes and hate it others. There is no ifs or butts (excuse the pun) experiment means to seek answers to a question via a series of tests. I've tested and sometimes I like it an sometimes I want to scrub myself with a wire brush and detol cause I feel all yucky. I'm not bi because I would never be in a relationship with a manI'm not curious because I've done it. a
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the whole site needs a lot of work not just on the labels we can give ourself. I hate that you can't do a couples search were you state what you want each partner to be ... as it stands now you can pick a say height but not a height for her and a height for him.I also totally know what Salina is feeling about the girl on girl stuff... now I would say I am bi - but that said that does not mean I find ever girl attractive, just like I am fussy with the men I pick I am fussy with the females I pick. Recently at party I was reluctant to join a room that was filled with lots of yummy naked men because there was a few females who were just not my cup of tea. I was talking with someone and they told that I could just say no to any of the girls that were in there if I choose to. So i went in and well the girls were all over me, there was no time to say no so I ended up walking about of the room...... however as luck would have it the few girls that did not interest me tired soon and left, leaving me to pounce of the yummy men .... patience is a good thing. You know how on some options you can choose "ask me", can you do that on sexuality?And Rainbow -bright is write the options for married couples are just not there either. BUt my big point is the site needs some work on its searching and profile options. So RHP people.... help us get the most from the site.
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RHP User
14 years ago
just while we're on the "do work on the site" topic, it really doesn't seem to be very clear to guests that they can message platinum members for free. It seems many don't realise it because they're told 'you can't send messages' - which I udnerstand cause you're trying to force them to get memberships, but when it is billed as a benefit to platinum members it should be made more obvious to non-members.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'sydneyboy3au' just while we're on the "do work on the site" topic, it really doesn't seem to be very clear to guests that they can message platinum members for free. It seems many don't realise it because they're told 'you can't send messages' - which I udnerstand cause you're trying to force them to get memberships, but when it is billed as a benefit to platinum members it should be made more obvious to non-members.sometimes that function doesnt work either...i tried to message a platinum member only to receive the "upgrade to send messages" popup.lucky i had them on facebook!!JMOBJxxxoh..and i hate it when this thing is being a bitch too....cant remove the itallics ffs! I HATE ITALLICS!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi guys, I see what you're saying as not so much trying to label what you are, but to best describe yourself on a site that is full of hundreds of people looking for the right kind of person/people for themselves - makes sense really and isn't about the whole labelling thing. I'm in the same position as Sal - sometimes I love playing with women, other times I prefer guys only. Depends on my mood, depends on the other girl - the more I'm attracted to the girl the more I obviously want to play with her....no different to the way I feel about guys really, I'm not going to play unless there is an attraction regardless of gender (MissBJ - you've hit the nail on the head that it's about attraction, not gender)!! Either way, I still get off on watching Stu with another girl hence the fact our profile states straight or bi mff. I think hetroflexible would suit the point you're trying to make. Alina xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi Everyone, I thinking adding "Hetroflexible" is a great idea, it would definetly describe myself.... Lets hope RHP look at this and make the change. Miss Fun xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
just change your profile to bi curious and be done with it
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tank__girl
14 years ago
So won't waste my breath...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry tanky are you're talking to me? i've been off line for donkeys, working all week and no internet at home (at mums places, must delete history) who are you talking to ? a
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RHP User
14 years ago
then u may make the assumption
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nope Not gay/lesbian To me gay/lesbian is a woman who will only have a relationship with a woman. Also that a truely bisexual woman is a woman who could live in a relationship with a woman as easily as she would a man. I play with women but i would not live in a relationship with one the same way i would with a man.......therefor i do not consider myself truely Bi Sexual. I am a straight woman with bisexual tendancies who enjoys women but my primary relationship interest lies with men me me....took the words out of my mouth
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