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Honesty
December 14 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
is exactly that. We're talking to a profile, not to someone we know and trust and/or have met in the real world. We may develop that trust and part of that is being honest, I know what you mean, but caution is always the number one thing with me, I loosen up once I trust them. I am easily put off though by little white lies. Can be an early sign 'wrong way go back' lol 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
...dishonesty became the new truth. Bullshit is the new whitewash. Ask a kid with chocolate all over his face who ate all the cookies and he'll tell you the Cookie Monster did it. He's not really lying, just denying culpability. Don't ask about Oscar or Big Bird!
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RHP User
8 years ago
For protection.....usually of their own position.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oh you mean all the very average women who won't even talk to you unless your rich ripped and hung ?
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
Four people today told me I'm looking well 😩 - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Seeking Time by expecting honesty you are assuming that all people are honest. They aren't. People lie all the time, in all sorts of ways for all kinds of reasons. And it sucks when you aren't a liar, and its hard to understand. But don't be naive. There may be honest people on here but I'm sure there are plenty trying to get what they want, however they want. Just like in the real word. Sounds harsh and it is.
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RHP User
8 years ago
If one tells the truth one will never ever have to remember anything again. Simple Why lie if one will always end up being caught? A cliché, I know, but a truth upfront, even if hurtful, is better than a lie in the long term. People often do it to disguise their insecurities or shortcomings. They may eventually get what they're after, but it won't last. In here lots of people lie to be accepted by the person/people they're after. Wrong approach. Lying from the start will always be the bad approach. My motto: honesty and respect. Rare in here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wont lie, I dont like it. I wouldnt want someone to lie to me, I wont do it to them. However, this is da internets...I expect that much of what I see/read/hear is at least partially false.If you ask a question that I am not comfortable with, I may avoid it or simply tell you I wont answer.
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is why I'm not a fan of profile coaching, encouraging others to say what you want to hear is a fools paradise. Whatever they come up, no matter how base is who they really are. Harsh but true.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Chances are, they're not gonna be seeing you much after the fact, so they really don't have anything to lose..... Possibly a good addition to your screening process.....small lies turn into huge deception..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Completely agree! I seem be having a quote kind of week and two that come to mind are: Honesty is an expensive gift, do not expect it from cheap people; and Some people create their own storms, then get upset when it rains. I do think though there are those that are very talented when it comes to telling half truths and being dishonest. And they aren't always caught out. Even when they are caught out, they often they aren't exposed. It's made me more aware of being cautious with taking someone's word. And I agree EarthQueen it's very hard to understand, and sometimes it takes being burnt before realising that not everyone values honesty.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Worth noting the distinction between 'white lies' and 'black lies'... Could society actually function in an environment of truth only (ie absent any form of lies) ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
...are you secretly a Jedi? Or at least a Padawan learner?You come up with the best quotes sometimes. I was just going to use Billy Joel...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Aw thanks. My ability to retain essential information to function as a normal adult in society is non-existent. For example paying a bill on time, or setting a calendar reminder to pay a bill etc. But for some reason my brain stores quotes like its own little bookstore. And may the force be with you 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
...good quotes are like get-out-of-jail-free cards. Though I haven't tested that yet.Live long and prosper. **not star wars**
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sweetgem
8 years ago
Happens anywhere and everywhere in life! I'm sure we have all done it one way or another, and that includes the white lies. Yes, they still are lies, in my book! 😊 Therefore, my answer is, yes I do find that honesty is hard to gain, just like trust! However, as a grown adult with certain degree of life experiences, I have a choice to choose :) if I find the answers I receive aren't honest and upfront, then I will politely stop the communication and walk away. I don't give second chance so lightly anymore nowadays because, my good heart has been taken way too much advantage of, or for granted, in the past decade! Too many lessons learned I suppose :) However, having said that, I do not burn the bridge either for the things and/or with people that aren't compatible with me. It is better to have many friends than enemies is what I have learned in life! 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Trust someone who tells you they never lie..because they just did :)Q
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ReyandJean
8 years ago
Quoting 'Livingandloving2' Four people today told me I'm looking well 😩 - Posted from rhpmobile I think the term is "You're looking prosperous" if you want to imply a weight gain, so you probably are merely looking, well, well.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ReyandJean' Quoting 'Livingandloving2' Four people today told me I'm looking well 😩 I think the term is "You're looking prosperous" if you want to imply a weight gain, so you probably are merely looking, well, well. I think that's when you've gained weight AND bought newer, larger clothes ;)
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PurePeony
8 years ago
...cannot handle truthfulness. If it's frank and honest, but yet it doesn't sound anything like what one is accustomed to, and it's out of one's comfort zone, these people will automatically assume you are too liberal with the truth. Just giving another perspective on this issue. ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
people who claim to value honesty in/from others; right up to the moment honesty and truth conflicts with their own perception of a given situation.* Simultaneously, often times I've observed those same people are quite guarded/less open than they expect of others around them...Human nature, or hypocrisy? * By this I refer to situations where objective, verifiable evidence demonstrates someone's belief is in error. Sometimes the subject matter is entirely insignificant and I disregard it or 'tune out'. Other times, the implications may be more significant and worthwhile speaking up about. Seems some people fail to recognise how perpetuation of falsehoods (however innocently or genuinely believed and conveyed) can become quite damaging over time. How about the current focus on 'news' stories promulgated via Facebook?
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RHP User
8 years ago
You give an honest opinion on here and it gets shot down dissected and thrown back in your face by those who have nothing better to do than find fault. If you want more people to participate here engage in the discussion by all means but stop the vilification and the petty point scoring.If an opinion is bigoted, nasty or just plain ignorant it is on the page for everyone to see we don't need instruction on how or what to think.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'that50zguy' You give an honest opinion on here and it gets shot down dissected and thrown back in your face by those who have nothing better to do than find fault.nonsense, I have many better things to do, they're just less enjoyable ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
To be fair, how much can you tiptoe? Sometimes I don't feel like tiptoeing cos it doesn't do favours for anyone. Being honest doesn't mean being forceful and blunt though... there's ways to tell the truth. I try to break it softly and they keep going, I break to them in a different way - still softly, they keep coming back, then I'm outright blunt, then I get called all sorts of names and get all sorts of drama. Some people can't handle the truth, when they live by their lies. I learn to admit the truth to myself first before having to ask. But it's funny when it's all done and dusted. Fact of life. Grain of salt. @SoftandCurious!! I love your quotes!! Whip those out anytime! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not sure if you know my history on here but you know what? It's people that take things too seriously that cause fights. Whether it be the negative people picking a "fault" or difference in opinion. When you step back and see the situation as a whole, it's quite funny. I laugh. I remember why I'm here - I'm curious and learning to express myself better. Not here to bicker and shout that others' opinions are wrong wrong wrong. If people intend something to be narky, just laugh it off. Mostly negative commentary start to get attention. As soon as I encounter negativity, I want to leave to shield myself. It's not nice and don't ever let it in. As some of us learnt not to hold grudges... it's bad for our health 😊 nothing is more important than that! - Posted from rhpmobile
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yankmychain56
8 years ago
I have found that sometimes 'honesty' on this 'tolerant' forum leads to me getting booted out.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Funny mate 👍Love your work. Funnier though is the "likes" 😉😇
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RHP User
8 years ago
I posted this question cause I wanted genuine feedback. To those who did this I thank you. To those who go off topic,Why don't you post your own topic and banter as much as you like.
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